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They are protesting from lagos . Why not go to Abuja, their home states or states that are totally run down and confront their public officials? Protesting from afar is nothing, the politicians wont even watch it on TV.

Yes, post his picture as well as the doctor's picture too. Also if your friend can get him recorded with his threat of spreading the disease that will be great. She should call him and record him. Then go to LUTH if you are in Lagos, or a center for disease control and play it for them so that they can order his arrest and his prosecution. Also take his picture and the doctor's to a reputable newspaper like punch, play the recording for them and expose them please. So amny lives could be saved through your effort. And when they are sentencing him to jail, the court could provide your friend restitution by seizing some of his assets and liquidating it if possible, to provide for mother and child. Please act fast. Goodluck. Anywhere you can expose him please do. And warn family and friends about him. There is no need for your friend to be ashamed, the deed has been done. This guy is on a murder-suicide quest and she just got caught in the middle.

Just be truthful and honest with her. You guys have been together for quite a while, and by now you should know how to talk to her. Tell her it is important to you, and it will help you keep your vows. *everyone has their preferences, and this is just yours. Dont mind the people trying to make you feel bad*
Then you guys can work on something. Maybe changing the diet and exercise. This kind of healthy and active lifestyle will be a good example for your children, and doing it together will help you guys bond. Goodluck.

It seems like we have found our first Nairaland Maga. Please Beingme, am sure this one will offer you money just to go on a date with him. Abeg send us control number here. He likes the fact that he is not sensible with his money, and its worth. He is willing to spend. When you hammer with him, please send us our own.

You did the right thing. Maybe the guy has scammed her of the money and she has no where to turn to. You have shown that you love and respect yourself. That was a big mistake, and you have learnt from it. Next time dont be setting up stuff for girlfriends until she is good enough to be your wife, and she has a ring on her finger with your baby on the way.lol.

Someone has a fear of real commitment . Its normal, you see the relationship getting very serious and you are scared. You need to take sometime to figure out what is making you scared and if she is the right person for you. You also need to think about sharing the rest of your life with her, and if you are ready to take the bold step.

I think a belief system is important when choosing a spouse. Its easier for the family, and makes for a more unified belief, moral and value system. Its either you become atheist for love or you go with your family and find someone else. I have a wonderful family, and i trust their opinions. I take whatever they tell me, even if it is something i will not like to hear. It has helped me so far, and i will always have their support just in case things dont go my way. Family support is very very important, especially if you come from a good and trusting family, which you love so much. Goodluck on your decision.

I wonder why you are on here complaining. You decided to date a girl with so much emotional baggage without making sure she was over it in the first place. She must have been very vulnerable when you met her. And there is something like the "battered woman's syndrome" you know. I think you are taking this too hard, just understand that she must be an emotional mess with lots of issues and you are better off. If she decides to be with someone that will kill her someday, it shows she doesnt have respect for herself or her life. Move on, and keep being "just friends" with her, because i think she really needs help. Also always have an open heart, it is only the immature that turn against women. You may end up missing out on the woman for you.  

xavier3:
^^^^^ if u feel shes got odas den y wuld she b dat strict wit me not 2av anytin 2do wit oda females. i also asked her not 2av options cos i intend marrying her.

I am sensing there is either a huge age gap between you guys, or she does not trust you and is keeping her options open. She may just also be that kind of person. Dont let her "humble" attitude fool you, it is all pretense.
1)If there is a big age gap; she is immature and not at the stage that you are at. That is why sometimes its best to date a girl no more than 4 years younger than you are.

2) Some girls believe it or not are just like some men. They have their main guy and then others. It makes them feel good about themselves. This girl has the ability to detach herself from really falling in love. I think she is keeping her options open really. You should take a break from her as she does not respect a good guy like you. This kinds of people hardly change, they are either attention seekers (enjoy attention they get from men and cannot do without it), or they are just loose. Am sure you want a good wife and mother, this one may not be it for you. Look for a more mature and level headed lady. good luck.

Siena:
I doubt that would work. The doctor would be bound by code of ethics - it's not his place to divulge medical records to a wife / husband's partner.

This is your answer as to why she should sue:

edgenig:
he really ruined her life,he conived with his best friend who is a doctor and hid his hiv status from the wife during her antenatal.

I am guessing a doctors creed should be first to do no harm. Now there is a difference between confidentiality and negligence. I am sure he could at least suggest blood tests so that she will find out, and she could get adequate treatment to prevent passing the virus to the child. Now it may be too late. . Both the Doctor and husband a murderers and should be arrested, even sentenced to death self. People that maliciously spread and conceal the spread of this virus should be rewarded with a death sentence. This is also a warning to girls that go after rich men, your life is not worth it. Money is not everything.

She has another boyfriend or other boyfriends. Your clue is when she doesnt want to be seen with you holding hands walking down her street. Her boyfriend may live in the area. Shes not bipolar or a schizo, shes just a player. Or maybe keeping her options open, you must know by now that shes smart and knows how to juggle men. She also doesnt operate with emotions.

@ Poster,
so sorry to hear your story. The best thing to do is first expose the doctor and sue him for malpractice. Sue him heavily to the point where he will lose his office. If you feel that you do not have the strength or financial ability, take your story to the papers and expose him. Also expose this your ex husband and make his status known. Also put his picture up for all to see. When you are done with this still find a lawyer and sue his life. Even though if it was me i would have arranged the guy. The only issue is that he is the father of your unborn child, chai!!! he is desperately wicked. These kind of people dont deserve to breathe.

Since the police are being all investigative, what about the killers of Bola Ige and Dele Giwa? So many murders unsolved. Because it doesnt have to do with the political madness or god father's they are so quick to find the criminals. I didnt know they were this capable. Now they should investigate further and bring assasinator and their sponsors to book.

I wonder why you will invest so much in a girlfriend. When you know relationships can come to an end. Why dont you keep all those things for your wife? Or are you trying to buy the girl? I think it was something you did just to buy her, that's why you behaved this way. Just take the car and let her go her own way and have peace. Your type is the type of guy that counts favors. Next time dont do more than you can lose for a girl, do it for your wife alone.

your boyfriend is probably in on it. I am very sure that they are testing you. Either that or the friend wants to test you to see if you are good enough for his friend. . Just tell your boyfriend quickly, all the details. I am sure he will pretend but he will trust you a lot more. I am sure him and his friend have discussed you to no length, and maybe your boyfriend is ready to pop the question, they just wanna make sure you are the right one. . You know how naija girls can like naija boys from obodo oyinbo.

@ poster,
We dont always have to have something with everyone we flirt with or who we thought we should have been with. Life moves on, and he has moved on too. Dont worry, you will get over it. He already has a fiance who he has introduced to his family, and would not leave her for you. All that will happen is an affair, and at the end of the day he would still get married to his fiance. I think you are a little jealous of what he has become and are thinking what if. Move on and leave him alone to be happy, you will get over him with time. Just take your eyes off this one. Besides if he has an affair with you, you dont want to end up with a man that cheated on someone else to be with you. There is nothing special about you, he will cheat when you finally think you have him all to yourself.

@ Poster
reread your whole post and tell us what you think. Maybe when you were thinking about it, it didnt make sense. Now that you have posted it you can reread it and do what is best for your life. Shes really taking you for granted, and it seems to me like you are a really good guy. You just have to realize that this happens to the best people. Just move on and find that girl for you. The one that is as good as you are. You are too young to even let matters of the heart interfere with your future and your education. Focus on your future and all else will fall in place. goodluck.

you are obviously soft headed that is why he tries that shit with you. When he knows you are a serious person and you mean business he will be there the same day. First change your locks, and call him to give him a week to pack his stuff you. Whenever he decides to come, make sure you have a male companion so he doesnt try any shit, and you have a witness. Also make him know they if he doesnt come for his stuff by the end of the week all his documents and clothes will go to charity. He can continue paying the bill, its not in your name so what do you care? It only affects him. He is playing on your compassionate nature. He obviously has a place, because he is not homeless. so he should not bother you with his stuff. useless dude jumping from one woman's house to the other.

eyah Dara, It seems like you really love this guy. When he said that rubbish, you should have asked your brother to return his stuff to him. That was totally disrespectful to you. He obviously has someone else at home, and has told you about the person to your face. Although he uses the aunty story to make it more presentable. Soon he will come up with the story that his family members are forcing him to marry her, and he has to obey them. Just start removing yourself small small. Stop picking his calls and even remove him from facebook sef. Also stop seeing him so much. Before you know it, he is slowly getting off your mind, and he will definitely come to beg but please do not take him back. To him, you are just someone to warm his bed before his real sweetie is able to come around.

How about they make pledges to Nigerian people first, and clean up their own house. This is real mistaken priority! So many people suffering in Nigeria, and they are sending money to Haiti. What kind of rubbish government is this? They are concerned about false images.nonsense.

first get yourself a job, a car, and a place to stay that doesnt involve your parents living in the next room. Then be yourself and be wise about spending money. You dont have to throw money around . Although you cant be stingy sha, but just be smart with your money and invest it wisely to make you even more desirable. Also, go for the girls that are on your level, and you will not have to worry about her wanting you for your money.

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if the guy was that bad, she wouldn't have stayed with him for 4 years, let's be sincere, it was not because of the fact that he cheated that made her leave, i sense it was because she found someone else.

I dont think she has someone else, i just think she is hurt and wants his attention. Most girls think they can change men. And do you know how much he assured her that he will never cheat again? she may have believed, but what most guys dont realise is that once the trust has been betrayed, then its done. She will question everything you do. So before you cheat, think again.

yes, the guy screwed up to have spent such on the girl, but then why would she return some of the gifts and not all? and why the office and not his home? why in person and not sending someone to drop them at his house incase she was afraid of the guy?

Because she wants his attention, dont you get? any girl that does not still love him will return the car as well, because it will disgust her to see it as it reminds her of him. He needs to go and apologise to her. Moving on from a 4 year or long term relationship is not so easy. Am sure he knows the true, and real story behind this drama as i dont think we have even heard all of it. That is why he doesnt have the balls to go ask for his car back sef. This guy is a shady guy.lol. 

Just take time off from the relationship and give it time, because her behavior can affect you in very negative ways. It is a toxic relationship right now. If she wants to come back, tell her its best you guys are friends for now until she deals with her insecurities. In that time that you guys are friends, try to understand where she is coming from, and what caused these insecurities. Also make her understand that no one is perfect, as you will make mistakes so will she. She should also be banned from looking through your phone, emails or any other private stuff. If she cannot trust you, there is no reason for the relationship to continue. If she agrees to this and you guys get back after a while, but she remains unchanged? forget about her and end the relationship. Her attitude is negative, and toxic.

Eyah, pele. I understand sha that you have invested time and money. . The deal is that she was not yours to begin with because her heart was not with you. She was definitely still in love with her EX, and if you look back on the relationship you may have seen some signs. Did you do the N700k investment to make her stay and keep her with you? You should have also made sure you were a signatory to the account, except you gave her the money from your heart. If you did, then there is no reason to complain on here. Next time you want to invest heavily in someone, make sure you also have access to the money and she cant withdraw without your consent, or the person is your wife.

gaby:
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Oww please Mr. Man don't come in here and want to play Mr. Nice guy or responsible gentleman, I just don't buy your story because i can pick a lot of holes in it, Even if it were the way you stated it here then you started it with your flashings, what on earth were you going to where the lady was carrying out her job the next day with a different ride to chill if not to impress her or give her the green light and tell her you are big boy, are there no other chill-out spots in your neighbourhood??My friend abeg forget stories no come dey tell people rubbish for here,

You had your driver pick her up and took her to the hotel what did you guys discuss when you met her at the hotel and if you werent interested in her why would you leave her (enough cash according to you) including your email and what by the way is enough cash to you,

The topic even says more about you,

My sentiments exactly. He is one of those guys that loves girls to chase him, it feeds his ego. So in order for him to come and brag on NL about his abilities, he will first lead them on and seduce them. What was he doing back at where he met her the previous day with another flashy car? He obviously had intentions, and the girl caught up on it. I dont know exactly what he wants use to tell him. Or maybe he wants to flash himself here for other girls too.

na2day?:
dude, she just saved u some money for your next gf, be thankful. btw, ask her to return the car also and pay back all those school fees since she is in the "returning" mood. this is a recesssion, every little bit helps 



oh plzzzzzzzzzz, must u marry a girl just bcuz u dated her for 4 years? my neighbors have been dating for God knows how long, they have kids together but up still this day, they are not married and the woman is in her late 30s already. it is not by force to marry sum1 bcuz u date the person for years, if the other person dont like it, she can leave like this one did.  @ OP, collect that car ooo!

No one will date any guy for 4 years, especially a cheating one without hoping to get married. She is single and without a child. Because your neighbor settled to her lot doesnt mean this girl is the same. People can only take so much. I think she just wants his attention, cause if she was serious about returning his stuff she would have returned everything in her possession. e.g the car. The guy sef needs to apologize, he has not been the best person to that girl. People should have conscience sometimes, instead they come to NL with their half baked story looking for sympathy or support.

rotfllmao
really? .gonorrhea through condom, and two abortions. You are like her life saver. Wow, you are a really good guy, sad for you. As you see, all these small angel virgins can turn out to be demons whenever they are let loose. Abeg throw way am commot jare. she is a useless girl, without control and she will give you the big AIDS next. she has shown you her true color, please you should not even be asking this question. The girl is just bad, period. And shameless too for running back to you all the time to tell you about her escapades.