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[quote author=na2day? link=topic=261058.msg4578235#msg4578235 date=1253420534]sweet heart, i am good, in fact, every day i feel down, i just look into those soft beautiful eyes of urs and heaven smiles on me and my heart rejoices uncontrollably. TS and C2 can't understand what we are saying bcoz true love has never happened to them [/quote]Shut up pedophile. I heard unitee is just 17. What are you doing with a 17 year old girl?

Yeah right!!! NIGERIAN CHICKEN AIRLINES! Who doesn't know that chickens can soar as high as the eagles?!

[quote author=na2day? link=topic=261058.msg4572880#msg4572880 date=1253340432]dem dey punch breeze? [/quote]You be breeze? Na wa ooo!!! So you're the Biblical 'familiar spirit'. Only God will save that poor girl from this predicament you're about to put her in

[quote author=TOPE2000! link=topic=325605.msg4572077#msg4572077 date=1253317424]Lol . . .ok maybe the poster is generalising but most naija men arent romantic and being romantic has got nothing to do with holding hands abeg even tho most naija men still find it difficult to do. its like u lot have something to hide, i dont know i have dated unromanntic guy b4 so i kinda understand where the poster is coming from.

True that[/quote]Give me five examples of what you can call romance

Yumi: I am not saying it can't work in the rare occasion I think it can. However the norm is that it doesn't, usually you have to get it offline and into reality as quickly as possible for it to have a chance of survival. There are many liars out there and the internet because of anonymity seems to attract an unhealthy share so women definitely have to be more careful in my opinion if dating someone online.

Being in a 'real life' relationship doesn't guarantee you'll know him or not. If you've had anything to do with players, you'll know what I'm talking about. There are some people who are bold-faced liars and it doesn't matter where you meet them - online or 'real life'. If women can meet dishonest men on the internet, so can the men too. Distrust and dishonesty in a relationship goes both ways - men and women, in both modes - online or 'reality'.

This is how I see it: When you meet a real person, no matter where it is you meet them, they carry on their attitudes and be who they are regardless of whatever situation it is. If a man is a liar by habit, he'll keep lying wherever he finds himself; if a man's honest, he'll be honest no matter where and at what level he operates. What I could admit if you had mentioned it is the facial expression (only if it mattered in any relationship), the physical aspect (sex-related activities) and of course, having someone to lean on - physically - when the going gets a little tough.

Cheaters will cheat no matter what unless they are not chronic cheats.

Your observation is wrong and very myopic. Who says relationships from online doesn't work? What planet are you from? Let me tell you something, what goes on in a 'reality' relationship is the same that goes within the online circles. But the basic intent of chatting someone up online is to meet them and how different is that from meeting someone in your church, the next street, school, mall, etc.? Your view has to change or maybe you've been a victim of 'online heartbreak'?

The problem we have is that we always have a negative thought that the person behind the computer screen is a potential liar; I understand you need to protect yourself and maybe sometimes, expect the worst but when you get into something and you lose faith in it - in the very least - then be ready for such venture to fail. It's either you meet someone online or you don't but that doesn't connote that it doesn't work for others, and by far, there are lots of people it's worked for. Go out there and see the number of social networking sites that people are signing up at, and many of them aren't free.

[Quote author=Crazyman]If he still insist on you leaving him, then ask him to give you at least three genuine reasons(apart from tribalism and religious seasons) that should make you leave him. If he can't give any, then I would suggest that you go ahead with the wedding.[/Quote]

He shouldn't bother giving reasons. Asking him to give reasons will mean revering him more than he really is. He'll think nothing can be achieved about the marriage without his input. I think the best thing for her to do is when he keeps saying she shouldn't marry him, then she should ring into his ears that it's not his business; that way he'll get the message faster that he's not worth what he thinks he is.

follypimpi:

Am your bro and dont marry that WOMAN !!!

This is what I will do to you https://www.freesmileys.org/smileys/smiley-devil14.gif


Topic: There's just one thing I need you to realize and try very hard to understand me. Choosing someone to be your brother is entirely how you feel about them and how they relate with your wife, what makes the matter the more, and a host of other things but safe for the relation by blood. For instance, you might have a brother who you don't get along with very well and at the same time you'll have a friend who you can tell all of your lives and will do anything for rather than your brother.

What I'm saying in essence is, your brother has no role whatsoever to play when it comes to decision that has to do with your life. You're the main factor here and they are less concerned about it, but in some cases, they might have to be the one to watch your back, sadly, in your case it's not like that. What I see in your brother is obsession. He can't stand the fact that you're getting married. Maybe you both have been very close over time or your boyfriend had finally taken his place and he feels jealous about it, or he's just simply not wishing you well (don't rule this out). I'm not trying to plant what's bad in your mind but the truth has to be told anyways. He's either jealous someone else has taken his place or he's just being stupid not wishing you get married now.

When you go for the meeting on Sunday, please refrain from insulting any of your siblings but be prepared for the worst. Don't be surprised if he has found a way to manipulate the rest of your brothers into reasoning along with him (look out for that) but don't let that change your mind. If he's not going to be there at the wedding, who's going to be missing on the marriage photo album? Whose loss? Your brother is how old again? In his 30's? He's not thinking straight. His name is "eni je egbodo ti o n wa eni 'kunra". Don't insult him but hold your ground. You don't have to explain to anyone because I don't think you owe them any explanation. How many of them consulted you when they were about to get married? So because they are older than you, they have power over you? No! Your brothers regardless of how older they are than you, are just another human being you meet on the street; they are just another set of people you can talk back at with respect yet, making your beliefs and opinions known in the most profound manner.


Go on with your wedding plans and if for some reasons you don't have all their support, don't back out or you'll forever live to regret missing out on something that would have been the greatest life for you. Sometimes, these older brothers think they are up to something when in fact they are carcasses of disappointments themselves. Follow through your plans with your fiancee and make the most of it. I reiterate that you do not insult any of them as the whole blame will go on your guy as being your fuel to confront them, and you might end up on the blacklist of those whose support you've secured. You don't have to answer too many questions, just stay on your grind, maintain that point that you want to marry him regardless of what anyone thinks. Na today?!