₦airaland Forum

Ishilove:
A former colleague is selling her aso-ebi for 15k. I heard and kuku acted like I did not hear. On that day, I will wear my normal ankara and eat three plates of rice, dust my nyash afterwards and catwalk home. No time

Shuo! You bad o.

I wonder why people spend so much on a one-day event. God helping me I won't do pass myself - won't even relate with a lady that will make me to - if God says the brother will marry. I'd rather spend more on wedding anniversaries.

I don't even like involving too many people in what I do.

dat9jaguy:
Abegi carry your bad belly commot for here.
Leonard mean strong as a lion.
Una go just dey type anything wey enter una head.

Thank you for reminding me, bro! Fear first catch me.

And is Leah not a biblical name? OP, abeg...

As bad as this country appears to be, I almost found this hard to believe. Things happen and can be saddening.

Keep moving on, soldier! This phase shall pass.

I see you write well. Why don't you give online content writing a try? It might not make you rich, but you may be able to get something better than you currently earn. A secret: that's contributed greatly to my not worrying so much about lack of a job all these years.

As someone suggested above, you may also try working as a teacher. You will at least have more time to do other things or earn extra doing tutorials.

This is lovely. Congrats on the journey so far.

But money good o.

Honestly, I find it hard to believe that someone would postpone their service year because of those things you listed up there. Just my opinion.

By the way, the list felt somewhat like luxury (though it's necessarily not) compared to what I took to orientation camp several years ago. My supplies weren't the best, but hey I survived, thanks to God.

If you're reading this, how about you borrow some money to be covered with your first allowance that would be paid at the camp?

FavRicc:
why can’t you just overlook the post and move on please?!

If the claim was true, minding one's business is a wrong piece of advice here - though I don't support the insult. That's one of the ways things get worse in this country.

SanctifiedSista:
.shareflats on twitter and Instagram helps alot

Thanks for the heads-up. Sadly, I don't live in a flat.

Or can you volunteer?

SanctifiedSista:
1..Pray for this Nation nigeria
2... Don't display wealth on social media or brag to friends or strangers
3.. be careful of who you allow into your house as maids or repair persons
4. ...avoid living in a lonely place especially singles. If you are a single guy or girl, get someone to stay with u

Nice tips. But that No. 4... Where do you get someone to stay with you?

Mayvin:
I don't think marriage can solve lust.
But thanks for your input nonetheless.

It might not but would help. You will be spending your "alone" time more with your wife, I guess.

Since you feel a connection with your neighbour (you meet up several times for chats in camera), why not just consider marrying her?

Yes, you may said marriage isn't the next thing for you. I'd beg to differ because you couldn't afford to be all alone, preferring instead to invite her over (maybe go to her place) now and then.

Get married, man!

Accept my condolences. May God rest his soul and grant you and all he left behind fortitude to bear the loss.

pocohantas:
It is. But if you didn’t figure out my worth/value before you started pursuing me upandan, no ask me nonsense question. I dey hot tempered, make I no pour am hot water.

Not good.

SaintMog:
I handled the male side. Average of #80k. I warned the women to be careful and they kept to my warning.

I asked the youths how many of them can afford the list and they said that I'm a white man. They said that if I cut it too much that I will use my money to augment.

It's the immediate family that can solve your problem. I find it insulting that an in-law will be unhappy because of bride price. No decent and enlightened family will allow that. I'm a pure Lagos boy.

This is almost unbelievable! You're indeed enlightened, sire.

A man shouldn't see the bride price as a potential snag to getting married to someone in the ideal world, but it doesn't seem like we live in one around here.

The bold portion was somewhat funny, though.

Damovintrain:
Get them engaged in discussion,
Like a friend of yours wants to get married soon to so n so tribe and this their demand..... What's the demand here
Or beta still get people from that community ask them.

And if you r privileged to witness a wedding there then asked her how much it costs to hold one





Yet, being direct isn't bad though

Nice idea, sir. But won't she suspect if I started saying a friend wanted to get married and is concerned about the demand?

I don't even know their communities yet let alone knowing people from there.

SaintMog:
I have a couple of ladies from Imo currently as friends. They're decent and I wouldn't mind getting married to either one. But I am scared about starting something more serious because of...I guess you know what. I don't have a lot of money at the moment.

I don't like doing more than myself, so I wish to have an idea of how much it could cost to get married to either of these ladies before going too far. Is that possible?

I'd rather not be too direct about this to avoid misunderstandings and coming across as disrespectful. Is there any way to find out this more cleverly before I invest too much time in a relationship?

Thanks in anticipation.

Don't mind all the noise about high bride price in Igbo land. It all depends on the family. How enlighten are they? Two of my sisters got married last year March. I forced the villagers to monetize the list. They started bargaining. I acted as the go-between. I cancelled a lot of the items that they said belong to my family. At the end they paid little or nothing. I did that because I don't want any young man to come and brag about how he bought my sister. One has put to bed. I bought things worth more than what he spent to see the baby. It depends on how enlightened the family is.

Thanks, sir. We need more people like you!

But could you tell what the final list came to, in terms of money equivalent?

duduade:
contacter ni

Aha, o wrong na.

Could someone here help with ideas on to find out bride price without being too direct, please?

I have a couple of ladies from Imo currently as friends. They're decent and I wouldn't mind getting married to either one. But I am scared about starting something more serious because of...I guess you know what. I don't have a lot of money at the moment.

I don't like doing more than myself, so I wish to have an idea of how much it could cost to get married to either of these ladies before going too far. Is that possible?

I'd rather not be too direct about this to avoid misunderstandings and coming across as disrespectful. Is there any way to find out this more cleverly before I invest too much time in a relationship?

Thanks in anticipation.

AsherAmari:
Men.

I just weak for una matter.

You no marry wahala
You marry, so so nonsense.

We don start o. Women are saints, huh?

olumide4christ:
[b]BEWARE!! – BUYING THESE LANDS MAY INCREASE YOUR CONSTRUCTION COST ASTRONOMICALLY! (PART 4)


SLOPING LAND

This is a kind of land that has a steep gradient (or slopes) from one end of it to the other and/or in different directions, usually encountered in hilly terrain.

The Issues – The pertinent issues that may arise when using sloping land for construction are:

 Limitation of design – Due to the sloping nature of the land, architects are usually limited to design buildings with different levels leading to stepped foundations, in a bid to reduce cost.

 High foundations – As a result of the sloping nature of the land, foundations would have to be made higher either by structural design or by implementation on site. This results in - increasing the height of the foundation blockwall or concrete raft ground beams; increased quantity of filling sand resulting from the increased height of foundation; introduction of concrete tie beams (in case of blockwall foundations) due to the increased height of blockwork.

In conclusion, if possible, it is advisable to avoid buying sloping land; it leads to increased cost of foundation works. I have a personal experience on this, when I bought a sloping land in an estate in Abuja some years ago. Due to the sloping nature of the land, we eventually ended up spending about N2.1 million for foundation works for the main building and boys quarters, as against about N1.6 – 1.7 million due to the factors mentioned above.[/b]

Wow! This post and the thread as a whole are quite educative.

I found this thread while trying to find out whether buying land in a slopey terrain is advisable. The quoted post is enlightening in this regard.

If I may ask, sir, is it likely for foundation on a slopey lot to cost more than 30% more compared to regular foundation on flat plain? Thanks.

Any idea about this, please?

I believe there are people who have built their own houses here. Thanks in anticipation.

Hello, everyone. Please I need experts in the house to clarify something for me.

I was reading an article about building approval and how it is needed before commencing any development work in Lagos. A portion of the article mentioned something about the need to have a certificate of occupancy (C of O) before one can apply for such (you may view the attached screenshot).

That was a surprise to me seeing that many people build on land with no C of O in Lagos. Does it mean those structures have no approved building plans? I don't get it. Please help explain.

Bouz:
Ensure it's not the first or second daughter, you are getting married to. if you are not financially stable. from the third daughter it's fine

Thanks for the heads-up, sire! One or two persons have probably now been ruled out because of this.

[quote author=Bouz post=99339237]Specifically imo and anambra girls [color=#990000][/color] [/quote]Na this kain posts dey scare me.

I am always running into ladies from that state and I often have doubts whether I can meet up financially with marrying one. As they say, when money isn't at home you don't start making plans.

Babara1994:
I sat behind a woman today and it wasn't comfortable at all. My ass bone was just hitting the bike metal.

This. I try to avoid boarding a bike with ladies at all. Too much drama for me.

I wonder why some men are bothered about sitting in the middle, though. It's better for me!

You'd often be sitting on a metal when occupying the rear or trying to deal with someone bumping their backside into you. At other times, it will be a lady feeling suspicious of you getting too close.

Another product of failed parenting, possibly. How did she get the gun? Me sef wey don old enough (I guess) to be her father never held one or even come too close to someone holding one.

Look at the society we're building. I can trace this to misplaced priority in our society today.

By the way, for a moment, the community school I served at came to mind briefly when I saw the picture with soldiers. The incident coincidentally seemed to happen in the same state. The road this country seems headed down is scary.

Oluwapresley:
Hahaha. You just want someone to validate your thoughts. I am in this exact dilemma. I feel like Ibeju Lekki is on a different planet. That place is freaking far. Plus cost of constructing probably due to extra sand filling cox of the nature of lands there and erm, the flood that might come during raining season. My heart and head say areas like Ikd and Mowe might just be better but when you speak with realtors, they all say Ibeju Lekki. I don tire ah swear. I was very close to getting one at Agbowa in Ikorodu but because of this indecisions. phooey!

You took this right out of my mouth! That Ibeju is both far and expensive. It's not just about being bushy - practically all low-budget areas are.

Yeah, I have also been leaning more towards the Ikorodu axis after visiting a location at that Ibeju. The thing is that I am being very cautious with some observed issues, including litigation and potential government acquisition.

sgtponzihater1:
Real estate is Nigeria is a scan. Nothing favourable in buying land in Ibeju Lekki. Realtors will decieve people with dangote refinery, however they only want to sell their overpriced lands. I would choose a developed site in Opic, Isheri GRA, some part of Simawa and even Ikorodu over that very distant bush called Ibeju Lekki.

Ps: I lived in Ibeju Lekki before. Sad thing we had to go to the first bank close to LBS to withdraw, and sometimes, I had to drive to Epe.

Thanks! This somewhat captured my thoughts; it validated my concerns in a way. It gave me more to think about.

mattsvibes:
It all depend on ur choice as realtor I will never force or impose of any my client to buy what he did not rather I would advise him/ her to step up his budget ....
ikorodu was once like ibeju lekki opic and the rest

I guess the bold implies that Ikorodu is better than Ibeju, right? Thanks.

jagaban002:
Traveling to Ibadan is very fast from ibeju Nd faster .
For ibeju to CMS self is simple and easy because I do take direct bus whenever am going to mandelas .
Well about ur construction is just like normal dues people pay for building house in Lagos e.g omo onile , local goverment and maybe street development fee .

Regarding the bold, I wonder how, though. A look at Google Maps doesn't suggest so, but thanks for your input.

I once went to that side, although not the popular area (went to the Elerangbe/Arapagi axis). From NNPC Majek area at Sangotedo, it took about an hour to get to the location I went to. And that side was supposed to be shorter in distance, compared to the more popular section.

I also read an account by a lady of how it took her around three hours to get to La Campagne from Ajah. Some estate locations are even after that resort. The distance seems a bit scary.

VictorUSA:
I'm going to the USA

Abeg, comot that name from your moniker.

jagaban002:
Very very simple question
. I will choose ibeju ahead of all this places because ibeju get better future pass this locations

Thanks for the response, sir.

I was only concerned about the travel time - about same as traveling to Ibadan (CMS to that area) - plus possible construction issues or cost implications.

Hello! A quick one: is a place far in Ibeju Lekki (such as Ode Omi) better for acquiring a piece of land at a higher price when more affordable offers are available in places like Mowe, Atan Ota, Ikorodu, and even Simawa.

I'm somewhat confused about this, especially when you consider that these other places are closer to central areas than Ibeju and the terrains may be less expensive to build on.

Is Ibeju Lekki really better than those other locations? I need someone to sway me one way or the other, please. It will help if you can give reason(s). Thanks.

Can I get ideas on these questions, please?

Experts/experienced people in the house, please I need your views on a couple of things.

1. What's the extra benefit in getting a personal C of O for a portion of a larger area that already has a global C of O, if any?

2. What's the most affordable way to prevent encroachment on a piece of land that one isn't ready to build on yet?

Thanks in anticipation.