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Flamezreal:
The worst is the one trying to get pregnant but not wanting to have sex after years of marriage All what you wrote up there are my experience.

How's your wife trying to get pregnant without having sex? Is it via Assisted reproductive technology like IVF

cryptofredoom:
If you read through my write up, you will notice I had refrained from sex till I was over 30 years old. And my wife is the first woman I had sex with.

We had sex once after our traditional marriage, even though she accepted to do it reluctant and gave the excuse of not wanting to get pregnant before the white wedding. Which was mainly due to the church rules I presumed.

Fasssssssssssst forward... for the Christian brothers and principled men who don't want to engage in premarital sex, be wary of such decision. It is synonymous to going to market and buying a non-tested hi tech equipment.

The pains of not getting it right is enormous, it's not worth the risk. This past six years have been full of regrets, and I am forced to seek solace ' outside the box'.

If I may ask, are you Deeper Life members?

There's a girl I'm seeing now with almost similar traits as you've listed and she's a Deeper Lifer let me know and make up my mind before taking the next step.

PS: This is not in anyway to cast aspersions on anyone's religious inclinations and beliefs. T for thanks.

newdawn2017:
or can't d child's mother discipline d child. Their re limits within which he can discipline d child period! Their limits within which he can partake in d child's life especially when d other parent is is alive & very much active in d child's life, he shouldn't ursurp d other parent. In any manner period unless he has fully adopted d child to be his own.

At the bolded, pray tell, what is his role in the child's life then? To only work and provide money for the upbringing of another man's spawn yet have no input in how his money is been utilized and how the child is brought up.

That's why any young man should avoid playing the game of single mothers, period. Why play in a game in which you're already at a disadvantage from the get go and with some many restrictions, dos and donts on how to train your child. Why play a match where the opponent is already 1:0 up against you, it not balanced.

newdawn2017:
he will discipline d child with his limits as a step parent. Due will discuss with his wife d limits of discipline in cases when she isn't around. For bigger issues he hands it over to d original parent his wife to handle...

In essence, the guy's job is to contribute money for the upbringing and provisions needed by the child, but when it comes to discipline and corrective measures for a wayward, recalcitrant and petulant child, then he should hands off and let the mother do the needful because he is not the original parent. Yet it didn't occur to you when he was working to provide for child's upbringing that he was not the biological dad of the child, right?

Being a stepfather is indeed a thankless job. Heads or tails, you never win.

1stGenAmerican:
Sir, I have no mess to clean.
Marrying a single mother is not for the weak or faint hearted.
I’m sorry that you aren’t the kind of man that has the determination to take nothing and nurture it into something. I’m also sorry that you’ve only had negative experiences but I am not you. I don’t believe in discouragement and negativity when the situation can have an incredible outcome. A determined person with a positive mind has power to change any circumstance.

Women and their manipulative mind games never ceases to amaze me.

You call a young man weak and fainted hearted because he doesn't want to be saddled with another man's spawn but would rather have his own family a new. Lol.

1stGenAmerican:
I don’t have any experiences as a single mother but I know of a few bad stories about them marrying men but for every bad, I know 10 good. The OP is likely hearing the negative but being an optimist, I found some good examples.

->Multimillionaire Shaquille O’Neal’s mom was poor when she married his stepfather. Shaq attributes all credit for his achievements to his step-father.
Refuses to have a relationship with his bio father or his bio fathers family, all who are very poor. He retired his step-father from the US Army and made him a millionaire.

->Kanye West was raised by his single mother Donda. Today, he’s on the list of the world’s only Black billionaires (15 total). Net worth $2 billion usd.

->Barack Obama had no father in his life. Became the US President, has a net worth of $70 million usd married to a woman with a personal net worth of $5 million usd.

->Jay Z, on the list of One of the world’s 15 Black billionaires. Raised on welfare by single mother. Current Net worth $2 billion USD.

->Angelina Jolie- no father in the picture when she was a child. Current net worth $120 million USD.

->Mariah Carey- mom struggled to raise she and her sister alone, dads absent. Raised on welfare and government benefits. Current net worth $320 million

->Rick Ross- mother abandoned by father, raised on welfare. Current net worth $45 million

->Keanu Reeves- Immigrant. He and his mother were abandoned by his father when he was 3. He was raised by a single mother that lived on welfare and government benefits in Canada. Current net worth $380 million.

-> Justin Bieber- current net worth $285 million

->Leonardo Di Caprio- currently worth $260 million

->Adele raised by a single mother and once lived in UK Council Housing. Current net worth $220 million.

->Alicia Keyes raised by a single mother. Current net worth $150 million.

->Sean “Puffy” Combs, raised by a single mother after his father was killed. Current net worth $580 million. Mother is now a millionaire.


The list never ends.
Men passed up all these people’s single mothers. I’m sure that all of their absent fathers wish they would’ve been present and men who passed up their single mothers because she had a child have deep regrets to. Most of them, Shaq especially, has refused to give his biological father or his family even $1.

Confirmation bias!

How easy is it to cherry pick a handful of cases where the children of single mothers turned out to be recognized in the society. Now, tell us about the thousands of homicides and felonies committed by children without a father. Have you checked the prison records to know the proportion of prisoners who were raised in fatherless home?

It's quite disingenuous to use these few examples to drive home your support for single mothers. For each case you mentioned, there are also hundreds of much more successful individuals who were raised in a complete home with a father.

It never existed.

Drenimarcus:
Reality has dawned on them. Everyday, i see dead Ukrainians at least 50 daily, NATO weapons being destroyed or captured, soldiers surrendering. Now, Russia war ships are on their way to Odessa. Watch as the MSM will divert people attention away from the war seeing that Russkies are decimating the Ukrainians.

It's happening already. The MSM is now trying to take us back to news of Coronavirus, with news of new positive cases among some high profile vaccinated and boosted individuals (read Kamala); Ukraine is gradually taking a back seat.

Katier00:
what do you mean by enslave? This is a public forum not a psychiatrist ward. The man in question is 56 while Rita is 47. Biko just wish them well

Are you kidding me? They really don't look their age. I was taking the Fidelis guy to be in his mid fourties.
This is what keeping a healthy lifestyle and money does to someone's body.

rickpat:
any man that cannot or has no plans of moving the wife and kids abroad to join him...HAS A WIFE ABROAD...no need deceiving yourself.

I have one around..she has a child..the man is in the UK..stays there permanently...sends her 50pounds for feeding. pays the rent and school fees... imagine 50pounds...the man has been in the UK for over 20years...matured man o..he barely comes o..he can go years without coming...and you say he has no woman there...


my advise to ladies.. don't just marry any man cus he is abroad and promised to take you there... simple

Lol....

We call them Our Nigerian Wife

They are fully in the know about the husband's marital status abroad and are content with being the Nigeria-based wife, taking care of whatever property or investment the man has at home.

Maryjane001:
Invest ke?. Where the money?.
If I start getting steady income, na to do stocks, forex or crypto.

Did you say forex and crypto? Lol.

There are so many Ponzi schemes masquerading as forex (remember MBA Forex?) and crypto trading that if you're not careful, you'd fall prey to these schemes thinking you're in the real business

BRATISLAVA:
They never learn.

Every 3 months another one springs up. Every year, more tears. It's funny. Will they ever learn? Or are the forces of greed and laziness that strong?

Someone said, everyday a new mugu is born in Nigeria. Maybe the old ones learnt their lessons and the new entrants in the field will get burnt. And the cycle continues

Glocee:
Why are you not married? A pastor asked me that, I answered that I don't know. Come hear wetin him tell me say naim cause am.
It's well sha!

Lol... People can be nosy.

Abeg, wetin him say be the cause?

Bukasint:
Good evening. Pls what are things one need travel along with. I was given a funded scholarship
Pls what are the things one need not to forget while leaving Nigeria. Pls those who have left the country pls what are the things needed apart from the scholarship requirements.

Good evening Doc

Please, I'd like to get some information about postgraduate studies in the US.

1. Did you take GRE or IELTS or Both
2. Are you doing a direct PhD. Is it possible?
I read where you said you applied to 20+ schools, how do I go about that and what are their requirements.

.....

I have more questions and clarifications but I'd be glad if you can answer the above. Thanks, I appreciate.

OdenKelechi:
Comparing my salary to that of her ex

1st mistake on your part was telling her how much you earn

Tonnyray:
This guy, are you human?
This sh*t is fvcking deep man!
More wisdom bro.

Chief, did you just discover this gem of a thread?

I always come to read one or two lines

SQLmastar:
MBA will come back soon.
When her funds in a Carribbean bank is unfrozen, they would commence payments.

Insider information.

Boss how far the account na? Em still dey inside freezer ni abi Maxwell Odum don release another OT.

Abeg give us update. And in case you site Maxwell, tell am say there's a bounty on his head

emmanuelewumi:
If you know that your shares are underpriced you will borrow against them or use cash flow from your shares rather than selling them

Insiders sell their shares when they are overpriced, like what MTN group is currently doing

Sir, what's your take on the ongoing MTN PO?

Buy or Pass

Ok

Ok

SenecaTheYonger:
You think this is called handling situations? You’re just scared. If you had balls like a man you would have tested your gfs loyalty there by observing how the message will go.

She’s the one who supposed to block him not you. She is the one who is supposed to make that conscious decision to block him, women are not stupid, you know? One of the reasons you blocked him is because sub-consciously, you know there's a possibility, (however slim it is), that she could give into temptation. Because this won’t be the only one to want more than her attention, there will be more. Are you going to become the blocker of men? She should have the foresight to do that. Perhaps she’s keeping a plan B aside, or perhaps she only shows you what she wants you to see.

Anyways, women are not naive, they're not stupid, and they're not innocent.

This is the problem with simps, manginas and white knights. They infantilise women as a group incapable of agency and self-directed action, hence the need for them to always be there to protect women from vicissitudes and curve balls that life throws at us all.

Imagine he's acting as the blocker-of men coming for his girlfriend. I guess he'll be tagging along with her everywhere she goes so as to ensure no guy ever approaches her.

TheGidRedpiller:
Men, read TheGoodJoe's Story and when you are done, read it again!

I've been reading it again, and again, and again... �

authority2006:
He's dead to her because he played dead. Let dead daddies be dead daddies in peace.

Oga, why rationalize this obvious lie. She meant what she said literally and not figuratively.

Raalsalghul:
Una wicked for this Nairaland; small thing una tender receipts.

Bro, that is a troll account recently created by the jobless mofo just to get back at her.

That's what he does best - clone accounts and use for trolling

JovialJune:
When that troll is tired he will keep shut and move on, whatever moniker that looks like mine, was created recently, I've had this moniker since last year.

That's his special way of getting at whomever he disagrees with - creating an account very similar, but with a a slight difference,from the original account, which he then uses for selfish interests

lprintMONEY:
stop lying you're into escort services and your sex starved hungry clients connect with you through coded runs and other prostitution apps.
Just came after this post of yours..
Screenshots below

You're the most pathetic miserable loser I've seen on this forum bar none, with all the time in his hands to troll strangers on a faceless site.

It still amazes me how you go about cloning peoples Monika with the sole aim of trolling and creating a false impression of them, are you that jobless? Pray tell, how many Nairaland accounts have you created just today? Total?

Outside of this site, I wonder what kind of life you live.