Family › Re: Outcome Of Revealing Things: Real Or A Coincidence? by ThaThinka(op): 10:35am On Dec 25, 2020 |
Wow, you've all pretty much confirmed my suspicion. I thought it's just me and a handful of other people. |
Romance › Re: Who Can Help Me With Accommodation ? by ThaThinka: 10:13pm On Dec 24, 2020 |
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Romance › Re: Woman Publicly Appreciates Her 'security' Husband For Buying Christmas Chicken by ThaThinka: 10:00pm On Dec 24, 2020 |
I don't know whether to pray to have this kind of woman - the type that appreciates little things (well, minus social media publicity). The appreciative types are to die for! |
Romance › Re: Re: I Think My Boyfriend Is Fetish: Dear Valenciabaddie I'm Not A Ritualist by ThaThinka: 9:13pm On Dec 24, 2020 |
ILoveeyouall: Hmmm.
Relationship wahala
Abeg make two of una no vex, u guys should settle this privately no need of bringing all this shit online.
We have more issue in nigeria to settle, than all this relationship palava. As in ehn, we get better things to think about. |
Family › Re: Outcome Of Revealing Things: Real Or A Coincidence? by ThaThinka(op): 9:03pm On Dec 24, 2020 |
donbachi: That is why u must not disclose such to people..its not like they are evil.but,the walls have ears.yes!.most people are possessed with some demonic spirits,that hijacks good things and stops them from manifesting.unknowingly to them. Hm, that's deep. |
Family › Outcome Of Revealing Things: Real Or A Coincidence? by ThaThinka(op): 8:15pm On Dec 24, 2020 |
I have observed that sometimes when one reveals an idea, a secret, or a plan to people close to you, things seem to not go well afterwards (at least for some time).
Does anyone here have a similar experience or is it just my mind playing tricks on me? |
Family › Re: I Am Scared Of Chicken by ThaThinka: 7:57pm On Dec 24, 2020 |
Nuttella: And you say you are a man, I can't remember how many chickens I have killed and slaughtered .
Man up jor .  I remove headdress for you, especially if you are a female. I can't imagine myself killing chicken. If you're giving me a live one, I won't get excited because of this. Sometimes, I wonder what any future family will think of this.  |
Family › Re: "Marriage Is A Charity, You Pay For What Others Have Had For Free" -Nigerian Man by ThaThinka: 10:02pm On Dec 18, 2020 |
donbachi: And the ones dat paid too much bride price. are not ready to let go of an adultrous wife..hmm!wahala dey o. Their mistake. |
Properties › Re: Is Land With Court Judgement A Good Idea? by ThaThinka(op): 10:23am On Dec 15, 2020 |
Alxmyr: In as much as the judgement is in the favour of the seller. You have nothing to worry about.t. Okay. Thanks, sir. |
Properties › Re: Is Land With Court Judgement A Good Idea? by ThaThinka(op): 7:36am On Dec 15, 2020 |
ThaThinka: I wish to know if it's safe to buy a piece of land with court judgement.
What could go wrong, if anything, please? Is it possible for such judgement to be overturned at some point in the future? Please help. Anyone, please? |
Properties › Is Land With Court Judgement A Good Idea? by ThaThinka(op): 10:41pm On Dec 14, 2020 |
I wish to know if it's safe to buy a piece of land with court judgement.
What could go wrong, if anything, please? Is it possible for such judgement to be overturned at some point in the future? Please help. |
Family › Re: Pius Angbo: Channels TV Reacts To News Of Their Staff Who Beat Up His Wife by ThaThinka: 9:48pm On Dec 07, 2020 |
southniyikaye: Any man that lay his hand on his woman is an animal...
But believe, some women can make you do the unthinkable Um, didn't you think you contradicted yourself a bit here? You condemned on one hand and left room for excuses on the other.  |
Family › Re: Pius Angbo: Channels TV Reacts To News Of Their Staff Who Beat Up His Wife by ThaThinka: 9:42pm On Dec 07, 2020 |
psylliumhusk1: You are justifying a crime Oga. What does her mums crime have to do with beating her.
What other side please..why wont the husband leave the marriage instead of constantly battering her....
Oh well with all this nonsense you wrote I see why she hasnt left..She didnt want society to say her marriage failed..she prolly wanted to do better than her mother to shame people like you who have expected nothing good from her.
Rubbish and society...  |
Nairaland General › Re: I Feel Like I Am About To Make A Mistake By Renting An Apartment This Expensive. by ThaThinka: 7:38pm On Dec 06, 2020 |
kolinz01: Thank you. I have been searching for an apartment for months now and I have spent about 15k just for inspection fee already. The agents would say you can get a cheap one, but they'll show you a security house in a compound and it goes for 250k per year. This one really cracked me up.  Now, I understand (a bit) better why some people prefer to go through the stress of commuting from places like Ikorodu and Mowe. |
Food › Re: Cook In Your Kitchen, Take Pictures And Post It Here. SIMPLE! by ThaThinka: 7:03pm On Dec 06, 2020 |
queenfav: Lunch... This is wickedness. You just succeeded in making me salivate for nothing!  |
Romance › Re: The Jumoke Story: Before You Marry A Nigerian Lady, Act Broke For Months by ThaThinka: 9:54pm On Dec 03, 2020 |
Danyyyyyyyyyyy: Omo if I find out anyone is testing me too, I'm going to do him back before we breakup , because we must breakup but not easily , we can be childish together I can't let him have fun alone What's the fun in that?  Can't a man try to be sure of what he's exposing himself to? I think there's really no biggie breaking up with someone you aren't married to yet. You owe each other nothing and life should go on. |
Romance › Re: The Jumoke Story: Before You Marry A Nigerian Lady, Act Broke For Months by ThaThinka: 9:45pm On Dec 03, 2020 |
Ladies that look beyond the present financial status of a guy are priceless! It's not easy hoping things would get better along the way. It demands foresight, devotion, and understanding.
Most of these ladies (in fact, all people) have no real love. Reason I'd always let a lady know in advance the situation on ground rather than build in the sky. |
Romance › Re: A Lady Not Calling Doesn't Care, Right? by ThaThinka(op): 8:05am On Dec 02, 2020 |
Goldbw122: For me sha, i Like calling because it communicate your feelings, emotion, wellbeing, your surrounding, where you are to me unknowingly to me, so I call always infact I dont like chat, I like calling, If you love a lady you will call her, yea no debate about that one.. so Do well and call her now don't be waiting, or is it card that is your Problem, borrow.. okk. Funny you. I fit borrow from you?  Nah! Never been the one for unrequited love or care. If you are too cold towards me, you move from being a friend or someone close to just an acquaintance. Life's too short. Mrscarter: Not necessarily. Everyone is different. I never used to call my ex he always called me n didn't mean I didn't care at the time. I'm not much of a ph person. I prefer face to face or texting if anything Hm, a different perspective. Thanks for it. I think this lady isn't like you, though. When I used to send WhatsApp messages, she'd often read and not respond to messages that needed a response. One of those times, she responded at a later time (many hours later) and the response was uninspiring.  I'd just say others have confirmed my conclusion. |
Romance › Re: A Lady Not Calling Doesn't Care, Right? by ThaThinka(op): 10:25pm On Dec 01, 2020 |
Sixfeetbelle: Who says I am?  Me! Well...  I strayed a little and it seems today's your birthday. If it is, I wish you a happy one. Have a blessed life. LikeAking: If she is not calling u she is fvucking anoda guy.
Game over dude. Baba, no game yet o. I was just doing an "assessment."  |
Romance › Re: A Lady Not Calling Doesn't Care, Right? by ThaThinka(op): 9:07pm On Dec 01, 2020 |
Sixfeetbelle: Despite my personality, I don't subscribe to not calling someone that practically goes through pins to call me though. If you notice they like calling, find a way to reciprocate it. That's my motto.
However in your case, I think the person is not that into you oh. Once a week from you might be too scarce, yes, but if they aren't reciprocating it through chats at least, you're unimportant to them. Sorry.
No, no donating of number to do any testing. Go and do the testing on your new crush. I'm sure she'll reciprocate soon enough  And who says you are not the one?  |
Romance › Re: A Lady Not Calling Doesn't Care, Right? by ThaThinka(op): 11:59pm On Nov 30, 2020 |
Thank you all! You've pretty much confirmed what I thought. It just didn't make sense not to ever call even just a friend that checks on you every now and then. Can't come and go and kill myself jare.  Sixfeetbelle: As a person, I hardly call people, not even my family members. My younger sister will tell you I'm the least communicative person in our entire family which made it confusing and weird to me when my NYSC roommate called her mother every night. My university roommate calls wasn't that frequent and so was understandable, but this lady's own was, in my opinion, excessive.
Anyway, not saying I won't reply if you call me, but calling you would be a once in a blue moon event. Even long calls of past 20 minutes used to bore me sometimes if it's on mundane things.
However, once chatting is involved and is flowing, then you have my full attention. We can go all night or until my battery screams at me sha  Really? We're almost the same on that one then. And that's why I find it a bit concerning that someone I managed to call wasn't even reciprocating. The most frequent I call anyone is about once a week, except in special cases.  I can only say I'm somewhat different from you because I believe I can call more often if a friend or someone encourages me by their actions/responses. Abi you go like to donate your phone number make I do testing?  |
Romance › A Lady Not Calling Doesn't Care, Right? by ThaThinka(op): 7:15pm On Nov 30, 2020 |
Hey! I wish to ask mature people here whether a lady not calling means she doesn't care. I mean when the guy is the one that initiates practically all calls.
In my opinion, I'd say the lady just doesn't care. But I guess maybe I am wrong since I don't call as often as I see some men do or because we relate more on a "friend" basis for now?
Even if we're just friends, does it mean a lady should never initiate a call? I have some female friends and acquaintances that do call, so what's different here?
I'm tempted to assume maybe she's not that into the mister. No? |
Romance › Re: Why Are Some Guys Weak by ThaThinka: 7:02pm On Nov 30, 2020 |
virginprincess: Is love na, he is not stupid! seriously i which such kind of guys can come my way, though i won't treat him badly, instead i will love and cherish him like he does to me. Are you sure?  What do you like about him? Is it the fact that he stayed in spite of the ill-treatment?  Make Baba no let man pikin see bad thing o. Respect should be reciprocal na. I don't pray that I be hitched to a woman that counts me for nothing. I'm better off not marrying her at all! |
Properties › Re: 25 Critical Questions To Ask To Avoid Falling For A Real Estate Scam In Lagos by ThaThinka: 6:43pm On Nov 30, 2020 |
This thing come resemble war.  |
Romance › Re: My Relationship Is Being Affected Because Of My Low Income. by ThaThinka: 8:53pm On Nov 24, 2020 |
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Romance › Re: My Relationship Is Being Affected Because Of My Low Income. by ThaThinka: 10:12am On Nov 23, 2020 |
Sixfeetbelle: What money are you referring to? The one the woman earns? Yes, of course. It will be added to the family's needs as an "assistance" when everywhere tight, not as a mandatory request. You get?
However, the man can't possibly be relying on it all the time things hard too, at least I don't think our forefathers relied on their wives market sales during their days. Yes, because you didn't want to think it happened. You were on-point...well, until the beginning of the second paragraph. Of course, a right-thinking man should consider it more of assistance. The men are supposed to be the head of the family in this part of the world after all. It's our cross, even though the children will in almost all cases love and take care of their mothers more.  But I expect a sensible wife to lend a hand without being asked, seeing situations on ground. The Bible makes me to understand that the purpose of marriage is for one to help lift the other when they fall. No? That's a problem I have with that second paragraph. Hard time is hard time, no distinction. If a man is responsible, loyal, and not wasteful, there should be no limit to assistance. There's a reason there are two parents. |
Romance › Re: My Relationship Is Being Affected Because Of My Low Income. by ThaThinka: 10:53pm On Nov 22, 2020 |
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Romance › Re: My Relationship Is Being Affected Because Of My Low Income. by ThaThinka: 10:47pm On Nov 22, 2020 |
Sixfeetbelle: Didn't I just say I will assist in your farm if you had one?
Define "contribute" cause all I'm seeing here is you wanting the wife to work and earn salary too. That's not the direction I'm going though.
What happened to traditional men? No!!! You're still getting it mixed up. Women assisted on the farms back then. Farms were a thing at their time. Things have changed today. A woman is now freer to earn her own money. The question is: what's the money for when there are many bills in the family to take care of, maybe more than the man can comfortably handle? |
Romance › Re: My Relationship Is Being Affected Because Of My Low Income. by ThaThinka: 10:58pm On Nov 20, 2020 |
Sixfeetbelle: Do you have farm?
Besides, you said they assisted which means they didn't do all the farm work by themselves. And in this day of technology, assisting in farms sounds like child's play  You wan come? So if I married you now, na so you no go wan work?  Assisted, yes. Nobody is asking you to take care of the entire family. Just contribute your quota, even if it's only for yourself. |
Romance › Re: My Relationship Is Being Affected Because Of My Low Income. by ThaThinka: 8:49pm On Nov 20, 2020 |
Sixfeetbelle: Which contribution did our grandmother's make except having kids, managing the home front and being submissive? We can do that as well.
Did they have to take up jobs and businesses to support the home? Wasn't that entirely resting on the man? They assisted on the farms as well! |
Romance › Re: My Relationship Is Being Affected Because Of My Low Income. by ThaThinka: 8:37pm On Nov 20, 2020 |
SocialJustice: Look for a woman who has her own income. Nigeria of today needs both party to be bringing in money. N80k sounds big but its nothing especially with a partner that doesn't understand. Relatively big. OP, if you learnt how much some married men are earning per month in this country, you go know say you be some kain boss. Don't just take what everyone tells you here on Nairaland; some respondents are just kids that don't know as e dey go.  I'm not married, but I think your family won't necessarily be sofa heads with that salary, especially if you have a supportive woman and can cut your coat according to your cloth. All the same, there is no harm in doubling your hustle as you intend. All the best! |
Properties › Re: Is A Survey Plan Enough? by ThaThinka(op): 8:12am On Nov 17, 2020 |
Obafisenco: If it's a real estate company, then I don't think survey plan is enough document, they should be able to have any government legal document like CofO, gazette, execution etc. Survey is just a paper documents to show the size of land. But majority of family don't usually do government documents, they only do surveys to show where there land start from and where it ends, so when u are buying from them they will issue you family receipt and deed of assignment/conveyance ( family paper called iwè ebi) which all there principal family members will sign.
And if it's from individual: then that means the person as done survey to show where is land start from and where it ends, the individual then needs to show u the receipt and family deed of assignment they use and buy from the family. Thank you, sir. This is really helpful. |