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wallg123:
You didn’t set any record straight. If anything you’ve broken the record

On a serious note my man. Can you tell us which President that wasn’t helped into power ?
Obj was helped , ya Adua was helped , Jonathan was helped and even Buhari was helped into power. That’s how politics works. You have to befriend everybody so as to win an election and after election you kiss them goodbye.

We can deceive others but we can’t deceive ourselves.

Lol, my brother, at the bolded, if that was so, no-one would be able to govern anywhere if they dumped all allies immediately after winning election. If na so, we go dey see Caesar and Brutus re-enactments everyday worldwide.

My own take is that even if Jonathan reneged on some shadowy pact to be a one-term president, in the greater scheme of things neither he nor Buhari came there primarily to do good for Nigeria and Nigerians, so why should any such pact be of relevance?

I didn't support Buhari in 2015, but once he was voted in I became an automatic Buhari supporter. I did have bad memories of his 1985 appearance (the lousy currency change and the queues), but this means that I don't care who is there as long as they do a good job and manage the country as well as possible so we could all thrive in it.

I did think that Buhari would be like Obasanjo, bringing in competent technocrats to get things done while he sat back and frightened those practicing kwaruption, just by being there.

How wrong I was. The most incomprehensible thing about him was how he went about what Obasanjo has called the "mismanagement of our diversity". Even Dele Momodou, who normally writes rubbish, has spoken about how it seems as if the current government's plan is to actually cause division and discord in Nigeria, based on the way Buhari has handled the whole herdsmen/insecurity issue, keeping silent all the time, allowing his men to issue foolish statements (better to hand over your land than die, Benue farmers, accommodate your brethren, so they will stop killing you, shoot everyone you see with an AK-47 on sight (so soldiers now kill people and take photos of them with guns on their corpses)etc.), and relentlessly appointing northerners everywhere in a primitive country where ethnic tensions are always present even at the best of times.

Nigeria has never had a good government by any standards, but this one is the worst. I don't want Nigeria to break up, not because I think corporate Nigeria is better than Oodua Republic or Biafra or whatever, but simply because I don't think we can sit down and break up peacefully, there will be violence, and once violence starts in Africa these days, it never stops. However, the people in power who actually have the means to bring about desired outcomes don't seem to be of the same opinion, they say unity and send soldiers to the east to kill innocent people. As far back as 2015, IPOB could have been safely ignored, locking up Kanu crystallised whatever he says he's fighting for. Makes no sense at all, no sense whatsoever.

wallg123:
I don’t know where u read the bolder from but anyways I’ll rather have corrupt Jonathan, than deadbeat Buhari ....
If you actually read my statement, you would have seen where I stated that they are all corrupt...
Don’t even try to compare Jonathan’s administration to Buharis because you’ll loose this debate..
Buhari has once been a failure when he was a commander in chief and he has been repeating this backwardness since 2015 and yet you talking about Jonathan.... I’m waiting for you to outline the failures of Jonathan that outweighs buharis

Agreed.
As you said, they're all corrupt, but if anything, at least Jonathan was not malignant and destructive the way Buhari is.

justwise:
No joke but that will not surprise me one bit, he has the money to buy votes

He doesn't need to buy votes, Nigerians' votes have never counted.

Mrtush:
Good morning All,

I need your urgent help. I’m a student here in the UK Middlesbrough Precisely, I’ve applied for numerous jobs but none is not forth coming. Can a professional here help me go through my CV just to be sure where the problem could be.

Please this is urgent . Thank you All

There was an extensive discussion of this issue on pages 587 and 588 of this thread. Go through those pages and see the suggestions that people made, starting from word-of-mouth/personal contacts/agencies (the likes of Blue Arrow, Reed and so forth) all the way down.

I know of a couple of students who just walked into a nearby supermarket and asked if they had some shifts available.

As someone else mentioned, you can post an anonymised CV here if you like. However you format it, make it precise and readable. Tailor it to the job you're applying for where applicable. Most of these student jobs are open to all, or are shift/zero hours, so detailled discussion of the size of the CAPEX one managed while working in procurement at Nigerian Breweries for instance should be left for roles where that makes sense. Leave out long talk.

If you're applying online for some of these shift jobs and have to include a cover letter, make sure it's drafted in excellent English. Keep it short too, that way fewer mistakes are made. And, strangest of all, be sure to answer your phone when it rings. Could be anyone. Scammers cant scam you simply because you answered the phone. You're a foreigner with a funny African name and a different accent, so don't compound your job market situation with a "Who is this speaking?" Always answer with a sharp-sounding "Hello. Good morning/afternoon." Wait for the person on the other end of the line, make them talk their own. Make sure your email address is professional - your. name@whatever.com. Leave out the sexydiva443@gmail.com type of stuff. And so on and so forth.

Covid has had one somewhat silver lining - the large number of jobs that have moved online/become remote. Customer service, all that type of thing. You can make up your 20 hours with some of those types of roles, all from the comfort of your home.

Above all, keep at it. Don't get discouraged. When looking for a job, rejections come with the territory.

BouharryArtikou:
Fellow UK people.
Please what does ‘inside IR35’ mean?
A company is offering me £550 per day (inside IR-35’. Don’t know exactly what that means .

Help anyone please?

Others have given you the answer.
In addition: get an accountant going forward. It is possible for one to have a mix of inside- and outside-IR35 gigs, and the need for someone professional to sort things out will become very apparent very quickly.

Lexusgs430:
Same government forgot VPN exists, to circumvent them.......

This is what happens when you have many round pegs, in square holes........ Analogue government in a Digital century........

Many are mad, but few are roaming.
I fail to see how whoever is "advising" Buhari would think that this was a good look for a government whose credibility is at zero and falling.
Twitter deleted your post, you fire one broadside at them and ignore them. By escalating the matter with this preposterous "suspension", now the attention of the world's media will swing back to Nigeria for a day or two (more important things to deal with), and in that time them go launch several broadsides at the mad people in Abuja, dissecting the current state of things in Nigeria and the incompetence of its government which they will be unable to ignore.

Mamatukwas:
LMAO That one is okay jor, na woman matter. My daughter is EXACTLY the same way! Mopol for anything that creeps and crawls it’s my boys that can’t be bothered. She doesn’t need reset please. Save it for more serious things.

In other news @all, if you have money please don’t chop/invest all, send your kids to good private schools if you can. The one near me, girls MUST wear knee length skirts to school, mini skirt is strictly forbidden
[quote author=LagosismyHome post=102381375]Welll..... there been privately schooled people who dab into drugs ie diane abbott son. I think its the grace of God.

Someone raised in the uk once joking told me that majorities of the black boys will be into drugs . The gov /free school boys will be the seller and private school boys will be the buyer so there no escaping it. Although I guess it was said as a joke with so element of reality for some.

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Private (or public schools as they're known sometimes) are generally better than state schools (usually because smaller class sizes allow for more attention to be given per pupil and for white children the well-known private schools are a step into the old boy network, if you're black, brown or not white, sha avoid places like Eton, na waste of your parents' money), but better morality among privately educated children is not one of the reasons why.

The same argument about morality was the reason many parents in Nigeria gave for sending their children to church/convent schools back in those days (and now as well), and for those who know when we were growing up seminary/church school girls had the worst reputations possible while it was said their boys always knew where to find weed, and I have no reason to think that that's any different for the new generation of Nigerian churches and their schools. Over-restriction and over-moralising sometimes leads to the wrong outcome - witness the stereotypical characterisation of how priests' children tend to turn out.

Lagosismyhome's comment is sadly sometimes correct.

Parenting is trial and error, hit and miss.

Nigerian parenting is basically doses of beatings/threats of beatings interspersed with helpings of parables and wisdom fed to one by their fathers, while Nigerian parents relied largely on the wider society to acculturate and help train their children. The blithe way Nigerian parents sent 11 year-olds off to boarding school in the 70s and 80s, for instance (go and find your way in life, better be a good boy, remember where you come from and think about what people will say if you mess up) would be a recipe for disaster in the 2020s now that Nigerian society has rotted away.

Basically Nigerian parents in the abroad now have to face what westerners have been grappling with for some decades already - the fact that old certainties have fallen away and one has to realise that parenting nowadays, motivational speakers and self-acclaimed gurus notwithstanding, is ultimately 10% effort and up to 90% prayer/luck.

sylvo:
Please how long does a standard visa application take before collection. was told three weeks but I have seen someone shared his testimony here on this page that he got for less than 9 days from the date of application

Their stated aim is to turn around applications within 15 working days at the outside, but that is a target, it can obviously be more or less.

babajeje123:
Well, I've heard about how a lot Nigerian women start misbehaving once they get to the UK however within the few weeks I've spent here, I've seen some Nigerian couple who are raising their kids with good morals. I think what parents can do is to be fully involved in their kids' growth, teach and exemplify the values the want their kids to exhibit. In addition, religion will come handy here. Teach them about your 'G(g)od' and answer all the questions they will pose with patience. Raising kids here won't be a walk in the park but I believe with prayers and early intervention, our kids would turn out well upholding the values we stand for as they enjoy all the benefits the UK has to offer.
For those that call police on their husbands, except for physical assult, they are fools.

Bros, it isn't easy.
As they say it takes a village to raise a child, and a lot of people who come here as already married couples with children not only haven't support, but also start running the rat race upon arrival, working as many jobs as you can to keep a roof over the heads of the children in the first place, and sometimes that takes a toll on parenting and family time. There's really no formula apart from huge doses of prayer, if one is religious.

hustla:
Won't prenup come in handy?

If you prepare and sign a prenup, thus recognising that there's nothing like so-called "love" in your matter, then why marry at all? You need a partnership.

There's nothing mystical or spiritual about marriage, it's an arrangement like any other (and the Europeans have the right idea about it, it's quite common for them to draw up marriage contracts before marriage setting out things like how the marriage will be run, how the parties keep their own individual property, how contributions to the joint household will be made, etc.), but with partnership now formalised in many enlightened countries, allowing people the benefits of marriage they wish to avail of (inheritance, provision of mutual support, etc.) without getting entangled in the intricacies of marriage and with all children long ago legitimised however dem born them, I see no reason to complicate one's life.

Ilekokonit:
That one small na. If you want to bring up your child in the UK the way you were brought up in Nigeria, you will be lucky to escape prison as you are not allowed to smack your child in the UK and school teachers actively check your child's body for scars if they suspect the child may have been flogged at home and the child need not tell the teacher, your neighbors could call the police or your child's classmates may tell the teacher after being confided in and the teacher may then call the police depending on their judgement on the smack.

What would you do for instance if your own wife tells you in front of your 10 year old son who you were about to discipline that "If you touch that boy, I will call the police" ?? and this happened to a close friend after 10 years of marriage to a woman he went to bring from Naija. Suffice it to say that they are now separated and she has driven a wedge between my friend and his 2 kids whom she monopolizes and restricts access to my friend. And this na woman wey him give papers o. And this is one of the reasons I believe that going to bring a woman from Nigeria is not the magic bullet for a happy marriage.

Truth be told, had I not been married before coming here, I wouldn't have bothered with signing up to that institution.
Bringing a woman from Nigeria for me is out of the question. Nor do I have the energy to play the lottery with the almost 40% divorce rate here. I'd have either partnered or most likely found an economic reason to remain childless.

Iruosonobrugwhe:
dear all,

Please does transiting through Turkey mean i am coming from a red zone? i have booked a flight via turkish airlines and now seeing news around it being a redlist country. Transiting through Turkey, do i need to compulsorily isolate in a hotel? Any info/advice will be welcome.

If it is a red list country (better check the UK government list online), then when you transit through there you are deemed to have come from a red list country and must do the whole hotel quarantine thing.

Folushaw7:
Thanks for your input.
I’ve been considering Construction Project Management with an outlook for work in the built environment after graduation.

Would you say it’s a good option as regards post-study work prospects in the UK?
I have ample road construction experience but my first degree is in Mining Engineering.. I just like to work outdoor

It is a good course from that standpoint.
As you've got relevant experience, go ahead and choose it.

cute75:
I called KLM. They insisted I get a transit visa due to brexit
Now I will have to stop at London

Try Lufthansa.

Ilekokonit:
Good point. A lot of Nigerians are in for a rude shock and awakening when they finally realize that Western children are very opinionated, have a mind of their own, CAN NOT be told what to do like kids in Naija and are VERY selfish. Once you realise and ACCEPT these painful facts then you begin to get used to the fact that if you live in the West and your children abandon you then its NOT a big deal but part of the price you have to pay for bringing your children up in a strange country that does not respect or accept your Naija parenting / upbringing ideas.

The reason why Nigerians who studied in the UK in the 60's have kids who still have naija culture in them is that once they finished their studies, they IMMEDIATELY shipped themselves and their kids back to naija and those kids started coming back to the UK once they were 18 years old and in most cases 21 years old after they had gone through Uni and had their foundation on Naija culture rooted in them. This is probably why some Nigerians in today's world try their best to take their kids to naija once a year at least and most of my work colleagues who are Indians take their kids back to India at least once a year and their parents come once a year to the UK to baby sit for their children during the long summer break.

Compounding a foreigner bringing up kids in the UK is if daddy and mummy can not agree on whether to bring up the children with naija values or not and if the kids sense disunity among their parents on this, they will exploit that loophole to start misbehaving.

I once dated a Tanzanian lady whose teenage son was misbehaving and hanging out with the wrong crew and she unilaterally took him back to Tanzania to live with her brother and the boy called his father in the UK (who was seperated from his mum) and the lady's Ex called the police and told them that his Ex took his son to Africa without his consent and the lady was charged with child kidnap or something along those lines.

Bringing up kids in the UK along naija values is not for the faint hearted as the whole of society is telling the kids a different thing on a daily basis and it takes SOLID unity between Dad and Mum and the grace of God if those kids are not to end up with no home training.

At some point you have to let go and start trying to enjoy your "short" life span whether or not your children appreciate your long suffering and labour of love on them.

Then there is the aspect of luck which is beyond anyone's control where western raised kids will just fall in love and in line with your Naija culture.

I had an uncle in the US who did the exact same thing to one of his sons in the 90s. The boy was misbehaving, the uncle brought them back, tried to persuade him to stay, enrolled him in a boarding school in Lagos and all that. One day the boy walked out, went to the US embassy, laid whatever complaint he laid there, and they contacted the boy's father and he had to send for the boy and take him back to the US. Last we heard of him sometime in the 00s was that he was trying to become a musician, hopefully he made it.

To me, any Nigerian parent in the abroad who wants to retain their sanity should divest themselves of any preferred outcome with respect to their children. The only outcome to which I hold tenuously is for my children to be self-supporting at the appropriate age and thereafter, I'm not invested in the way they decide to earn a living, whether they go to uni or not, just do your thing and support yourselves lawfully.

Nor am I invested in their choice of lifestyles - just like any parent, I would like them to be conventional obviously, but as long as you're not living in my house, feel free to tattoo yourself from head to toe, pierce the whole of your body, flex the baby mama thing and litter the UK/EU/entire world with your pikins, partner with whoever. I will never kill myself over another person whom I cannot control - mine na to learn how to navigate my way through the ISA, SIPP jungle in preparation for securing sufficient income to live on in old age - that's the only thing within my control.

babajeje123:
Honestly the aspect of dressing has been worrying me since I got here. I see female kids in skimpy dresses all around and I wonder if they don't have parents. One must be very intentional in raising kids here with a lot of prayers.

It shouldn't worry you, is the point I'm making.
Beyond one's control, so one has to learn to accept all the ramifications of this place.

SamReinvented:
As you're getting triggered because someone mentioned same sex, you should've just kuku stayed back in Nigeria, e fit you better.

Lol, na dem.
I visited a friend of mine who had a 13 year old daughter one summer a while back. She was going out and he was complaining bitterly about how she was dressed (she was wearing something short and skimpy enough to give an average Nigerian grounds to cast and bind her). Her mother too added her voice ("Go and cover yourself now!"} and a mini-altercation broke out and the girl left anyway.

I told the chap that having made the transition to the white man's land to raise your children, one should better get ready for anything. The children could embrace any sexuality or lifestyle. They might decide not to become the doctor, lawyer, engineer so beloved of Nigerian parents, or even to go to university at all. Or they might take off in old age and leave you to the tender mercies of the care system and whatever equity you have in your home. All one can do is try to nudge them in a desired direction through acculturation (difficult to do as our communities in the abroad generally exist for showing off and strange competition as opposed to those of the Asians, for instance), do a lot of praying if you're invested in any desired outcomes, and start researching old people's/assisted living options just in case.

samcrispy:
Hmmm! Interesting because I was planning to apply for Human Resources management(MSc) before now. Maybe I have to go back and do my home work thoroughly. Also thanks � God bless you

My brother, do that homework very very thoroughly.

hapiaka:
I uploaded the statement of account pages differently rather than being in a single document, hope that is not an issue

Merge them into one pdf.

Haywhy3233:
hello house,

I got married to my spouse last year august, I want to know i can apply with her as i read this on uk.gov website that "Your partner must be able to prove that either:

you’re in a civil partnership or marriage that’s recognised in the UK
you’ve been LIVING TOGETHER IN A RELATIONSHIP FOR ATLEAST 2 YEARS when you apply.

how safe is this for her to apply with me? can she go ahead as we are just almost a year married?

Yes, you can.
The two year rule refers to unmarried partners.

Aphrodite007:
Isn’t that better than loving someone and then they fall out of love, and you’re left with nothing?

I don’t see anything wrong with transactional relationships. Let’s focus on what we can give each other- cleaner and simpler. Even most Christians have a transactional relationship with God, that’s why when the going gets tough, they falter.

Lol.
Apart from family relationships, African man/woman relationships have always been transactional which is why they worked for us, just the way the white man's relationships were before they discovered idleness and had to fill the time with something so invented romance.
This new one of love wey the white man bring come no dey work - even for them, check the divorce rates.
When you go in on a transactional basis - you bring this to the relationship and I bring that, that's fine as long as everyone is happy with the basis for the transaction.

shanga:
Guys please help this is urgent,Can an applicant be refused if he submit 32 days bank statement(29th March to 29th of April )?

No. You can submit a qualifying bank statement of longer than 28 days with no problem whatsoever. They'll count back 28 days from the last transaction on the statement, if any.

I think we've had this before, and its been answered. As an aside, since people here are planning to move to the UK to school, learn to research. A lot of the information we ask here is available for free on www.gov.uk, and trust me that carries more weight than any answer you get from random people on the internet, because you can always screenshot it and keep it for future reference, or cite it in a cover letter ("In line with point 4.2 blablabla of the Student Visa guidance, I've provided bank statements....". That sort of thing shows the ECO you've done some homework

Ojasope1:
Good morning seniors,

Please which day's exchange rate is used to calculate POF by UKVi,
1. date of submission of application?
Or
2. Date of biometric?

No. 1.

Ilekokonit:
Very true.

I have a Bangladeshi colleague aged 29 who has borrowed £10,000 twice now to send to his Brothers in Bangladesh to process their USA emigration Visa and he is not expecting anything back from them as all he wants is for them to escape poverty.

He himself was brought to the UK aged 13 by his uncle and i remember when his dad died back home he flew to Bangladesh that night even though he didn't have a dime, his cousins paid for his ticket and when he bought a house, some of his cousins contributed towards his deposit and he will do the same for them when the time comes as according to him, it is their culture.

Compare this to Nigeria where a more well off family member will almost turn his or her own siblings to slaves and will expect them to worship him or her for the peanuts they get from him or her and they will forever be reminded how they were assisted by him or her and the richer a Nigerian is, the more heartless and wicked they become.

And the difference between us and them continues to widen after we've all finally gotten into this country.
If you apply for any sort of student/zero-hours job and get a message from someone surnamed Singh/Reddy/Patel acknowledging receipt of the application or inviting you for interview, just remove your mind from that position. 95% of the time you are being included as a filler and will either not get the job or will end up in a workplace with a 10:1 ratio of Indians to others. Africans rarely do this, Nigerians virtually never.

This is another reason why the coming influx of the estimated 1 - 3 million Hong Kong Chinese is going to be an interesting situation, because they too hang together and do their best to insert their people wherever they can, so going forward, they will take on the Indians and other south Asians for the mid-level positions, reaching down to as many lower level ones as they can, while we the Africans and those of African origin, unable to stand together as a community or even as groups of communities (my father used to tell us how there used to be conflict between the west Indians and Africans in London, and even between the west Indians themselves, with Jamaicans playing the "superiority" role Nigerians used to adopt towards other Africans before Buhari did his best for our country), will have some interesting lessons to learn.

LagosismyHome:
Funny but true... an Indian friend who was born in UK in the 70s told me how his father used to go to India yearly and bring at least one or two relatives, this happened in the 70s and 80s claiming they are his children. ..... back then no DNA test. He said Christmas day was always the best for that waka as there was hardly any staff at the airport..... I trust his father wasn't the only one doing this, maybe that why you see so many of them in the UK.

Hilarious.

My father used to tell us a similar story - in the mid-70s he was in the UK studying, living in a small 2 bedroom flat with his small family of 2 children at the time (just I and my elder sister had come over with my parents from Nigeria, 2 of the younger ones were born here), and how his Indian neighbour once asked him what he was doing with all that space, and didn't he have any family to help with the children.

KOVIC19COVID20:
That law was repealed on June 25, 2013.

Ah, I see.
It was in force when I was here in the early 2000s., one of our class guys worked in an electronics store.

justwise:
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I doubt any retailer will do that, that is breach of personal data which is illegal

The law requires it.

justwise:
Bro they detect nothing, that van is as useless as it looks, they use your post code to know if you pay or not.

It will even be illegal for them to have intrusive access to your home using any sort of equipment .

Using it to detect (if at all )is not even useful because watching tv without tv licence is not illegal

Watching live television programming without a tv licence is.

claremont:
I had this political view for many years until recently. Let's say you work in a regulated profession, you get married and have kids. TV licence man knocks on the door when you are away at work, your kid/wife mistakenly opens, invites him in, and in good British tradition, offers him a cup of tea. He leaves. You then get a letter in the post in a few weeks inviting you to court. The highly regulated career you have worked hard for years to get into gets ruined for avoiding £150 odd a year.

This analogy is what I considered and it informed my judgement to start paying. I have been enjoying watching these channels for years without paying it.

Well said.
I pay for the TV licence and actually watch the BBC when I get round to watching TV (As much as everyone slates the BBC, it really does have excellent programming). I do have an Amazon stick and all that, but simply feel the 13 pounds a month they DD from my account is worth it to avoid unwittingly getting into their wahala. I might be working from home now, but that will change and I dont have the energy to start giving children rules and instructions.