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I should be asking you that question, since you the one who came up with such a "Brilliant" post?

SMH! Some call it love. . .I call it stupidity! You don't owe it to anyone but yourself! You came into this world alone and trust me you'll leave alone!

LMAO!!!

What cracks me up when I see posts like this is its always about how to make the man/husband/bf/fiancé happy/love you more/fall in love with you! How about what the women want for a change? I think that's why there are so much issues in relationships today! Because its always about what the men want and not what the women want. . .The reason a lot of men are so clueless and always complaining about their women!

They coming out with them fangs! LMAO!!!

First of all I totally get where the poster is coming from. A dude doesn't have to be Bill Gates but he has to be doing something for himself, he has to have that foundation, drive and ambition to wanna succeed!

Some dudes sit on their butt doing nothing for themselves and expect a woman to put up with it. Like seriously? If you haven't taken care of yourself, you have no business getting married! How you gonna feed an extra mouth and take care of kids when they start coming? I think its very unfair to bring any child into this world to suffer! This also applies to lazy butt women who are doing nothing to improve themselves. . .their sole aim in life is to get a man to take care of them!

Finance is a big part of marriage and that's reality! Its broken so many homes and that's because people don't plan before they get married. . .they live in fantasy and when reality finally hits in (Bills). . .then they start to crumble. . .So get yourself together first before you take on that responsibility!

nobleayo: Our ladies these days av read 2 much dat they cant tink correctly anymore.All they cry out now is women liberation and dats y the marriage institution is in chaos.our mothers those days submitted to our fathers even to a fault.even if a man is misbehaving,there is a way aady can act in submission that he wil be sorry and com back beggin.THERE IS WISDOM IN FOOLISHNESS.

So let me get this straight, a dude's misbehaving and acting a fool and in order to prove I'm the best woman he ever had my response is to submit and take the crap . . .I wonder what world y'all be living in! Load of bull crap! You treat people the way you wanna be treated! If you give me respect then dude you gonna get my up most respect. . .but you act a fool then you ain't getting none period! Dudes talking of submission when they ain't even trying respect their women.

I think a lot of dudes are dumb when it comes to what their women really want. . .Trust me if you love, respect and show consideration to your woman's feelings then there wouldn't even be an issue of submission or respect! Except she's just an unreasonable and troublesome person!

Trust me its only a matter of time before those "physical manhandling" result into slaps and progress into beatings!

I LAUGH IN CHINESE!

So if you not married to her why should she do all those stuff for you like its your birth right?

YES THEY DO! I'M A NIGERIAN WOMAN AND I LOVE AND APPRECIATE WHEN MY MAN SENDS ME FLOWERS!

Are you married to her?

This dude has gone back to that stuff he smokes before coming here to spew nonsense! So how are these women affecting you? Is it your skin that its been worn on? What's skinny jeans got to do with romance or a woman being a sex object? SMH

[quote author=daz_york]Can anyone confirm that this plane had an emergency landing on March 11? Because if so, there is a case against the NCAA and Dana Air[/quote]I read it on Linda Ikeji's blog that it was the same plane.

This is just sad. This has been indeed a sad day for Nigerians! I just read on Linda Ikeji's blog that it was the same plane that had an emergency landing few weeks back and yet nothing was done! I weep for my country!

aboreofe: hey guys here my story...i had sex wit a girl in an environment where am teaching amd had many other girls who were interested in me. JUST A WEEK later and after like 3-4 tyms of having sex (without CD of course). She told me she was preg n tht i was responsible. Is tht even possible? Or is she trying to make me commited n focused on her n not look at the other girls in the sch??

I guess its an achievement right? Then why you surprised if she's pregnant! Dude own up to the consequences of your actions!

I'm sorry but are those Six Packs or Hunger packs?

Congrats to her! Dude is foine! Better gal!!!

Now why some of the dudes on here hating? Insecure bunch! LMAO!!!!

MOBBDEEP: @ Figures,
Each union has its own challenges.
Don't allow many of these green people ruin your relationship.
What's the problem with co-owning a family account? It would've been a different kettle of fish supposing :
1. You didn't have a joint-account or
2. He was the one earning bigger.
But as it is now, don't even try opening another account or restricting his access to the J-Acc cos if you do, you will make him cast a doubt & air of suspicion on you, you'll bruise his ego more & drive him more into his cocoon, which will defect your purpose/intention.

I do tell people to check themselves too when I hear issues like this. Someone raised an issue of how you may be treating your MIL but ThoniaSlim was quick to attack the suggestor. What even baffled me was calling him a fool ! Ha ha !!! Please Thoniaslim, softly softly.
It's even the perceivedly or seemingly small/negligible matters that forms the bedrocks of either the success or failure of a union like the proverbial tiny rudder of the airplane.

Lastly, to be candid, the ideaism of gender equality will make more marriage suffers because it cannot address the problems the people intend it to. Trust me, I'm not a bigot nor sexist, and what I detest most in human is Bossy/master/domineering trait. A simple respect for all our fellow humans, irrespective of colour; closeness; caste, will solve the issues that the Seesaw balance-like Gender equality/woman emancipation is trying to solve.
The God that made man & woman differently was not a novice or trial-ist.
Please, don't equally underplay the role of personality compatibility & adjustments.
All will be well.

Dude where did I call him a fool? Try using your glasses next time you reading rather than jumping into stupid conclusions!

Johndoe100: Authority in which field? Marriage? Making one work? Posting on an anonymous forum? Authority on what? How do you make such statements? Funny lot of people.

LMAO! I also find the statement hilarious!

cyril83: ...u have a lot to learn thonia.....the Op actually brouht her topic frm ongoing thread...dnt u knw dat unhappy in marriage begins wit di pple arnd ur husband,frnds,families, u have to be vry good to them irrespective of their behaviour,its only a lunatic member of ur in law wil be askin u to compromise wit all dia demands though dia r some pple like dat buh snubbin or fighting dem will neva solve di problem buh u have to learn how to live wit those characters...my problem wit u gals is dat u guyz r tryin to modernize tins in a wrong way.u jst have to change ur motive towards diz arguement...biko Nne,omalicha nwa

You seriously crack me up! So me knowing my rights as an individual and not settling for less is me being modernized! You the one who needs to change your myopic views... you get as much as you give. . .You give crap then expect it back. . .Only a fool would be treated well by her in-laws/ husbands friends and react with hostility...No one's getting an easy card out just because you feel your an in-law/husband's friend then you can act a fool...People need to learn how to act like individuals with brains in their heads and not their butts!

In conclusion! Nigerians are a bunch of myopic clowns! A woman's talking about how her husband treats her like crap! Yet some fools gonna find a way to try to blame her for a punk's behavior! UTTER MADNESS! WHAT HAS THIS GOT TO DO WITH HER IN LAWS! IS her home not meant for her and and her husband? CRAP WOMEN PUT UP WITH! Pffft!

LMAO!!!

taryour: do u tok back at ur husband when he is angry? Do u take to corections wen he corects u or u keep repeting d same thing? Does he drink or smoke? Wot are dose things u do to make him beat u and send him out of d house?do u prepare his food on time? Do u nag?do u deny him sex? So many questions to answer and so many reasons to make him beat u, u can always avoid his anger to d point of him beating u.

Let me get this straight. . .so what if she does all the above stuff? Is that a reason he should beat her? Are you a woman?

Claracuzio: A real woman dosnt need an apology from a man because she knows real men a proud.
Real men just have to be proud, we can't help it.
But unfourtunately stupid women who chase after gender equality always want to keep their men in check.
I wonder why a woman cannot just sit down and be contempt with the love her man has to offer?
Food for thought for all you silly women out there:
Nobel/loyal women = Happy home
Independent/career/classy et c woman = divided home.
Don't u get it?
Once a womana is no longer domestic, she is offside

Men are proud and you'all can't help it? LMAO! In-fact your whole comment cracks me up! Chile please! Mtchewwwww!

@Killz

I really can't think of any major differences between these two ethnic groups apart from the language and the state names (Akwa Ibom and Cross River). The ibibio language is kinda of an intense or would I say twisted version of the efik language. In terms of culture, food, and clothing we all the same.

I'm from Akwa Ibom and peeps need to quit the silly stereotypes they give efik and ibibio women!

Your bf has control issues! With these sort of peeps it never gets better only worse! Imagine if you were to end up marrying this man? Now that would be living in bondage! Do you really wanna subject yourself to such a life?

Why should he be allowed to do whatever he wants and he tries to restrict you? That ain't love! That's CONTROL!

Now this is how people set themselves up for future disappointments. . .Dude already said he can't marry you....What else do you need to hear? You really think he's gonna change his mind? I doubt it...Men are quite decisive when it comes to the type of women they wanna marry! Take a walk now before you become more entangled and its even more difficult to leave!

I doubt nairaland is the best place to find someone serious! But Good luck anyways!

So let me get this straight! All the dudes replying this thread are all claiming to be in the right and their ex girls were wrong? HMMM now that's some bull! Speak the truth and shame the devil!