₦airaland Forum

Naijasinglegirl:
A man who is older than you and pays the bills feels you owe him. He is entrenched in his life and you would have to conform to his way of living. If he’s used to storing milk in an old custard container, eating eba at 5am in the morning, not shaving his kini or sleeping naked, don’t expect him to stop just because you’ve arrived on the scene.

He is not adventurous
He will think you are mad if you tell him to wear the dog or coachfella filter on Snapchat. He thinks you spend too much time with your phone. He cannot spontaneously hop on a plane and travel with you because he has a board meeting in two days.

Sometimes he look really old
Especially when he does something you find really upsetting. You start to wonder if he is going through late life crisis.

Conversations can be difficult
Sometimes you just want to talk about Wizkid tweets and he just wants to talk about the tiny scar on his right arm he sustained during the Nigerian civil war.

Family Tension
It's possible that your family would have difficulty adjusting to and accepting your mate if he's close to your parents in age, or not far from it.

Some things are permanent
He is more likely to have a pot belly and a bit of wrinkle here and there. Also, if he is terrible in bed at his age, he will always be terrible since he refused to learn work when he was young.

He might see you as a maternal figure
During the courtship stage, he might expect you to do perform maternal rules. Certain things like take care of his laundry, cook, house keeping etc

He might not be romantic
His idea of a romantic evening might be taking you to a joint where smoked fish and small stout is sold. He sees little difference between May 27th and February 14th. You cannot buy him chocolates because his doctor warned it would trigger his arthritis.

He is an upcoming ancestor
If he's really old, his years on earth are numbered and this fact would give you sleepless night.

Dealing with Stereotypes
The most well-known negative stereotype associated with significant age differences between young women and older men is the "sugar daddy"
stereotype, which suggests that an older man is financially generous with a younger woman in exchange for her company. Public reception of you
and your older mate may reflect this stereotype, which could generate stares and whispers from passersby.

www.naijasinglegirl.com/dating-an-older-man-the-cons/

sexybbstar:
God should not give me a husband like this or a son like this . I don't blame him, it seems the boy is a product of" baby mamaism ". Lord, let me be around to care for my kids.

Anuoluwapo23:
I was chatting with my friend today on whatsapp with my Droid pad, she always tell me she can't do without sex but I didn't believe not until today when she called that she's sick because she hasn't had sex since last week that her bf traveled.....


Please what can I do to help her...??

Thanks..

sonofLuci:


Afa na, come make i flex you. Club, bar or eatery? Pepper soup joint?

Know say you be Oga

Clla5:
me

sonofLuci:
We won't get the message if you write it using fake french.

Nma27:
Vuc1 toks2008 singledad1 toastedbread

ofreaky:
Toks preach to them ooo, A preacher once said marriage is not fun but hardwork.

JohnXcel:
Christ Embassy, Christ Embassy...was there for 10 year's.

My faith grew, my mind and intelligence increased greatly.

But now that I'm not there anymore (nor affiliated with their members), my inner peace has grown.

I guess I outgrew that place...

Thanks to Pastor Chris for the teachings though, I learnt a lot...

trustyshoess:
It really takes a spiritually mature mind to understand the principle of giving. Been a member for 6 years, I can attest to the benefits of giving to God. A good Christian should give with the mindset that What they give is for God. That's how I give and I don't bother to wonder what anyone does with the money because I have given it to God so anyone who misuses it, has God to answer to. The adjustment needed is not by the church but a renewal of the minds of hard hearted people. A lot of people come to the church, already hating the church or pastor because of rumours they've heard. Well that's just me.

Ishilove:
I like your name o. Korede

akagaba:
Op, u are just an agent of darkness sent from the pit of hell against the church but im sorry, u have lost d battle woefully. I command u to return to d pit of hell wher u came from

Seun:
I attended once and enjoyed the warm welcome.

akagaba:
Op, wake up... as soon as u left, 500 more people walked in so dont come here and disgrace urself. If u have allowed d devil to take a hold of u, then seek deliverance somehwere becus so many lives are being changed and transformed in Christ Embassy. We dont preach sin in CE cuz thats not what God asked us to preach. We rather preach the goodnews of the gospel of our Lord Jesus and thats the gudnews that brings sinners to God.

For money matter, its only a poor man that speaks d way u do. We give big, very very big in CE and thats becuz we serve a big God so deal with ur poverty.

trustyshoess:
If it's a sin, please show us where that was stated in the bible. Thanks

tosinjay:
That was how my beloved sister died while being a strong member of dat group that counts members etc then, and nothing, no one turned up. Infact she was sick for a long time and she used to have a friend who she gifted alot to then, non came visiting her let alone when she died including the so called friend.

wristbangle:
Oga seun, I need to call your attention to this issue.

This is a Christian related matter that is being thrashed out by well meaning Christians to fault many wrong doings in christian dom but unfortunately muslims and atheists have logically derailed this thread with annoying comments but when it comes to muslim thread, an annoying acknowledgment statement has been placed to block us from erring our opinions.

What are you doing to curtail this religious marginalisation on Nairaland?

Marchman:
I have not posted in a while but if you have followed my previous posts, you would know that I used to attend Christ Embassy Church, even though I had reservations about some of their teachings. I finally left the church, phew!
I will use this thread to explain why I quit the church and why I may never attend another Pentecostal/Charismatic church which now appears to me like a sole proprietorship, with the General Overseer or lead pastor as the owner.

1. Excessive premium on Giving money

In Christ Embassy the number one thing they lay emphasis on is giving money. The church can use any tactic to get money from members, including manipulation, threats and the likes. While there is nothing wrong with giving money or time, I believe everything should be balanced and moderate. I think that was why St Paul said we should not give out of target, or threat but as we decide in our heart. In CE, there is nothing like moderation or balance when it comes to giving. They tend to believe literally that everything answers to money. You don’t have a job, give and sow seed. You are infertile, give and sow seed. Your father is sick, give and sow seed. Every message ends with a charge to give money. They collect tithes, offerings, partnerships (money), seeds (more money), first fruits (your whole income in January) and plethora of others.

You are also charged to give for Pastor Chris’s birthday and for all the other pastors. And for projects and the likes too.

Before I started worshipping with the Church, I read the story of the account clerk at the Sheraton Hotel who stole from his employers to give to the church. As a member, I could relate with the man. The Church is obsessed with money. They do not mind how or where you get it. If you want to rise or be noticed or win awards, just give big money. It is this obsession with money that led it to start collecting gate fees from members for its New Year Service at the LoveWorld Convocation Arena in Lagos, which ironically was built by the offerings of the members charged to get in. A lot of people I know personally had gone broke, had their businesses ruined, or fallen out with a loved one because of this teaching by the church.

In summary, at CE, money is everything- EVERYTHING.

DrGraveYardz:

Is it a crime to put my toe in your compound before I walk in fully?

Allwility:
Toks and fallacy of hasty generalization

DrGraveYardz:
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