₦airaland Forum

yetseyi:
This is the first time I am seeing an Obituary poster of a young person from Yorubaland, This kind of death is an oku ofo and its not celebrated and are mostly buried silently especially if the parents are still living, posters are not even printed for young deaths normally.

The designer even designed it colorfully.

Very surprised.

Her family is rich.

[quote author=frestyyy post=52363624][/quote]Her personal help.She lived alone.

Jdesilentkiller:
I am not trying to spite the dead or anything
.. But there is a possibility that the house boy might be her lover who got jealous or something that she is getting married to another man after promising him heaven and earth while they lived together.. Case of jealous ex...or he stole her money and she threatened to report him to the police.. There are endless possibilities you can choose from.

No lover here,he was simply a houseboy.
He said he wanted a raise in his salary and that may have infuriated his madam who probably lashed out and the guy(who fit dey kolo)simply grabbed a knife to 'show' her.He might not have had the intention to kill her but you know what happens when the devil steps in.

tee59:
But what i did'nt understand abt d whole story is that,why was she leavn alone wtout any relative?This is one of d advantages of havn a family member around.D guy capitalized on d fact,she was alone.We all need our family no mata hw bad dey may be.And this is not d first time dis wil happen.Havn read stories of such and women are always d victims.Dnt trust any stranger wt ur life no mata hw long dey av bn living wt u.Always hav sml arnd incase of urgent need.May her soul rest in peace.

Her parents are well to do.Father is late but had a few buildings.
As a matured girl,she didn't want to live with the mother so she moved into one of her dad's apartments.

It wasn't a wise decision though to stay alone and worse still bring a matured man to stay with you.

Berbierklaus:
I don't know the joy people find in bringing their life's issue on Nairaland,no matter how anonymous you think you are.
What happens to talking to a pastor,counselor, or family member, or even a friend?
I wonder how y'all feel having people throw different opinions here and there on your matter
Well what do I know.

Well I don't think the Op here is in a state of joy presently.
Some people need to speak anonymously about issues in their lives to strangers because they can't tell anyone around them.I don't see anything wrong with it.

troubledheart:
Saw him last on the 6th of December. Last period started 16th of November...
I called him this morning. His exacts words were so am going to be father very soon? I told him I don't want to keep it and he asked how old it is, told him I plan to do a scan later today to be certain. And he said OK, no problem, take care and ended the call.

You should be about a month gone then.
Have that discussion with your ex-boyfriend and let us know what you decide.

I wish I could speak to you offline.

Chanbaby,Zaynie answered your question.
Adhere to your doctor's instruction.Once you notice leakage of fluid,go to the hospital.Your baby might come early if there's leaking of fluid because the baby will need to be delivered.
Not to worry,the most important thing is a sound baby and a sound mother.

Op,when you talk to your boyfriend,let's know what he says.
If I may ask,how many weeks is this pregnancy?

Why is he an ex if you still meet up with him?
I know it's a hard decision to make but keep the baby.You could decide to tell your ex or keep it away from him but somewhere,someday he will find out.
I hope you have a regular source of income so the kid doesn't suffer.

^^^ if you can't just pick up his phone and use it(make a call,send a text or browse)then there's something wrong with your marriage in the first place.

deebee13:
Thank you so much. Hope this helps. (BTW You nairalanders have trust issues, there's nothing wrong in admitting it's me if it is).

Some of us have been here long enough on Nairaland to find out that 60 percent of people who say,'my friend' are actually the people in it.

ariesbull:
Go to exodus

You ever heard about the commonwealth of Israel?Ever heard about the chosen generation?Ever heard that there's neither 'Jew nor Greek'?

Don't be stuck in Exodus/old testament.

Op,this issue is not about Yoruba girl.It's about the persdon you married and it's a good thing you admitted not doing due dilligence before marrying her.
As it stands now,you have to be patient and keep trying to educate and re-orientate her about your culture and hopefully she will change.
You need to understand too that she may be undergoing emotional and psychological turmoil because of trying to conceive.You need to support her.I hope you both are getting checked out to see what's causing the delay.

ariesbull:
Na now you know....chi efo...I hope they warned you before you married ..But you looked at the sweetness of toto and you thought marriage is all about toto. Know they have warned you and they warned you...


Dude..inter tribal marriages rarely work.a lot of baggages . Most people that are in it but present the picture that is working so that people will not tell them...shey we warned you

Bible is always correct when he said marry your type Even if you want to marry ..Marry neighbouring tribes not crossing seven seas and seven oceans to get a toto. That's madness and stupidity


Now back to you...Go and thank lord that she doesn't have a child for you. Then do the needful

@bolded,don't just put out assumptions as facts.How many inter-tribal marriages have you seen to conclude they are pretending?Inter-tribal marriages truly is not for everyone but for those whose minds are broadened and have gone beyond where they come from.

Which bible says you should marry your type meaning your tribe?

You or she can go to a pharmacy and ask for witch hazel pads.It will give her some relief.She can also get ice packs and use.
There's also a spray the helps if she can find it.It's called lidacaine spray.

The itch will stop after some time.

Okay,we understand you got burnt by fire and you need to celebrate your recovery but posting these pictures on social media isn't nice.

Missebira,do you sincerely love this guy?
How long have you known this guy?

Otem2016:
When Yeshu(Ieusa) first came to the world, he failed in his mission BECAuse he refused to mention the name of his father(Yahweh) and he also made himself equal with Yahweh(Satan) and Allah(Holy spirit). Then he had to be reincarnated as Murhamid to mend his mistakes.
Here is a Doctufos passage about his second mission:

Lishius 28: 1-8 1. Now Murhamid grew up, knowing not that he was the reincarnate of Ieusa.
2. And he spoke the language called Larub. And Murhamid excelled so much in the art of painting and writing.
3. Now Murhamid tended towards the worship of Mazda than Alla. And he learnt also of Yahweh and of Yeshua.
4. And Murhamid began to feel within him that he was Ieusa.
5. Now Murhamid set aside the worship of any god and sought after his own higher self in meditation.
6. And Murhamid fasted for six days, seeking the existence of himself. And when he was twenty, he saw his first revelation.
7. And he found himself standing before the moon. And he heard a voice as if coming from the moon, saying, Oh Murhamid, I am Alla.
8. And Murhamid fell before the moon and worshipped.

This must be from the book of comedy.Lie nus 28:1-8

He is the messiah?
So why don't the followers of Mohammed accept Him as the Messiah?

jozz:
Arguments for and against the Christmas celebration have been on for decades. The main argument against Christmas has been that nowhere in the bible is Christmas mentioned and that Jesus was not born on Dec 25.Proponents of the Christmas celebration on the other hand have argued that while truly there is no evidence of Jesus being born on Dec 25, nevertheless the celebration has a good motive-to honour Jesus.
As you read this article, I want you to consider a more compelling reason to avoid the Christmas celebration-its pagan origin.Have you ever paused to give it a thought: if Christmas was not instituted by Jesus, was unknown among his disciples and the early Christians, where then did the celebration come from?
It is interesting to note that it was not until more than 300 years after Jesus birth that Christendom officially began to observe Christmas on Dec 25. The roots of Christmas can be traced to pagan Rome with its mixture of festivals for honouring the agriculture god Saturn and the sun god Sol Invictus or mithra. The catholic church wanting to strengthen its position, converted the pagan celebration to a christian one.
Anthropologists Christian Ratsch and Claudia Muller-Ebeling coauthors of the book pagan Christmas write :Like many pre-christian customs and beliefs, the old feast commemorating the yearly return of the sun was dedicated to the birth of christ. So if humans can detect the pagan connection of Christmas, the ultimate and most important question we need to ask is :How does God (whose approval we are all striving for) feel about a celebration of pagan origin now dedicated to his son? 2 For 6:14-17 says :What fellowship do righteousness and lawlessness have or what sharing does light have with darkness? Quit touching the unclean thing and I will take you in.
Therefore in conclusion the issue of Christmas goes beyond issue of personal choice. The persons we purport to be honouring via Christmas celebration (God and Jesus) are telling us clearly that they are not interested in the celebration,in fact it is offensive to them. Are we more powerful or all knowing than them?

@bolded,they told you this by email,bbm or whatsapp?
Please can we see a screen shot of where they expressed their offense?

TI1919:
I am a Christian not a Jehovah witness member and I don't celebrate Christmas.

Why

It is not written in the scripture that the apostle celebrate it. If it is not in the bible no need to add it.

Show me where it is in the bible that you should attend secondary school.
Remember if it is not in the bible,you are not supposed to do it.

Overflogged topic.
If you don't wish to celebrate Christmas, go and do your laundry.

neyoworld247:
Wetin concern bvn with people transaction bro nothing go happen even if she call police

You think so.They will fish him out if it gets to the right authorities.

Too much baggage.
He should marry one of his baby mamas.

The only thing that is most attractive about him is his money and his 'player-handsomeness'.

Op,did you say 'perfect character' and 'God fearing'?Hmmmm

The guy is foolish to think that he can get away for long with a BVN no.

Let him discontinue the intake.He should drink a lot of water to flush it from his system.
If the symptoms don't abate after 24hrs or he is incresingly in discomfort,he should go to the hospital.

Amelian:
I wanted to marry early, be a dutiful wife and great mother to my kids early in life but unfortunately it didn't work out.

And as one would say, man proposes but God disposes. I then realized with the kind of job am doing. It will a take a great man with a great heart to support my career dreams and invest in me. God had where he was taking me to, and saw the mistake I made and realised it will change my course of destiny to where he wants me to be. I believe that's why the union didn't work. Mehn I thank God.

God has a better plan.

cococandy:
I got married at 23. I have no regrets about it.

If I meet Cococandy at 23yrs and she says I want to marry now,I'll say, why not but if 'Amaka' at 23yrs says I want to marry now,I'll ask her, why do you?

Amelian:
So true. I nearly made that mistake at age 22
Thank God am strong willed and have mind of my own. My parents nearly pushed me to marry this 36year old guy and he so arrogant, proud and a huge sadist. Mehn, I ran for my life o after engagement. It was a horrible period. Thanks heavens I didn't get pregnant for him, he so wanted me to get preggy before white wedding. Mehn I saw the signs, mental abuse and all that shiit. I ran away.. Smmh, I wont allow one man mentally abuse me, cause he's so wealthy , with series of international awards and degrees. Who gives a fucvk! If u are not a human being, get the Fuccvk off!
Mehn op u try sha

It's good you left o.Quite a no of girls would have gone into it especially because of his status hoping he would change.

byvan03:
Thorpido what's wrong with marrying at 22-23yrs?

Actually,the problem is not with the age but the Nigerian environment.The average girl at that age in Nigeria lives in fantasy.Many are yet to get a grip of what marriage entails and see it as a getaway or a means of material gains.