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kingviny:
When a real woman has exercised her right to choose her husband and she has done so following her intuition and not her callous intellect , and she supports and loves her husband totally, there will certainly be no need for a
side chick/concubine/mistress/backup wife etc.

A real woman will choose a good man as guided by her intuition which is never wrong.

A real woman will nurture her good man to economic success hence there will be less fights due to lack.

A real woman will attend to the core needs of her man (respect, affection, support and great sex)

And then, a successful, happy and fulfilled man all thanks to this wonderful real woman must then be crazy if he decides to toy with the "good thing" that has helped him to obtain favour from the lord if he start fornicating. What else is he looking for ?

But when this is not the case abinitio, then from a logical standpoint, Toks' advocacy kind of makes sense. Nature abhors lacuna, whatever is missing in a relationship will secretly or openly be indulged in.

All women should work on themselves to become real women as defined above (not turning to an SU ooo) and then, we will see a better and decent society.

There is nothing a woman can do that can keep a man to herself except a man who wants to be with just her.. Absolutely nothing.

seunayantokun:
Toks, I like the isuue you threw up this morning. Look at this post quoted below and respond to it. God bless you.

There is nothing to respond to cos he agreed with me in the last paragraph and I have reiterated same times and over again in my series of comments.

FOR SEVERAL REASONS, GOD PERMITTED IT BUT WAS NOT SO FROM THE BEGINNING.

If GOD permits it then anyone who still calls it a sin is confused.

Mindlesskid:
The fact that the situation surrounding this makes it look right to have a legitimate concubine according to you, does not make it right. If this is right then, a thief that steals because he is hungry or broke should not be arrested or beaten or spoken ill against because life pushed him/her to do so. Your writing is based on sentiment, sorry to say.

If I say I should ignore some funny comments it will look as if I don't want to discuss the matter but your comment is so funny.

To juxtapose a criminal act such as stealing to polygamy is very laughable.

xyz123456:
Men like @Ugosample probably have not been married, so they have very little experience..... In USA that practices monogamy, thy have up to 50% divorce rate

80% or more bro...and the saddest twist is that most of the divorced ladies have mental illness..(Depression) as a result of loneliness.

A lady friend in U K called me recently and she was just crying... I asked her what the problem is and she said she needs a man.

I told her point blank...."GO BACK TO YOUR HUSBAND"

She left her husband cos of another lady and whilst the guy has moved on, she is dying of depression.

It's not worth leaving a man who still wants you just because he marries another lady cos no guaranty that you will get another man who won't do worse.

As long as your husband still wants you please stay put.

jaxxy:
I want to think a lot of modern day Christians would want to feel holier than the Bible itself. Rather than prove him wrong with scriptures Ure giving ur logic from Ure personal opinion and sentiments.

Have u ever wondered why God allowed early Christian father’s to have serval and hundreds of concubines and they still greater than sm of us now acting super holy? U need to ask urself certain realistic questions smtmes don’t just go with the religious interpretation handed down to u like copy and paste.

Thesame Bible says no man will teach u how to know God because u will know him for urself. Modern Christians pick what they like and put the rest aside. It’s ok bt don’t make ur personal opinion a law for anyone.


I’m not in support or against. All I care about is to know the truth. With facts.

Heaven bless you for this.

I challenge any pastor or General overseer to come out and oppose my stands using the scriptures.

They will never preach this truth cos they want to keep their female members.

I don't have a church hence I serve no one's interest but to state it as it is.

Look at the lame arguments from page 1 of this thread and you will see people using logic to argue whilst I meticulously quoted the scriptures.

I'm still open to constructive counter opinion backed by the scriptures.

cedricksly:
1) Y'all attacking the op are just senseless attention seeking bigots.

2)He wrote the truth as it is right from the beginning without sentiment or bias, Although I am not a fan of Polygamy,(I.e CHOICE) due to personal reasons which he outrightly said.

3) and lastly those who said that was in the old testaments, Jesus Christ never came to earth to do away with the laws(I.e Old testament) or tell us to forget it like tinx written in it doesn't count. He said so himself in Matthew 5:17-20. read in as many translations as possible.

And lastly op Thank you for the eye opener to many who has already Condemned themselves bcoz they found their self in this situation which ignoramus individuals see as a sin, which God hasn't till now...

You are most welcome my brother.

Odingo1:
That man doesn’t look 59, that is his football age, the man look 69.

He is Buhari age mate.

Even if he is 70, Regina chose him. Her choice her life.

Jkt001:
What's the Law Christ was talking about here....isn't it the Commandments sent through Moses and some other laws...

Was there anywhere God told Man to marry as much as possible...

In Matt5:19....WHOSOEVER THEREFORE SHALL BREAK ONE OF THESE LEAST COMMANDMENTS,AND SHALL TEACH MEN SO,HE SHALL BE CALLED THE LEAST IN THE KINGDOM OF HEAVEN:BUT WHOSOEVER SHALL DO AND TEACH THEM,THE SAME SHALL BE CALLED GREAT IN THE KINGDOM OF HEAVEN.....


That Solomon had many wives,which led him away from God doesn't mean you should also tread in his footsteps....

That David commited adultery with Bathsheba doesn't mean you should also do the same....

This is New testament dispensation...where we don't need any priest to sacrifice ram or sheeps for the atonement of sins...

This is new testament where God wouldn't strike anyone dead as a result of sin,no matter how little it might be....If it were to be so....u sure know that you and I may not be alive no more....

This is a dispensation of Grace and Mercy but unfortunately people had taken it for granted....

So I tell u my Brother....Polygamy is a NO NO right from creation

If I argue this matter with you further make I sleep this night.

Continue ranting in ignorance...im out.

Jkt001:
You're Spiritually Blind.......

That Solomon had over 300wives and 700concubines now tells you to do the same....

We're now operating majorly under the New testament dispensation.....Everything u find in the Old testament are only there to serve as precaution and lessons for us...

I want to believe you still give Sheep or rams to ur Pastor or Priest for atonement of your sins everyday...

You'd better Repent and come into the true knowledge of the light...If not, Eternal judgement is inevitable...

Mathew 5:17
"Do not think that I have come to abolish the Law or the Prophets; I have not come to abolish them but to fulfill them.

Stop posting nonsense.

frankyychiji:
Lolzz...most of you commenting here are still kids obviously.

Sorry madam Methuselah.

If it's in the western world I will agree with you but in Naija it's all about the money.


Can you marry a man 39years older than you if he does not have the financial prowess to take care of you even if he shows you angelic LOVE?

Biko park well make I pass.

frankyychiji:
How did you know there's no love between them?

What makes you think Ned is not an incurable romantic who swept her off her feet?

Who all these juvenile deliquents sagging their trousers with drug infested brains epp?

When you have good money to take care of a woman you are automatically romantic.

PrecisionFx:
False.

What is false about it?

What will make Regina marry a guy 49 years older? LOVE?

Lalasticlala there is no better time to put this on front page with the trending Regina Daniels story.

nijabazaar:
I wonder what attracts a younger person to a father figure

In Nigeria it is financial security but in most cases in the western world it is pure love.

ehinorlive:
which peter will read your comment?

why did u think he Will read your comment

Lol! You have no idea the people who visit nairaland.

Odingo1:
You are not making sense in all your quote, you cannot allow your 18year old daughter to marry a 70 year old man. Let’s stop deceiving ourselves in the name of attaching it to other things. They are adults fine but you will not wish that for your daughter ok.

He is 59 and still considerably young.
He can take care of her.
And yes I will allow my daughter to marry whoever she chooses.

lepasharon:
Exactly. So why say it's better for her to be an intimacy tool with an old man than with a young man?

Her choice! Is this hard for you to accept?

lepasharon:
What's the difference? Isn't she an intimate tool to this Ned guy?

I don't think she's going to be cooking and cleaning either cos the guy can afford maids for that.

Regina's purpose will be strictly sex

People marry for crazy purposes asides the facade called love...

Financial freedom

Having babies

Glorified house help

Sex

All nah marriage.

Fadedvoices2:
But why isn’t she proud of her husband to the extent she had to cut him off from the very pics they took together before posting them on Instagram?

Now she is out with him.
What is the big deal with the 40 years gap anyways....i thought people do say age is just a number.

sowilli:
stop this mediocre talks. Justifying something which you wouldn’t advice your daughter because there are ills of randy boys. There are young hustling boys that would treat her right if she is willing. Abegi, stop justifying shit becomes there are ills. Look at the good side of things. She is young, vibrant with a good future. She doesn’t need an old man or a randy boy to make something meaningful out her life. Will you advice your child to go to a children days party organized by a girl who is in a relationship with a man old enough to be her grandfather. At 18 Macron was interning in Nigeria, he married an older woman as a president. Let’s promote development not mediocrity.

Yenyenyen!

Her choice her life.

koyyes:
I don't understand.

Why are negroes bitter

You say men are polygamous in nature.

Most of you are pedophiles and waste no time in calling ladies of a certain age 'evening newspapers'.

A young adult has taking a liking to a rich polygamist.

You are all screaming with your empty pockets filled with holes.

Be there wallowing and hoping the already fulfilled prophesy of one Jew to 7 women will happen again.

Did the bible tell you that the Jew will be a broke a$$?

GOD BLESS YOU for this.

I know one day lalasticlala will take this to front page.

https://www.nairaland.com/4956917/legitimate-concubine

Ugee12:
This Regina is just a disgrace to womanhood. I still dont gerrit. Your mates are praying to get an opportunity to be a famous actress like you so they can be independent and marry young men they love and this one ended up with her grandfather! Just look at how she looks confused in the first picture

Go and jump inside the lagoon.

apcdoncastnaija:
is True that this small girl is dating her papa and her father and mother supported her

Becoming a concubine to a man old enough to be her dad is a million times better than becoming an intimate tool In the hands of Randy boys.

MiddleSpot:
Hope you return with a loud bang. Have you noticed that many ladies of this generation can't be trusted for longterm marital bliss?

Well for me it's no longer news and as I always advise men n women alike....the best way to have a peaceful union is to expect disappointment whilst giving your very best to make it work.

Hard but true.

As a guy, just make good money and watch ladies worship you.

Guruindahouse:
Do you think DNA cost millions of Naira or something? I read it not long ago there are places to do DNA for 100k naira. Men that can afford this should not hesitate to do it if they are in doubts. A cousin of mine was highly devastated when he realized his 4-yr-old son is not his. Hence, I am talking from experience.

Here is another link that I just googled now. https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.legit.ng/amp/1135555-cost-dna-test-nigeria-hospital.html
The way married women are doing rubbish around, you will know its affordable to do it at that price if in doubt of paternity of a child.

Only strands of his/her hair is even enough to do it according to my research.

Its like you guys are not in naija.

100k or even 30k is damn expensive considering the economy

Once it gets as cheap as 10k then many men should do it.

MiddleSpot:
Chill bro.


Whatever happened to your writing prowess this year? Did God stop supplying?

Lol! Glad you noticed.

Just taking a chill pill.

seunfly:
It is not expensive compare to what it saves you from. You can get DNA done as low as 50k depending on your location but it is average of 100k to 200k.
This news is not today, it is just that Nigerians don't really read wide, I v known more than 15years back that minimum of 25% of every children are not fathered by the so called father and any wise man will secretly do DNA test on their kids. For me I always do test secretly on my children immediately my wife gave birth to them, you don't need to inform them just do it.
Their is one type called cotton swabs, you swcrub the mouth of your children with special cotton given to you and you will take it to the lab without anybody knowing what you v done.

The most rampant is first born followed by last born, out of every 10 first born, 5 are usually not fathered by their father.

Has anybody ever told you they saw somebody that looks like you in another city, it is a way to tell you either your mother or father played away football.

So 50k is not expensive bah?

What if you have 2 or more kids? Abeg no make me laugh.

ALCOHOLKILLS:
i don't mind fathering a son who's not biologically mine hence we live happily together

But its better to know.

Guruindahouse:
If you are in doubt of the paternity of any of your children, please go for the test ASAP. No need to be emotional at it by telling your partner.

DNA test can be done at affordable price. It's gonna be calamitous and distrastrous after several years to discover that you have been raising another man's pikin.

Believe me, you can't cope living with a stranger under your roof

To avoid stories that touch hearts, stay faithful with your partner no matter the situation.

DNA is expensive and this is why many men arent going for it.

More than 60% not and not 30%.

Why is it that in most cases the first girl child usually looks like the dad and a boy child like the mum?