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Ahahaha....
We're you in the class?

Zonefree:
Exactly, and the answer is definitely D.

My brother, it's called Politics
With the right negotiation skills, anything can be achieved.
We all witnessed many sitting Governors from the north abdicate their votes and threw their support behind a particular candidate....
There is still a lot unraveling to happen in the coming months.....
Let's sit and enjoy the ride

Note: Campaign in Nigeria is expensive.
I expect Atiku to tackle Tinubu all the way...
Not so sure Obi can stand the heat (Reason: He is more into trade than politics. I expect him to"throw in the towel" with the slightest indication of doubt from his alleged stronghold)

StrongandMighty:
Afonja politics
An average urchin believes that the whole of southwest will vote for agbado but the North won't vote for Atiku..

Bro,
It's good you went in legit... You need to start finding your footing ASAP as she will dump you.
Start doing more link ups and take up more jobs to make more money... It's not time for you to relax yet... She's already seeing a bigger picture!!!

kbower:
Hi Nlanders

We all know no marriage is all that smooth and rosey, we all that are in it have challenges here and there, and for almost 11 years now, out of tolerance, ruggedity, minding my business in terms of taking care of the family have always been something that has held my marriage down, because the majority of the issue I have with my wife have always been issues of trust, transparency, accountability, respect and loyalty.

Some people will say with these things I have listed, that I may be asking for too much, but I can tell whoever would reason that way that it's not too much because am a responsible father/husband that have never for once strayed the family in anyway that will make me lack any of the above stated qualities a man can enjoy from a wife.

Why am I here? Ok.. After enduring so much for 11 years, we are relocating to the UK, she is the main applicant, myself and the 3 children are dependants, she traveled first, leaving myself and the 3 kids behind until she can secure accommodation b4 we leave.

I have heard about countless incidences of how SOME women treat their husbands and the POWER zoned to women in that country which makes it almost impossible for a man with a wife that gives him constant problem to be able to thrive in that country.

I just want to state three peculiar incidences that occured during her 1month stay over there that is already making me feel I have alot to face over there, though I know my God is bigger than anything, I just want people that are over there, or people that are experienced here and all over who are capable of handing a good advise for me on getting there to know how I can fare and withstand what is to come.

Based on the above from the major incidences I have experienced with her, first two weeks of being there, she had gone to check a house b4 heading to school, on her way back to school, she claimed she didn't take enough money and going back home might not be possible, I asked how she would wanna go about it
and she replied saying I will borrow money from Mr Mike, a man she just met at school on her first day of registration. I was like that's wrong, you don't form familiarity with someone you just met in another man's country, I said I will call a friend in liverpool to send you money and you could get your train ticket. She fumed, but I stood my ground and said that's how its going to be. I have asked her to collect a friends account details, since she has not opened an account yet, she said when her class finishes by 8.30pm she'll request details from her friend so the money can be sent. Fast forward to closing period, I messaged her to send me details, she ignored, I called ad she said nobody has an account that I should not worry she will sort herself, I was now like you just got to that country, u have no friends that u know too well to rely on, I am ur hubby and I opened a way for u to get money easily, yet u didn't make any effort to redeem the opportunity, omo she hung up on me then later called back that she gathered few pennies she had to get the ticket, I was now like why didn't u just say this instead of putting me on pressure over how to get money to convey u all the way from london to Luton, over an hour journey at night.

Secondly, on her next school day, she had previously told me prior to her closing hours that her data has finished and she's using schools wifi, that the moment she steps out from school to head home, she won't be having access to internet, etc WhatsApp and all of that, but importantly was to make use of GPS google map, that's what people over there use to navigate their way in order not to get lost, I was like without internet how do u intend to get to ur destination when u know how stressful it was for u getting lost the other day, now the same statement she made was, I will sort myself. I was raged and said woman I will ask my friend to buy u data so u can get home easy and safe, she said no proble, that she's leaving now, I said well since i wont be able to reach you on whats app, I will definitely call you on normal call shortly to give you the data pin to load. She said no P and hung up.

Moments later, my friend had sent me the data pin, na so I begin dey call wifey oo, over 15 missed calls she nor pick. Later she called back and said her phone was in her laptop bag and her hands were frozen so she couldnt put hands in the bag to pick the call and that she didn't even hear it ring.

The issue I posted up there are issues of not being accountable, and attitude of not showing that you don't need me when its not just about that but for security and your well being knowing fully well you are new in the country and proper guidelines needs to be taken.

Another incident happened 3rd week after her arrival, we were video chatting while she was on a train station waiting for train, next thing I noticed was a guy sitting BEHIND her, the guy boldly took a peep into her phone directly, seemingly trying to see who she was on video call with, immediately i called her attention to it, she just smiled and looked back and said silently, nawa some people for this London nor go mind their business. This very day developed a story that transitioned towards few things I will be stating.

The next sunday, I called her in the morin to say hi and all that, next thing I know she dun dey go church, she nor even discuss am with me and na wetin we dn agree on sey we fo jointly choose church wey we go dey go. After church service, she call me sey that guy wey i talk sey dey peep into her phone, sey the guy that very day asked her how long shes been there for, she said, just 3 weeks, sey how come she come take know road when him don dey 3months he nver know road, sey that same guy him coincidentally meet am for the new church wey she come so, sey the guy dey look am, she comot eye, but later the guy come meet am sey are u not the one that showed me way to where I was going. Sey as him meet the guy coincidentally for church, he fit be sey he get why, maybe for job connection or what not. I nor say anything, cos coincidences arent something new in this world. Then the next day, she call me sey that same guy needs an apartment, sey na married guy with 4 kids, but him wife and 1kid dey here, 3 dey nija them nor fit come yet until house is ready, sey him dey ask her if she can help him get someone that can reference for him to get a house, ha him my wife come dey ginger me sey make i help am talk to my friend wey help us reference if him go fit help the guy too. I come sey no problem, she sey she go call the guy now and put us on 3 way call, i sey no p, i come dey wait for call, no call come and madam nor talk again, i come ring her sey hafa u nor do the three way call again? She sey the guy dey work, him nor fit talk,sey she don give the guy my number to call me later, me come sey no p, send him number I go save am down so if he calls i go know sey na him, madam nor gree send number, I come dey wonder sey wetin dey sup sef, normally I nor spose reason ahead, but me my instict dey very strong, i come begin dey put two and two together sey maybe the guy intention was never to get help but to use style dey hit on my madam maybe na why him nor wan talk to me but wan use my madam dey take communicate.

I come ask madam some some questions on previous ish, I come find out sey small lie dey, so I tackler her sey the way she take explain to me about how him meet the guy for train station nor join, she come vex sey me i come am liar, omo as we dey talk for whatsapp, i nor blv sey my madam added this guy to the call without my consent or my knowledge, so as I dey talk, the guy dey the background, i nor even know anything and the dude himself kept quiet, na after the call finish, I see am for call details sey the guy was added to the call, infact the dude even called me directky i nor pick. Now i got very angry, come call madam sey wetin dey sup, u added this dude wey talk sey him dey work him nor fit talk to the call wey me and u dey on and u didnt even notify me, ok lets agree sey if to sey u wan tell me sey u wan add the guy for call sey i nor go gree sey maybe na why u add am without my consent, at least after u add am secretly, u are suppose to talk and sey bae, since u are accusing me wrongly.

I have added the guy to this call so he can clear me out, but she didnt, she just added the guy and the dude himself kept quiet and didnt say a word until I hung up. I got very furious and told her this is the highest level of see finish and dragging in the mud, wetin u want that guy to dey feel like now? She said shes sorry that she only wanted to clear herself, I was now like even if u wanted to clear urself, if that the best way to go about it, the person who is the subject matter is the best person u need to introduce to clear u out? Later on i just bone the matter come apologise sey make we move on, na so she come begin dey yarn plenty, sey she call the guy that my hubby said that the way we met is unreal, sey the guy sef come talk sey wow, so your husband already thinks am sleeping with you, but i cant blame u though, u know u have a big back side, so thoughts like that from him is likely not a surprise, i was hmmmm to hear that, i come tell madam sey if na true this guy talk this thing, shouldnt u already know he has corny itentions, she said well she too dey wonder cos the two times wey them meet she nor wear wetin fit show her bkside so how d guy come take know. The matter end there, next day madam still dey worry me sey shey I go still help d guy, I was like I cant even talk to him, u dun useless me already for him presence, she dey claim sey she nor do anything wrong by adding him to the call, sey the guy know of agency wey fit help me get better job if i arrive, and sey the guy talk sey if me fit connect am to my friend to reference am for house, him go link me up fr the agency. I talk sey i nor dey interested. Omo I weak. Guys I need advise on how to handle issues over there, cos me nor dey take nonsense for nija here, but for there, one needs to chill, but then should it now be sey because we dey live for country wey give woman power, make woman come use that opportunity come dey fumble?

You're a very knowledgeable man.

chatinent:
Can you do what I'll say?

If you can, snub her intimately for three months...don't ask, don't act like you do want, don't do petty intimacies. Allow her to herself. Don't quarrel or speak rudely to her tho..in fact, be more lovely and hypercaring...but don't agree to intimacies.

Don't act angry! Act very happy always...esp when you return.

Talk normally and more confidently.

She'll feel you're getting it outside and watch the magic. This will introduce a foundation for discussion and settlement...and everyone learning simple lessons.

This life na common sense.

Lastly, chief, in anything you are doing in this life, don't ever reject food.

ChiefAfonja:
Yolobas

Did you read/check their names

Penguin2:
The question is, how did things become this bad?

How did the boy turn against them?

Very good question.
Everything turned bad after UK doctors decided that the boy's organ cannot be removed because only one out of the boy's 2 organs is good (kindly note that Indian, Chinese or Malaysian doctors would have done the procedure).
This means that the boy's has to return to naija since he couldn't complete his own part of the transplant agreement.
The boy doesn't want to come back!!!
So, he told officials a new story they don't like hearing... trafficking

Nonso92:
This is nonsense, water is a conductor of electricity. If there's water in that bucket, and he opens the shower for the water to pour on him, with the boiling ring plugged in electricity, that dude is dead and gone

This is misleading!!!!
The water outside of the "sphere" cannot electrocute

Tokskob2008:
Christ!!!

This country is just anyhow. Why shoot at them when they didn't shoot or is chasing after them now a difficult task

Why did he not stop

Mbamally:
1. who's and whose
Who’s is a contraction, who + is, or who + has.
For example: who’s hungry?
Whose is a possessive pronoun.
For example: whose sandwich is this?

2. toward and towards
Both spellings are correct, and they mean the same thing: in the direction of.
Toward is the preferred spelling in the United States and Canada. In other English-speaking countries, such as the United Kingdom and Australia, towards is the more common spelling.

3. their and there
There means the opposite of here; “at that place.” Their means “belongs to them.”

4. stationary and stationery
Stationary means fixed, or unchanging.
Stationery refers to paper, matching envelopes etc.

5. inquiry and enquiry
enquire simply means to “ask,” while inquire was used for formal investigations. You can use either enquire or inquire and not make a mistake.
Inquire is what you’ll usually see in American English.

6. loose and lose
Loose: means not firmly fixed, or not tight.
The handle is loose.
Lose: I don't want to lose my job.

8. defense and defence
Defence and defense are both correct/the same.
It comes down to the part of the world in which they are used. In the United States, people spell it with an “s” while UK with "c".

OP I'VE DONE MY OWN... SHOULD I DROP MY AZA

In addition, DEFENSE & DEFENCE
Defense is a verb (e.g in defense of our family values)
While Defence is a noun (e.g karate is a defence strategy)

COMPLIMENT & COMPLEMENT
Compliment is a form of greeting (e.g compliment of the season)
While Complement is addition (e.g my wife's effort complements mine


BREATH & BREATHE
Breath(ING) is the ack of allowing gaseous passage through the lungs (e.g breath in and out)
Breathe is the substance of breathing (e.g I can hold my breathe longer than 2 minutes)

Bridget95:
if a little security situation happens in the Eastern part they would deploy the entire Nigerian army but a major kidnap of 100 persons has occurred and its as quiet as though nothing happened.

From a different perspective, I think the lives of southerners is more important and valuable than that of northerners

Kobojunkie:
But Paradise isn't Heaven at all. Thief on the cross, who happened to be a Jew, was forgiven according to God's Old Covenant standard - Ezekiel 33 vs 9 - 20 - , a standard which never came with a promise of Heaven to begin with.

Hitler was not a Jew and so wouldn't have been judged by that standard had he asked forgiveness or met any other of the criteria set in Ezekiel 33 vs 9 - 20

Why do you counter your own self?
Is there anything like "double standard" judgement?
Are you saying the standard for Jews is different from the rest of the world?

Emyzoloye5:
Wat does she know about our cultures and tourism

Mtchew!

I would have supported your antagonism if you'd presented a more cogent reason. All our brothers and sisters that know our culture and traditions, what have they done with it over the years...
We need fresh air in our system to move forward!!!

headSmasher:
The same way you abandon Kanu, why don't you break him out the prison, but unfortunately you don't know igboho is on exile in Benin Republic, that was the agreement Obasanjo had with the president.

Keep dreaming

Kalapizim:
What's his problem?

Shouldn't he be happy to come liberate his Yoruba people here in Nigeria.

One by one Dem go hear am.

Kindly note that I, my family, friends, and the people I know are not part of his agitation. I really don't know what is wrong with this set of attention-seeking bigots that believe they speak for everyone (awon set igboho & co). My opinion on what I want should be gathered through a referendum (I don't even know you, so why should I put my faith in you). Oga, face your music alone!!!!!

Femolacaster:
Rip to the great man!

"Great man"?
SMH for people like you. If you see greatness in Akala, it speaks volume about your person!!!!

Nothingserious:
I used to think this was a joke ooo.
Why is the matter gaining momentum like this?

Please anyone who is well versed on this issue should tell us the true position of things.

GTB is one the systemically important banks in Nigeria.

Innoson (customer) approached GTB (bank) for a loan to help facilitate a shipment he was bringing into the country. The bank collected original copies of the waybill from the customer, and granted the loan. Later, the customer sued the bank that the shipment has disappeared from our port (document is still in bank's custody). The debt in question is the value (accrued) of the goods...

My opinion: Directors or big boys who are privy to the transaction or doc should have been arrested a long time ago

Chiefecho:
It is known world wide that answering a call beginning with hello is a method of seeking the caller's attention but still this act of starting a call with hello has mastered us to the extent of saying hello without even thinking as if the are no other ways of picking a call.

Please let me hear your response on the alternative of answering a call

If it's one of my paddies, it's always: "werey, ki lo n sele"!!!!

babasolution:
If aminu dantata was a Yoruba tinubu will not bow despite his age

You might be right, but I sincerely do not agree. I have these 2 uncles (the eldest 2 in our clan). Despite both being in their 80s, the younger still prostrates whenever he greets his brother.

I just created this account to post this.
I'm really Disturbed.

My wedding is approaching and I'm so excited about it.
Before I met my husband to be, there's this married man I know. Right from day one he told me who was married but his family based in a different state. I told him I'm single and I can't marry a married man nor date a married man. We both laughed about it.

Years passed, he became so close to my family and everybody around me. He comes to my house, gist with my mum, siblings and my family members are very accommodating.
I had my boyfriend whom everyone knows, that I have nothing with this man.
he support me financially some times. I have been helpful as well in my own ways. most times, I helped him out with cooking, even followed him to supper market to pick beautiful clothes (wears) for his wife and children. I have known this man for about 4 yrs now, but never have I had intimat.e relationship with him. He's like a big brother to me although he deeply loved me and have asked me out severally, but i have never involved myself with him s.exuallly.

This man have been so good to me, but now, I want to get married and he's so angry with me, he appears so hurt and heartbroken. He's behaving as if I betray his love. He's acting as if nothing mean anything to him any more. He almost lost his job last week due to lack of concentration. He takes his job carelessly now,

How can I help him heal emotionally, without distracting my own marriage?

Is ignoring him at this point the best option?


How should I handle this? Pls advice

Yahoo gurl.... You use magga finish com dey pity am... Yinmu

SmartPolician:
Which Nigeria did you develop? Make thunder fire you there!

I'll keep saying that if Obasanjo had set this country on a sound foundation, we wouldn't be having some of the problems we have today.

People get into Aso Rock and lose their minds. At the end of the administration, they regain their senses.

Even the road to his house in otta is bad.... You can't give what you don't have

dokyOloye:
Amen oooo.
When PDP came to power and rescued Nigeria
from Buhari's godfather who is Abacha, 2 parents who are primary/secondary school teachers could save money and buy a 10yr old Toyota Corolla,students from average homes could buy TV sets, install and watch DSTV.
But with the coming of sheikh osama BinHari and his band of poverty spreaders,95% of Nigerian families are struggling to eat.
To buy cooking gas sef na magana.

In your dreams...
APC=PDP= RUBBISH

deyemia:
Hi House,

Please have you or know anyone who converted Toyota corrolla 2005 from manual to automatic? What was the outcome?

I have considered the cost and I’m ok, it’s still cheaper than selling the manual and buying auto.

Regards

Please don't try it if your mechanic is not really sound.... You'd need to change complete wiring... Automatic to manual is better, just change of brain box and a few wiring manipulation... I did change my BMW from automatic 6cylinder to manual 4cylindr... Super so far

Holybwoy:
This one shook me to the liver ooo...

Quite eye opening! But a Benz is all of this and more..

What makes a Benzo better?

Cotton-Edge design.
If you appreciate good effort, you'd realize that designers at MB are something else

Holybwoy:
Why should mechanics now lie that their parts are expensive or that they break down easily..

Can I go for a BMW as my next car then?

Aren't bimmers strong and rugged?

I own a BMW E46.... powerful, safe etc... No matter the crash (not supernatural), your safety is guaranteed.... But, I need to get it to my brother in Ibadan (or he sends som1 to Lagos) to get it fixed... So, I'd suggest you rather buy what you can get fixed easily

Bar1941:
Congratulations to the gorilla.


Unfortunately the photographer was more concerned on taking the picture rather than on the unhealthy environment.

Unhealthy?

nairalandankrah:
Release Kanu unconditionally!! That's the beginning of negotiations

It is apparent that you are not familiar with legal proceedings....MNK jumped bail the other time....in a sane country, Senator Abaribe and others who stood surety for him would have been arrested long ago...so, who will negotiate for a person, and risk been culpable

ODEHOYIKOCHO:
That conviction was fast o
That is so unusual of the Nigerian justice system

Because he pulled gun and threatened to shoot the operatives... I remember the particular case...

Ademola47:
I'm confused o.

I think Masters is second degree, but the topic says third degree. Has she got an Msc before?

Not sure, but she probably has a 1st degree in Naija.
2nd (uni) abroad
3rd masters

ufotty2001:
Please guys.. is that English correct? "First day of classes"

Yes Sir, it is

WibusJaga:

Kidnapping is fast becoming an easy way for criminals to make millions in Nigeria.
We need to reintroduce public Firing Squad or beheading as penalty. Just catch one & set an example. Finish!

Definitely not the solution. If you or your relative has ever been a victim of "jungle justice", then you will know that it's worse that what you think.

Dizzyish:
Even as I type this I have tears in my eyes. I'm grateful for the mere fact that I'm alive but sometimes I just don't know what to do. I wake up, eat, read and sleep, my life for the past two years has just been a mostly unfulfilling cycle.

You need to do more than just "sleep, eat, read, etc"; you need to build yourself/ cv.... that's what employees pay for...don't just keep sitting waiting for miracle; walk and meet the miracle halfway...engage in any activity that will add value to your life....