₦airaland Forum

@ poster,
yes, the worst choice you can ever make.

. Maybe you guys are not what they are looking for? And please dont even try to toast them, they will use you and talk about you amongst their friends (you know that will become the whole Nigeria's gist). They will also tell people how desperate and unattractive you are. They may even go further and say they use a paper bag with doing the deed with you. . There is hope though, some really handsome guys end up with below average girls, so i guess all is not lost for you guys.

Why cant Nigeria own their own stuff and learn to manage it? They know the market potential and they want to quickly invest in it because they know they will make their money back in about 3 months. Nigerian's need to learn to manage their resources by themselves, and use it for growth. If something is not oyinbo, they dont trust it. mscheew.

No they are not, afterall they can afford your services. So you have a duty to service them too. . They just want a date and are flirting, are you really that inexperienced? Please drink a beer and relax. Even though i think you are just bragging for us on NL, so we know you are a doctor. Maybe you want more girls to chase you.

Congratulations NL's new daddy. She is good enough to be your girlfriend and screw but not good enough to wife ehn? God don cstch you. Wetin happen to condom if you know your career is at stake. what does that even mean sef? so this girl is what to you? if she doesnt want to do abortion, you cant force her not to. but make it clear to her that you are not ready for marriage if that is what she has in mind. And also confess the truth to her, that you have never seen yourself being with her for life.

why are these nairalander's always narrating everything for foreigners? soon they will know everything we say behind their backs. mscheew. . You guys should please stop.

uh oh. If she is a witch then you are wizard.lmao. Anytime she comes to your house, put a blessed bible under your pillow and let her lay down on it unknowingly.Prepare a surprise exorcism for her. Plan with your pastor, and see if she will fall down and confess.lol.*even though i think this story is a tale* .But you can never be so sure. If nothing happens, then she either has a mental problem or she is a tale teller. Also like someone said she may be planning her exit strategy.

@ stillwater, thanks we now know the whole story and can answer his post properly.

@ poster,
This dude we all know your type. How can you string a girl along for 4 years without even mentioning you want to settle down. I am sure this has come up. You seem comfortable enough, but yet nothing like that comes up. You are obviously not ready and are pacifying her with gifts. Her reason for acting out is because material things cannot fill the heart, it can only satisfy a girl for so long. Above all that, you are a big cheat, as stated in your previous posts. Bose, Nkechi and Eunice. . Looks like an equal opportunity dude. Any girl will be insecure with you coming to a party and talking to your friends younger sister for so long. Afterall she is not your relative, and your history makes you very untrustworthy. You have really hurt this girl, broken her heart and wasted her time. Her breaking up with you is for you to beg her and show some emotion; but apparently you sef had been planning to let her go. After 4 years? Haba, this guy is a bad guy oh. He doesnt even deserve our sympathy and no one should make him feel better about himself. A girl will only make a scene and attempt to embarrass you when she is deeply hurt, and apparently it got to you. so she knows how to disgrace you well. You really messed up, i feel really bad for the poor girl. Please go and buy yourself some emotion and apologise. Because karma is a bitch. This girl still loves you oh, she wants your love and attention. Most of all your devotion. nonsense guy.hiss.

valacious:
thanks all for your suggestion(TewMuch,chipmunkey), but here is the breakdown.
well, i asked her out for close to six months, during those period, did the normal lovey dovey,called, gifts e.t.c, got to a point i felt she wasnt going to say 'yes',so i fashied(freed) her ,stopped calling, then she felt bad, apologised wit an sms and asked why i didnt call all these while, well she caved in this month,'said yes to be my g/f' , maybe i shld add that she was n a r/ship b4 agreeing to my proposal, she's n sch. but i do the calls, but am bothered-- she doesnt even call, unless i do, not a flash, if i dont reach her, wat do u think i do, i need more reactions pls house

1) have you called her yet? call her first before we deal with point two below. Just call her to tell her you are thinking about her, and you miss her. Also try to ask her about her day and school. Dont blow up and start demanding answers o. wait 3 days after that and see if she calls.
2) Did you snatch someone else's GF? it seems like you pressured her into a relationship with you.she may ave just agreed to stop you from being too persistent and you are getting the treatment you deserve. She may still be dating her ex, and you are now second choice. A woman should always want to be with you as much as you want to be with her, even if she plays hard to get in the beginning.

We all know how Nigerian police like money. . This is too funny, its like a thief asking you to bring your money to keep with him. This is daylight robbery. Am sure a new born naija baby knows how police can get angry over N20, not to talk of millions. They will wipe out some people's family tree to keep the money.

this is too dumb the virginity thing. You know some girls dont bleed immediately right? some bleed after the act, and they are virgins. So your expectations will be dashed if you are so fascinated by blood.lol.

you are a lucky man she took you back. . Most women wouldnt because of the way you treated her when she had a scare. Some will even be afraid that you will ask them to abort a pregnancy at the stage that they have come with you in the relationship. She must really love you because what you did when she had a scare is a big No No. Goodluck sha, just remember you are a man and should be in control of your emotions always. You cant take out your frustrations on a woman, espcially the type of woman you have. let her in, and let her help if she can.

little baby boy just got his heart broken. aww. . Dont worry another girl will come and sweep you off ur feet in about a month, and you will be back declaring your love. you are still young. You dont have any business being in love other than casual dating anyways. But everyone is allowed to experience at least 2 heartbreaks.

what is wrong with tribal marks? it is a culture thing that is fading now, and rare. I dont mind as long as the person feels good about themselves. It shows cultural identity, even though naughty people try to make fun of them. . I have actually seen rather attractive people with tribal marks.

well for a faithful wife i will say she should 1st get tested and immediately move out of her husbands bedroom. After that, find a job or a side hustle. Save for 2 months and pack your children one day and take off. Leave a note for the guy though where he can come and find you. Men take women that rely on them to survive for granted. Because they know ur going no where. So a good woman should first separate from the man, because this is a very terrible environment for the children she is trying to stay in the marriage for. Also if she catches aids, her children are going to be orphans. And there is no one that can take care of a child like its mother. To all those always proffering prayer for every situation, God says heaven helps those who helps themselves. So please help yourself by running away as soon as possible. We all came to this world alone and will leave alone to answer papa God for our sins. You dont owe any man your life because you have a ring, a ring is just metal that will not stand the test of time. But the legacy you leave in your children will, that is if you make yourself available and healthy for them.

Now that the dynamics have changed and she has become like him, then i say they both deserve each other. She should have waited and done the right thing before dating another man. And even if she was to date someone else, it should be an unmarried man or a divorcee like her. Since both of them are now birds of a feather, i suggest they stick together and kill themselves in the process.

Only Nigerians with their ancient way of thinking will see this as the right thing to do. This would have been appropriate in the times where marriage is arranged, and the man is the woman's father's age mate or royalty. Now, we have all gone against custom and started choosing our own spouses out of the love and respect we have for each other. Throughout courtship we are lovebirds, then as soon as you get married you turn around and start being an authority figure to your wife? Lets forget about brideprice, do you really think the small money you paid for traditional rites is enough to buy a human being? That you feel you should control a human being like that? Your wife is your partner, and should be free with you. Making yourself a demi-god in the house will only retard the love and success in the marriage. I wouldnt advice a wife to behave like that with her husband, its strange. Affection towards each other will not make you focus on such. I mean dont you have other issues like getting to work early, and paying your bills? you guys make much ado about nothing. What do you want for waking up second? A medal?

why would you even want your wife to be unhappy in any way? why not be a man and talk to her instead of giving silent treatment? That never solved anything, and you will just make her despise you more. imo.

Lacrissa:
Omega, I don't presently have a man. It was after my man and I broke up. He is my good friend I've known even though the flirts and him wanting more. I dont like to or want to string any man along but at the same time I don't want to lose any of them.




I can have him if I want and I'm not jealous of any girl or girls he's with. I just don't know why I felt a little upset, maybe because he's lying to me? or

What do you care if he is lying to you or not. You guys are just friends right? look, you are jealous. There is nothing wrong with it, everyone gets jealous once in a while when attention shifts from them. For him to claim he likes you and wants to spend the *Night* with you shows what he wants you for. Also, you have seen his behaviour and how he is quick to get new girls and flirt with them even in front of you. He doesnt want anything serious with you, and doesnt respect you enough to want to have anything serious with you. So your best bet is to forget him and stick with your partner. You are upset because you are falling for his charms, and his ability to not be so crazy about you. Its natural.

Ur falling for him because you are jealous of the other girls he is with. People always want what looks like they cant have, and especially when the attention is shifting from them. Better snap out of it and face your relationship because this one will shred your heart to bits if you have anything to do with him. just commot eye, and forget about it.

1) shes not just that into you
2) she wants you to bother about her
3) you are her side piece
4), are you sure she is your girlfriend? as in for real for real?
i listed all these things to make your mind start pacing. , take it easy she is probably busy and there is an explanation. Call her tonight and tell her you miss and love her. And wait to see if she calls. If you wait 3 days and she doesnt call. . Just bone the whole levels and find you someone else in the mean time.

Kai!!! the dropped you at the infatuation stage. . Though you have probably chopped all his lies and fallen for him, 3 months is better than 3 years. Thank your stars he did not decide to waste your time. Abeg go clubbing tonight and find someone else. . Just make sure the next time you open your eyes well.

Its the ideal and best situation actually. That is if you love the person like that. Sometimes we have best friends that we see as brother's and cannot imagine having sex with them . But in marriage situations, the love will face; beauty will also fade but the friendship will keep you guys going. Being in love with your bestfriend also makes the relationship solid, because you guys trust each other so much. To me it is the best thing you can do for yourself, when choosing a spouse.

well i personally dont think you should kidnap the child. Every child needs the presence of both parents in their lives. You are the father and have your own duties, but you cannot replace a mother in a child's life. You are truely the father of the child right?If so, the woman does not have the right to tell you when you can see your son. He can come and see you over holidays, and if both of you are adults and behave like you are, you should be able to come to an agreement to share custody. Now if she is being difficult, you can take her to court and do things the right way. All of this is for the sake of your child, so that he is in a good and healthy environment. Just calm down, and make the right decisions. You dont want to deprive a child of his mother's love and presence in his life. Goodluck.

where have you been in the 50years Nigeria has been in existence? . The people that are praised and are the role models for wealth are either 419'ers, Armed robbers, Yahoo++, politicians, and any other criminal. The younger generation really do not have hard working, decent role models. There are no idealists with morals, and even the hardworking people never make much of themselves if they do not follow the thieving crowd. This needs to end. The issue is how can this be done?

yes please, be grateful that you see the almighty vjay jay every now and then. Its not easy, so worship and hail it. And then thank it, or else you will be left high and dry.

She doesnt see you as someone she wants to have sex with. You are just a maga.rotflmao.

Eyah, i pity your life. What a waste. You allowed your sister's husband to screw you? All you are to him is another notch in his belt, and for him to boast to the rest of his useless friends. He may even try to pass you around sef. ashawo somebody. This is the problem with naija girls, una too dey compete with yourselves. You compete with another woman for her husband; you compete with a girl for her boyfriend; you even compete with your friend for her father's love. Its time you strive for your own, so you can be proud of it. Because what wasnt yours in the first place, will never be yours. You are just a means to an end ( him cumming in 5 minutes)lol. soooo stupid . Your life is sad sha.

When you never hear from her again. And she hides when she sees you in public.

Definitely not on Nairaland anymore. I the reason why you cant is because you flaunt yourself all over the place. No one needed to know that you have some small change. The reason why is very obvious. Its only people that are new to the concept of money, or have access to easy money that boast like you. Easy come, easy go; same with the ladies you attract.