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harlos: *receives her with both arms and gives her a bear hug*

I've missed you too....

I'm terribly missing her right now
You know....that awkward moment when you needed her most too massage your back after a very stressful day

Awww….sawee Don't worry. She will be back in your arms soon.

luxanne: LoL

Hi Tex

Hehehe…just kidding

harlos knows that


Hi luxie

ileobatojo:

Pretty sure you didn't understand her post.

Explain it to me then. I am not Nigerian. I am baffled by the attitudes here concerning cheating. I sometimes misinterpret. Please tell me where I have erred. I think cultural differences are the reason I sometimes misinterpret. I am still learning. If you will explain I would appreciate it. Thanks.

alutacontinua: Of course,there is no effing way i'm gonna make him feel he'll be forgiven! Heck, any man I'm with knows the day he lifts his finger on me or digs anoda hole is the end of our relationship! At least, dt's what i'll make him bliv. Ain't no way i'm gonna tell him if he does it once and confesses and he's sober, then, it's all good!


However, the truth is if it happens, my heart is large enough to forgive ONCE!

Yes, he's never gonna see this post!

smh

alutacontinua: I bliv in second chances. If the cheatins is purely physical nd d work of d devil , I can forgive!

Yes, some cheating are better than others.

Cheating with my best friend/sister/maid is unforgivable!
Cheating on our matrimonial bed is utter rubbish!
Cheating continuously is not acceptable!
Cheating in the public, the type dt everybody knows and dey keep laffing at me on the street is stupidity!

Cheating faaaaarrrrrrrr away from home with a classier woman than I an under pressure, after which u come back home to tell me yourself with more than enough remorse, I can forgive that! And even forget! I can be dt forgiving! I bliv pple make mistakes!

If you are married, you are in for a miserable marriage, and will ultimately have a lousy life. You can never be happy this way. Eventually you will resent the husband, and hate your life. Although, by this time you will have no one to blame but yourself. If you enable his cheating, you really have no right to complain. Eventually it will catch up to you, and bite you on the behind. This type of marriage is not a viable one. It can only bread misery, distrust, spite, hate, disrespect and loneliness. If this is what you are willing to put up with to keep this sort of man, you are welcome to him. Just remember, you chose to stay in the situation. You have no right to complain. If he cheats once, shame on him. If you allow him to continue, shame on you.

Lilimax: Some will even quote a verse from the Bible to support their divorce claim.
They lack understanding I'll say because to err is human and to forgive is divine.
We always offend God daily but he still forgive us so why can't we forgive our spouse?

Forgiveness does not mean you have to stay in a situation. You can forgive someone and not have to stay with them. If they cheat once, they WILL do it again. As a matter of fact, when you catch them it is likely not the first time. I don't understand people who think forgiveness means you have to go along with something, be complicit in it. If he/she gets away with it once, they will continue. The next thing you know they bring home STDs and STIs. Also their immorality affects the entire family. Is this the kind of person you want influencing your children. Of course forgive them. That does not mean you have to continue living with them.

harlos: I'm not flying tonight...I'm crawling


Texas

Harlos!!...

*runs into his arms*



*looks around for sweet-tease*
hehehe

FOLYKAZE: Have you forgotten the whole Adam story were allegory?

The tree of life is in original term as intelligence.

The forbidden fruit is knowledge/consciousness

If they didn't eat it, we would have been here but more like zombie. Garden of Eden is here on earth.

They didn't even know they were naked. They didn't know what sex was. They were innocent. How could we be here if they never had sex. If they remained in this zombie-like state, how could any of us ever be?

jerusalem101: delicious I know you all will love this

LifeQuest: Nice to know that ...I hope you will follow my daily nugget too? I am starting to day

cool...thanks

Hi all...

Right on target again...

Alesh Keem: m not reall sure...
do u watch cartoons? :p

I watch cartoons.

How can you not be sure if you are a virgin or not?

still following...

These pix make me want to go there.

@Plaetton

Intereresting stuff. I'm very curious about this concept. I have always considered an extraterrestrial connection to creation. Before my Christian friends get their panties bunched up, this does not preclude the bible. I think it helps explain some things.

I have said before on this forum, that the creator is obviously a great scientist. To have created such an intricate web connecting everything in this world and beyond it. The science behind how everything in the universe works is fascinating and amazing. There is no way it could all have come from nothing. The human body alone, is a most amazing machine.

I will check out your suggestions and do some research. If you have anything else to share on this subject, please let me know. Very curious.

I realize this is long, but I wanted those who may not be able to open the link to be able to read it. There are a few things I find interesting with this guy and his philosophy. He has the right attitude, as a father and as a man.


I find his hands on approach to parenting is refreshing, though I would never expect such. Being a mom has always been the best job I will ever have. The thing I find interesting is the negative comments this man got because of the picture he posted. (The comments are bolded.) Incase you don't want to read the entire post.

It is ridiculous to me that in the year 2013/14 there is still such racism and hatred. I am appalled at the attacks against this man. He is obviously a good father and husband. These things are all that should matter here. This man should be commended not attacked. His race should not be a factor.

I found it interesting that he was attacked by his own race, as well as others. I have said this before on this forum; We need to stop referring to each other as black man/white man, and start referring to each other as 'MAN'. If we can do this, we then become 'HUMAN'. Mankind has made giant strides since Dr King gave his "I have a dream" speech. The United States now has a black president. It is hailed as ground breaking, and a big leap forward for the equal rights movement. It is that. My thought is this: Until we can refer to a man of color in the Whitehouse as 'The President' and not 'The Black President' we have not come far enough...




DDW= Daddy Doin' Work
DDW1= older daughter
DDW2= baby daughter
MDW= wife/mommy



http://daddydoinwork.com/dreamin/#more-3120

I Have A Dream
10/15/2013 By Daddy Doyin 238 Comments

Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. was one of the best orators in the history of the world and was one of the Top 10 Americans ever. Believe me, I’m not comparing myself to a legend like Dr. King, but I’m going to share my version of the “I Have A Dream” speech with all of you.
Before I start, let me give you some background.

Most of you know this, but I’m taking the month of October off from my corporate job for baby bonding with my 3-month old daughter. It’s a lot of work being a stay at home parent, but it’s so damn rewarding. My baby girl smiles at me nonstop these days and I know it’s attributed to the one-on-one time I’m spending with her. It’s a blast.
One morning last week, MDW was running late for work and was worried that she wouldn’t be able to get DDW1′s hair done before I had to take her to school. I told her that she could leave and I’d handle it. She countered by saying that doing her hair requires attention and the baby would get upset if I left her alone while I played the role of stylist. Again, I told her that I’d handle it. On the way out she said, “I’ll believe it when I see it.”

That’s when I put DDW2 in the Ergo, stood DDW1 on a stool and worked my hair magic. During the process, I thought, “There’s no way my wife will believe me if I don’t take a picture of this.” That’s when I set my camera up, put it on a 10-second timer, and took the photo you’re looking at right now. After 15 minutes of multitasking, the final result was a nice, tight ponytail for big sister and a happily sleeping baby in the carrier. Mission accomplished. I emailed the photo to her with the caption “Boom.” and we both got a good laugh out of it.


The calm before the Internet storm…
Little did I know how interesting things were about to become.
After eating some breakfast, I figured I’d post the picture on the DDW Facebook and Twitter feeds. Within hours, the picture went viral (well, at least “viral” for me). At last check, the photo was shared over 4,800 times, received over 3,000 comments, and was liked over 190,000 times. The photo was also “borrowed” by at least 13,164 Facebook pages before I could watermark it (OK, maybe not 13,164 Facebook pages…it was probably closer to 23,164 Facebook pages) That was a head-scratcher for me, because I never experienced something like this since I started blogging.
The reactions, comments, and emails I received ranged from the overwhelmingly positive to the downright nasty. But as I went through everything, I had a chance to reflect on what I hope for the future. Let’s do this.

I have a dream that insecure dads will spend less time hating on good dads and more time on getting their own shit together. I’d say 95% of the dads who follow me are actively involved in their kids’ lives and view parenting as a 50/50 endeavor with their wives/girlfriends. They send me “Thank You” emails, they’ll say it’s refreshing to see a guy (me) who embraces fatherhood as much as they do, and they’ll refer other good dads to my blog because they know I’ll celebrate them. Words cannot express how much I appreciate those men because they will play a huge role in making fatherhood “cool” again (granted, I always thought fatherhood was cool, but that’s another story).
On the flip side, there’s a small pocket of men out there that can’t stand me. Here’s a sampling of some of the private messages and comments I received from them after I posted this picture:

- “He probably rented those kids. They don’t even look like him.”
- “I would bet anything that you’re a deadbeat.”
- “OK buddy, cute picture. Now why don’t you hand the children back to their mom so you can go back to selling drugs or your bootleg rap CDs?”
- “So do you do this for all of your illegitimate kids?”


You get the idea.
As I’ve said in previous blog posts, I’m not immune to hate mail – and some messages are racist in nature and some aren’t. It comes with the territory of doing what I do and I completely understand that. However, do you know what’s funny? Oftentimes when a dude posts a public hateful comment on my FB page or Twitter feed, it’s followed up by his wife or girlfriend emailing me privately to apologize for his behavior. These women will tell me that their men are angry that I’m making them “look bad” because they aren’t holding up their end of the bargain when it comes to parenting. Here’s the thing: I don’t make anyone look bad. These guys are doing a fine job on their own according to the women in their lives.
Memo to the small pocket of male haters I have: Why don’t you put big boy shorts on and get in on the revolution of good fathers? It’s not a good look to tear down dads for doing the work your wives wished you were man enough to do on your own. If you don’t believe me, just ask your spouses. They’ll tell you.
But don’t worry. I’ll still be here whenever you’re ready to step your game up and join #TeamGrownAssMan.
Again, to the amazing fathers out there reading this (which happens to be the overwhelming majority) – much love to you guys. I appreciate you. Your spouses appreciate you. And most importantly – your kids appreciate you.

I have a dream that people will be judged by the content of their character and not by the color of their skin. OK, so I had to paraphrase the great MLK on this one. Surprisingly (well, not surprisingly to me) in this instance, the majority of racist emails I received came from other black people. Again, here’s a sampling:

- “This would be so much better if those kids were BLACK!”
- “Look at this Uncle Tom. No chance he would be doing this if his kids were black.”
- “I’m sorry, but I can’t support a brotha who didn’t marry a black woman.”
- “Your MOM is black and you dishonored her by marrying outside of your race? You probably can’t handle a strong black woman.”

***DDW steps away from his computer to check his calendar to ensure it’s 2013 and not 1913***
Allow me a moment to address the small pocket of racists who share the same race as me.
Dr. King dedicated his life to ensuring people could live a life free of judgments based on skin color. He dedicated his life to ensuring future generations could marry anyone without dealing with persecution. But there are people “on his team” (yes, I know we’re ALL on the same team, just roll with me on this, please) who are sabotaging his work. If the first thing you want to do is to criticize the skin color of my kids for not being as dark as mine, you have some serious issues.
Yes, I married a woman who is half-white and half-Japanese. Yes, the skin of my babies happens to be a few shades lighter than mine. Yes, my mom (a black woman born and raised in the deep south of Mississippi) loves my wife and kids because she’s smart enough to know that love is colorblind. All of my black friends and family members feel the same way.
You mad?
Grow up and stop being so fucking ignorant. You’re a damn embarrassment to Dr. King and his legacy.
To be clear, I’m not addressing all black folks here – because the overwhelming majority of my black followers are kind, clear-thinking, and intelligent individuals.
It’s just that the dumbest ones are usually the loudest ones.

I have a dream that people will view a man’s love for fatherhood for what it is instead of thinking there’s something “fishy” going on. A lot of people really dig the fact that I dig daddying (yes, I made it a verb) as much as I do. However, since I started my blog 17 months ago, I’ve come across some people who will look at me and think, “There’s no way this guy can be as passionate about fatherhood as he is. I bet he’s using his kids in an attempt to become rich and famous.” It’s sad.

Think of the Mommy blogs you like to follow (some of which have a larger following than I have). If they share their love for motherhood, you probably wouldn’t think twice about it because that’s what moms are “supposed to do,” right? But if a human being with a penis shares the same passion for being a parent, it somehow becomes strange and fishy? And that makes sense…how, exactly?
I love being a dad and I love sharing my love of fatherhood with others. Shit, being a dad is one of the few things in life I’m actually good at. Of course I’m going to be passionate about this gig. My dream is that ALL people will embrace men who embrace fatherhood instead of wondering if they have ulterior motives. Remember, we’re the good guys in this fight.

I have a dream that people will view a picture like this and not think it’s such a big deal. Don’t get me wrong here – it’s a very cute picture, and it’s cool when people say so. However, I start to get a little uncomfortable when people want to start planning parade routes for me because of it. Somewhere there’s a dad doing the exact same thing for his daughters. Somewhere there’s a dad who put his foot down with his boss and refused to attend an “urgent staff meeting” so he could leave work early to attend his daughter’s dance recital. Somewhere there’s a single dad successfully getting his three sons ready for school. Somewhere there’s a stay at home dad crushing all of the cooking, cleaning, laundry for his family. Somewhere there’s a dad who would rather play catch in the backyard with his son instead of killing pixelated terrorists on his XBox.


In other words, there are plenty of good, involved dads out there. Many of them are reading this post right now.
I’ve posted hundreds of pictures of my family since I started blogging and I had no idea that this one would cause such a seismic shift on the WWW. But what if I posted a picture of MDW doing what I did in that picture? Many would probably think it’s cute, but after ten seconds of looking at it, they would probably move on to the next shiny object on their newsfeed. Why? Because it just wouldn’t be a big deal to many people if a woman did it.

Until we can get to the point where men and women can complete the same parenting tasks and the reactions are the same, we will have problems. If you want to create a statue for me for taking care of my daughters, create one for the moms who are doing the same damn thing everyday for their kids without receiving a “Thank you” or an “Ooooh” or “Ahhhh.”
These behaviors should be expected of moms and dads. No exceptions.

That ends my rant.
For many of you, this is the first blog post you’ve ever read from me. Just so you know, I’m usually the lighthearted guy online and I’m rarely this angry – but today I had to regulate a bit.
In time you’ll determine if you love me or hate me. If you love me, that’s good news because I’m going to continue doing the stuff you love. If you hate me, that’s bad news because I’m going to continue doing the stuff you hate. If you fall into the “hate” category, just send my blog to all of your enemies (that’ll show ‘em). For the rest of you, I’m so humbled and happy to be a guy you follow and enjoy as we embark on this crazy road of parenthood together.

plaetton: Well well, it is not my fault if your head is too opaque to appreciate humor, especially when such humor is laced with factual truths that have unfortunately eluded you.
I do not shoot humor for humor sake. My humor are usually loaded with nutrients for the cranially dexterous.

You see sometimes when simple words are not enough to counter illogic and bullshyt from a fragmented mind, a shot of humor can quickly get the message across, unless, as in this very case, I am dealing with a chronic case of intellectual bulemia.

So take note the next time I crack a joke.

I think I am beginning to identify with the irreligious much more than I am comfortable with.

FOLYKAZE: Just imagine Adam was wise enough and didn't accept the forbidden fruit.....Eve like fellas would have be holy without external force.

Yeah, but without the forbidden fruit neither of them would have know it, and you and I would not be here.

FOLYKAZE: Clothes ignite lust and fornication. Sexy gals in bikini and handsome guys tight button displaying six pack.

You are right about the bolded. Maybe they should leave the shirts off. Yeah...I think you are on to something here. They should definitely leave the shirts off. Way too distracting for sure.

Heathen: That's him.
What's more astonishing is the number of likes his conspiracy-fused posts garner.

His posts are killing me, can't stop laughing.

I still say he is Obadiah...He says no. He is very charismatic. That is all it takes for some to believe anything someone says. Look at the charismatic religious leaders people have followed over the years. Many turn out to be charlatans. Some even turn out to be deadly. He is charming and charismatic that is the reason for the likes. Most are probably women.

[quote author=PAGAN 9JA]no this creature was active before you guyz joined here.

I found him. His name is jantavanta .

Have fun : https://www.nairaland.com/955076/black-african-nobility-ancient-europe[/quote]Lol. Here is another.

https://www.nairaland.com/1582577/salutations-all-israel-nairaland-come/3#20734975

I believe there are more. It's an all out invasion....

[quote author=2s£xy]I know the dude would have given her a UK number to call. But trust me... You can get a UK number that can ring here in Nigeria on your phone if called.[/quote]Yeah, I got a VPN for my Naija trip so my phone would appear to be ringing in the US, to save costs.

[quote author=PAGAN 9JA]This must be n the Culture section by that annoying afro-centrist (i 4got his name)

remember arguing against his su.pidity so many times.


the guy really angried me with his mental claims.[/quote]Is it MEILYN?

Ishilove: That must be Obadiah777's thread

I miss that looney fella

me too...

FOLYKAZE: You right.

But lets get it straight this way.....naturalistic pantheism is the same thing as spiritual atheism.

Too many isms:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Glossary_of_philosophy

I tire o0O

Whether you realize it or not, you have emasculated him. He knows you don’t trust him. He realizes you have no respect for him. Even if he has done things to make you distrust him, they are in the past. This man has allowed you to walk all over him, for the sake of his children, and I’m sure for you. You say his desire to reconcile is because of shame. This could very well be true, but it is you who have shamed him. He is a proud African man. He knows that you do not respect, honor or love him. He is beaten down, and defeated. You expect him to be able to please you in bed, when he feels this from you?

This comes down to one thing, you cannot feel attracted to him because you don’t trust him, or respect him anymore. If you can let go of the past, you can regain what you once had. If not: you, your husband, and your children will be miserable. This will be true if you stay together, or not, unless you let go. Whether you realize it or not your children can feel this too. Do you think your son will respect his father if he knows that you do not? Your husband knows this too. Do you need to wonder why he would feel shame? You won’t allow him to feel anything else. He is defeated at your hands.

Some women here will be angry when I say this, but here goes. This is all on you. Yes he was the one who initially created the mistrust. You may not realize you’ve done it, but you took that mistrust and turned it into a weapon against him. It is something he can never get past, and he knows it. You won’t forgive him, and you won’t allow him to forget it. You took him back. Part of that deal should have been letting it all go and starting over. Instead you have allowed it to fester and grow into the monster it has become. Release him from this burden. Relieve yourself of the mistrust you have allowed to turn to spite. Until you do, you will never be happy, with or without him.

obillyj: it's not UK passport but UK visa.

Yeah my bad...not paying attention to what I'm typing. It is 12:40am here. Sorry

Modified...

SMH

obillyj: i really love all u said.

the latest reaching me now is that he spoke with her last night n asked her to scan d ppt and send to him which he will forward to someone at British embassy Abuja that will contact her on when to go for d interview. while he will also send an invitation letter to d embassy. he walks with British airways UK so he said he will send d ticket.

am really afraid for her. i think i will consult a prophet on her behalf. hahahahaha.

Ok...I would definitely check into what it takes to get a UK visa. In order to get my Nigerian visa I had to get a letter of invitation too. The host had to give me a copy of the signature page of HIS passport. Not the other way around. I think he should be giving you his info. After gathering all the required documents I then had to send everything to the Nigerian Embassy here in the US. Please have your friend go online and find out what the requirements are for a UK visa.