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UyaiIncomparabl:
Disregard them.

It's disastrous to come home to a man you do not love. To love is to feel. If you can't feel, don't talk about love. Without feelings, what you share with him will be mechanical and futile. Do not do it.

Honestly, I wish I'm wired like most girls these so called people accuse for being greedy and having no ability to love. I would have also give no flying fvck about this love of a thing and marry for security reasons only.

UyaiIncomparabl:
Stick to your guns, my dear. I am a lady like you and I understand your concerns. DO NOT marry a man you do not love. Even if it's 20%, please, love him. You'll find respecting him easy when you love him. If you aren't fond of a man, attraction will be absent which makes irritability a norm for you.

I do not go with the thought that you can grow to love someone. It can only get better and not grow from 0-100, in my opinion. Don't let them sell to you that funny idea. It's non-existent.

Honestly. Not because what you said is exactly how I feel, but I'm just surprised most people here do not understand or pretend not to

[quote author=udofia234 post=117788179][/quote]You may send a mail. I can't post my contact here

udofia234:
I'll like to reach stargurl!!?

Is this a question?

uche40:
I'll be 37 in December.

You look beautiful.

uche40:
I'll be 37 in December.

Hmmm

ednut1:
You are 23 and talking about late marriage. What a joke

At what age should start talking about it then

uche40:
Ok. I think I'm starting to get the picture.

To give you some context, I'm presently single, and no -- I'm not searching. I'm sort of ambiverted in the sense that I like people enough to interact with them for long periods of time. But ultimately, I value my personal space, my personal taste, interests and objectives above all else. As a result, I'm the typical example of a non-conformist. A lot of men I know often consider me proud and egotistical, and they believe I should be lonely and frustrated -- which is far from the truth. I usually scoff at their attempts to label me and categorize me, trying to tell me what to think. It's one of the reasons I think the Red Pill is a joke, just like radical feminists. The two sides make a lot of unjustified presumptions about the opposing gender without bothering to present any empirical evidence.

If there's one thing I've learnt in my life, it's to not let others have agency over my life and control my decisions. They don't have to do it directly. It's easy to feel pressured to do something when you find that your peers are doing it, but as I said earlier, we're all wired different. When you eventually accomplish what you think you want, you may eventually find that it wasn't worth the effort, not because it's pointless, but because it's not what YOU really wanted.

Marriage isn't a casual affair. It's deeply serious and it will affect your life forever. If you're sure that you're not prepared, don't do it. Don't allow your ego to fool you. Society has created this erroneous thought in young people that if they do not get married on time, then they're failures. This is predicated on the false assumption that ALL OF US in this blue sphere called earth share the same interests, intents and purpose. It's a subtle form of psychological projection. They're essentially trying to speak for you and tell you what you need. They (perhaps innocently) want to impose their thoughts and belief system on you.

Your happiness should be the most important factor for you. And anyone who truly cares for you will want you to be happy.

Hm...
May I know your age?

Treasure17:
Lol. Your faith might be a deal breaker for him hence my response.

Ok .....

RighteousDemon:
First time I saw an online birthday mate. Wow

Hmmm
I'm glad to see you as well

RighteousDemon:
Same bro... Cool

Stargurl20, So, what did he say ours look like ?
So, the trio of us can cross our Tees(Ts) and dot our Ai(Is) to see if truly destiny is tied to fate and little can be done to change it.

Just curious

I don't even understand you

Treasure17:
Unfortunately for him. It's fine.

Which one is unfortunately for him?

Treasure17:
POS business. You can open early morning like 7am, during your free periods and weekends.

How do I get the POS machine. Does it comes with big money?

Not bad. It's its season

uche40:
Reading your posts, you strike me as an emotional and/or romantic individual. You don't involve yourself with guys you have no passion for. You really shouldn't be made to feel guilty about this. Everybody is wired different. Most of the people who have engaged you on this thread appear to be more pragmatic in nature and thus, to them, security and status takes preponderance over feelings such as love.

Do you see yourself as someone who won't be happy in the long term marrying a guy you don't love? Perhaps you may fall into depression after a couple of years because you feel you can't escape a loveless relationship? In that case, I prescribe that you actually take love serious in your decision. Although, I always tend to think that someone who values love above all else won't mind being alone. Being alone to such a person is better than being with the wrong partner. In light of this, it may seem quite paradoxical that you're not satisfied being alone. Is it family pressure? Concerns about social status? Or perhaps you are overestimating the relevance of love (feelings) in your mating decisions?

Something has to give.

Honestly, yes is what I will say to all of your questions.

Treasure17:
Sure. Let me recommend Stargurl20 for you. Can bet my earnings on her.

I'm a Muslim

snipernigga:
It has shoulders, the one that causes serious reaction if it enters o

Lol

Osobi32:
Everything is wrong with oooo..... Men don't hug, we shake hand and it must be firm as a man.

Toor

snipernigga:
I will put only the head, I will not put everything inside aswear

As if it has shoulders. Lol

Eyinju112:
my case is quite different , I was dating this guy he lived around me but he moved to Ikorodu due to one reason or the other, I’m not the type that post bf, so I never posted him till this fortunate day... I posted him with a love emoji. Then a friend wrote me saying who’s he? I replied he’s my bf... the guy laughed and said somebody that did naming ceremony last week and will even do intro this week lol... I was short of words. I confronted this motherfucker and the bastard said he’s only marrying her because of the pregnancy that he doesn’t love her.... it’s me he wants and bla bla... tell me where my fault is?

Omo.....

Treasure17:
This first one is deceptive of the highest order.

Lol

Thank God from saving from visiting Alaba's first bank yesterday. I wish them all quick recovery

I love this picture

I'm available.

Treasure17:
The assumption of people about you is not your responsibility why bother yourself on what they think? Being shy and an introvert doesn't necessarily mean you shouldn't go out and relate with people. You might find solace in staying indoor but for how long when you have a dream and career to pursue? See, I'm an introvert and Infact the first thing you will notice if you are the kind that can profile someone is my shyness but have learnt to manage it. Staying indoor frequently will only worsening the situation trust me. Meet people or probably join any group of your interest so that avoiding interactions might be inevitable. I joined an ushering team while in the Uni and also stayed at the family house(corpers lodge) during my service year which actually helped to a great extent.
What's wrong with being single at 23? Stop subjecting yourself to unecessary pressure cause it won't help. You better shake off the suicidal ideas in your head and focus on your career. You have a lot of great times ahead. Cheers.

Thank you for this beautiful piece of advice

Hightser:
Lol, in this 21st century of women wanting to outdo the other? Okay, let me see your IG handle first, you can follow me @L0rdbash on IG

I'm not active on IG

Hightser:
Let’s see your picture, some of us here are actually looking for a wife or serious dates, what’s your IG handle?

I no dey snap pictures

I'm somewhat an introvert as well, and I think people think of most introverts as being proud. I'm a shy, which also make me stay indoors most of the times. I'm tired of this kind of life, because I've not been able to meet people. Even at 23, I'm still single and my mum is even beginning to get worried( I can sense that). At times, I've suicidal ideation, coz I'm tired of this kind of life.

Richnero99:
I am not just an introvert but I am a bit shy as well, especially around the opposite gender.

I moved to this area in April this year and other than my brother, not a single soul has visited me. And the fact that I see nothing wrong with that, worries me.

I don't like associating and I barely have friends. I work from home, so the option of associating with coworkers is out of the window.

I get bored with people and things easily and that makes me feel there's no need in trying to make friends.

I used to have a girlfriend, but I broke up with her with the silly excuse that I needed some time off.

My daily routine? Wake up in the morning, get in front of my system and begin my job for the day. Take a break, make my meal, eat and get back to work. Surf the net in between (Facebook, WhatsApp, Nairaland, LinkedIn, Quora, etc.), do some other necessary stuff and sleep when it's time.
Damn! Such a boring life.

I can be indoors for a full month without stepping out of the house.

People want to talk to me, girls especially, but I am the one avoiding them. And for this, they think I am too rude or proud. Only if they knew...

Sometimes I wonder if I can be able to get married. If I can be able to live with a woman for the rest of my life without getting bored.

I think my own introversion is the worst kind there is.

Are my normal?

Hmmm

SenecaTheYonger:
I’m suspecting you

Say wetin? I resemble guy for your eyes? Lol

[quote author=SenecaTheYonger post=117706032][/quote]Why u bun face?

Op, run for your dear ass*hole