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Why should you even be considering living with an adulterous husband?

I read this story on linda's blog! It brought me to tears but It also made me very angry and disgusted! Why women stay in such situations is beyond my imagination! NO MAN IS WORTH IT! NO MAN AT ALL! I'll rather be unmarried than be in a miserable marriage all in the name of being married! Please give me a break! This should serve as a lesson to women out there! If your miserable and the person your married too isn't compromising please walk out! IT IS NOT A DO OR DIE AFFAIR! Yes you want to try and work it out but you should know a situation worth fighting for and some situations are not worth it! My happiness and peace of mind comes first!

[quote author=emöfine link=topic=864697.msg10140205#msg10140205 date=1328605577]Interesting . . .my mind loosely hovers on Isis Papers.

So those who also worship the symbol of a phallus can also be called a "phallicist"?[/quote]Yes a person who worships a phallus can be called a phallicist.

@Ucheike

I don't expect you to care. . .your statement obviously shows an IQ of -0.

elampiro:
@poster, tell us one reason you think the girl u called ur 'girlfriend' loves you?? Your girlfriend doesn't love you, you are only assuming her to. She's probably sitting on the fence for now. She hasn't 'surrendered to you'. Probably she doesn't know how to tell you she doesn't love you, and she doesn't want to hurt you either because she's noticed you are hypnotised by her love. So she decided to help you by handing over her friend who probably had told her she likes you. , My friend think and ask yourself if your girlfriend actually loves you.

I find the word ''Surrender" very myopic! Why would you want another human being surrendering to you?

So tell me. . .Are you trying to justify your actions?

If you felt this gf of yours wasn't showing you the attention you want. . .why not address it? Do you have to cheat with her friend? SMH!

michelin89:
My gal and I were having a chat about relationships and women when we ended up discussing the case of women who just can't leave a man despite all the evil he does to her.

This is a related story by a lady:

http://temiville./2012/01/21/if-you-call-it-settling-then-yes-i-have-settled

Now this lady was hopelessly in love with Bode, a man who treated her like poo and never loved or cared about her. What was this attraction that was holding her back to the point she nullified herself for the man to walk on? Thankfully she wasn't abused physically, but the emotional scars she was left with led her into the arms of a man she doesn't feel anything for, Tayo.

Wetin this woman find for Bode body wey she dey die for and why she nor wan leave am? Simple: his phallus!

This woman is a perfect example of a phallusian. Let's get more information about it.

Who is a Phallusian?

Phallusians are generally women who worship and adore the god Phallus.

Who is Phallus?

Phallus is the divinized form of that part of a man situated on the lower part of his pubic region. He is always accompanied by one or two devoted followers who jealously contain the nectar he donates to his worshippers, whenever he is pleased with their praises.

Identifying Phallusians

1. Majority women
2. Age is irrelevant
3. She is devoted beyond human comprehension to a man
4. She is aggressive towards other women
5. Rarely single and prone to very long lasting relationships
6. She is excessively controlling, jealous and protective towards her man
7. She loves the man's phallus more than she actually loves the man, but she isn't aware of that.
8. She lacks her own personality and molds herself to fit the taste of the man whose phallus she's in love with.

So Nlders, now that you are aware of this new religion, can you tell the class what can lead a woman to be a follower and do you think such religion will gain consent in our Nigerian/African society?

I don't think you did your research well. . . I'll like to know where you got your information from.

First of all its called "Phallicism" not Phallunism.

Phallicism is the worship of the phallus especially as symbolic power or the generative principle of nature.


Secondly your definition of a Phallus is  inaccurate.

A phallus is an image of the male reproductive organ that was carried in a procession in ancient festivals of Dionysus or Bacchus. It symbolized the generative power in nature of the male reproductive organ.

It could also be defined as an erect reproductive male organ or an object that is shaped in the form of a reproductive male organ.

Thirdly, they were called Phallicists not Phallusians

A phallicist is a person who worships the phallus and you can also describe this as a person who possesses a very strong s:e:x drive.

She dug this pit herself. . .now she's gotta bear the consequences because whether her father in law tells her husband or not. . .one day the truth would be revealed. . .

Its a big lesson to everyone. . .be mindful of your present actions because they might come back to haunt you later on. . .

I personally couldn't care less if a black guy is with a white lady. . .I have a couple of white friends who are dating black men. . .I believe dating/love shouldn't be restricted to a specific race or color. . .

However

I think this question should be directed more at the men. . .because whenever majority of black men see a black woman with a white man (especially when she's really pretty) they find it offensive and some even resort to cursing her out. . .the funny thing about it is that some of the men who do this are actually dating outside their race themselves. . .its really funny. . .

vivika:
Growing up, i always told my mum i ways going to marry a celeb and have 6kids  , so i worked very hard at maintaining my figure*it is even evident* . I am turning 21 this year *whoop whoop* and for some reason i have this irrational fear that i won't marry before 25 because mumsi married at 21. Am i being unreasonable with my fear? Because i have 4 aunties who are in their late 30s and not married and about 3 more who married in their mid/late 30s. I don't want to be like them, but i also want to marry a celeb. Any advice?

interesting. . .Why the anxiety to be married? And why the need to marry a celebrity?

As much as you are entitled to your opinion. . .based on your views. . .I think you are setting yourself up for disappointments. . .

snthesis:
After a series of very hard long in-depth surveys from the length and breadth of Nigeria. It is official the NIGERIAN GIRLS (not wives o) ARE OVER-PAMPERED.
it is only in Nigeria that the guy;
. Pays for taking a Chic out.
. Pays for Breakfast
. Pays for Lunch
. Pays for Dinner (small wonder they all have big belles )
. Pays for her Movies tickets
. Pays for Popcorn and Drinks.
. Pays for her cab
. Pays for the Chics Calls
. Pays for her Blackberry
. Pays for her Monthly BIS
. Pays for her Hair
. Pays for her Makeup
. PAYS< PAYS< PAYS>. . . . .

Nigerian Guys deserve more respect for being the nicest gentlemen in the WORLD.

This has to be the most ridiculous post I've read in a while. . .Nice joke MR!

Has she given you any reason to doubt her or is it just your insecurities bothering you?

adagz 01:
we met a week ago,we have had some great time together,she loves me and i like her.just yesterday my friend told me her mum is a big juju woman.
Should i still continue with the relationship?

Interesting how you said she "loves" you and you "like" her. . .How do you know she loves you?

the simple thing to do is to find out from her before you draw conclusions. . .

What do you define as class?

Does this mean all the so-called "UGLY" people do not possess any class because of their looks?

Definitely a confirmed introvert. . .I'll generally choose staying at home and doing something over going to various parties or social engagements. . . I find most of them boring and time consuming and most time I always have to be pushed into attending them. . .


I also love my "Me Time" and I have very few friends I hold dear to my heart.

That is not love but obsession! Love is fair. . .Love wants to see you succeed. . .Love shares in your happiness and success. . .Love is not controlling. . .Love respects your opinion and offers you a chance to grow. . .I think the hand writing is on the wall!


Proceed at your own risk!

whao! Truly sad and shameful!

lmao! Good one. . .

Hey I ain't saying he can't help you. . .But you making it look like its mandatory that he helps. . .You ain't his responsibility and so he has the choice to help or not. . .if him assisting you is so important to you then tell him how you feel not NL. . .and If you think you can't tolerate this part of him then leave. . .

librangyps:
Iv bn dating this guy bout a year Ω̴̩̩̩̥ow and iv come to really care for him, We dnt have any issues except that he is terribly miserly with his funds. He's very capable to care for me but very reluctant with flimsy excuses that I make him feel insecure like I'm gon' run off someday with someone else, I really try hard to suppress such emotions I̶̲̥̅̊n̶̲̥̅̊ him and realy watch my ways, I'm still schooling full time and also running professional courses and really need his support at this point I̶̲̥̅̊n̶̲̥̅̊ my life and I'm beginning to feel its just some excuse he makes whenever I need him to spend on one aspect of my educational pursuit, I'd hate to leave him on d grounds of money cos aside that he's really cool, [b]But how else do I fund my education :? What do I do, [/b]Does this mean he cnt care for me if we eventually tie d knots,

OKK? IS he your dad guardian or husband?

lmao! smh

Come to think of it. . .If it were a huge looking dude who came out for deliverance and said something like that. . .sincerely would Oyedepo have slapped him like that? I guess not! THIS IS JUST A COWARDLY MOVE!

I weep for the level of gullibility that affects majority of Nigerians. . .I truly weep . . .



CHRISTIANITY IS NOT A TOOL FOR VIOLENCE AND WHAT THE SO-CALLED PASTOR DID WAS JUST WRONG AND SHOULD NOT BE JUSTIFIED IN ANY WAY!

Its amazing how gullible Nigerians can be all in the name of Christianity! A so-called man of God slaps a young lady who apparently came for help and people are supporting this barbaric act saying he was casting out demons! I seriously wonder the bible you all read! Who the heck is he to condemn someone to hell? Is he God! SMH!

Whao! As much as this treatment was unfair. . .can you really blame them? Seriously! I stayed in Malaysia for three years and the attitude of most Nigerians there was just terrible! Not saying that there were no good Nigerians. . .but when majority of the bunch do nothing but cause trouble and give Nigeria a bad reputation can you really blame these Malaysians? Even I as a Nigerian I tried to avoid most of them like a plague because they were nothing but trouble! Talk more of a Malaysian. . .

The report of their neighbors saying they were disturbing. . .I will not be surprised if there is some truth to it! Most condominiums have rules! You are not supposed to be too loud or throw house parties past a certain time! and before you move in you are made aware of these rules! But trust Nigerians with their  lawless attitude. . .they make so much noise and disturb the whole neighborhood. . . I remember staying at a condominium one time. . .I was on the 2nd floor and there were Nigerians staying on the 5th floor but I could always hear them from my floor. . .that's how loud they were. . . the security guards were always going to knock at their door because they were always being reported by the neighbors for making so much noise. . .

I also remember a raid that happened once at a condominium I was staying at. . . . .The police came to take Nigerians that stayed at the condominium. . .both girls and boys were taken. . .I wasn't aware that a raid was going on. . .It was later at night I went to get some groceries and I saw a friend. . .he was telling me that there was a raid on Nigerians staying at the condominium and some people were taken away. . .I told him I wasn't aware because I was napping at the time the raid happened. . .he said it was the security guards in the condominium who showed them the flats Nigerians were staying at. . .now its funny that they never knocked on my door and some other people who were also Nigerians. . .which means they protected me and others from whatever could have happened based on the fact that we were never known to be loud or cause any trouble in the condominium. . .

sometimes we might not be aware of it but our attitudes are being watched by others. . .when you try to avoid trouble and your careful of the company you keep then trouble doesn't just seek you out. . .but Nigerians go about acting like they own the country and they above the law in another man's country? So if we being really truthful can you really blame these Malaysians?



Based on my experience. . .I think Malaysia is a beautiful country. . .Its a place you would truly enjoy if your sole aim of going there is to study or visit. . . .but its unfortunate that these bad eggs have given us such a bad reputation that its so difficult to tell the good ones from the bad bunch. . .Its so unfortunate for the good ones. . .but I guess its a cross they have to bear. . .

Awwwhh. . .She's so cute and adorable. . .

then tell her and stop being a PUNK!

I think dudes who go on about how white women are this and that are just so funny. . .like dude ain't nobody contesting that. . .makes you'all look so pathetic. . . If you dating one and you so happy with her. . .good for you. . .if you ain't dating one and this is your way of trying to find one. . .I suggest you try match.com and stop boring us with your cheap advertisements. . .

lolzzzzzz

I guess she telling you the truth was so wrong. . .If she hid it from you. . .would that have been better? she really didn't have to tell you but she did. . .doesn't that count as something?

Its crazy what's become of Jos. . .I did my junior secondary school here and I remember how beautiful and peaceful Jos was. . .Its so sad that its become the exact opposite. . . .