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Topbrass:
I stumbled on a song this evening titled turning page by sleeping at last and my mind went back to last year. I remembered Miracle ( not real name). My mind was flooded with emotions I could barely describe.

I have struggled with making a post about this but have always shrugged it off. I met Mira last year in the month of May. I own a firm and she happened to be a sales girl to another business in our office complex. The first day I saw her, something moved within me. Now some background here. I was once married but separated. I have a young son. I'm in my mid- forties. Doing very well for myself. Mira on the other hand, is in her early twenties and yet to go through a university. Before you crucify me, the heart will always love who it will.

For years, I have struggled with the inability of falling in love. It must have been over two decades since I last felt what love is, but I guessed Miracle changed that. For the first in a long while, I was human again. I felt that sweetness that only love could bring. I approached her and it took a while to convince her that I wasn't there for the cookie. Also worthy of note, I didn't touch her. Apart from some few stolen kisses, I was just content to bask in this new found feeling. Quite unlike me.

I took up a lot of her responsibilities. When her toxic boss was bent on frustrating her, I encouraged her to resign and I enrolled her In a skill acquisition program. Something she has always longed for. Now before you come with you simp story, let me quickly state that I'm a man's man. Everything I did, I did of my own volition. Like I kept telling her, even if she leaves, I won't regret whatever I did for her. Also, I have acquired a couple of assets and was very comfortable. What ever I did for her was just a pinch of what I was making but it was huge for her. I also took care of my siblings and mum too.

By December I had already started thinking marriage. I had mooted the idea to my mum and aunty and my poor mother was over the moon with joy. At this point, I know Mira may not really be in love with me considering the age difference, but I was willing to give her time, hoping that she would one day come to have a deeper feeling for me.

The moment I brooched the idea of marriage, things changed. She withdrew. I really didn't understand what was happening. By this time I was in my village and was about meeting a trusted uncle of mine to discuss the issue of going to get her then I started noticing a shift in attitude.

When I returned to town, I asked her to return so we could talk but she came and returned almost immediately without my knowledge citing that she was no more comfortable in her elder sister's house . While chatting with her one day, I noticed a strange message. The message said please leave my girlfriend alone. Almost immediately the message was deleted. Then a similar message popped and it was deleted. This continued a couple of time until I got angry and asked to find out what the fvcvked was going on. The person at the other end said he is Mira"s boyfriend and he told me Mira was the one deleting the message. At a point she gave up and allowed the guy to keep chatting. In anger I deleted her number.

It's been months now and I just discovered I still love her. I'm not angry. My friends keep wondering how I left all other ladies and fell madly in love with a small girl.

Now I'm back to that emotionless state. I have met beautiful ladies after then but nothing has moved me like she did. They get frustrated because it is so obvious that I don't feel much for them. Sometimes I wonder if this is how I will go through life. My fear is, will I ever find a woman that will evoke that deep feeling in me again? I'm worried.
What's your take.
Please be civil with your response.

You go dey aiight. Forget about love. Find one girl give belle. Don't waste your breath on looking for love. It is elusive in this generation. And please stop wasting your resources on a gen Z female.

seunoyeleyep:
'Slashes' seems to have assumed another meaning entirely in this corntree

and majority of the animals in the Zoo would celebrate this slash. Lmao. We're a pathetic bunch in this corn tree. It's really painful to watch

EmmySparky:
You just dey post fake jobs… before akure… now jalingo… next na makurdi… continue

......... Lol the guy just dey muse me for here lol. I dey enjoy him way.

PigTormentor:
Have you never seen floods in other parts of the world? Just focus on your erosion-ravaged jungles.

Yes, he built the Lagos that una dey run to daily with polythen bags.

Omo tribalism don chew off the more functional parts of your brain. Who told you that he's from the east? God abeg. . too many weird people in Nigeria. No wonder we can't forge ahead as a collective.

EmmySparky:
What part of Lagos is your school located….. and drop a starting point for salary negotiation

yeah location indeed matters here. If it's too far, might pose a problem.

elipheleh:
My initial thoughts was to attack you OP.

But on a 2nd thought, I feel you said the truth with most people that say they are Christian ladies.
Don't be deceived they all almost are not Christian ladies 98% of the time. They are just church goers.

The other 2% are really weak at some times.

Its not really easy keeping oneself.

Even the men.

For example, see me, me that got married almost 4 years now. I deliberately said I won't touch another girl apart from my pretty wife.
But just last Monday, something came over me. I was upstairs in an eatery eating and relaxing while rewriting codes. And they were washing my car outside.
A girl just stepped in. Very tall, beautiful and the right configurations just like my wife is. Me, see me I was so much controlled by lust that I called her, bought her food. Gave her money there amd then to clear her debts, began pressing her breast and funding her there in the eatery. No toasting, no rapping. Straight forward flung money for her face. She agreed.
I was handling and pressing her breasts, laps, bum bum. She sat on top of my genitals. I was carried away. A 19 year old girl at that.
This is a stranger o. Public place o. Cctv everywhere o. They boyfriend works in that eatery too.
I didnt even remember I was a Christian, no rembrance of God at all. I forgot the fear of God completely.

I told her I was married and just wanted sex and promised to be lavishing her with huge money anytime she asks for it.

Money is not even my problem. I earn millions every week.

I run transfer for her. I mean there was nothing she could ask for that I couldn't provide.

She collected my number. Has been calling me since then, Tuesday o, Wednesday o.. I got fed up. Even though I already booked appointment with her today, Sunday for fornication. No love involved, no nothing.

The following days which is Tuesday and then Wednesday I went back to God, prayed, cried that God help me not to Bleep this girl. I fasted join against this spirit of lust.

By Thursday, I stopped picking her calls. She calls me every minute, missed calls. Now I have power over this lust of a thing, at least lusting after her. Today, being our appointment day, I won't go. I won't still pick any call.

This and many events taught me that I am not above the law. Previously, I used to boast in my self control as a man.
I used to brag.
I now know that its not by power or might.

By the way, I am very good looking, very rich and young too.

I just learnt that most women in this Tinubu regime would sleep with me as just intimacy gadget because of money.

But Christ has restrained persons like me.

My wife doesn't even know why I fasted and prayed against lust this last week.

She didn't know what God did for her and our marriage.

OP you see we are all weak. Just living daily by God's grace and mercy. Only God can give strength to them that have no might.

Have compassion on the weak. At times we would be worse if thesame situation befall us. We are all saved by Grace through Faith.
It is of Grace and not by works lest any man should boast in the presence of God

hello sir, can I work for you as your VA?

Kobojunkie:
Any woman that engages you without a court agreement is going to regret it at some point in her life. This is 2025. Any marriage not sealed in the courts at this point is bound to end in mega regrets.

locate rest abeg

Smilleydr:
bro abeg give me update now, how u take get am?

salient question

GiftcardMan:
I will reply you in here,thx for reply

All right. I have my fingers crossed. Thank you.

GiftcardMan:
OK i got it,I will let you know when we need that.

Thank you. Is there a way to contact you on WhatsApp so as to remind you please

GiftcardMan:
This is not a remote job, we rented a villa for office use. The order I am talking about is a unit of measurement for the collection of game materials.If you are interested in this, please send your CVs.

Thanks. But I'm only interested in customer support jobs and virtual assistant roles. If you're hiring for these roles, I'm more than happy to hear from you sir.

How does gaming relate to completing orders please?

GiftcardMan:
i am not scammer,i am a chinese.If you need our company Government-issued business license, i can prove it.
I work remotely and my partner is also Chinese. He lives in Lagos and I currently live in China.
If you still dont believe me,you can hit my whatsapp and video chat with me before you join this job.
We do not charge any fees and if you are concerned about your safety, we can conduct the interview in a large market in Lagos

is this a remote position? Please what do you mean by orders?

GiftcardMan:
Hiring full-time professional gamers
Location: Lagos
Requirements / Skills
1.Experience playing mobile or computer games.
2.Can read and write English.
3.Be proactive and conscientious about work, not passive.
4.Can endure boring games with fixed patterns for a long time.

Salary mainly comes from commissions from completing orders,It may take 3 to 6 hours to complete a order.(It depends on your experience and skills)

You can get a commission of up to 3,000 Naira for one order.After completing 60 orders per month, you will receive additional bonuses.
Basic salary of 60,000 Naira/Month,but we will eliminate those who are not qualified for this job within a month.
Sincere recruitment, hope to meet sincere people

If you are interested, please send your CV to xxy903008174@gmail.com

Lol. These scammers again. Una no dey tire? Go and get a job please. Everything about your job description is vague af.

AngelSlay:
Lovely. I cannot drop a link o my mobile contact here because I get banned. Let me try again

please remove your number. I have sent a message on WhatsApp. Thank you ma

AngelSlay:
Lovely. I cannot drop a link o my mobile contact here because I get banned. Let me try again

thank you. Appreciate you

Wadoh:
Do you have an email?

here is mine please justingeagles@gmail.com incase you have something for me. Thanks

AngelSlay:
What's your skill set?

Let me know and have you worked remotely before if yes, share your portfolio.

Hello good evening. I have experience working as a windows support agent and can also function as a VA. I can use Microsoft Office tools quite well for data entry. Currently working on improving my skills on CRM tools like HubSpot and Zendesk. I am a fast learner as well. Is there a spot for me please? I would appreciate the opportunity.

justingeagles@gmail.com

Talentpool24:
Job Opportunity: Store Keeper
Location: Ikeja, Lagos
Industry: Real Estate
Salary: ₦65,000 (Net Monthly)
Type: Full-Time

About the Role:
We are seeking a reliable Store Keeper to join our team. You will be responsible for managing construction materials, maintaining inventory accuracy, and supporting procurement processes.

Responsibilities:

Source and procure construction materials

Monitor and update stock records regularly

Liaise with vendors to ensure timely delivery

Assist procurement officer with administrative duties

Track material usage on site and report any issues

Maintain proper documentation of procurement activities

Requirements:

SSCE or OND

Excellent organizational and communication skills

Must live in or be willing to commute to Ikeja, Lagos

How to Apply:
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Deadline: July 31, 2025

if there's accomodation I wouldn't mind. I'm based in Ajegunle. That's the problem

Double0h7:
I think you’re playing yourself. If the relationship with guy doesn’t work out then you have created a reputation among your friends. This doesn’t look good on you. If you were smart you would have built a friendship with the guy and use your feminine prowess to reel him in instead of throwing yourself onto his plate like that. I would say abort mission, apologise to your friend, and learn from this experience.

Great take any day. Me I think it's that Canada that's confusing OP and her friend. The dude smells like someone who would take advantage of her. I hope she doesn't come back to say all men are the same. The guy never fancied her before. What's changed now? See how she threw herself at him without even thinking twice. I pray it doesn't end in disappointment for her. Wouldn't be funny at all. Of all the men in the world, na your friend ex enter your eye. Tufia

Jeweltz:
But he likes me. That’s just it. She snatched him.

let's be honest, if he wasn't in Canada would either you or your friend show so much interest in him? Women make Una dey take am easy. He'll use and dump you and go for his spec in the end. Nawa.

fxexperts:
Passion for what? Will he use passion to feed his family, or will passion pay his children's school fees? Trust me bro this is the reality, passion for any job is dead. It is all about the mulla now. I used to have a passion for the Engineering oil and gas job I was doing, and 15 years later, with nothing tangible to show for it. And mind you, in my profession, we get paid more than doctors in Nigeria. When the Recession and COVID came, the company screwed us over a 100 times. Obviously, the person who told you there is dignity in labour obviously lied to you. If you are not raking in millions of cash, then forget it, this is the world we are living in, it is all about the mulla, as no one, I repeat, no one will come to your aid when you are broke. Even your wife will abandon you. So leave this guy, let him chase the money. House rent now in the major cities is very expensive. A two-bedroom apartment in my area is about N2M annually. And doctors in Nigeria get paid an average of 300K monthly. So do you expect them to go live in batcher houses after the stressful day at the hospital doing surgery on patients? Think about it. When reality strikes you, passion for any job will fly out the window.

Omo. I weak. God go help us all.

fxexperts:
He needs the money and not to practice as a doctor for 20 years and cannot boast of an ordinary N150million naira in your account.

Oo well he knows what he is doing better than you know what you are doing. He is in for the money bag and not making a decision to stay in poverty and not been known. He will get wealth and fame now.

You are the one who has not seen anything about life yet, hence the reason you think he will choose poverty over property or should I just call this selfishness.

Wake up to reality bros. No serious practitioner would do this. He doesn't have passion for his job. This is why everything about Nigeria is mediocre. Y'all keep giving room to mediocrity.

aikyg:
Nigeria is fast spiralling into absurdity. What is a Doctor doing in BBNaija house, in a country where the doctor to patient ratio is 1 doctor for every 9,083 patients? Really unfortunate!

it's a big pity. And some fools would defend his actions

pocohantas:
Please part ways with her. The children will be fine as far as you two coparent.

Once she leaves, stay single and enjoy your life. Men do not even benefit from marriage. Just see how this one is stressing you over small issue you thought has been resolved.

I wish you the best.

I pity who take this advice seriously. Lol.

Burchester:
Why not , send your CV to the email , it would be looked at

all right sir. Thanks