₦airaland Forum

First of all before I reply the poster, some dumb azzes here, need to get it straight before posting. It's better to keep quiet and be considered wise than open your mouth and be considered STuPid!

There are DEBIT CARDS in Nigeria, The question your silly azzes should have asked is, what sort of debit cards? There are debit cards that can be used to shop without a pin. . .basically they act as credit cards but you need to have paid some money into the card to use it. You can order stuffs online and you do not need a pin to use it online to shop, all you need is the 3 digits security numbers at the back of the card!



@posteR

As much as I don't support her tryna steal your card, high chances are you straight up telling a lie! Funny enough I've always wondered why its them broke azz niggas always tryna feel like they got it like that! smh!

Two wrongs don't make a right! Just because the other person's doing it, you go do it. That puts you on d same level with the other person! The best way to handle such issue is address it by confronting him with your knowledge of the situation and if you both can work it out then good for y'all but if you can't THEN LEAVE! Marriage ain't a do or die affair!

There's nothing wrong but personally he's got to be minimum of 5yrs older than I am.

No 1 principle of being smart: Never! spend a guy's money if you have no intention of being in a relationship with him!

love the songs most especially "I'll be right here waiting for U" I miss my baby so much but totally worth the wait!!!

Personally I think age shouldn't be a factor. What you should be considering now is "Is she matured enough to handle the responsibilities that comes with being married" and only you can answer this since you know her better than we do.

@Pinky

True no one can teach U about your Husband but Him! But trust me it'll do you a lot of good to make friends with Nigerian girls who have your genuine interest at heart! I know why I say this cuz I speak from experience. I have a close Zimbabwean friend who's seriously dating a Nigerian Man n who helps her with complicated issues arising from cultural difference n all that? Her Nigerian girlfriends! You come here abusing Nigerian women but you seem to forget your "beloved Nigerian man" was brought into this life by a Nigerian woman. You about to get married into a Nigerian family "Yes I said It" maybe in ur culture you get married and your extended family doesn't get involved, that's not so with a Nigerian man! You marry him n your marrying his family! With this attitude I see you having problems with your in-laws and trust me your in-laws are the last peeps you wanna have as enemies cuz they'll frustrate the living day light outta of you! You cannot alienate yourself from a man's people n expect to be happy! It might work for a while, but his people are his people! So if you know you wanna have a blissful marriage with this Nigerian man, you had better start adapting to his culture and women(cuz his sisters,mother,cousins,aunts if not all, majority are all Nigerian women)!

MzDarkSkin:
ABSOLUTELY. In fact I defend polygamy IF it is agreed to by all parties. I dont see anything wrong with it. My boyfriend is African and his father has 3 wives and LOTS of children! So in their family having big families is a tradition as well as polygamy. He himself doesn't have a desire to have more than one wife because "one is enough pain" LOL but on a serious note we have discussed the possibility.

If all parties agree? My dear no woman in her right mind would wanna share her husband! Obviously that bf of yours must have given you otapiapia to eat!

SO in order words if your male friend makes a move on your girl and she succumbs, its not her fault right? You brush it off lightly> After all she's human.

In conclusion all girls are like this based on your experience?

Most of my formative years I grew up as an only child cus my younger brother came much later. But one thing I credit my mum for was never sparing the rod, in fact left to my dad alone, he did most of the spoiling while my mum was the disciplinarian. She definitely raised me with a firm hand and I'll forever be grateful to her for that.


Its very important for parents to be loving but firm with their kids especially during their formative years. Because its those years that determines how the child turns out later in adulthood.

All I got to say is WTF?

loving01:
@ Thonia slim,yes, he is ready to get back to school now, which is why I am looking for a school for him in europe, and he is determined to struggle while schooling too. He has assured me that he will do all it takes to be up and doing.

He says not He does! two different things girl. Its not about what he says but what he does. Does his actions speak determination?

What happened to Nigerian schools? Moreover he's 27years old without a previous degree or something to show since he left school, you really think the high commission/embassy won't take this into consideration?

I just feel you wasting your time on this dude! I also feel he's using you as a means to an end. When he gets what he wants (Leaves the country) that will be it for you.


Well its your life and your choice. But I just hope for your sake it turns out well and you don't end up regretting when its already too late.

Whao! Goodluck with that!

As much as I admire your dedication to this man, I think you need to have a rethink of what you really want. Seriously if he's at least making efforts and following through with them, its understandable. But in my opinion he's capitalizing on your love for him. At 27 and he has nothing to show for it, not even a degree? Girl I think its high time you take off those rosy love glasses and start thinking with your brain.

One sentence for the both of you: You and him are both idiots! You both give men a bad NAME!

If this story is true, then that is a very selfish man! For him to agree to the man's demand and even try and force his wife into agreement shows he does not believe/trust God, he has no respect/love for his wife. A man who truly loves and respects his wife would be appalled by even a though of another man touching her talk more of sleeping with her. He also does not respect God cause if he did, he'll know Adultery is a sin and great things come to those who wait patiently on the Lord ( Look at Job's story in the bible)

Trust me such a man would later turn against her when he stands back on his feet as a result of the loan. SO she should stand her ground and if the marriage ends because of this at least she still has her pride and dignity intact and if he's a sensible man he'll  know he's lost a jewel and definitely go after her!

Makes a whole lot of sense!

I don't think your friend's stupid. In fact I think your friend enjoys collecting the money from her.

What exactly did you do?

I feel indifferent.

Ok I find this story hilarious! Why didn't his sister just go ahead and propose to the lady? Seriously!

And you call this person your friend? Yet you gonna talk this way about her? Why do I have a feeling you seem jealous?

Nope!

Yes it matters!

My dear don't expect it to get better with marriage. It only gets worse! So before you accept his proposal you really need to ask yourself if you willing to deal with this attitude of his especially if he ain't willing to change.

I would say follow the advice of your parents only when they giving you a really good reason for their refusal! You don't just tell me not to marry a man because you think it won't work. Who are you now God who can see into the future? If they ain't giving you some really valid reason then they should have no SAY!

Who are you? The new "mamagee" what's with the opening of silly threads here and there?

Google up this site "na my wedding" its a nigerian website that carters to wedding details and plans. You should get all the details you need. Gudluck.

Well she played a game and lost. So she should see it as a lesson and learn frm it.