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jalether:
Soz but I can't see any dive

There was contact and a bit of pushing but Kalou threw himself to the ground in a way that didn't match the contact. It's true that technically it's a penalty and yes penalties have been given for less this season, but penalties have also NOT been given for worse than that.

hmmm. . . the diving!! It's been sha giving for less this season. But no penalty jare.

I don't think you really love (or even like) either. If you really really did, then 1.) you wouldn't be cheating on both, and 2.) you would know who to pick.

But that's just by the way. In answer to your question, what's more important to you? Present happiness or future possibilities? I don't really think you should be with either, personally, but it depends on whether or not you're just ready to settle down now irrespective of feelings.

Ayemokhia:
ill beat a naughty woman the way I smack my mother--- if I can beat my mother, why not ?!


Did i get u rite? u will smack u mum. are u insane?

If you wouldn't consider smacking your mom, why would you consider smacking your gf? Even if someone deserves a beating, don't give them the satisfaction. What does the beating do? So childish, like a tantrum. If you're with someone (male/female) who hits you first, then you've made a bad decision, they're violent and lack self-control control and one day may just kill you, so watch your back.

muchbabe:
Hmmmm mama-gee, I've seen finer naija guys jo,  

Missy B:
He's not ma definition of 'Handsome'.

Exactly to both! I wouldn't put him up as the poster child of fineness even with Latinos, not to talk of in general, or for black people. But again it's a matter of different tastes, I guess.

bubugul:
Why are you freaking out and malign a girl you do not know? OK, fine, let's bring it to your door step; K C's gf was you sis. what would you have told him, if he came to you personally to tell you that your sis cheated on him once and that he had ambivalent feelings towards their r/ship, however, your sis had cried her heart out: saying she was sorry. Would you have told him to chase her away and never to have anytin to do with with her or plead with him on your sis's behalf?
tell me,  MAKA NA EJIGHI ONWU MAA ATU ODIKA OBU NA-ODIGHI EGBU MMADU

If it was my sibling that acted shady like that, I would tell them, look you acted shady and that is not how we were raised. I might plead their case to their partner and plead on their behalf, but only if I thought they were genuinely sorry and wouldn't repeat it.  If not I wouldn't put my mouth. Do unto others as you'd have them do unto you. Just because it's your sibling that did something doesn't make it ok or make them innocent.

@ daduke2k,

I think you're allowed to just skip over reading mine and contribute to the topic, no?

googles:
[size=13pt]awww. ,  . . .i dont blame your boyfriend really, not evryone can stand pple who cant speak well but since you guys have been together for so long he shouldn't be dat harsh on you,  the first step to solving the problem is the one you ve taken, acknowledging the problem,it gets easier from there, buy english texts,read novels, read dailies, watch english speaking movies {if possible throw all your nollywood films outta the window }, interact more in english {stay off your dialect for a while} , when pple correct you dont get angry take to their correction and read more i think with these you should be able to improve

goodluck with your boyfie swty  [/size]

I agree completely!! But don't just do it for the boy. Do it for yourself, improving your English will also be beneficial to you, irrespective of your guy situation.

Are you serious? LOL!

I don't get exactly why you want to be calling her sister. What's your own with her sister? Maybe I'm strange, but I don't really like when my friends by-pass me and casually call my family when it's not like they're already close to the person, it's a bit over-familiar for my tastes. But it depends on you, I don't think it's necessary to call if you don't have something specific to say to her, but maybe I'm missing some cultural nuance.

michelin89:
Even the rightest person can make the mistake of taking their partner for granted.

How do we avoid this from the start?

I don't think it's healthy to go into a relationship with a "one person must be the mumu" mentality. I realize that it's human nature to take advantage of people who let you take advantage of them. Think of your friends, there are some who are obviously users and don't remain in the inner friendship circle for long, and then there are others who you have a give-and-take relationship with, and who you're close enough to that if you feel like they're taking advantage of you, you can say it, and they check themselves, and vice-versa.

I don't think there's any need to be setting anti-mumu rules at the start of the relationship. . . like I must win x% of arguments, s/he must be up to no good etc etc. Who wants to live like that? And moreover, who wants to be with someone like that. If your personality is really that cynical and distrustful, then that's you, but it's draining to act that way in a relationship all the time, if genuinely you're not that type of person. You either trust your partner or you don't. You either like him or you don't. And if you don't, then why are you putting yourself through all the anti-mumu stress to be together.

As far as taking the partner for granted and how to avoid things, my biggest suggestion would be to be yourself from the beginning. I know many girls and guys who are really "lions" and "tigers" and like to get their way and not easy-going at all. But when they see a partner they like, they pretend that they're easy going, ah the girl suddenly LOVES cooking for her man (someone who doesn't like to cook before o), everything he says is right, he's too perfect, he can do no wrong. Then the guy gets used to this from her and expects it, and of course because this is not her real personality, it becomes harder and harder and she becomes more and more resentful and feels taken advantage of. If you're not the motherly/caring type, why pretend you are? Be like "dude, I don't like to cook, I hate the kitchen," that way when you do those things, then it's special and he appreciates.

mykali:

Why are you grinning? As if your team has never effed up! It's just a bump in the road, I still have faith.

Pick the right guy! If the guy is going to take you for granted then you don't need him anyway. Don't think you can pick someone who's selfish or inconsiderate and play games or manipulate them into changing- it won't work in the long term.

^^^^^

I know. I edited the bright side for Wolves' lack of self-respect [size=2pt]and our eff up.[/size]

doyin13:
Lol. . . At bloody last

Somebody has deemed it fit to expose Jonny Evans

The boy's feet were stuck in mud.

I think Johnny Evans exposes himself every week. He doesn't need help doing that. His particular expertise is setting up the opposing team in our box. But at least today he made a somewhat acceptable defensive mistake (compared to deflections and teeing up the opponents).

Pretty much everyone except Evra had a bad game. The substitutions were foolish and we were just off today. It was one of those games jare.

@ the matter of the bright side,

On the bright side,
1.) We're still second.
2.) We're only a win and a draw away from Chelsea
3.) This season has shown that even the top teams are liable to big eff ups at the most inopportune times so there's hope in that.
4.) We all have our health. . . hopefully

ft 3-1

Sighs. . .  well on the bright side. . . (I'll think of a bright side and post it). . .

Ok at this point I'll take a draw.

MY GOODNESS!!! OK 3-1! This IS BAD!

Ayyyyyy so close!!!!!!!! Rooney's free kick.

Great. . . just what we need. Valencia (who actually gets the ball into the box) replaced by Owen (who does. . . um. . . makes up the team so there are 11 players). Owen please let me eat my words. Show yourself to have some worth!

Obertan plays without purpose. He waits for someone to tackle him or block his cross!  

Kai we know how to make things hard for ourselves!!! C'mon United!!!!!

Everton 2 Man Utd 1  WTF!!!!!!

Hmmm. . . the way this match is going and we're not scoring. . . I'm getting a little worried o And then now bringing on Obertan Hmmm. . . Anyway maybe he'll convince us today!

FL Gators:
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Ok, certified, you're a weirdo

Ok so you don't want to pop that belly? I think it's just like a balloon, it needs a needle. Ok whatever. . .

@ FL Gators,

I think she meant she's more than those sizes.

I think "W" is cut for Women. So they expand the bosom and hip and bottom measurements. Like it's the same size but they cut it more for curviness. So basically a 14W is slightly bigger than a 14.

Actually she has refused time without end to say her actual size. Her exact words: “I don’t easily give out these numbers, but I can tell you that I’m not a size 0 ,  and I’m not a size 6 ,  and I’m not even a size 10. . .” "“I don’t know what size dress I wear.”

The only one who said she is a 14W is someone who allegedly made a dress for her. But let's for arguments sake say she is a size 14W (and if you're a girl who wears clothes and knows others that do, you can tell she's not) that would be a US size, which is a UK 18.

FL Gators:
I thought this was size 14

Nikki Blonsky is like a size 18/20 at least.

doyin13:
All these rugby references are making me salivate oo,

Might there be rugby fans on nland.  

Do you know your lock from a prop?

Blame it on the super sports and the tv hijacking by my brother and dad. Football is always no.1 but my brother watches rugby and my dad watches cricket. . . and so between them, I was forced to know o. . . But now I watch for myself from time to time.

doyin13:
But boy. . .I don't see anything wrong with size 14 at all.

No tirin gbeku in my radar abeg.

I need a lot of cushion for the pushy.

Oh crap. . . I forgot I am meant to be  an unpeeled banana.

Mmmm. . . riiiiiightt!!! You can re-assemble the banana. It's never too late.  

OgidiBoy:
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I've already told him his so insensitive, I hope he takes an Ethics Training  class soon.

I know!!!!!! I want to believe he's joking cos I know as a people, we Nigerians are not the most sensitive, but I mean. . . <shakes head>

doyin13:
hehehehehehehe. . .Tatase and Precious metal.

Me thinks you two doth protest a bit too much.

Might you be size 18's like moi.  

Ay you've outed me!! Size 18 was many Mr. Biggs' donuts ago. In fact sef when I was a baby. I'm size 200 now. And growing bigger every minute. Waiting for my crane to move me from place to place.
I'm protesting for the OP because body self-esteem issues are tough, mehn, and are no joke to those dealing with them.