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5minsmadness:


I knew it!

I bet you did.

Bolade005:
That's what your brother is. If he had done his job well, you would have learnt to respect elders even on a faceless forum. Obviously, your parents did a very lousy job raising an agbero like you. You turned out terribly.

This is the last you will get from me. Bye

Why na? Stay na and continue showing how much of a f00l you are.

Elder that doesn't know to leave people's family, (especially parents) out of his petty insults, yet has the nerves to talk about how someone was raised, what does that say about you? just how stup1d can one person be? na Internet cause am sha, that's why you can come here and chat sh1t to me, no be your fault my dear imbc1le.

5minsmadness:
Una no dey tire sha
Sweetcocoa, no sleep?

Sleep ke? Now wey my ogbanje people get meeting? I no fit sleep o.

shaybebaby:
I sight you honey boo.

My sweetness, I see you baby.

Bolade005:
You're a bitter young girl. Agbero oshi *in your own brother's voice*

You should leave my brother out of whatever you have going on, only an 1diot would do what you are doing with that.

I know you are an assh0le but just try.

Bolade005:
You don't matter little one.

Let me tell you this, everyone's prayer for you is that you meet a man like us. Alpha-males like us that will do everything to provide for the family. Men who bring in the cash. If you cop yourself real men like us, then you're a winner.

When you grow up a bit, you'd understand.

Enyi move along abeg, we never see people wey stand, na the ones wey squat we go come see, Oboy shift abeg, alpha male, chai! I don suffer sha.

crackhaus:
Yea, just like sweetcocoa that can make a man do anything

See you, dey here dey deceive yourself, so if ask you to do something for me, you won't do it abi?

Bolade005:
You're stupîd and that's why your own blood brother said he doubts you'd find yourself a real man. Ar1ndin.

E pain am.

Na una be the real men? E no better say person be nun than marry one of you?

Bolade005:
That one dey jonze herself. I believe she was joking anyways.

Na sense wey you no get dey worry you like this.

darkenedrebel:
No I'm not and I probably wouldn't until it goes the way of the Dodo.

Yesterday you said: "I'm obsessed with Janey". I'm guessing you meant Jane the Virgin. How could I have missed the coffee on the wall.

You probably should, you just may end up loving it.

That's not what I meant.

You just got yourself an assignment, go figure it out and get back to me.

darkenedrebel:
And someone(Cocoa) likes to be in charge, despotically. Confound you! - and please take those proprietorial hands off me - replace them with submissive and more pliant ones. I have zero tolerance for overbearing dominatrices.



Confound you once again!



@emboldened. . . .The proof of the pudding is in the eating. A trial balloon would go a long way in quelling the misgivings.



No doubt, he's really up the pole.

I'm no tyrant love, ain't noborri selfless as me but I also ain't no submissive, i was born to rule, if anything, we rule together.

darkenedrebel:
Noted. Whenever your blitzkrieg campaign is set to kickoff, just call on me. Here's my number: SIRO EIGHT SIRO NINE NINE SIRO SIRO SIX



I knew you were made of tougher stuff. The type that will never be seen dead on bended knees. Attagirl! Attagrandma!



It wasn't braggadocio. And hey, I watch BBC Sherlock Holmes and both Sherlock and Mycroft are hardly quiet about their capabilities.
We intellectual descendants of Archimedes and Hippocrates like to toot our whistles occasionally.



Too hot?. . . . .I was born in the belly of a Komodo dragon!!. Conflagration is my boon companion.



Consign my fax to the thrash and I will whale the tan outta ya. . . . .telekinetically of course

You are impossible, I no longer want your help.

You know me too well, now prostrate for your grandma, yeye boy.

Still showing off, I hate you already,ugh!

No be only komodo dragon, alligator dragon, mschew. You are all mouth jare, we know it.

Like hell you will.

Wow!

Jane the virgin, season 2 finale.

I want Jane to end up with Rafael but I don't want Michael dead na(even though I was rooting for anything that would make him and Jane done)now I feel guilty.


Seems like Jane is never going to have sex, oh! Well, it's Jane the virgin after all.

darkenedrebel you watching this show?

5minsmadness:
Let me start by apologising. My response is going to be brief, brittle and brisk.

You're a woman. I'm a man. These terms have social as well as biological and even psychological definitions. I cook, clean, wash, sew my own clothes when torn as well as change the flat tire and repair the gen. There is literally nothing in the kitchen that you can do that I can't (except maybe keep it a little tidier...lol) and maybe even a little better in some (I make pounded yam so smooth you'd think you'd died and gone to heaven when u taste it with my goat meat egusi soup).


However all those feminine chores stop when I get married. I want to make sure the woman I marry can be nurturing. I want to make sure she can take care of me and more especially my kids. Her primary role is to nurture. Mine is to protect. Simples. Most of the nurturing takes place in the kitchen i.e cooking, washing plates etc. Any woman that cooks and cleans for a man has already warmed her way into his heart (hence so much infidelity with even ugly housemaids... matter for anothe day).

Now, the woman can earn money for the house yes, but that still is not her primary duty. A family in which the woman is the breadwinner is a failed /dysfunctional family. It might be a temporary in certain cases but should be corrected as soon as possible.

Back to your question: the chores mentioned up there are chores for the female folk. It doesnt mean the men can't do it but it is expected for the women to do it. You don't expect us to have a family meeting and the men will go to the market and cook food. You don't expect to be home with your brother and he'll enter kitchen to cook when u r there. That's a social dysfunction. Just like no one expects u to go and put on the generator or push the car or clear the bush at the backyard when your brother is there. The social order has defined what is appropriate for the men and women to do.

And both sexes should take pride in doing thier duties.

Even in the western world men who constantly do the dishes are said to be hen-pecked. Sure he may help once in a while but it is not by force. In fact a man cooking or doing the dishes during or after a date is so appreciated in the west it is seen as being romantic.

What you r trying to question here is the social order of things. Well, go ahead. Nothing stops you. There has been relative peace in the world for so long people have time to question even the basest of things.



On a lighter note your Bros said u no go find man marry if u continue your Agbero ways... You don find the man so?

You see? He was right

apology not accepted as this is in no way brief.

I'm not even going to argue with you but you should just know that, because its expected it doesn't mean that's how it ought to be. I was expecting one of you to say that doing those chores shrinks your balls visibly , but since it doesn't, I see no reason why you shouldn't do chores for your woman while she watchs her shows on TV, you people are just unreasonably proud, mschew.


You and my brother dey craze.

That was then anyways, he knows I'm a very rare gem, I can't be trying to find man, I'm too awesome to.

crackhaus:
Glad you finally understood, you really can't force him.

Regarding the bold text though, that is where most women grossly overestimate their powers of persuasion.
Abi your persuasive skills pass how you sex him or how you cook his favourite food?

Clearly you don't know anything about how powerful I am as a woman.

I can get a man to do anything.

darkenedrebel:
I won't misbehave. I would try to be on my best behaviour at all times.

And I am not your blue-eyed-boy!.
What I am is a potential suitor. I am Jamie and you're Cersie Lannister; I'm Antony and you're my Cleopatra.

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Yeah, I knew that's what the lunatïc was inferring. I have told that creep to unfollow my account but he's in still the wont of skulking around wherever I am. He is such an incorrigible stalker!.

Good to know you will always stay in line.

Really? You are not my blue eyed boy? Somebody likes to take charge I see. if I didn't know better I'd say, that's very manly of you.

Lol, you are not well, biko I'm no Cersie and you definitely no Jamie, sicko.

Cleopatra and Antony, hmmm, that would be something but, how do I know you gat what it takes? and I don't wanna commit suicide o.

Pay no mind to the creep, love, he's messed up in the head.

darkenedrebel:
Noooo!!!. Stop bending the truth. I said I would give you 100% moral support. What else could I have possibly offered? My gesture was quite comity.

How long is your ban sef? You should just fax the Mods and try to reach a compromise, or bide your time till the ban ends.



Lively needle = Ikibari(in Japanese). The metaphor flew over my head - kindly elucidate.



It means I only frolic with the highbrow and those of my ilk. The creme de la crème. . . .and members of the Triple Nine society



Then what are we waiting for? Let's do some Déshabillé sun-worshipping already.



Who the deuce is Janey?
I would still fax you anyway. Not now, but when I feel like yakking.

You think it enough, I don't, your gesture that is. I wanted you to say you'd lead the charge , that's what a true friend woulda done.

Compromise my azz, the day I talk to any mod about a ban is the day I'll know it's time to take a bow.

Ugh! Such a show off. *double rolls eyes*


I hate ya already, nine society ko, eleven society ni, mschew.


You and I ain't doing sh1t, ya can't handle that anyways, this cocoa too hot for ya.

Ya fax would get lost in the trash whenever ya send it, I won't even read it.

That's got to happen with the "our oyel" mentality.

5minsmadness:
End of story.


Came in late. Been busy.

I see you Mr busy bee, I hope whatever 's taking al your time is raining cheddar o.

shaybebaby:
Honey boo, imma answer this for you. When men start behaving like this, you have to blame their mama and their pops (the inception of such mentality, sorry hun but it's true).

Now, going by nairaland standards, you'll never find men who do such, do chores without being asked to. That's another lie. It's all about how you present yourself from the onset.

Like me for instance, I am not that kind of girl that enjoys cooking, I can do it but men, apart from cooKing for my little man, I can't be arsed.

My boo, cooks everyday..without fail. I do not demand it, he loves it (is a trained chef) so he does it voluntarily. He also does the dishes, laundry, hoovering with me. If my baby is home, he shoos me and says "play with your baby".

My ex was responsible for the grocery shopping ( I guess because he loves shopping, any kind of shopping, as long as it involved parting with dosh ) so he took over and I let him. One less thing to think about.

One thing these two men have in common? They were both raised by single mums. Make you wonder....

Ps how was the night out? Did my girl throw awesome shapes like MJ back in the day?

Hi pumpkin, you don't have to apologise as you are right, although my parents were great and all, there was still that consciousness and the yeye only son thingy clouding over us(my dad didn't share the only son sentiment though, it was mostly mum and it pissed us off like mad), though he can cook, he just wasn't encouraged to do so and didn't really partake much in chores, so I know what you mean.

I can't really think of any chores I like doing sef but I do them anyways , though I rarely cook these days but I know I'd love to cook for my mini mes when they start coming(anything for the children), I hope by then this spirit of laxity woulda left me sha.

Aren't you lucky? I'm imagining the mouth watering dishes at your disposal, flex jare my baby, YOLO.

I guess since it was just them and their mums, they spent a lot of time together and that included doing chores together, maybe? I don't know, but they did a good job and now you are reaping the benefits, kudos to them.

Lol, it was fun and trust me, people were starring when I hit the dance floor, thanks to liquid courage.

craziebone:
I have no problem giving any woman wedding/marriage. But for me, certificate/formal ceremony is not very consequestial. This is why i take every relationship seriously. You will never find me going into a relationship just for the fun of it. I go into a relationship because i love the woman in question; and when i hear men and women say over the radio, or in newspapers that they want a partner for a serious relationship, i get like: "so there are unserious relationships?" for me, all relationships should be serious! If you don't love the lady in question, why ask her out?

Errm, I thought you ask someone out before you get to love them, usually that is.

crackhaus:
This geh, you taking me back.

Did I ever imply it's wrong for a man to do chores?
I said, you can't force a man to do it if he wasn't or had not enjoyed doing it before on his own.
And using words like 'must' and 'should' is where y'all are getting it wrong.

Okay let me take this up a notch;
Hypothetically, if you were married to a man who didn't assist you with the chores, how will you handle it?

a.) You use words like 'must' and 'should' to get him to assist.
b.) You talk gracefully to him about it, and let the matter be laid to rest if he still refuses.
c.) You file for divorce.

Oya go...you have 1day, time starts now

Okay, I agree you can't force him.

I will go with b but he has to accept, there's no way he'll refuse and have peace in that house, my persuasive skills na die so I don correct the option.

darkenedrebel:
why are you sharing my posts? Weirdo!.

Someone's trying to tell you to wait for it; the day I'll turn on you.

Do you see that happening my little blue eyed boy?

Infact don't answer that. I won't give him the satisfaction.

Somebody be jealous of us.

[s]And you rebel, make I just warn you one time, no just try misbehave[/s]

darkenedrebel:
I'm as sure as eggs is eggs that you do. I'm the best thing in God's earth, remember?.



It is!. Stop denying what you whispered in my ears. You also said we would have a bit of how's your father if I behaved well and so far I have been as good as gold. .

It's not beyond recall, play the Trappist for some minutes and it'd be brought to your remembrance.



Velociraptors walk with velociraptors.
Squirrels walk with squirrels.



Yeah, I wouldn't have.

The travails my pelvis would have to smile, grin and bear when it comes in unpleasant contact with that raw-boned posterior is a whirl this nigga is not eager-beaver to try.

Hey, can I send you a pm? You must have heard this ad nauseam though.

Don't bristle up, as my intentions are crystal-clear: "I just want to ask if you're a LËSBIAN?"

Oh! Please, you deserted me in my hour of need, that is not something a true friend would do, I was willing to stick my neck out for both of us, hoping you'd stand by me , but because you feel you are in a safe place right now, you are willing to let me burn. You stuck a knife in me heart and twisted it in, i still feel the blood gushing out.

I couldn't have said that to a lively needle. Told ya, ya have me confused with a certain someone.


*Rolls eyes* Tell me more about it, Smarty pants.


Give me a break me please, ain't nothing but baby soft skin on this voluptuous derriere.

You don't know the half of it. Grrrrrrr, and no you can't cos you already know, I'm obsessed with janey.

firstolalekan:
[s][/s]
Rubbish
Why did the bıtch spread her legs for him?
Did he promise her that he'll take responsibility of the after event?
Was she rappěd?
Why did she allow him to Fúck her without Condom?
Didn't she know she was ovulating?
Why didn't she use morning after pill?
Must burna boy just accept to take responsibility?
Is it by force?
Rubbish!



I just pray he does not take any silly responsibility
Thank God it's not USA

The girl is simply a whóre and a gold digger.

I can never accept any stupiď pregnancy from just any girl.

You are correct with all you've said, per contra, make sure you always have protected sexx, well, unless you have no compunction with your offsprings being scattered all over the place, raised by "just any girl" and becoming peril to society. The world is already saturated with enough of that , also don't sleep with just any girl, help us to help each other please.

HRich:
This your English alone fit make the girl get another belle

You obviously still a babe in the mastery of English language.

Stanleywaxy:
Probably , he didn't know that [b]Per nyu[/b]can even make a twin ...
Same reason why they'll brand most Nigerian artistes illiterate ...

The emboldened just reminded me of my days in O-town.

Fun days they were.

Chai! Jesus of oyigbo!


See falling of hands.

Between him and the UJU I don't know who's dumber, smh.

raumdeuter:
You know how to drive right? but when your bf is around and you are going out together who does most of the driving? You were probably driving yourself but once a man enters the picture you suddenly became lazy to do it

Same with weeding your lawns, fixing your electrical works etc

I don't become lazy, he is the one who mostly wants to take the wheel(except when I insist), if I don't know how to fix stuffs and he does, I appeal to his sense of kindness, not say he has to do it because he is a man.

I usually don't even wait for him before I get the things I want, done, and this, he even sometimes complain about for reasons I am yet to understand.

crackhaus:
You sef, clearly you've always been the rebel...it's very clear now - only you are atheist, feminist, and so much more..

Let me ask you the question I put in bold in another context;
What does it take from you to cook noodles for your own brother? Rebel and stubborn much?

I'm thinking you got on the defensive probably because he demanded it and did not ask nicely, yes?
If so, hasn't this been my point all along?

A woman should not bring that leg of "now I'm contributing to finance, my husband has to contribute to chores" especially when this man has never or doesn't do any of these chores before...why is this so hard for y'all to comprehend?

This is exactly the negative outcome of 21st century media exposure.
Easy-to-mislead women of our generation go on the internet or TV to read/see other women who talk about how their fathers and husbands assist with this and that... my husband helps with this, my father helped with that when we were growing up and bla bla bla.
What they fail to mention however, is that they or their mothers didn't force the men to be like that, these men were and are contributing to chores because they want to and enjoy doing it. Simple and short!

But y'all (apologies for including you) don't bother to ask this question:
Was your husband always hands-on with chores or did you make him so just because you contribute to the finance?

I'm giving you an assignment, ask women who say stuff like that (you can start with your NL friends) and gauge the responses - you will struggle to see one who will honestly say that she's the one who demanded/told/persuaded/asked their husband to assist with chores.
Even in a case where he does it once or twice, how often does he do it...or don't they eat and clean everyday?


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Back to your question, doing chores take absolutely nothing from me (can't speak for the majority), I know how to take care of my own shiit...I've not dated any girl that will come and be using cooking and cleaning to form for me, I won't even give her face one bit.. mehn OYO oo!
But the moment I see a proper Nigerian woman for that matter going on about how her husband must contribute to house chores, my automatic response is usually 'tor, abi na wetin dis one dey feel like sef' lol.

You married a man who assists? Happy for you.
You didn't? Sister get used to it cos I'm honestly yet to see a man who will suddenly become what he wasn't before, just because his wife brings in some money. She can try to make him, but shouldn't complain if that line of action backfires.

A submissive gentle somborri like me.

Doesn't really take anything to cook for someone, but making it sound like I was obligated to because i was a girl was what I had a serious problem with, especially since I wasn't demanding anything of him, on the grounds that he was a boy, so it was injustice as far as I was concerned, but he didn't see it in that light and me sef show am pepper kwanu.

It's not really the same thing as your wife shouldn't even have to demand, you should just know to do them and if you don't know how (due to upbringing or whatever), then employ her to teach you(lets join hands and make things right)

As far as I'm concerned, money shouldn't even be a factor, I mean, she shouldn't expect him to do chores solely because she contributes(why shouldn't she in the first place? well unless they agreed on it) in which case she shouldn't complain, but two adults working to finance their needs, must also take care of their chores together, how is this even something to be debated? Why/how will it backfire? What is wrong with a man doing chores?

My own is that, men should not do chores because they want to or enjoy it, they should do it because it is the responsible/sensible thing to do, especially when your wife is having difficulty handling it all alone, where is the kindness?

Try seeing it from this perspective.

Na our fore mothers cause all these things sef.

pepigeorge:
if adultery to u is civilization. ... I prefer being a cave man

If you like, live in a ditch it really isn't my business, the question is, how do you throw someone out of society?

If you don't have an answer, no need to quote me spewing gibberish.

somehowpenis:
Well all those sad about Jamal's suspected death, he doesn't die.. Sadly i wish he had cos of that silly gay ass character..

Just wow! What makes you think your life is worth more than that of a gay person? You should be ashamed of yourself.