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johnydon22:
Chai thanks baby me **blushing** Amu shying!!!

Lol, Onye mgbu.

johnydon22:
Chai babe i'm sorry ooo, i actually didn't mention any name at all, i thought the thread would appear on the (Followed thread) of anyone who followed me.

I'm sorry i no want your trouble abeg, i no wan buy bikonu ... Amu sorry

You are lucky I've got nothing but love for you, if not eh.......

I forgive you.

johnydon22:
Good now enjoy the story sir...

Really jay? That's how we roll now? You write a story and not invite me to read it.

You just priced my trouble and you are so buying it.

analice107:
Is it that you deny these things or they don't happen where you come from?
when i was a kid, there were these Jaz men who come to entertain us with magic, afterwards sell their wares. A man will use this knife Mae Suya uses to slice through their stomach, stick it into their eyes, nothing happens. A man will lie down and a plank will be place on him, a car will drive through him, nothing will happen to him, i have seen a man who lifted a car with his teeth off the ground. he stood erect with the car by his teeth.
An Hausa man came to my village, he never went into the River, How he did it, no one knows till this day, but he tied a robe to a stick by the bank of the river and spiritually tied an Hippopotamus and pulled it to the river bank and it was killed. He never stepped inside the water.
I have seen where a man took an empty giant Milo Can , opened it for us to see it was empty, closed it, shook it and open it again, steaming hot Jellof rice filled the Can, he scoped it out and people ate it to prove it was indeed rice.
Its either you are lying or you are living in denial.

This girl though, smh.

Classyalabolass:
apologies for the belated reply. the whacko Mods and their cachoethes to grow power-drunk is something that always beats my ratiocination.



sarcasm, cocoa. . . .sarcasm.



agape love? now you got me zoning out!!!!. . . .yeah, you can show 'agape love' to your dad, mother, uncles, cousins etc but let it end in that circle.
when I'm in the picture that amatory theme song is what you should be billowing. .



yay, i see the logic. . .only when it's your time of the month.



is this a compliment?



remember that chewing gum we used in keeping my heart in place in the TV sect. some weeks back?
well, let's use it in keeping yours together.



eidetic memory?

i always knew you had brains. . . .can you share some with me. . .i mean, can you give me some of your brains?. . .no, lemme rephrase that: would you give me brains?. . . .no pun intended

Sorry about those mods, they also have my other cocoa locked up over what can be said to be nothing, we may yet march against them, let's talk mobilization later.

Now it's sarcasm. *rolls eyes*, MEN!


Nah, agape love can be showed to all, that is what the good book instructs, plus I'm asexual.

You saying I ain't got no logic in me, Oh! well.


Do you want it to a compliment?

What goes around, aye? Now I know how unforgiving ya are, you can't even buy a new pack of gums atleast, jeez!

You call it photographic, I just know I got it and yes, I would give you my brains after I'm done using it cos that's how much I love you.

Welcome back Padre, I missed you like fire misses smoke.

As usual, very educative thread but explorers you been fall hands with that your yeye ghost thread sha.

I woulda aced it, I always read all the questions before answering any.

Jadonjack:
Guess yu were prepared for them. Yu av anoda cocoa

No be today na, it half tay.

Missmossy:
Funny,you that isn't a child keep it on. I'd just let it slide,got more reasonable things that need my time besides i don't do e-fights.

My friend keep quiet, you let what slide, it's like you don't know your mate.

Barristter07:
freecocoa



while trying to prove smart, you are actually showing ignorance with your post above.


there are some medical cases in which medical practitioners sense the influence of black powers in the condition of some patients , would you say this doesnt exist too ?

Because of you I got a ban, don't provoke me again o.

plaetton:
Hhhmm.

So we have freecocoa and sweetcocoa?


I am wondering where one can get sweetcocoa for free

Hahaha.

Very funny.

Missmossy:
What is your own business with how i feel?? Does it irks or itches you?? Quote me not except you have something sensible to say.

We have seen how sensible you are with your comments, all these children sef, no be una fault, na Internet cause am.

Like you can do anything if I quote you.

All these mods sef, any little thing una go just ban person, na wa o.

deebsman1:
see double standards, wen a geh keep asking sucking off a guy's sweat, nobody go say nothin but wen it cums to d point of a guy to reap d benefits of his investments, una go cum dey twist word, consent or consensus . Abeg leave grammar, if u keep collecting money from me and thinking u r smart, if my turn reach for me to descend and u start shoutin foul, i swear na amadioha go kii ur mouth. did u pipu fink there's something like, 'something for nothing'

You know what, I honestly can't deal but the only prayer I will say for you is that, you will definitely get caught some day, continue you hear? Blawdy rapist.

*spits on him* Tufiakwa!

gmyguy:
shey dem dey rape olosho again?!!

My god! What is wrong with you people?

deebsman1:
u follow guy go em friends house, u no wan gree am do, d dude did d needful and u r shouting rape. Do dis senseless girls even knows d meaning of rape at all. Dem even dey chat for whatsapp o...msthewwww

Why are you people so daft and heartless at the same time? So if a girl follows you to wherever and decides she doesn't want sex, that is reason enough to force yourself on her?

Please tell us what rape is.

Missmossy:
Chai!!! She is so damn cheap now she is screaming rape and tagging who i don't know. Such a silly dam.

What is your business with her being cheap? Just how is that the issue here?

crackhaus:
It wasn't an all-inclusive statement madam, I guess I should have made that clear...but you should also know how humans tend to be wired (I put however minute to give the impression that it isn't something most people show but it may be there).




Jeez, you know what?
Just preach for the abolition of the 'trade practises' is all.
Everyone wins, everyone is happy, and there's no need to argue if it's a reason or of it's not when women can remove it from the equation all together.

Some people will still maltreat and be insensitive to their wives regardless, but join hands to give those people one less reason to plus one more reason to respect equality in marriage

I agree it should be abolished you this crackhead, I am just telling you that, whether abolished or not, it almost changes nothing as it is not the root of the problem but yea, let's not argue.

crackhaus:
I never alluded to 'bride price' being the only reason, I just gave an insight as to how the subconscious works in both men and women alike.

As humans, especially in this century of working hard to maintain a certain standard of living, we always want to exert some form of control (however minute) over things or people we spend our money on or do favours for - it's a human thing, and I judge no one for it.


As for those men who don't pay a dime and still maltreat their women, those are the kind of men that get their d!cks cut off or get hot water poured on by their wives.
How dare he?

I don't agree @ bold, at best, it's an individual thing, there are many men who paid said monies, yet worship the ground their wife walks on, now if these men exist, then your claim is bull.

And if men who don't pay a shi shi also behave in such manner, shouldn't that tell us its not about the money spent?

Men who make mention of BP as justification for their evil attitude, just use that as excuse since they got nothing else.

Why are some of you men like this?

So even if she's a prostitute, that's reason to rape her? God!

crackhaus:
Is true, I beleaf you



Now start preaching for the complete abolition of all 'trade practises' in marriage, and please tell your married sisters who didn't behave like Eketem to keep shut make we hear word!

You are not nice.

You really think BP is reason for men mistreating women? What of men that didn't pay a dime, yet mistreat their woman?

Nobody wants to address what I said about religion abi? Okay o, you people should keep running from the truth.


The bible already said women were made for men but the man wasn't made for the woman, it says women should submit to their husbands, you go to church everyday and you are told how Sarah used to call Abraham her lord, you are told to emulate her and whatnot, yet you people are here solely blaming BP, oya na.

Don't even get me started on islam.

Eketem:
We can argue and defend this from today till next millienum but if we are serious about equality and abolition of traditional gender roles then we should start from the bride price very few men who pay for " a woman's head" will accept any equality with the woman or even agree to share traditional roles. Infact when a woman earns some of these men can claim she and everything she earns belongs to them.

If we are serious about equality then we should revisit these traditions that makes us hired or purchased properties.

Till then so many men won't take us seriously.

Even though I don't agree that BP is the sole reason for the troubles women go through in marriage, I agree that it should be abolished, it's useless as far as I'm concerned.

Quintee:
Good. It still boils down to societal expectations and the role of WOMEN in such issues cannot be over- emphasised. It starts from child upbringing and also supporting each other as women. I once mentioned my stance on this issue to an elderly woman and she sounded so disapproving. Imagine if her married daughter refuses such treatment, she will take sides with her inlaws and insist that her daughter performs her 'marital' roles to the family'. In turn, if she would expect her son to bring home a woman that will be more of an 'extended family slave' than a wife to her son. So, you see that women are not even helping matters.

You, my sister is right.

Women need to start saying no to so many things.

crackhaus:
Be like Eketem.

Tell your daddy and uncles not to collect any money or draw up any list on top say pesin wan marry you, and make sure you pay for your own expensive wedding dress plus half the fee for the dreamy reception venue... no be all dis one wey you dey make noise upandan.

That one is settled since na, I don already tell am and as far as I'm concerned, I don't need any dreamy reception venue as I don't want any of those usual wedding things, just go to a registry, get joined by the courts and I'm done.

If I ever have a reception, its cos the nigga wants one.

Quintee:
This issue of bride price prompts me to ask this question: 'Does a woman really owe her inlaws any obligation?'
I observed that getting married into some families as a lady is just an induction into slavery and not a wedding ceremony as it appears to be. For instance, when the family has a party, it is expected that the wives in the family fulfill certain duties.e.g cooking, even when caterers can be hired. This sort of thing happens even when the woman's family doesn't place financial obligation on their own son.
Could payment of bride price be responsible for this kind of treatment? Personally, I believe that such things should be done voluntarily as the man will only give to his inlaws if he wishes or if he is capable.

Payment of BP is not responsible for anything as there are no laws which state that, cos you are married, you must do all of your in-laws bidding.

It is just that women have been expected to behave a certain way due to gender discrimination and they have been accepting it for as long as we can remember, although not every woman will keep quiet, I certainly won't do what I'm not comfortable with, just cos in-laws expect me to and believe me, nothing will happen(if you married the right man).

bukatyne:
What you have here is still couples who are somewhat into the traditional thingy.

What do you think of this:

Men need to be driven to provide i.e. once a woman feels no problem contributing when necessary/ split the bills, the husband slacks and is reluctant to provide.

I don't think this statement is true for every man as people are different, it's all about who you married.

Eketem:
Again I ask what is the significance of this in modern day? Our fore fathers did it for a reason, why are we still doing it?

It is tradition and tradition like you already know, is passed down from generation to generation for reasons that often don't make sense, so I can't tell you specifically why a certain people want to keep doing it.

Now what I'm saying is, not everyone follows this tradition. Where I come from, nobody cares about BP as it is solely your father's decision.

Eketem:
Even if it is 10kobo in local lingo they say " he has paid for your head"

What you fail to realise is that, not every woman's head was paid for.

Some families don't collect BP, some return it, yet this doesn't stop the men from misbehaving.

What's being discussed here has so little to do with BP and so much with how men are perceived/individuals.

Eketem:
It is one of the reasons. Infact a major reason, a man pays almost N2 million in cash and materials to aquire a wife then he comes online to see women claiming that woman is his equal or that he is still supposed to do those roles he has " aquired " a wife to do.

Women need to take responsibility for our share in promoting inequality.

Those saying men collect the bride price yes they do but women are the ones who bare the brunt. Stand up and fight against it I did and I am enjoying the benefits of starting a home on an equal footing

Where do men pay 2 million to get married biko? When men that don't even have upto a million in their accounts are getting married every day.

tiniyata:
if they beat her now and anything happens to her, I'm sure u'd be among the first to shout violence against women, that no matter what a woman does, nobody has any right to hit a woman. na wa o

And you are site if this how? You've ever read me say what accuse me of?

Bolade005:
Yes. You think otherwise?

Obviously.

I don't have to be robbed before I can know that I will feel like punishing a thief.

I don't have to experience rape to know that it is a traumatising experience.