Lukmanraji:
My gf of seven years has been giving me attitude recently which I noticed sometimes last year. I observed that she always check my phone to look for something to hold against me. Yes, she suspected that I'm having something with someone. So, every time she's around me, she always find one or two thing that will lead to argument and all that. Aside that, the respect, love and intimacy between us reduced drastically.

Fast forward to this year, She successfully read a chat on my phone where I was talking dirty with someone. That's the genesis of the whole mess I'm in right now. She just walked out quietly and decided to end it all. Since then, I've not been myself because this is the person I have planned to live the rest of my life with. So, I started begging her but she's not giving me any green light. I called, messaged her but no response. I asked my Junior brother to beg on my behalf but she didn't succumb to that not until my dad intervened to apologize on my behalf.

So, she call me that we need to see. I rushed to visit her and apologize again and again. She agreed to continue with the relationship but she hasn't forgiven me. After few weeks of the whole issue. I suspected that she's hiding something from me. Then one fateful night, I spy on her phone when she was unlocking her phone. That night, I was able to access her phone while she was asleep.

I checked her WhatsApp, I discovered that she has been clearing her chat with one particular guy who happens to be her friend from NYSC since 2021. They became close as they both work in the same financial institution but in a different branch. Then I went further to her Instagram page to see what's going there.

To my greatest surprise, I discovered that they have been having an affair since 2023. My gf has been throwing herself to this guy, they have been going to the cinema together and other places. On her birthday, my babe and this guy went out together without my knowledge, they both book uber to somewhere without my knowledge, they were both sharing their feelings online, talking about marriage, how to raise their kids irrespective of their religion differences and my babe even throwing herself to the guy for sex. Everything thing I found in their chat especially how my babe has been treating this guy with love and respect is the opposite of how my babe has been treating me lately.

So, I screenshoted all the evidence and save on my phone. I then challenged her that she's cheating on me with that guy but she blatantly denied it. Not until I showed her all the evidences with me before she began to cry fowl and started debunking all I saw. She claimed that they are not true, they were just playing and not into any thing serious. They are friends and that's how they banter each other online. All her excuses were not genuine but I still forgive her on one condition that I don't want to see her with the guy again and she should cut off any form of friendship or relationship between them because I had done something more than that to her just recently and she forgive me.

Meanwhile, during the cause of this issue, I proposed to my gf that we should take this relationship to the next level by seeing her parents this year and maybe by the end of the year, we do the whole thing. The shock response I got from her was that she's not in a rush to settle down with me. Not even this year as she's just healing from the heartbreak I caused her and I can't use marriage to tie her down then I continue breaking her heart. There's no how I tried convincing her that I am a changed man now as I am ready to take responsibility and be a responsible person.

After few weeks, I logged into her whatsapp on my system and then again I found out that she's still talking to this guy and they were even planning on going out again. I got angry and send proof to her but guess what, my babe para for me for cloning her whatsapp on my system. Hell almost let lose that evening. This time around, she felt unapologetic about the primary issue that I warned her to desist from. Funny enough, after close observation, I learnt that they move their chats from whatsapp to Snapchat where their chat is just "view once". Then I knew that this lady is not ready to stop talking to this guy. I have shouted over and over this matter but this time around, my babe is now feeling lackadaisical about this issue.

Right now, my babe is now comfortable with the guy and she's now sitting on defense about this matter. In our last conversation, my GF literarily told me that she doesn't love me anymore. And then she started rewinding all my past during the cause of the relation and using it as an excuse for not been able to love me like she used to. In our conversation, the only thing she didn't mention is that we should go on our separate ways (break up) but everything she said to me indirectly simply means that she is done with me.

I felt unloved as this is the woman I never placed anyone above, this is the woman I've nurtured when we were in school and outside school. I respected her and love her so much that she has become part of me. My parents, family and friends are expecting us to tie the knot soon but here is my babe telling me she's not in love with me anymore. I felt unloved about this whole thing and I'm heartbroken.

I am lost and crying inside silently as I never expected someone I have sacrificed something huge for before to be acting like this to me. I'm depressed. I need mature advise from you guys. Thank you.

Omohhhh..you just wrote the story of your life...
...it is well with your relationship..if it works .. good for you..
If not..life continues..

I didn't read ...the lonnnnng post...

Israel should just calm down...it's a case of Do me I do you...
Israel has 50points
Iran has 50 points

It's enough!!!

Villagesquare:
Give license to Modular Refinery and regulate it. Then watch petrol flood the market and the price will naturally come down. Everything no be rocket science nah

I swear my uncle say's this all the time..all this dominant /monopolistic companies need massive competition..that's the only way to drive down price..

Passionate888:
No womb (probably)

Nothing physically is wrong...it's her life and her choice..

Prolly low voltage..I experience the same thing when the voltage is low I the area..

..what do you want them back to do......

Pls anyone in Ile ife coming to Abuja or Jos?
I need help transporting a small package
Plsssssssssss...

Paraman:
They had no reason to protest. They were causing public disturbance and mischief. Their senseless action could have lead to anarchy in Nassarawa state.

They must be use as an example so that some set of people who find it hard to accept defeat won't also do it in 2027.

Don't be mischievous..
Is it wrong to protest?

Jewessgratitud3:


Come young lady.. what's your mission? Adopt you as a child or for marriage?

Anyone o... just adopt me

Adopt me

Lol...they will not come back.....if the govt is serious...they will ask for advice on the way forward..

marsoden:

Do you intend to buy in bulk or just one?

1 ohh..

I want to pray in Dubai too....


Rubbish talk..


Mr president..this is the job you emilokaned for..get to work and stop whining..

Pls respond..

Suit nko...op?

Wia your business number?

Save money and do surgery...that's a solution...

Ahhhh...this woman is an enemy of peace and progress..


She just wants attention..

DSS ignore her oohh..she is just unfortunate

Have you tried a therapist or counselling....
Go on a small vacation..try and rekindle the romance na..

Talk to her for God sake..

I mean...tallllllllkkkk to her..

Unless she is tired of you too...

Which kine talk be this...

Pakistan...keeeehhhh....what are they looking for there?ahhhh..
Some people should use their sense when they want to japa..
Is Nigeria not better than the Pakistan?
Hmm

War is not an option...

It's better to live in peace with our neighbors..
If the Nigeriens , have chosen a military system of government.. Respect it and find a way to work with them..

Very interesting screening...
I'm sure keyamo has learnt to respect other politicians like him..

Next time they call him ...he will be courteous and respectful..
I doubt he will call the legislatures " corrupt again"

Senator Darlington..na you do this one

Dear upcoming politicians and etc...for the sake of your future

Do not joke with your present and future reputation..you may think that you are invisible but when the time is right... you will know that your past will come roaring into your future and only the seeds you have sown will save you..

See what is happening to PBAT....

Renewed hope is renewing pro max.. ...

Nigeria is truly at the darkest part of the tunnel... when will we see the light?

No 4 is not a problem...

I will cook ... just come and assist ...or gist or learn..




Marriage is not bad....na people dey Carry their bad behavior spoil am..

If Mr OP is feeling like this...I can only imagine how your wife is feeling...(you should be supporting each other..but here you are looking for advice from nairaland..it is well with you.
May God Answer your prayers...

I just imagine how Sarah the wife of Abraham felt..

God is faithful...you should trust him..

2days

Some bitter people on Twitter were dragging her for not greeting tinubu...
Some people said she snubbed him for rigging himself into the presidency..
Kaiiii
tribalistic sentiments will not help our progress as Nigerians...
We can do better!!!

Acekidc4:
A Level 7 Officer is collecting 400K instead of 40K, Omo e go far gan ni oooo!! If you check well, na Aboki full that beneficiary List oooo!!

You are absolutely right...
The same thing happens in the state and local governments..

princeade86:
It can only be God

Absolutely!!!!!

ArchiLimited:
In Igbo this snake is known as "echi eteka". Tomorrow is too far

That's what we call it In Hausa

Gobe da ni sa... tomorrow is too far

....lemme laugh first