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[Quote Author=Ujuoan]For a guy, these are the things he would expect from a GF.
1. Help make his meals: Even if she doesn’t know how to cook, she should ensure he always has food to eat. Either by making him cook and store or by getting a cook for me. Either way, his feeding should be her responsibility. Of course the guy does the funding!![Quote]

What if she doesn't live close to her? He lives in California, she lives in New Jersey? Does she send her e-food? Will she order foods online for him just in a bid to make sure he has something to eat?

If a lady doesn't know how to cook, she'd learn how to do so; in the process of doing that, she should demonstrate willingness to do so when she has learned.

If she cooks insipid meals, he might complain or at least just murmur about it.I don't see anything wrong if she decides to cook for him out of her money without the guy funding it, but that should be once in a while.


[Quote Author=Ujuoan]2. Help keep his house clean: Now I know this is hard for most ladies to understand but guys operate better in a clean environment. Even though he’s a bachelor, his apartment should always reflect the presence of a woman in his life. If you can’t clean, get help!![/Quote]

What kind of help will she get? Homemaker? I think cleanliness is a habit most women should have. Not only men functions in a better environment but it's only healthy that it'd be so.

May I also add that, if a guy is dirty and filthy, her girlfriend may not be obliged to make him see cleanliness as a virtue. He has to make a clean environment the kind that he operates in and appreciates before a woman will follow suite.

If he's clean and his girlfriend is dirty, she'll be forced to adapt-ably conform with his environment or she'll start feeling uncomfortable. But I still want to know what kind of help you recommend she gets? Is that to curb laziness or to imbibe cleanliness in her habits?



[Quote Author=Ujuoan]3. Help with his Laundry: Okay, that’s a no-go area for most girls but the truth is that, guys expect it. It’s not right to sit back and watch you BF wash his clothes. A lady should ensure that her guy is at his best appearance always! If you can’t wash, take them to the cleaner and pick them up! Of course he should foot the bill.[/Quote]

Well, if it's a responsibility as you say, she should foot the bill if she can't wash and has to take them to the laudro-marts, otherwise the guy should pay but then it shows it's not her responsibility, will it? If she washes them, will he pay her? Of course not. I think it's a matter of choice and not responsibility.

If she doesn't wash for me, will I not wash them? If she has to wash them, well, it's her choice (which I will greatly appreciate) and if she chooses not to, I won't bite myself on it, and I don't think any guy should.


[Quote Author=Ujuoan]4. Help with his personal hygiene: Well some guys can be pigs you know. It’s a girl’s responsibility to ensure her guy gets a timely haircut, manicure/pedicure, shave and other things that come with looking good.[/Quote]

And if he doesn't have a girlfriend he should remain a pig? LOL! All these are things a guy should do on their own without it being necessarily some loads on his girlfriend. Does my girlfriend have to remind me when to have my manicure/pedicure, haircut, shave and other things? No!


[Quote Author=Ujuoan]5. Host his friends: Guys like to host their friends once in a while and as his GF, you should try your best to be there for him. Don’t just write it off as a guy’s thing . .  be there to serve the drinks, serve the snacks/meals, make the small talks, and know when to leave if they want to get down to the guys talk. Just being there makes him happy that you can blend into his life!![/Quote]

Nice one! Scintillating point. But how many women will do this without thinking he's turning her to his slave at the expense of his friends?

[Quote Author=Ujuoan]6. Be with him: As a GF, as far as the r/ship involves sex, it’s your duty to satisfy your BF.
Sometimes, it’s not even about the sex, it’s about knowing he can hold you in his arms all night long. A guy needs comfort from a girl, so as his girl, you should let him know you are there! Try important.[/Quote]


Once again, you've judged correctly!


[Quote Author=Ujuoan]1. Handy-man: Okay the word’s a bit derogatory, but if I have a BF, he should be there to fix my things. Electrical faults, plumbing, household appliances and even my car. Even if I have to pay for it, he should be the one to take it to the electrician/mechanic and make sure it gets fixed! If I have to travel a far distance, he should be ready to drive me, if I have a flat tire, he should be ready to change it and get it fixed. Infact, if I need anything done, he should get it done. That’s why we really hare their numbers on speed dial :d[/Quote]

You're right on this one! What if he's afraid of electric shock like me? LOL! It'll take God to be right by my side where I can see and look in his eyes before I can tamper with electricity. LOL! But I get what you're saying - he should be good at DIY (Do it yourself). I get it.

What if he can't handle long and very distant driving? Not all guys love driving you know? But if I could drive from here to heaven or space, I'm so game!


[Quote Author=Ujuoan]2. My escort: Well I can’t go for that wedding/ Party alone! He has to come with me.[/Quote]

Romantic! Nice!


[Quote Author=Ujuoan]3. My protector: Okay, before you say another word to me, I’ll have you know that I have a BF :d I actually let a guy go cos he let someone else toast me while I was with him. Before you talk to me, you think of what my BF will do to you![/Quote]

Ain't that some real shit?! Cool! Can I be your boyfriend so I burst some head wipe open?

[Quote Author=Ujuoan]4. Money: I know you guys don’t want to hear this but it’s the fact! My BF (poorer or richer than I am) pays for my hair and my clothes. Now I don’t expect him to take up totally financial responsibility of me, but if I’m throwing my B/day party, he shd pay for it or at least pay for most of it. He should at least once in a very blue moon, take me and my ladies out! He should pay for some lil things that I need and he should contribute, no matter how small, in anything I do!![/Quote]

Contribute sounds good. Taking you and your girls out sounds very cool. I can dig that.


[Quote Author=Ujuoan]5. Call me: Now this is a very tick one. If I have a BF, he should be the one calling more often. No matter how busy he is. He should call and check up on me while I’m at work, he should call me when I’m sick, he should call me when he wakes up in the morning and before he sleeps at night. . .  cos I’ll expect him to![/Quote]

Sounds good. A guy should call all those times. What about you calling him when you get to work? When you get off work? When you feel you're about to go ill? When someone or something upsets you? When you have a confusing day? When you're going on your lunch break? When you get home? I see you calling more often that him if you have to call at other times asides from those you said he should call you at.

[Quote Author=Ujuoan]6. Be with me: It’s not just the guys that want sex, we want it too. We also love the feeling of curling up in his arms all night long. We love company, we love knowing he’s there!![/Quote]

That's normal. It's traditionally required[/quote][/quote]

Crazyman, sorry my YM acted funny earlier. Maybe we can reschedule again?

[quote author=Lord_Reed link=topic=323931.msg4548873#msg4548873 date=1253029501]The phone is the worm on the end of a fishing line.[/quote]Are you saying the girl is a gullible little fish that falls for cheap hooks? Then that guy must have followed the Bible verse that says, "And I will make you fishers of men," but in this case, it's 'fishers of women'

[Quote Author=TheSeeker]It has been widely believed that sex and marriage go hand in hand and are both like Siamese twins which are inseparable. However, it has posed as much problems as anyone might have thought in most marriages, resulting into chaos ranging from cheating to messy divorces. I have seen situations where many sexual acts have been successfully introduced into marriages, permit me to be vulgar on this one, the sucking, licking, food play and all of that, while some women think they are emblems of the the true and proverbial African woman - one that doesn't engage in "nefarious" and "demeaning" sexual acts. They just want the old time kind of sex which doesn't entail all the "western" fantasies.

On the other hand, 98% of men, I mean men who are enlightened(educated,exposed and such) are so much engrossed in these habits, which I think is good because that is part of the globalization we're talking about evolving into, but their wives have refused to let them exhibit their new found talent in bed. The man subsequently seeks another woman out there who can go to any length to satisfy his needs and before you know it, he falls in "lust" and starts to lose focus on the home front and concentrating real good on the sexual counterpart, sending text messages, phone calls, romantic gifts, and dare I say that the man will be wayward and will start showing off attitudes to his wife if his counterpart is very sexy, good in bed and romantic?

Conclusively, some women are nasty with their husbands in bed, some are nasty within themselves but pretend to be saints to their husbands.  The main problem I think is that most partners don't know how to bring up the subject, Sex. Some don't always want to talk about it. Do you think sex makes a marriage last? Do you think there is any marriage devoid of better sex is prone to perils? Where do you think a marriage where sex is not talked about will land on? Let me know your opinions.[/Quote]

What's the relationship between the two? Deep and insightful responses, please! No cussing!

[Quote author=otukpo]Aroma is a very handsome, cool, intelligent etc man. i watched the show on friday and when he won the 10mills, i rejoiced like say na me win the money.

Kudos to him. He deserved it.[/Quote]


Will all these money-mongers please shut up?!