₦airaland Forum

Mynd44:
He probably has never played "5 aside" where you drop your lunch money as bet

Lol.
You become street smart early.

Lol@taking decisions that are not expected of U-17 players.

Dem be pako no be ajebutter.

What's wrong with some men sef?
I always think this thing has psychiatric roots.

.....but the woman sef is very unstable.

Teophilus96:
Make deep research and you will find out why .

You haven't answered the question.

So what God do the Shiite muslims and the Sunni muslims worship.

It's still in the news that they kill themselves.

RIP Nwanne.
May God comfort your family on the losses.

Some Nigerians sha.Ready to do anything to just get by.

Dyt:
Lwtmb


Sarcastic much huh

works wonders.

babythug:
The husband obviously has a promiscuous streak in him. Perhaps your friend didn't notice before they got married.

However it is too late to cry over spilled milk.

She should first of all desist from searching his phone. It's unnecessary and only would increase her agony.

She should engage herself more in her business, career(i'm hoping she's not a housewife) and the children. If they are under age 6, i trust they would be more than enough to keep her engaged daily- their laundry, homework, cleaning the house etc etc .....

She can ensure she's on point as per her weight, dress sense and in meeting his needs in bed.

Good luck to her!

N.B- She should not come and kee herself because of this issue. she won't be the first nor the last with this kind of *crisis*

men and thier waka waka sef mcheeeewwww

Just to add,she should get nice lingerie and be sexy.Get some cool red pants and bra.

sonofananimal:
WOMEN don't want a liability but the WOMEN are liability THEMSELF.

That's why guys work so hard or do anything to have money just to take Care of women or to be recognized by women. (So all what I'm saying is that when that guy is hustling, no body know him but when he start making it, people start knowing him,)

Some women are assets though.

sonofananimal:
he was already earning a good income. He even drives a customized car BEFORE HE GOT MARRIED TO HER!

I GUESS SO!

True.If a man has a disability,he must show ability in other areas for a woman to even look at him.

sonofananimal:
is it when the guy started earning good income or before he earns an income?

Just curious to know

A lady will marry a guy with disability and without a good financial status in Nigeria?I doesn't(sic) think so!
He was already earning a good income.He even drives a customised car.

If you have a son that is barely one,then your marriage must be young.Divorce shouldn't be your first solution,try and work on the marriage.
You should confront him about this.Try to be calm while you do and let him know that the marriage can't continue this way.

MadCow1:
I know that I should be more mature in my thoughts but when I see the both of them together, all I want to ask them is 'How do they fhuck?"

Haba,it's the lady's legs that can't move.Nothing stops the guy.

swaggzo:
THE ONLY PROBLEM IS. .. THIS CAN'T HAPPEN THE OPPOSITE WAY.


NOT EVEN AN INSANE AFRICAN WOMAN WOULD WANNA BE WITH A WHEELCHAIR-SITTING MAN....


GENDER EQUALITY, YOU EVEN EXIST?
WHERE?

That's not true.I've seen a lady marry a guy on a wheelchair.
The guy works and earns a good income and is independent to a great extent.

He's obviously not 25yrs.

ab1x:
I don't know but I saw the pastor with police this morning on my way to farm. I can't wait so I had to get going.

Feed us with the full gist later.

There's more to this story.
Is she under a spell?

These people have imaginations ruled by their lusts.Jesus who knew said they don't marry in heaven but are like the angels.

How long have you been married?Has he always been this way since you married and was he this way while you were courting?
I don't know what you plan to do,maybe show him you can cheat too?
Except by divine intervention,a cheat won't just change.
Protect yourself.

Your dad is obviously upset but he won't be for ever.Just focus on re-writing your exam and be seen to be focused by your dad.With time he will cool down.
Your dad says he has never failed in his life.I believe it is in exams which is possible but he must have failed in other things.Try and get on the side of your mum and get her support.

mamboroo:
really they say they got advanced equipments now

Yes.You can actually have the test done in 4-8weeks after exposure with some test kits but you will have to do a re-test after 3months to be certified negative or not.

You have to wait for at least 3 months.

Like someone asked,how long did you court?
It's obvious your hubby has some underlying issues that need to be sorted.Is he going through a bad patch with his job or his finances?

JustTara:
Exactly! Much is left to be asked. Why didn't the church members uncover it too?

They can't know except someone brings it up.There's a lot going on in some homes that the church is not aware of but that is why you have groups like the counselling unit etc in church to offer solutions to issues like this.
When the mother drove away the sister,who did she go to stay with and if it was a relative,did they get to know why?

Generals03:
Ther reality is that one or two relatives will support you but most relatives actually do not have your time on the long run. They have their own busy events and wahala to handle themselves not to mention another person's own. They prefer to gossip it amongst their friends and co-workers than put in prolonged spirited effort in the rehabilitation of the girl.

This may not always be the case though but you find that most likely in recent times relatives support is not always the solution on the long run.

Meanwhile a true bible believer church are under the Lord's authority to care for and share with the girl until she is finally rehabilitated and well improved. They are bound by the Higher law care for cases such as this.

Nothwithstanding, I will pick the church (Moral, Spiritual and financial support), and Relatives (Financial) and lastly the psychologist (Mental) as the solution to this girls case.

If she embraces the 3, she will have her problem solved pretty soon.

I support this.
Yes,we do have many unreliable people in the church these days but if you have a local assembly that is of good repute,they are the best to handle this issue.
Some relatives could do too but my problem with relatives is denial.If it's the father's side,they could claim their son would never do such.If it's the mother's side,it could just turn to an issue of gossip and all what not.Not many people want to take on the burden of an extended family member nowadays.

JustTara:
Why is everyone sidelining the relatives?

Relatives would have been the first point of call but the question is what kind of relationship does she have with them?
Maybe I should have asked what relationship she has with the relatives first.When the sister was thrown out,who did she go to stay with?

Well respected people in the church?I wish she could approach the pastor of the church and tell him/her what is going on.Charity should begin at home(church).The 'Church' really has to know what is going on in some homes.

I don't think her mum is in the best position to handle this.She doesn't seem stable herself.
If the pastor of their church is a man of good repute,that will be who to go to.

iwaeda:
Yea,but our culture demand mourning period,bring different men to her matrimonial home is not good.

it's culture that puts a time frame to this thing.Once the spouse is dead,he/she can move on after a while.
The only snag here is the multiple affairs.

I think you should keep and bury whatever you know.
You say your brother is/was a chronic womaniser?He fits her then and he ought to find out things for himself if need be.

DuchessLily:
Always?? . yeah not every man , like 1.5% out of 100% don't do like i stated

How did you arrive at your percentage?

DuchessLily:
Babes try and relax ur mind... Eat a lot of fruits (watermelon , pineapple etc) eat chocolates.. Do kegel exercise, read romance novel ... Tell ur hubby to play romance games/acts very well with u, its not all abt Penetration.

Try all u can to be in d mood, men are very unreasonable especially when it comes to sex, they don't care what ur body went thru at child birth to cause the way u r feeling now... They seriously do not care...they are very self centered.. So pls try and help urself get in the mood. Even wives who give it to their husbands 247 and in different styles still have Hubbys cheating on them, not to talk of not being in d mood wife. He will only use that as an excuse to carry all those " free for all public toilets " to destroy ur home

Don't always talk like this.It's not every man that treats his wife the way you think.