@ Poster
Are you a mugu? Tell the chick to take a hike! What sort of evil excuse is that? Wonders will truly never end!

You should have given him back the money and kept the card, you'd have a better sense of self-worth and respect. Your aunt on the other hand doesn't know what the f@ck she's talking about.

@tychee69


Give her her marching orders if she doesn't know how to comply, why follow the path of mugu when you can have peace of mind and sleep well at night.

Plenty my brother. Until I discovered the way of true control. Life is too short to spend it whining.

So what happened to condoms especially the“
double-barrel” variety? If you played you must pay. Give her the money and stop whining.

zeedee:

In other words, pay your tithe to your woman.

Oh great wise one, you are truly foolish (pardon me, i don't mean it harshly).

Of course you mean it harshly, that was the point of posting in the first place but no offense taken anyway, it's only natural you should be so opinionated. If you'd taken the time to read properly, you'd see that I advocate spending but not spending foolishly. If you choose to call it tithing, well , that's your own cup of coffee, my point has been made.

All ye who seek true control, I have returned to impart my opinions and counsel on what is being said here:

1.) A man of true control does not boss his woman or give her a list of commandments to follow. All those talking about men who tell their wives and girlfriends what job to do and not to do are not talking about men of true control. These are men of artificial control, men who have to shout and make noise when talking to their women because they think the money they have spent has bought part of her soul. A man of true control does not need to tell his woman what to do, she usually tries to do what will make their relationship work because she doesn't want to lose him. Men of true control do not have to beg for sex at night, neither do they make it a compulsory issue. A woman with a man of true control will give him sex 24/7 if she thinks it will keep her beholden to him.

2) If you men seek true control, NEVER spend more than 10% of what you earn on a woman. 20% is allowed in cases of extreme happiness and special occasions. Anything else you will resent it and complain to everyone that comes how much you spent on her and who the hell wants to know? If you can't afford it don't do it. No one likes to be reminded that they owe you, no woman wants to hear how much you spend. Only a man of no control or artificial starts calculating how much he has "invested" on a woman. Spend 10% and you will never have unnecessary regrets.

3) A man of true control treats his woman with respect when she respects him. Respect does not necessarily mean being foolish which is what some of no control an artificial control think it to be. Respect is a ladies first thing, when she gives you yours you give her relative respect but not to your own detriment. Anything that degrades you unnecessarily is not respect.


4) A man of true control does not need to shout to get his voice heard. He merely expresses his displeasure and gives the cold shoulder treatment if she acts otherwise.

5) A man of true control listens to his woman's opinions from time to time and takes some of her wise decisions into account. But he does not become a mugu by doing every single thing she thinks of.

michelin89:

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How about doing what the hell you want and letting others do the same?

This topic is boring. Soddamn boring!!![/size]

Then what the f@ck are u doing here, ?

I once read Linda Ikeji's very superficial blog. This is what she had to say about Dare Art Alade marrying a slightly older woman who had more money than him:

I am hearing gists  that newly married Dare has relocated to Abuja full time to start family life with his new bride Deola Ayeni who has a multi-million naira furniture business and contract deal over there. They said he might be stepping out of the music scene for a while to pursue contracts as initiated by his wife who has already started introducing him to those that matter in Abuja. All I'll say here is that I hope Dare married for love. Any other reason besides love is not good enough for marriage.

She insinuates very clearly that he married the woman for her money, because he is a guy and has no money control and the woman does

This is what she had to say about Sylvia Edem marrying Chris Emechete the aviation millionaire:

Beautiful ex-Miss Nigeria, Sylvia Edem Emechete is expecting her first baby with hubby of one year, Chris Emechete, in July. I read that they recently celebrated their first wedding anniversary some days ago. They got married April 15th 2006 in Lagos, and Sylvia got a Mercedes Benz S-Class with personalised plate number E1 SYL  as a surprise wedding anniversary present from hubby. I hear the hubby is super rich with investments in Dubai, UK and the USA. They say he drives a brand new Infiniti QX56, a Ferrari F430, and a Range Rover Vogue. This girl marry husband abeg! I also read that they live in a five bedroom mansion in Surrey in London and they jet-set to various countries around the world. Sylvia is a director in her hubby's aviation company. The koko of this gist is that our former Miss Nigeria will soon join mother's club. She's living the life she's always dreamt  of. I'm happy for her!


Can you see the double standard of Nigerian women, Sylvia marries money and it is okay for her, they are not concerned whether it is love. It is a good relationship because Mr Emechete has money control, imagine the statement: "This girl marry husband abeg!"


Can you see the greedy creatures? These are the people you say are interested in 50-50 relationship. Any man who does not understand the principle of control and practice it to some extent is digging a pit of sorrow for himself. I have learnt my lesson, to others I say, be wise. Be wise!

To those talking about 50-50 relationships. Let me be factual with you. Nigerian women as we know them do not do 50-50 relationships. The only time 50-50 is convenient to them is when they want to lay down their own rules and regulations and ride you. Is is the same women who want men to pay for everything from a new phone to their Ikoyi apartments, that are 50-50 relationship material? Let us call a spade a spade. How many very successful women who make more than their husbands are into this so-called 50-50 thing? Most men who fall into the trap of artificial control or no control and have a woman who has more money than them live to regret it. As soon as the woman relaizes she has money control she believes she can do what she wants and everything becomes 70-30 if not 90-10. She will tell the whole world who is feeding who and who is paying for what.

Please let us be realistic. Do the relationships women so love to read about in Citi People and Ovation focus on 50-50? People will quote everything from Bible to The Devil's Handbook to support their claims. Is it not the same Bible that said Eve was created from Adam and should submit to him? And I'm not even a religious person.

Some lover boys here who feel they are the pictures of modern refinement and perfect gentlemen are hear screaming about slavery and juju as the definition of control. Control isn't about having a woman who shivers when she calls your name or keeping a whip by your bed. Or  having a woman who will prostrate on the ground when you come home. It's about having a woman who knows you won't be ridden or bullied into an absurd corner because she has some special space between her legs. Of course constructive criticism of your actions is welcome, she should be supportive and analyze your decisions as a wife or girlfriend, but not the one she will start shouting calling you obscene names or start telling you how you are not man enough, some even go to the extent of ridiculing you when she is with her friends. A man of control always has the respect of his wife, even when she gossips about her problems with you to her friends, she is busy blaming other women for her misfortunes and thinking of how to keep you to herself. Men of no control do not enjoy this luxury, their wives and girlfriends are too busy bashing them about everything from their weakness, to their lack of spending power and bed skills. Ignore the truth at your own peril.

ok.gerald:

Am   i   a  mugu   if   i   get   her   a   phone  3   weeks   into   the   relationship?

You may not yet be a mugu but you are going quickly down the path of MUGU-hood. If you don't have much money and you bought her a phone, MUGU-hood is the least of your problems, you will soon start paying other bills. Right now she might call you all manner of sweet names because of the phone you just bought but in the long run she is going to take it for granted that you pay her bills and believe you me, the moment you lack money to pay those bills, problems start. Do not be an ATM machine.

It is better to control the relationship completely before gifting, let her respect you first and the relationship, then maybe 6 months down the road you get her something she really needs. Relationships should not be about giving presents, they wouldn't call gift's gift's if you doled them out every three weeks. A gift is meant to be special, stuff you give out during certain occasions. Everyday is not Christmas but by your actions it seems you want to play the year-round Santa Claus. Avoid the path to MUGU-hood.

Even if you have excess money to dole out, you can give more frequently than the guy who has less but do not make it something you do every 3 weeks. You don't give children sweets everyday, lest you spoil them. The natural instinct is you're doing it out of love, but excessive gifting corrupts the mind. Control is what is key. True control is always better than artificial control.

Lol, mugu was my story in the past, now I have the keys to control so I control, all this talk of being real is rubbish, This so-called love , ask yourself if you would stay in love with the person if they had one hand, one eye or one leg? At the end of the day when it boils down to what matters we are all superficial at one level or the other, why buy designer clothes instead of normal ones, why drive a Mercedes instead of a Honda, it's all image it's all superficial, we all act the part one way or the other and  we are all influenced by the superficial, people who talk of being real have no idea of what real is, if you want real, go to Deeper Life Bible Church and look for a real woman, no wig, no extensions, no expensive perfume or designer label clothes, lets see how much of real you can stand,

@ TeeJay

Do you have a girlfriend or wife? Who is she and what does she do? So you don't want to control your relationship, you want your relationship to control you? You have to earn your woman's respect and that is what control is about. Love makes people act like fools, control is about restricting your inner fool so you can have a healthy relationship,

He has not been sacked, Sahara and their happy trigger news

Source is Sahara itself,

Report is NOT confirmed. Sahara is changing its story, saying the sack has been reversed,

Sure I might come up with a "How to Keep Your Man" especially for women who aren't after the contents of a guy's pocket and the kind of Mercedes he drives

I can be reached at the following email address femi.subair@yahoo.com. I may be able to chat now as I am currently online so add me if you wish.

Decent men are the reason why people are shedding tears on Nairaland,meanwhile people are combing their girlfriends/wives in hotels and in bedrooms.Life is not fair and i've learnt the hard way, if a word is enough for the wise,one lengthy page should suffice for the foolish and hard of hearing,

Read it and it will end all your worries. Slap your girlfriend and risk being called a woman beater.

I used to be like many of the whiners here on Nairaland, “Oh I'm so in love with this babe but she's treating me badly, what do I do? what do I do?”. That was a long time ago and now I am wise and believe me I learnt from the school of hard knocks, this women dealt with me mercilessly until I actually sat down to analyze them and their ways and figured out the language they speak. If you think maintaining a woman is about excess love, showing affection, kindness, forgiveness, religion and all that bullsh*t, you're dead wrong, treat a woman too good, she will find an excuse to leave ( “I was once dumped by a chick who later told her friend, I was 'too nice'.”). But they will stay with an “omo rapala” that mistreats them day after day after day.


Even fellowship girls are still tempted by young men of the world and leave their fellow fellowship brothers to look for bad boys to convert. They are never satisfied with a squeaky clean good man. To them every guy that is too good is a nuisance. Even the ones that are married have only calmed down and become good in order to trap a husband that offers them security or at least a husband that has managed to figure out their buttons. Be wise, young men, be wise.

Maintaining women of all shapes ages and sizes is all about control and remaining in control. The moment you lose control, you lose yourself and a woman will ride you till the very end. Some people say all sorts of rubbish, “Oh my woman is not like that, she's different”, all that one na story, Eve betrayed Adam, Delilah betrayed Samson, so who on earth is your woman that she won't act like those that came before her?

There are different levels of control, there is no control, artificial control and true control. No control is the default situation most guys fall into. They love a woman and believe everything she says in the heat of passion ”I'll never ever leave you”, “I can't wait to marry you” etc etc, and deceive themselves into overconfidence and over love. A no control guy does not know how to tell his babe no and is always apologizing even when it is not his fault. When they start exhibiting too much attention and love, the chick gets bored and starts looking for “rude boys” somewhere. Then her mind starts wavering and she starts telling you “I need space”, “I'm confused”. When you hear these words you're in trouble.

Unfortunately most young guy today no dey hear word and they will start reminiscing about the sweet nothings the babe told them when the going was good and continue to misbehave and show over love and over affection. Meanwhile one bad guy fit dey comb the babe for corner somewhere. In the end the chick leaves and the guy is in a wreck, crying, complaining to his friends begging etc and at that point the girl no go wan hear again, anything you're saying is a waste of time. A chick will bring up some of the dumbest excuses when she wants to dump you. She might regret leaving you later but all that one na Tales By Moonlight what matters is the wrecked condition she will leave you in at that moment.


The next level of control is artificial control. Artificial control works a lot in Nigeria today, and people exercise this level of control primarily by having money. This is what the so called big boys and sugar daddies use to maintain their babes. Some poor guys starving on their pocket money and University allowances even try to maintain this level of control to their own downfall. With artificial control a girl might screw around but will not really leave you until she finds another guy with better control than you. The best way to use artificial control is ruthlessly, if you have money and control them with money make sure you take no crap from them or else they will turn you to a MUGU and you fall into the no control category even though you have money.

Remember money is relative. Some guy has more than you somewhere. Some guys exercise artificial control through other means as well, such as being older, being in a bigger office, better school, living in a bigger house etc. Until the chick meets someone with better control she will not leave but always remember you are in control and use it to your advantage. Don't boast about it though as they really hate it when you point out that the reason they are with you is because of artificial control ( even though we know its true). All those threads written by sacked bankers on Nairaland who have lost their babes are a result of the artificial control category. Control go, babe go.

Guys without money should remember this ( University boys open your eyes) the moment you start spending to maintain control, you will never stop and this is a problem when you do not have money so students, graduate trainees and people without money should avoid money artificial control as much as possible. You will only wreck yourself financially, because they will only get greedier and you will find out you cannot keep up and she will use the money you have used to better her looks, wardrobe and her life to find a replacement for you. They always want to upgrade. If you have money to spend it is okay to use artificial control just make sure you do it in a responsible way, not in a way chicks will use “MUGU” to replace your name on their phones.


The last control category is true control. Maintain this level of control and you are the true guru. You are the Don Juan, the guy women trip and fall down for regardless of whether or whether not. The true control man is in control of EVERYTHING. He will not chase a babe he cannot control or who he knows will want to lord over him. Before he spends his money on a woman he makes sure that she knows who is in control and spends his money sparingly, in fact she might spend more than him. If she tells him she is in her male corpers friends house sleeping because she does not have light he laughs and tells her “I hope he knows how to screw well, I know you're probably lonely”. It might pain him inside but you will never see it, because he knows that if she finds out he is jealous he is finished, if she feels he is not jealous, she will correct herself and find call him 20 times a day to make sure he truly loves her.


The guy who shouts at his babe and tells her what sort of nonsense is that ( why should she sleep in Mr Corper-With-Generator's house) is maintaining artificial control, she will tell him she won't do it again and do it the next day and for the next 10 months, and get combed mercilessly by Mr. Corper-With-Generator and his colleagues. It takes 10 minutes for a quickie and that place does not have a gauge you will use to measure who did and did not do when she comes back. Artificial control men and no control men should take note.

In fact most of the accomplished true control guys have barricaded their hearts a long time ago. They show affection strategically and when a chick leasts expects it. They are not always complete bast@rds, they will send flowers and call a babe to check on how she is doing but they do it strategically and sparingly. Too much of ice cream and chocolate is not good. Too much visiting of woman is not good. Calling her more than she calls you is an equally stupid idea. If she calls twice call once. What bothers other guys does not bother men of true control. Even if they love a chick they will never show it more than the chick shows it. They say I love you three times a year. This sort of guy might love a chick but still screw one or two around to ensure that he remains in control of his senses.

Sex is sex, love is a different kettle of fish. Sex helps you keep things in perspective. Screw one woman too much, you might become stupid and lose control. Fidelity is over rated my brothers, you can love a woman but don't confuse it with being faithful. If she suspects you are screwing outside, thats okay for them, just make sure you're never caught and she only suspects, suspicion is good, it keeps her on her feet, she knows she can be replaced. When she sees that text message on your phone, tell her “you are the only one for me “ and buy enough “ chocolate and flowers” and then leave her to think. But NEVER keep two chicks, you should have one chick and the occasional ones you are chopping outside to maintain perspective and self-control, that way you won't create unnecessary problems for yourself. If you are not on the financial capability of Atiku Abubakar, polygamy is a bad idea. If you can retain control without screwing outside, fine for you. But the day your woman is caught screwing outside, you will feel seriously cuckolded and feel like a fool.

A true control guy will NEVER date a woman he cannot control. A woman who does not respect you is one you have no control over, these women do not understand equality, look at the divorce rate in America ! A true control guy has ALL control but he never uses money to control too much. He never makes it about money or how much he has. Most true control guys have more money than the women they control, other much more skilled true control guys may have less money but always make sure that she knows who is boss. Because once you let a women who's money is longer than yours gain control, you are finished. A true control guy also has koboko control ( meaning he knows how to give it to her in bed, if you do not know better learn by hiring a skilled Pay As You Go or else she will leave you for the first Mr. Magic Stick). In fact koboko control is way better than money control. Look at Kimora Lee Simmons and Djimon Honsou, you go no say na koboko dey at work, no be by fine face or too much money. ( No offense to Russel Simmons but he had artificial control).

A true control guy also has fashion control, he knows how to dress and be neat ( it might not be the most expensive stuff he wears but he looks smart and neat always, he has fashion sense). A true control guy also knows how to tell his babe no and stick to his no. They rarely say “I'm sorry” and always make a chick laugh or some other tactic to avoid using those words. A chicks friends will beef this sort of guy in public and on forums like Nairaland and berate their friends for dating him but will secretly dream of screwing him. It even helps when the guy acts nice to the chicks friends, but not too nice (as in we are all age-mates level, respect must be maintained at all costs, chicks know how to disrespect a guy who plays with them too much). All men should strive to attain true control. True control will give you peace of mind and undying attention.

Be wise, my brothers be wise, enough of these tears on Nairaland. These days more men come here to complain than women. This is a war we have to win at all costs. For the sake of the male reputation. For more advice, I am here all week. Remember I have been beaten before but I am now wise, I exercise true control now and take no nonsense from them. If you let them bring you down they will finish you and your village people will say it is the work of juju and your uncles and aunties.

This is the reason why young Nigerian women in Europe are looking left right and above for husbands. They want to eat their cake and have it. When it comes to you spending your money on them, they ask you "Can't you take care of me?", then they know they are African women, who their boyfriends/husbands must take care of. When it comes to performing their own bit, they ask you "In this modern day and age?", then they become independent 21st century westernized women. The funny thing though is that non-Nigerian guys (except the mumu's - the ones that would  never had a chance with any woman on a normal day) don't take crap from their women, they chuck them out and replace them at will, so after many years living in fantasy Nigerian women come to their senses and start looking for up and coming Nigerian men to trap.

A lot of Nigerian guys in Europe are enjoying the unbridled loving and attention from these European women, whether its washing of clothes or deep tissue massage, these girls are ready to give after all, their own men no get time meanwhile Nigerian guys are renowned toasters and lovers (ask any Romanian woman). Then after enjoying love and submission from these fine looking things, because I want to marry homegrown, I should start taking rubbish from one Nigerian woman who doesn't know what she wants? It's too much TV, Nigerian movies and these unrealistic novels they read, na wetin they worry them. Maybe Beyonce asks Jay-Z to come and wash his own clothes or the same Kim Kardashian will ask Reggie Bush to start vaccuuming the house because she's tired.


When I was younger I was foolish, I let them get away with anything until I learnt that unless you put you foot down these women will ride you like a donkey, so you have to put your foot down and you end up sleeping better and much more peacefully that way. Please do not wash your husband or your boyfriend's clothes, leave them you hear, it is NOT COMPULSORY. As for young men, if you are wise you will chuck her out as quickly as yesterday's garbage and find a quick replacement, lest you want to argue about bigger issues when they arrive. If washing your clothes is a big deal, imagine what bigger issues will amount to later on, life is too short for rubbish, women plenty wey need husband, a man's value increases with age, a woman closing 30, well that one is another story

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Where can I get it replaced?

Still waiting

Where can I get this done and how much will the screen cost me?

Lol, small wedding in Nigeria, with these greedy young women constantly influenced by Citi People and Ovation, why una dey deceive una selves/

Bob James keep on rocking, sex is just sex man. Who says you can't have sex elsewhere to relieve tension and yet still love your wife? No mind these bad belle people abeg.