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Assalamu alaykum wa rahmatullah.

Interesting topic. It has been on my mind for a while as I am most likely moving back to Nigeria some time into the future. In any case, whenever I am in Nigeria it is quite a struggle to maintain my lifestyle without stepping on people's toes. The Yoruba culture has inculcated too much intermingling among opposite genders, too much music, etc. Personally, I am aghast at the typical yoruba wedding where you've got men and women dancing together! They are not related to each other; essentially the women are dancing in public and shaking parts of their bodies in front of an audience of men ogling at them. I find the scene repulsive. I shudder to think of the men disrespecting those ladies by staring at every part of her, sizing her up, comparing, etc. It is just too lewd.
As such, I find it extremely unpleasant to attend such mixed parties. Alhamdulillah I don't have to encounter that often. But when I do move back to Nigeria, inshaAllah, my plan is to set my boundaries from the start. Let people know what I don't feel comfortable with. And lead a comfortable life in a comfortable environment. When I have an occasion to celebrate, I will have it segregated inshaAllah.

There is also the NYSC issue and wearing hijab wahala. I don't think there should be too much of a problem in the workplace though but do correct me if I'm wrong.
Anyway whoever has more info about it, let us know.

Assalamu alaykum wa rahmatullah,

I just saw this thread and realised that the reply I posted in your other thread is, perhaps, better suited to this one. So I'm just gonna take the short-cut and just copy-paste =)

Though I do have a few questions to add (just out of plain curiosity):
---How long have you believed in following only the Qur'an?
---What lead you to this belief?
---Do you live in Nigeria? Does the majority of your social group/community believe likewise?

Thank u.

Bismillahi Ar-Rahman Ar-Raheem.

Perhaps, my brother, you believe this because you have not read the following Qur'anic verses. I find them clear in their instructions to us to obey whatever the Messenger (Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam) tells us.

Allah COMMANDS us in the Qur'an to "Obey Allah and obey the Messenger, " (surah Nur: 54)

"And obey Allah and the Messenger that you may obtain mercy" (Surah Aal-Imran: 132)

"O you who believe! Obey Allah and obey the Messenger, " (Surah An-Nisa: 59)

"And when it is said to them: "Come to what Allah has sent down and to the Messenger," you see the hypocrites turn away from you with aversion" (Surah An-Nisa: 61)

"We sent no Messenger, but to be obeyed by Allah's Leave, " (Surah An-Nisa: 64)

"But no, by your Lord, they can have no Faith, until they make you (O Muhammad sallalahu alayhi wasallam) judge in all disputes between then, and find in themselves no resistance against your decisions, and accept (them) with full submission" (Surah An-Nisa: 65)

"And whoever obeys Allah and His Messenger, fears Allah and keeps his duty to Him, such are the successful" (Surah Nur: 52)

"The only saying of the faithful believers, when they are called to Allah and His Messenger, to judge between them, is that they say:"We hear and we obey". And such are the successful" (Surah Nur: 51)

"O you who believe! Obey Allah, and obey the Messenger and render not vain your deeds" (Surah Muhammad: 33)

"Obey Allah, and obey the Messenger, " (Surah At-Taghabun: 12)

And how do we fulfil this obligation if not by observing what he said and did so that we may obey and follow these instructions? And are not the ahadith the collection of what the Prophet (SAW) said and did? Thus if it is compulsory for us to obey the Prophet (SAW), it is necessary for us to look at the ahadith so we may know WHAT it is we are supposed to be obeying, n'est-ce pas? "He who obeys the Messenger has indeed obeyed Allah, " (An-Nisa: 80)

May Allah make it easy for all of us to truly accept what has been revealed to us and make it easy for us to obey Him and hold on to the sunnah of the Messenger who has come as an example and role-model to be followed. "Certainly, there is an excellent example for you in the Messenger of Allah, for him who looks forward to Allah and the Last Day, and remembers Allah much." (Surah Al-Ahzab: 21)

maclatunji:
I think it is also instructive to note that Hijab is compulsory only for adult women with conditions stated by other Muslim posters here. In such issues maturity for women is determined by the start of their monthly courses. Hence, it is not uncommon to see pre-pubescent Muslim girls without Hijab in Muslim countries like Saudi Arabia. Allah knows best.

However, I am not referring to pre-pubescent girls. I did my secondary schooling and A-Levels in Saudi. And even now, as at 21years of age, when I go back to visit, I still know of my non-hijab wearing school-mates. And in any case the teachers who were not wearing hijab are not pre-pubescent.
Go to any private hospital in Saudi; most of the nurses will not be wearing hijab, though the uniform is at least not as skimpy as in other countries.

uplawal:
welldone sis stranger ,may Allah reward you for the input

Ameen, jazakillahu khayran sis =)

chyz:
Practicing the real is Islam, is living by teachings in the Quran and Quran only. It is not "my definition" of practicing Islam, it is Allah's definition of Isalm and is our instructions. Am I wrong? If I am then provide the proof.

Bismillahi Ar-Rahman Ar-Raheem.

Perhaps, my brother, you believe this because you have not read the following Qur'anic verses. I find them clear in their instructions to us to obey whatever the Messenger (Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam) tells us.

Allah COMMANDS us in the Qur'an to "Obey Allah and obey the Messenger, " (surah Nur: 54)

"And obey Allah and the Messenger that you may obtain mercy" (Surah Aal-Imran: 132)

"O you who believe! Obey Allah and obey the Messenger, " (Surah An-Nisa: 59)

"And when it is said to them: "Come to what Allah has sent down and to the Messenger," you see the hypocrites turn away from you with aversion" (Surah An-Nisa: 61)

"We sent no Messenger, but to be obeyed by Allah's Leave, " (Surah An-Nisa: 64)

"But no, by your Lord, they can have no Faith, until they make you (O Muhammad sallalahu alayhi wasallam) judge in all disputes between then, and find in themselves no resistance against your decisions, and accept (them) with full submission" (Surah An-Nisa: 65)

"And whoever obeys Allah and His Messenger, fears Allah and keeps his duty to Him, such are the successful" (Surah Nur: 52)

"The only saying of the faithful believers, when they are called to Allah and His Messenger, to judge between them, is that they say:"We hear and we obey". And such are the successful" (Surah Nur: 51)

"O you who believe! Obey Allah, and obey the Messenger and render not vain your deeds" (Surah Muhammad: 33)

"Obey Allah, and obey the Messenger, " (Surah At-Taghabun: 12)

And how do we fulfil this obligation if not by observing what he said and did so that we may obey and follow these instructions? And are not the ahadith the collection of what the Prophet (SAW) said and did? Thus if it is compulsory for us to obey the Prophet (SAW), it is necessary for us to look at the ahadith so we may know WHAT it is we are supposed to be obeying, n'est-ce pas? "He who obeys the Messenger has indeed obeyed Allah, " (An-Nisa: 80)

May Allah make it easy for all of us to truly accept what has been revealed to us and make it easy for us to obey Him and hold on to the sunnah of the Messenger who has come as an example and role-model to be followed. "Certainly, there is an excellent example for you in the Messenger of Allah, for him who looks forward to Allah and the Last Day, and remembers Allah much." (Surah Al-Ahzab: 21)

A muslim woman can be a leader of an organization whatever its size BUT she is not to be the ruler of the land. There is a distinction. As the head of the organization, her responsibilities differ from those of the ruler of the land.

The attitude of the believer is always if God has legislated something, then it must be right (for He is all-Knowing, All-Wise) and we must do our best to abide by it.

assalamu alaykum wa rahmatullah.
May Allah continue to increase your faith and knowledge of the deen and guide us all to the Straight Path.

Assalamu alaykum wa rahamtullah,
jazakillahu khayran sister zayhal!
My friend and I have been worrying about this! We are in our final years and it seems ridiculous to be told we will have to wear shorts and our hijabds will not go easily with the camp people! Alhamdulillah it seems to have worked out.
I am still stumped by the fact that the rules have not been opened up to make allowances for sisters in hijab/abaya/even sometimes niqab! Yet there are so many muslims in Nigeria! May Allah help us and enable us to worship Him with ease.

Jazakillahu khayran once again,

wa salam.
(I quite like you already, sis, may Allah be with you wherever you go)

I really don't know about the assalatu but maybe you should go for jumu'ah in a less pakistani-dominated area.
I'll check with people I know from Bham and let you know the english mosques, but they are not nigerians so I won't be able to help with the assalatu aspect. I know the jumu'ah khutbah in the university will be in english.

But really brother, the english-speaking community has so many events that you will not the missing the assalatus. There will be halaqahs (islamic groups to learn more about the deen) probably weekly or so, islamic lectures, conferences, etc.

And when you feel occasionally overwhelmed with homesickness, hop on a train to london, there are so many nigerians there. If you want to specifically see nigerian muslims, head down to Lewisham/Kent road to the MAN mosque, there would be lots of yoruba muslims.

Anyways, inshaAllah, will get back to you about the english speaking mosques as soon as I can.

Assalamu alaykum wa rahmatullah.
I must say I love this thread! Haven't been on NL for about 2 years, quite a nice idea!
Though I mainly read the first few pages. SubhanAllah seems brother Jarus has had a colourful history! I think there is something with Kwara parents and their kids marrying from kwara, if I want to make my mum and aunts, etc happy all I have to do is turn up with a nice Offa brother. I do try to explain that it is all qadr and whoever it has been decreed for us is the one each person ends up with. Anyway, we'll see who I end up with, lol

Seeing how sister Zayhal was getting all these du'as for her exam, I thought I'd drop in and pray that Allah makes every step to success easy for her.

Also wanted to beg u guys to remember me in your dua, got exams too, na sleeplessness drive me here =(
inshaAllah khayr for everyone

wa salam

t.truth:
@post :

In Islamic states, Yes it is compulsory. You could be arrested or acid could be poured on you by some fanatics.

In Iran, Saudi Arabia for instance, you could be arrested by the state police or religious police.

That is a major untruth. I have lived in Saudi Arabia for years. I went to a british school where I was the only person wearing hijab for a while. Most of my teachers were non-muslim and they weren't wearing hijab except occasionally. And almost all of my muslim and non-muslim class-mates were not wearing hijab either. Please research your facts before making such generalized statements. Of course, saudi demands that you dress with decency when you are on the streets. And if you don't you MAY get reprimanded. You do not get acid thrown in your face. I have not heard of any country where acid-throwing is the form of law-enforcement.

Assalamu alaykum wa rahmatullah,
my dear OP, I do wonder why you want a male child so much. In any case it is not the gender of the child that matters but the barakah from the child.

Far be it from me to accuse you of gender-bias but I want to expand on the issue because it is something common in Nigeria and other readers may benefit as well.
Islam came and removed the favouritism of male children over females. Allah rebukes the attitude of the people who dislike daughters in the Qur'an :
"And when the news of (the birth of) a female (child) is brought to any of them, his face becomes dark, and he is filled with inward grief! He hides himself from the people because of the evil of that whereof he has been informed. Shall he keep her with dishonor or bury her in the earth? Certainly, evil is their decision." (An-Nahl 16:58-59)

And indeed the female child is a blessing. The Prophet (SAW) said: "Whoever takes care of two girls until they reach adulthood - he and I will come (together) on the Day of Resurrection - and he interlaced his fingers (meaning in Paradise)." (Reported by Muslim)

He (SAW) also said: "Whoever has three daughters or sisters, or two daughters of two sisters, and lives along with them in a good manner, and has patience with them, and fears Allah with regard to them will enter Paradise." (Reported by Abu Dawud, Al-Tirmidhee and others)

And in another Hadith: "They will be a shield for him from the Fire." (Reported by Ahmad and Ibn Maajah)

Here is a snippet from an article on the topic:

So the position of daughters in Islam is very clear and the encouragement that it gives for them, and also the hatred it has for those who hate them or are grieved at their births! We know from this that hatred in some souls toward something - if found - is not a true judgement upon that thing and this is explained in the Qurân, as Allah(swt) says:

"…If you dislike them, it may be that you dislike a thing and Allah brings through it a great deal of good." (An-Nisa’ 4:19)

So how many righteous women have brought happiness and well-being upon their families and their Ummah!? And how many corrupt young men have brought every form of misfortune and trial upon this Ummah!?

Therefore, it is upon the parents who have intellect to accept whatever Allah’s(swt) gift is with full joy and happiness, whether the gift is male or a female. Since its being a male or being a female is due only to Allah’s(swt) order alone - He, the One free from all imperfections - and Most High says:

"To Allah belongs the kingdom of the heavens and the earth. He creates what He wills. He bestows female (offspring) upon whom He wills, and bestows male (offspring) upon whom He wills. Or He bestows both males and females, and He renders barren who He wills. Verily, He is the All-Knower and is Able to do all things." (Ash-Shura 42:49-50)

May Allah grant you what will make you happy in this world and the next and bless you from every angle.

Wa salam.

wa alaykumu salam wa rahmatullah.

SubhanAllah brother, I seem to be running into zillions of sisters who are single. I do not believe there is a shortage of muslim sisters at all. Make dua, be patient and know that Allah will answer you dua when it is BEST for you.

I really wouldn't advise you to marry a non-muslim woman. Think of your children. It is one of the rights of a child that a good parent be selected for them. This is your responsibility. We all want children that will be better than us and for their sake, we must be patient. Really, how can you encourage your children to pray, lower their gaze and follow the sunnah of the Rasool (SAW) when they can simply turn around and ask "but why isn't mummy doing the same?" Children learn from what they see around them not what they are told.

And for the sake of marital enjoyment and good companionship, one should look for a spouse similar in beliefs. I cannot see how a couple can truly love each other whilst each believes the other is going to hell. It is difficult to reconcile.
May Allah guide you to the best choice.
Incidentally, at a recent course while discussing the duas that are accepted (such as the dua of the oppressed, the fasting person, the traveller, etc), I learnt that the list includes the dua of an unmarried person for marriage.
So glad tidings, my brother!

wa salam.

wa alaykumu salaam wa rahmatullah.
There are lots of muslim societies in UK, especially in Birmingham! Birmingham has got have one of the largest muslim populations in UK, got to love that city for that!
depends :
---> if you are a student, then the university Islamic Society (ISoc)
---> there are institutes such as Al-Maghrib and al-Kauthar which hold regular seminars in B'ham, check their websites and fora. On the foru, you can talk to the people who are part of the institute and live in B'ham, they'll be able to tell you more about such places.
---> I don't live in B'ham so I don't know about Nigerian group there BUT there is a UK-wide Nigerian Muslim Forum UK (http://www.nmfuk.org/), I really don't know much about them
---> There is the Muslim Association of Nigeria (MAN) but it is based in London [http://www.manuk.org/index.php?option=com_content&view=frontpage&Itemid=1]

those are the few off the top of my head, but really I wouldn't think of anyone getting lonely or starved of muslim companionship in B'ham. Head to city centre or, better yet, go to Small Heath.

kulyie:
I want 2 ask dem 'muslim women' a questn even though am not one.y do y'al wear dis long dres dat covers your head,ears,neck down 2 your knees.dat aside,u wil even wear long skirt.infact some go as fas as wearing black socks even in d heat.sometyms i feel sory 4 dem.hey dnt get me wrong.am nt a fan of indecent dresing bt i min,dnt u tink dose cloths r 2 much just 4 a persn,especialy durin hot seasn.i wana know d reasn 4 such funy dresin n y d socks

Being a muslim woman who does wear that long dress, etc, allow me to explain.
We cover simply because God commanded us to do so. We hope that by obeying His commandments, we can be among those with whom He is Pleased. We understand that we were put on this earth to worship God and Him alone; as He is the Creator, His Will should be obeyed. He knows the past, the present and the future, He knows human nature better than we do and He lays down the rules and regulations for the most peaceful life possible. It is only by obeying God that the human soul finds peace and tranquillity.

Thus as God knows us best and ought to be obeyed, why should we not obey His legislation that we cover ourselves in the presence of unrelated men? Worship is giving up putting your trust in God that His Word is the truth and by submitting to His Word even at times when it may be contrary to our wishes, we demonstrate our submission to God's Will.

While the primary reason for covering is to gain God's Pleasure, there are wisdoms attached to the legislation;
---> men also should not expose certain parts of themselves and they shouldn't stare at women. This reduces the whole sexual tension between people who are not married to each other and aims to reduce the triggers for fornication and adultery.
---> reduction in fornication and adultery means that family lineages are preserved. Children know who their father is. The whole lost identity issue is minimised, a child knows where he/she stems from. This helps re-inforce the child's sense of belonging and self-esteem.
---> reduction in broken marriages because of either spouse going off with someone else. The family unit is very important to societal structure. Destruction of families is the major step towards the destruction of humanity in terms of nurturing individuals with a strong sense of identity, compassion, etc.
---> and many more, man, my fingers need a break from all this typing! =)

Assalamu alaykum wa rahmatullah,
as far as I know, sincere repentance wipes away the consequences of sin. Thus if two people were committing zina together and both of them repent, they can marry each other after waiting for a period of about 3months (I'm not certain of the exact period -inshaAllah will find it later).

Regarding marry the virgin man, as far as I know, the verse of a fornicator not being allowed to marry someone who is not a fornicator does not refer to the past,, if someone has repented and corrected their ways, then Allah forgives all sins. The verse refers to a righteous person marrying someone who is still fornicating (as opposed to the one who repented and changed their ways).

And Allah knows best.

sickle cell?

Errrm, aren't you a bit tooo young for all this? Your profile says you're 19, shouldn't you be worrying about studies and all instead of getting involved with 3 girls!??!!

I don't believe you. I refuse to accept that I was anything but completely right,



P.S: Which answer was wrong? The paragraph question?

1. The room with the lions. If they haven't eaten in 3 years, then they're dead.

2. She took a picture of him and developed it.

3. Charcoal; it's black when you buy it, red when it's lit and gray because it has turned to ashes

4. Yesterday, today and tomorrow

5. It is unusual because it doesn't have an "e" in it. ("e" is, apparently, the most commonly-used leter of the alphabet)

1. The room with the lions. If they haven't eaten in 3 years, then they're dead.

2. She took a picture of him and developed it.

3.

No matter what you guys say, I know there are male, adult virgins out there. Just because society has been reduced to an immoral wasteland doesn't mean there aren't a few gems out there. And I don't mean men who never had sex because they were too ugly/shy/never had the opportunity; I mean handsome men who've been tempted by ladies yet there chose to remain chaste and avoid sinning for God's sake. Such a man is a gem and they are rare.

But they exist.

Be careful before jumping to conclusions! Maybe those are just petnames for her siblings/cousins/friends. Sometimes I text my female friends and we write stuff like "how r u, my love", "honeypie" "sweetheart", etc,,,,I'm not a lesbian! It's just a show of friendly love. If a guy read that, he could conclude that I have a boyfriend or something and I don't even date! So, yeah, just don't rush to conclusions. "my hero" could be her younger brother or cousin.

lightest:
If you have a younger one say like 14, 15 years of age, watch him sleep around 5.00 p.m and make sure he or she is far asleep ta\hen wake him or her up suddenly and shout with hard face toward the person won't you go to school. watch as the poor kid will ruch to the bathroom. make sure the person is your younger one or else naa abuse e go abuse you after what.

hahaha,,,,that has happened to me! Only thing is, it wasn't a prank. I woke up by myself at about 12:30 am and ran to the bathroom thinking I was late for school. Did everything, showered, ran back to my room and saw that the clock read 1:00 am.

Also waking up on time for school, dressing and getting ready only to realise it's weekend. I think I love school too much.

Nwando, there was already a discussion about this.
Temporary marriage is NOT PERMISSIBLE IN ISLAM.
Here's a lil something:
Question: I heard that some of the Companions claimed that temporary marriage was permissible. What is this about? Is this what some of the Shî`ah follow?

Answered by Sheikh Yûsuf al-Qâsim

[color=#990000]Temporary marriage, (mut`ah) is unlawful by consensus as stated by Ibn `Abd al-Barr in al-Istidhkâr (5/508). He writes: “All scholars of reason and revelation agree on the unlawfulness of temporary marriage, because the prohibition of the Prophet (peace be upon him) regarding it is authentic.”

One of the hadîth that prohibit such marriage is through Sabrah al-Juhanî. He said: I was with the Prophet (peace be upon him) when he said: “O people I have allowed you earlier to marry women on a temporary basis, but Allah has now forbidden it until the Day of Judgment. So if any of you have a woman from that kind of marriage, let him release her and do not request any refund of what you have given them.” [Sahîh Muslim]
In his commentary of Sahîh Muslim, Imam al-Nawawî comments (9/179): “Al-Mâzirî said : 'It was authentic that temporary marriage was permissible in the early days of Islam. Then it was abrogated by authentic hadîth. It is the consensus now that it is unlawful. All Muslims abided by this except one group of innovators.' He was referring to the Shî`ah.”

Al-Nawawî also says: “The truth is that this prohibition and permission took place twice. It was lawful before Khaybar, then prohibited on the day of Khaybar. Then it was permitted again on the day of Makkah - the day of Awbâs - which was close. Then, again, it was forbidden after three days until the Day of Judgment.”

This kind of marriage was lawful for a certain reason. The Companions were new in Islam and were suffering from physical needs. There were not many women at certain times and this kind of marriage was needed.

`Abd Allah b. Mas`ûd said: “We were fighting along with the Prophet (peace be upon him) and did not have women. We asked: Shall we castrate ourselves? The Prophet (peace be upon him) prevented us from that but he allowed us to contract marriages with women for a certain period of time by giving them something, clothing or the like.” [Sahîh al-Bukhârî and Sahîh Muslim]

Many scholars referred to this reason. Ibn Hajr writes: “It is as mention by al-Ismâ’îlî that there was fighting and a lack of women.” [Fath al-Bârî (9/170-171)]

It was related that one time Ibn `Abbâs declared that temporary marriage was lawful. Then one man told him: “Temporary marriage was permitted in the early days of Islam to whom it was needed, the same as carrion, blood and the flesh of swine. It was permitted out of need.” (Ibn `Abbâs did not object). This is the answer to your question.

And Allah knows best. [/color]

olabowale:
@JeSoul: How come that you are not bothered now that you are no more a child, that a man can never be true God? Ironically, today is when you said he, this mangod of yours was hung! Yet you call the day "good friday!" It should be sad friday for you. But of course, you guys read everything upside down! The person who was hung wouldn't have called it "good friday!"

You better go to Masjid Alhamdulillah in Boston and take your shahadah. Or any masjid or mussalla around you. Every University has one on campus this days.

Bro Olabowale, it would be better not to refer to him as "mangod" because to us, he's still a respected and beloved Prophet (peace be upon him). No matter what animosity people show towards us, we must remember not to extend our reaction towards Prophet Isah (peace be upon him).
Just a reminder.

nwando:
"The Prophet said, ‘Let the negro slave of Dinar perish. And if he is pierced with a thorn, let him not find anyone to take it out for him,  If he [the black slave] asks for anything it shall not be granted, and if he needs intercession [to get into paradise], his intercession will be denied.'" ~Bukhari:V4B52N137


If anyone said the above today what will we call him?
Well those were Mo's impression of you

Bukhari :: Book 4 :: Volume 52 :: Hadith 137
Narrated Abu Huraira:

The Prophet said, "Let the slave of Dinar and Dirham of Quantify and Khamisa (i.e. money and luxurious clothes) perish for he is pleased if these things are given to him, and if not, he is displeased!"

Narrated Abu Huraira: The Prophet said, " Let the slave of Dinar and Dirham, of Quantify and Khamisa perish as he is pleased if these things are given to him, and if not, he is displeased. Let such a person perish and relapse, and if he is pierced with a thorn, let him not find anyone to take it out for him. Paradise is for him who holds the reins of his horse to strive in God's Cause, with his hair unkempt and feet covered with dust: if he is appointed in the vanguard, he is perfectly satisfied with his post of guarding, and if he is appointed in the rearward, he accepts his post with satisfaction; (he is so simple and unambiguous that) if he asks for permission he is not permitted, and if he intercedes, his intercession is not accepted."

Checking your reference, I see no mention of BLACK SLAVE. Check it for yourself, if you disagree. I wonder who put the word BLACK into it.

Now, wait a minute. There are great ones worldwide who smoke, drink, fornicate, etc while calling themselves a great one! Does this mean it's permitted in The Great Religion? Nopey dopey, mes amies! Racism is not a part of The Great Religion; that's a fact. So whether some Great Ones are racists or not, is their problem and while we condemn their actions, we can find nothing to support their actions in the religion. There are millions of racists from all religions; do we blame the religion or the imperfect humans? We talk all the time of the white people being racist towards us, telling us we have "lower intelligence", etc but so far, no one has attributed it to Christianity or Judaism. In the days before the abolition of slavery and the days of segregation when the white children where raised to believe that black people are sub-human, why didn't anyone blame Christianity for inculcating those beliefs in the children's minds?

Let's stop using double standards in judging people's actions.

Interestingly enough, the Prophet The Great Prophet (peace be upon him), during his Last Sermon in Minâ, said: “O people! Your Lord is one Lord, and you all share the same father. There is no preference for Arabs over non-Arabs, nor for non-Arabs over Arabs. Neither is there preference for white people over black people, nor for black people over white people. Preference is only through righteousness.” Then he said: “Have I conveyed the message?” and the people declared that he had. [Musnad Ahmad (22391)]

Number 1: period is painful but drinking isn't.
Number 2: period is uncomfortable, drinking isn't.
Number 3: guys can decide when to drink, women can't choose when they want their period and for how long.
Number 4: period lasts a couple of days, needs sanitary pads, needs a whole pack of other stuff, women gotta be careful when on, etc.

Point is: menstruation is in NO WAY fun!! Guys who drink have fun drinking. And if someone is abstinent, seeing her period proves nothing because she has no reason to be worried anyway. And if she's married, then she probably doesn't want the period to come.

It means girl or daughter (definitely not wife! Wife is amariya) in Hausa. But it's usually spelt "yarinya"

tboy1:
I did not say in - between - i said balanced, i.e She should be practising(praying, going to the mosque e.t.c) but she doesnt have to wear hijab, i mean she can wear a scarf. She should be able to have a good conversation with me without thinkin first before she utters a sentence

but covering her hair, neck and chest with a scarf is hijab. Hijab is compulsory but I think you are referring to the big, northern hijab. And you have to realise that hijab is not limited to the hair; she should be covering her whole body except face and hands with loose, opaque clothes that do not show her shape. It means not wearing perfume when going out or wearing seductive clothes (even if they are long).
Going to the mosque is not compulsory for women; it's compulsory for men. A woman's prayer in her house has more rewards than her prayer in the mosque. But she prays in the mosque if she wants to.
What do you mean "without thinking first efore she utters a sentence"? I know many spontaneous Muslim girls, dunno what you mean. But keep in mind that a woman shouldn't be too friendly with un-related men; maybe that's why they do not want to be so open around you.

I will not argue with you because that's what you want. And I advise all other muslims to stope the argument; you cannot force someone to see what they don't want to. If anyone is truly interested in learning about Islam, it is easy for them to learn but when people waste their time and effort just to provoke muslims, that's another issue.

Fine, some of you guys don't believe in Hell and Heaven and the others think Islam is a fake religion. Good for you. Now that you've stated your opinions and it has been debated at length, you may rest. Otherwise we'll just go around in circles repeating the same old things over and over again. You don't believe in Islam? Again, good for you. I believe that my dear muslim brothers and sisters on Nairaland (May Allah, the Exalted, reward them abundantly) have done their best to explain the Truth to you. So now, you can go ahead and stuff your ears with wool to stop yourselves from hearing them. I refuse to argue with you on this matter since it is clear that you have no wish whatsoever of learning the truth. If, however, I do see anyone with an open, unbiased mind, I have no objection to explaining the matter and clearing their doubts.

I will only say that we will all die one day and then we'll be resurrected. On that day, no one will bear another's burden; everyone is for himself. Look to what you have put forth for that day when people will beg to be returned back to this world so that they can do good and follow the right path.