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Anoymus:
I have a girlfriend I am meaning to propose to during the festive period, she's everything I want in a woman except few nsiderate?

Criticism, Insults and bashing are welcomed. Thanks

Well this is the essence of courting or dating someone before you marry them. A lot of things are keys. Compatibility in certain areas cannot be toyed with. Depending on certain individuals, some things are non negotiable. For some, it could be the issue of religion, attitude concerning family, financial dealings etc.
Discussions on financial responsibility is very pivotal to marriage and this is usually seen while dating a lady.
Dating is very very different from marriage. A lot of married men, if they open up and tell you what their women do in marriage, you will be shocked.
But most women will cover up and you will never know the woman is a solid contributor financially. From the outside, you will get the impression that it's all the mans financial muscle.

Now if this means a lot to you and this lady does not believe in contributing to her family's upliftment, bros you go suffer inside marriage with her You will bear the burden so bad and become resentful. You need to have a serious chat with her and watch her every reaction. If she doesn't change, then it's up to you. You cannot change your mother's opinion or even change her as a mother. But you can change girl friend or fiancee.

PS: cultivate the habit of NOT reporting little things to your mother/in-laws. Learn it now or you will have more issues to contend with later

AprokoGirl:
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We never speak about this enough. This is a serious problem in that part of Nigeria. Very serious problem

Reelmii:
this is the best, I did it for my 2 kids.. I promised my self I would never have any of my children here in Nigeria but I will give them their home training in Nigeria before they go back, and I thank God for helping me to achieve that....

Lucky you. Your kids are blessed

Litmus:
As someone born abroad and whose formative years were in Nigeria, I would advice Nigerians to let their children grow up in Nigeria. Characters formed in Nigeria are unbeatable. Beyond the ages of 12 it is safe to send them abroad to school if you wish. If I could influence the black world, I would have them send their children to their nations of “genetic” origin during the formative years. I would have African Americans send their children to grow up in Nigeria or other African nations or the Caribbean, between the ages of I to 13 year old. After this, return them to America, Europe or wherever in the world you choose. It is absolutely vital that you let your black child form their character in Africa before moving them abroad if you wish. In Africa, Nigeria is the best place.

I understand where you are coming from. I relocated permanently a few years back. I know what I ran away from in Nigeria but I love who I am. I love my reasoning, culture and I cherish my growing up years and memories as a child in Nigeria. I even go boarding house sef. Then I think if my unborn kids not having any of that (minus boarding house experience o) and I kinda feel sad.

In my head, I'm still thinking how I can make it work. My parents are older now and I wouldn't want to burden them with screaming children all over again for long stretches. My siblings japa like me too. How then can I do it? Perhaps come at some point with them on long holidays? Hmmmm. What of my work? Would that short time be long enough sef to infuse Naija blood in them? Would they even manage to learn pidgin in that time
Thinking, worrying nor dey finish for this life o

Sebastine1994:
i came back from work on Friday to discover that my wife has ran away with our son and some properties in the house, my needed now

she is an igala while I am igbo,

Women forgive you guys upndan anyways. So you forgive too. Go back and get your wife and son not because of brideprice but because of your marriage

[quote 6a_Qdq8Fvd1HMz4N_pBeMTUMVkCBPrfNP_qoO3dKCgMDgECO&__tn__=%2CO%2CP-R[/quote]Sad times. Parents please be vigilant. My wife, come sit on my laps etc must be shunned and clearly discouraged

princeSammyz:
BBCpidgin is asking this question on facebook and I observed a lot of people are? It's one xperience.

I did attend a boarding school. I was not abused per se. But had a senior who masturbated in front of some three or four of us just to show us what sperm looks like.

By the wa. Lol

Ewwwww. Terrible

Jceeee:
Hello everybody ,
I came here to seek for advice because I’m in a big dilemma with my kid sister , I don’t want to bore you with long some , I just don’t know what else to do

One day, one day he would find out. Please try to take care of your health in the meantime. High blood pressure is a silent killer

mosesomed:
Mrs. Deb'rah Eunice Gordon Osagiede is dead. She is a Nigerian pastor and the

https://www.sunnewsonline.com/breaking-apostle-debrah-eunice-osagiede-dies-at-62/

RIP woman of faith. She did a lot for christendom in Edo State. Gone to be with her maker and to be reunited with her dear husband

Mtvbaseng:
The year 2016 was quite tough for me I was a fresh graduate looking for a job I kept going to and fro dropping my C.v here and there I hope you learn. A Thing or two ....

What a tale. I hope you have bounced back fully

ebuka10box:
I appreciate you all ,your comments either positive or negative. this is just a first phase of my life. I'm not over religious but let's be realistic there are people in Europe who still complain of hardship, same applies to North America. I bliv I took the right step cause I really wanted to move out of Nigeria. I gotta be disciplined to achieve all this and I will try to be. my flatmate is leaving for America by next month, he met a lady 4 days ago and boom marriage is the next thing. so u see life no be so we see am, what if my helper is here and I locate him... remember Joseph in the Bible, he wasn't an Egyptian to become a Governor. I bliv if most persons had the funds and right connections to be in Dubai, they will be here

I'm rooting for you. Been reading this thread since yesterday when I stumbled on it. Keep the house posted. God bless

godforus:
May God forgive me for having erection at that yellow gown

See yellow thighs

A dress on a blodied corpse? You need to pay deep and serious attention to such craving. Its not normal.

RIP lady, it was not you. You were just at the wrong spot. Say no to cultism

Infolenka:
1. Tems

Never ever heard of her before this thread. Just listened to Damages, absolutely love it. Thanks

Mayeldah:
seek medical help brother! You may have mental issues.

Lol

TMSMedia:
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Parents and guardians, please be mindful of what these little ones are exposed to. Books, films, et al. And when they happen to be exposed to something big, take time to explain consequence to them. If they ask questions about stuff seen in school or what a friend said, do not drive them away in anger or shout and call them naughty. Be free with them so they are not scared to open up to you or their mum.

Ask them why they have asked 'off' questions and EXPLAIN consequences/describe in a childlike manner what such means and why they shouldn't indulge in it. Parenting is not easy but God will help someone.

RIP kiddo.

ProfAmaben:
Only a few men can compose themselves in the face of danger. Tough times are when you know the real men.

I was once approached by armed robbers whilst on a trip, that night was something else. The robbers shot for over 2 hours like their bullets couldn't get exhausted.

He came to my car and asked me to jazz down, I came down and asked him what he wanted with a smile. He wanted to slap me and I held his hand tightly (fear left me), I asked him again, oga what do you want?!? He beckoned to the others to take my car, immediately one of the boys wanted to move with the car, the leader said, make we free this man, e go track us later, e no even shake as e see us.

Always appear unfazed in the face of danger.

Nice one op.

Hmm. Adrenaline must have been rushing through you. Wawu

Engrgabi:
I met this pretty damsel before the covid19 outbreak around Jan, 2020. We didn't meet until September. I paid her a visit at her apartment.

The rest is history. I am in love with this girl. She went I rarely chat sexual stuffs or keep porn pics/Vic's in my phone ).

If you can't stand the heat, gently leave

NwaAmaikpe:


In the hat of contract of adhesion because he opted for skin-to-skin for his utmost pleasure.

Rape is a very serious offense. If it were not so the police man would not be begging. Do not support or make excuses for rapists! You question the girl on several flimsy grounds like making call downstairs, entering his home alone or not shouting. Victim blaming at its finest but you quickly pardon the police man's error by saying the victim's father should forgive so the rapist does not commit suicide. We live in a very sick and unsympathetic environment in Nigeria when rape is involved.

Afikoo:
Good morning Nairalanders. I sure know you all fine.

I am writing ten the opportunity.

Patiently reading.

Improve yourself some more financially speaking before getting married. Try and marry a woman who is bringing in something as well. Only 80k will be a struggle in Nigeria of today. Her family appears a tad troublesome. No one needs that kind of drama. Above all, please pray that God's ultimate will be done in your life. Do you like HR, it sells any day

Michelle55:
Please doctors in the house I need your help;

I said I have a light blood and pressure isn't good for me, please how true is that and can one be assumed to have a light blood (if there's any word like that)

Try to relocate to cooler climes

McCoy662:
I just noticed my girlfriend has a butterfly and a star tattoo on her laps and some waist beads. I have known her for about 4 months now, but I've never seen the tattoos. I knew about the waist beads.
Just saw that tattoos today and I asked her the meaning, she laughed it off and asked if I didn't know she was and is a cultist. I asked her if it's marine cult or secret cults we know and she just said she's a cultist. Though she sounded unserious like it's a normal ladies fashion but I'm not comfortable at all with that especially as I've not known the reason behind it.

Somebody please help.... Do anyone know if it's a symbol? if it's peculiar to any cult group? does it have any spiritual connection? Does it pose any threat to my destiny??

Admins please help push to fp.

If you can't stand the heat, please leave the kitchen

Abdulazeez99:
Big Brother Naija star Tobi Bakre has shared a throwback picture of himself and singer Banky W on Instagr

His wife actress Adesua serve as a judge on the show.

The reality TV star is also an actor, model, host, compere, and photographer.

The bible says, time and chance...

AFONJACOW:
So this small boy don marry before me...


Abeg if you are one of us, member of , it will end in tears social club, come here we have a serious urgent meeting now

www.itwillendintears.com

God forbid. I cast and bind your evil prediction

Ever8090:
I watched this boys movies when he was a child, now he is married while I am still single, no money and I don't want to bring a woman to suffer in my house the way my mum suffered in her husband's house..

Oh lord, pls do something not just for me alone but everyone in my type of situation

From your lips to the father's ears

dubeygol:
This is scene from an upcoming movie!

It has to be. No way can this be real and happen like this in broad daylight

Decolonel:
I wil try and be as brief as possible.

As a ave a vision and a feasible plan to succeed in life. Trust me, you will find her and find true love.
#queenoch20

Congratulations to doc and his dear wife to be. MBBS ehn... but once a medical student conquers it, the rest is usually smooth sailing

setobaba:
A Nigerian would have given that out for a selfie with davido or ordinary 20k giveaway

Linda Ikeji has been begging for hers since (to use for her blog website) but the price is too high so she just free d thing for the person

lalasticlala:
Two alleged robbers set ablaze at Upper Sakponba, Benin

Two young men accused of being armed robbers
Watch video

https://youtu.be/YKSE

Terrible. They released the prisoners so....

Broken2020:
Okay sir, but let me ask you have you stayed abroad before ?

You just took what interest you and decided to castigate me with it.

My brother if you dey go abroad you can’t tell how long you will stay, I have a document here but I can’t travel to Nigeria with it, I would have since gotten all my document but the pandemic put many things on hold, no issuance of documents here.

Make I come Naija come lock myself for Naija, do you think it’s every country that still allow travel to Nigeria?

You don marry? If not what’s stopping you and if yes congratulations.

Go read again why my dad said hold on let her family settle themselves.

You modified your comment and I appreciate your advice. My brother life get as e be, I don’t like the baby mama thing but sincerely speaking there are circumstances beyond my control, there are countries where money really can’t buy you everything. If I deport myself after marriage na to start afresh oo.

Thanks bro I appreciate

My brother, it is well. I don't know your personal circumstance or the country you reside in and what they allow or don'tallow. And that's why I stated in my last comment that you should draw up a realistic plan.

Now If your personal circumstances will not allow you go freely marry and return then of course you need to do what is right for you. Nobody will advice you to get deported or reach Nigeria and hook. Every one knows it's not easy there with covid and this last riot. All the best