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alutacontinua: Lemonaaaaaddddeeeee ooooooooooooooo
I've been looking everywhere for you!
How are u?

Babe ha far na?

fijiano202: Now Are u Married? what made them show u pepper is becos u had nothing to add to the relationship,u were almost the same with them,u expect a broke person to carry ur responsibilities,imagine 2 broke azz dating

Lol! Then you can then Imagine two broke azzez earning barely 60k each getting married!
Hehehehehehehehehehehe

talkative.voice:
I will only concur with this post, if only you have never owed at anytime, be it credit card, Bank loan, friends loan and buy on credit, etc

Owing money as a single person is quite different from owing money as married person with kids. U will just go crazy!

queentayo: @ OP what course did u study we might be able to recommend you for a graduate and better paying job

You want to help him get a better job? Wow! You are simply the best! OP you should be surrounding yourself with people like this. People who help you get what you NEED at a particular moment.

shizzle11: Don't mind that girl. That is the way 'they' keep waiting for 'Mr very comfortable', and if care isn't taking, some of them will continue waiting till thy 'kingdom come.'

It is plain annoying, look at the way she keeps making emphasis on the age of those indicating interest in the op and making them feel ridiculed. And to think that she herself is above 30..... mtchwww

Who is above 30?

Besides I'm faaarrrrr from being single. VERY far! See, most of what Sweetlemon says on NL on issues such as this are borne from personal experience or I just keep shut!

I have dated 4 broke guys in the past and I loved them asnd was ready to settle with 2 of them. Two of them showed me PEPPER. The other two lacked focus and determination to succeed. But I praise Jesus for my life now.

gloriana: Ooouch! Futunatly am 32yrs old

You see what I mean?

Mkpakala: Please how did you come to this conclusion? do you know both girls personally?

Didn't you see one of them said she's in her 30s?

Mkpakala: op this is second person, your dream of getting married in 2014 must be fulfilled and I am here to ensure it come to past .Please send pm to her don't listen to people condemning you.I will be following the thread closely, and be highlighting any interested member like I promise you. In case you don't know how to contact them just ask and I will help you on how to go around it.

If you watch closely, the only ladies sending their applications will be 30 years and above. What does that tell you?......

Issorite. Me I don talk tire. Everyone has a right steer their life boats as they please. OP, Good luck!

sucess001: me am comortable o...well...i work in the head office and i close early...this is the most comfortable job i ve ever had. even if i leave the bank, am sure getting a job wouldnt be a problem for me...i am well souht after. and its not about that.

i disagree with you strongly on some points.

think about our parents. they survived didnt they?


forget about trying to live large. its ok to live decent.


any lady unable to stick with a guy of 70k will grow old and single.

there are hundreds of girls in my office who are senior, managers, managers etc and are single. they have even given up trying to get a relationship.

its a lesson...never wait till you are rich to do what you have to do...

its also like business...saying you need to have huge capital before you can start...

you can always start small...

We thank God that you work at the head quarters. Good for you!

Now, I'm not saying that I, for instance, cannot marry a 70k a month earner, I'm saying that I will not be doing it happily and that somewhere deep down, even if I am madly in-love, I will wish that things are a tad better!

NO WOMAN goes on her knees and prays to God that she wants a struggling husband. Except the ones who pray for ANY kind of husband!

Men these days are just not driven with enough goals and women are just managing them because they don't have much choice if they want to get married.....
What a pity!

For the hundreth time on this thread, those of us against the OP are not saying he has to be rich first, we are only saying he should a little more comfortable. What's so difficult to understand there biko nu?

Zer0: Do not be deceived. It costs money to rent a house, provide decent meals at least twice daily, pay good fees for good schools for your children and other miscelleanous expenses. Trust me 60k won't do that.

My gross earning per annun is over 2.5 million. I live in Abj and my rent is 1m per annum. Then havd 4 siblings who are dependent on me add other expenses then you may hav an idea. Would you advice i get married?. The answer will be surely No if you have consience.

Everything shouldn't be about what is expected of you to do whdn you reach a certain age in life, it's about managing your situation to get the best off it.

Every man should be Guided by purpose. I wouldn't advice a man to take a wife he can't take care of, or bear children he can't guarantee necessities of life and decent education.

Correct guy! I don't know why people still wear rose coloured glasses at this time and age!

Afam4eva: Who are you to deifne poverty for another man. Not everyone is interested in driving a Murano or going to the cinema every week. It's about cutting your coat according to your size.

I strongly believe that hard work and determination with careful planning pays off slowly BUT surely

sucess001: i disagree with u a bit.

i once shared your opinion.

i was an hussler and told myself that i wanted to be more comfortable. 6 yrs down the line, i now wrk in a bank, drive an SUV and i look back and realise most of my younger ones are married and i am unable to see a girl who loved me for being me and not for my money.


its not that our guy is in a hurry. he just wants to be focussed.


and who says him working harder will make him richer. its God who blesses you know? if drivers and security men can have falies...y nothim?


my advise? he should marry.

My dear, you are not even comfortable where you are now cos you work in a bank! Bankers are liable to die young cos of the stress and the possibility of being laid off at any moment. So don't be too comfortable yet!

let me tell you something and I will be frank with you. NO WOMAN prays or hopes to marry a broke guy. NO WOMAN in her right senses who is not just desperate to be MRS will happily marry a broke guy. Even when a woman is marrying you because she loves you, deep down she's wishing you were a tad more comfortable and she's only doing it for love. After the marriage, when real issues come in, you will see what I mean.

You guys should stop deluding yourselves that a woman can be truly happy with your empty/almost empty pockets. Same way a man should not think a man can be happy to marry her if she doesn't satisfy him in bed. They will just be enduring and not doing it willingly. Don't get me wrong, a woman can love you truly when you are broke, I have loved about 4 broke guys in my life. Yep! But to happily, willingly, marry you when she's not just desperate to be a Mrs? No! those who end up with poor husbands would do anything to change their fates if given the chance! That's just the acidic bitter lemony truth! pele!

@Kulyie, I feel you babes. I feel your frustration in trying to explain yourself to these people here who are no just being realistic here. Don't mind all these family section "I-too-sabi" people.

I wonder why they cannot understand that you are not saying that the OP must be a millionaire before getting married but that he should be more focused on trying to make himself a lil bit more comfortable!

I cannot for the life of me understand why a man of only 32 years will be in such a hurry to marry when he can hardly pay his house rent! Please, biko nu, what's the rush e jo? I would have understood if the guy had a girl he was madly in-love with who was also madly in-love with him and didn't mind suffering with him or if he had gotten his gf pregnant. But for for the OP to just wake up one morning and start looking for a wife in his present financial state?? o ga o!

We hear stuff about great rich men daily, we pray to be like them yet we are not ready to be like them. Look here, one of the reasons these men are where they are today because they know how to line up their priorities in life! Make yourself comfy before you think of others!

It is true that [b]some [/b]women have been lucky enough to marry poor men who later made it in life. But those same women will be the first to advice other young ladies not to try such a risk unless and except they are absolutely sure the man will succeed in life! Sometimes even when they look at the way they suffered when the man was poor, they still wonder if they made the right choice! What I am saying is that marriage without money to solve basic needs and make a family comfortable is second to hell on earth! Chikena!

So OP, biko nu, e jo, dan 'Allah, go and work harder, think harder on how to make more money and be more useful to yourself and wife will come in......naturally. Unless of course you have joined the growing league of men who want to get married just so they can find a financial "help meet"

babytoun: When I read the letter , my first reaction was it is rare to find a Yoruba Woman address her father this way. Really really difficult no matter the circumstance.


But on a second thought the details in the letter are too deep for an impostor to capture in that manner. From OBj's 3rd term, to Yaradua's rumoured death in 2007.

Somehow I am thinking she wrote it in haste and some elders have talked "sense" into her hence the rebuttal.

Maybe. It seems so.

It is better for her to quickly withdraw it than for her to go on with it. Especially after all what she gained as an Obasanjo first daughter, which is the reason why most people like myself who are not even OBJ loyalists are castigating her. you cannot bite the hands that fed you fat! mbanu!

theoctopus: Go ask Sahara reporters. Dont be lazy son. Follow the link if you care!

Seems like you desperately want the letter to be true. Why?

I'm beginning to suspect you were paid to write it.....

UnknownTroll: make una no vex say i quote dis 2 people oh, WHICH OF 2 OF UNA WE GO CUM BELIEVE?

chris baba: Everybody, calm down, the letter was a hoax, she has denied. Where is d op ( picks up stones) i will deal with you today.

Was wondering too, haba, callung her father mad etc.

She had BETTER deny it! Especially after all what she has gained as an Obasanjo!

Reference: I said it and will continue to say it, GEJ's Presidency is the best thing that has happened to our democracy. it has been the greatest catalyst for structural reforms and the evolution of the polity. By this government all the intentions and workings of individuals, groupings, traditional power centres, black institutions and so on have been thoroughly exposed. We are now beginning to understand how and why this country got to where it is today, why institutions cannot be built, why society is so fragmented, why the average Nigerian cannot stand for anything. In other words, why nothing works in this country.

Hopefully and I say hopefully we can begin to work on these open wounds and perhaps down the line find solutions to guarantee our future survival.

It is a pity.

smh

anonimi: She obviously has EARNED recognition professionally and academically on that name, why change it now
She also has endured things because of her name.
Think about Tina Turner who retained her husband Ike Turner's name even after their divorce. Ditto for Princess Diana.

And so? Why can't she change it if she now wants to disown the very reason why she bears the name?
My point is that these women enjoy the benefits of those names so much that they held on to it despite disassociating themselves from the people that gave them the names because of what they "endured". That to me, is hypocrisy of the highest order! If their father or husbands were poor nobodies will they still want to bear the name? Nansense!

If you wanna divorce your husband or disown your father then drop their juicy names dammit! You cannot eat your cake and still have it! Simple!

anonimi: You seem to have ignored the part of her letter where she said she campaigned for Gbenga Daniel in 2003 and the killing of five people in her car, which you can verify for yourself.
Moreover Gbenga Daniel performed relatively well in his 1st term with PDP firmly in control of politicis in Ogun state so winning senatorial seat for Iyabo Obasanjo did not require Iwu cooking any imaginary result.

And in the first place why is PDP firmly in control of Ogun? You honestly believe her father has no say in it?

Acidosis: With this mindset, Nigeria will never move forward in 100,000 years to come.

Seems like you didn't understand my post. I am asking why she is disowning her father, albeit publicly, yet cannot let go of the Obasanjo name. na by force? What happened to her husband's name? Why is she still interested in the gains of being an Obasanjo if she really wants to disown him Or you honestly believe that feminist crap that she wants to retain her identity by keeping her surname

You get my point?

I am not in any way supporting OBJ, I never liked him I'm just being objective.

Ms Nas: First off, this letter best be a fiction of Vanguard's imagination. If not...

But I'm not shocked anyways. I read 'Moji Obasanjo's Biography and most of what Iyabo is saying we're mentioned in there.

This is what I think, both Iyabo, Olusegun, Goodluck and Co cannot be absolved of any blame. This is the case of "Things Fall Apart, and the Center Cannot Hold". As the Yorubas will also say "Nkan to so won po, lo tu won ka"

All of them contributed in one way or the other to the situation Nigeria has found herself as a nation in present day. This is a classic case of mudslinging. Washing your dirty linens in public. Fighting like a pair of mad cows. Its a pity.

For Obasanjo to have written such a letter to Jonathan, I'm really sure it's not out of patriotism by the way things are presently but a deal gone sour somewhere along the line. Didn't he campaign for the guy too? Didn't he want to turn into a democratic dictator when he was also president (with the third term palaver?) Abegi, Baba, look bush. We have had enough of you. Mr. Jonathan, as for you...your day of reckoning is coming. You and your cohorts and sycophants should gear up and run Nigeria to the ground. Everyone of you will be in history

Iyabo, Ori e o pe rara Did you win the elections that got you into the upper legislative house on your own steam or Daddy dearest? Would you lie that no extra kobo apart from your salary entered your deep pockets? Its not as if you are a saint yourself. Or you think people have forgotten the Adeife and Akinola Sodipo-Akindeko issue. What I read of that incident wasn't what you was quoted up there. Ibi ti eyan o si, Olorun wa nibe. You've just behaved like a classic Omo Ale.


All of you are criminals! All of you. Bunch of clowns. E kosi kuro jare

High five jare!

Don't mind them. From OBj to GEJ to Iyabo, they all have their skeletons.

If Iyabo truly wants to disown her father why is she still clinging on to his surname? Why not bear her husbands name only as a married woman? Is it not because of the power and connections that flow with the Obasanjo name? Did she win elections on her own? Let me tell you something. NO WOMAN in Nigeria can win common Councillor without having one god father somewhere protecting her. It could be her husband, father, brother, uncle, or her man-friend.

Nonsense!

She's really an omo ale!

Life has taught me not to conclude and judge situations unless you have live first hand experience of them.

None of us here know what the real truth of the matter is. None of us here can vouch anything we can only make speculations based on the belief that "men are bad" we don't know what really goes down there and why.

So let me not talk. I don't put my mouth in marital wahalas because marriage is something you need to go into first before you understand certain things. People should be left to their own marital problems and don't conclude unless you have ALL the facts.

Because Seun, like most very active Nairalanders is an introvert.

freecocoa: I won't even send one to my husband let alone boyfriend.

That's one of the things love cannot make me do.

Your husband shouldn't even be asking for your nude pictures in the first place!

omicron: what exactly will you be looking at in this pic of hers to cause you to loose concentration?

I wonder!

No swagger.

Okija_juju: Women A man who sleeps with different women is better than a man with one partner outside..


Reason: A man who sleeps around is just doing it because he can.. Basically, he is a manwhore.. But a man with another woman outside is in a relationship, meaning he has feelings for her, just like he has for you.. Basically, you are now in a competition. Thats the bad one you should run from.


Men: If your wife is caught cheating on you with another man; Its either your fault for emotionally and maybe physically driving her into another mans hands.. Or She is a nymph.. I say so because women are emotional creatures and except shes a nympho, she would not sleep with a man for casual sex..


_{The gods are wise..}

This is sooooooooo true!

andyanders: Sweetlemon, well spoken. Money can only buy debt and not love because the person will be imprisoned to the wealth to her own detriment. How can a man be caring by giving money and at this same time kicking and beating same person and too, planning a wedding? At the end, he will sacrifice the same lady for selfish reasons. I still put it that love is not blind in this computer age. Shine your eyes ladies.

Exactly! See me see trouble o!

The worst mistake you can ever make is to go and fight the other girl or send thugs to beat her up!

For all you know, SHE might even be the main girl while you are the side chick! I don't know why ladies embarrass themselves like this.

I don't know why people equate financial generosity with being caring.

Please abeg. They are two different things entirely. Can you call a rich man who lavishes money on a lady but has done juju to take her womb, destiny, etc away from her "caring"

Please money is just one of the ways of showing that you care. A man who cares about a woman does not even want to see her hurt, not to talk of being the cause of her pain!

Ladies get that into your skulls!

MissIndependent: Dem go talk true?

Abi o!