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Ishilove:
Lol. Let's call a spade by what it truly is. The girl fell for a much older man who capitalised on her youth and slept wit her several times. The girl too gave herself willingly after tasting sex and kept going back for more. Her pissed off family were shocked and ashamed that her 'lover', an older man is a full grown adult who chose the girl to release his randy tension instead of going for an older person.

The girl is not innocent abeg. She's 16, not 6 and in this age of the internet they are much more enlightened that the teens of the pre-internet era.

She was naive, but not innocent.

Ishilove:
Sex doesn't determine growth and puberty hormones, Tokunbo. Stop being an armchair doctor

Ishilove:
Forget about curves. Girls mature earlier than boys so having curves at 15 has absolutely nothing to do with promiscuity.

Ishilove:
They did it several times in different locations.

Krystalzkris:
I don't even know what to believe... in the sexual world these days, a 16yr old is a pro..

Rukkydelta:
The spiritualists are here


The male misogynist e-warriors are here


The male e-warriors are here


The female e-warriors are here


Me.. .. I'm just observing

nkowalo:
hmmmm. but with who?

nkowalo:
but y una dey hide the face before? cute baby

funshint:
wrong advise everywhere...."just forget about her and move one" bla bla shit everywhere. I don't blame most of these guys here; kids everywhere. I've also been at this point before. I can tell u its very easy as a guy to deal with a broken relationship when you're still in your 20s but once u start approaching 30 I bet u it's no longer child's play again. My candid advise to the OP is this...did u say something extremely wrong or rude to her during the argument? I can bet u no girl ever tolerates a rude or angry guy. I'll advise for now you lower your pride and ego and do the needful. If u really love this girl and see her as someone you'll love to spend the rest of your life with. Offer your sincere apology, sometimes you might hv to do it repeatedly depending on the person you're dealing with here. Don't start transferring blame. Accept your own side of the blame, apologize and sincerely promise not to repeat such. Then give her some space to breathe. I bet she'll come back in no time once she see's the sincerity in your apology. But if after like 2 or 3 weeks she still remains adamant then leave the matter to God. But on the long run your conscience will be clear that atleast you tried your best than to now later regret not doing anything at all.
Pls be careful of the advise you follow here a lot hv not yet figured out what they really want in life.
It's well bro!

Omotayor123:
Toks. Do you think heart break is easy

This is a better of the heart, Even when you know the person doesn't deserve you, it's not just easy to get through it.

I know how the OP feels, Only time can cure it.

BenjaminGrey:
I can't deny that Toks just gave we men a certain loop-hole to do Wat we like. but then I think sexual faithfulness is a personal decision but any man who decides to should be respected

valnelly:
As I write this.... I'm filled with so much hurt and regret.
My girlfriend whom I thought would be patient enough for me so I could get married to her has broken up with me.
I met her while I was writing my final year project in Yabatech about 4 years ago. We were cool together and the distance between us didn't mean that much to me even though she stays in ikorodu and I stay in surulere. The problem started when I gained admission to Unilag due to my decision for self development. I'm 31 years old and she is 25.
During the last 2 years I noticed she has changed drastically I notice that she now has stuffs like new shoes and new bags. Which of course ordinarily she wouldn't have been able to afford. The only time we see is on weekends and that's because she is still in Yabatech schooling and sometime when she comes like that she acts funny with phone calls. The way she talks to some certain people so suspicious. But none the less she always feels cool with me and always wants to be around me. Could it be because of sex?

I noticed that she behaves single at school and even on social media. We do not chat or use social media, we added each other but at a point I had to take her off because she doesn't portray any thing that shows we are actually dating...i took her off all platform of social media and she wasn't perturbed about it. I don't actually know what's going on in school or her place of residence but I have a very strong feeling that she has been cheating on me and some other guy have been buying her things I can't get for her. But on top of this she was actually looking for school fees and I was deploying all methods to make sure she pays this on time and that alone made me confused!. We had a heated argument on Sunday and she was yelling and talking back at me... I left the house for her in annoyance only for me to come back and she is gone. She left a note that says that she is no longer interested. Guys please what should I do. I love this girl so frigging much. I can't sleep or think straight right now. It's almost impossible for me to start all over again. I feel hopeless. Please guys your advice!

Hannysmilez:
*sigh*Thank you very much..Y'all religious folks won't kill me-I really never thought I'd live to see the day christians will claim that Polygamy isn't wrong
FYI,You didn't break my heart--you made mockery of your religion

lekpaciouse:
Please I need your advice as my guy want me to get pregnant for him out of wedlock that when the time comes we will get married,that other ladies are disturbing him have baby for him.
Please I need your advice
Thanks.

Omotayor123:
There are some That won't respect their self even when you respect them.

Oyindidi:
I've being thinking of how to do that lately, he complains of everything I do and I am no longer finding it funny.

Oyindidi:
It still won't tame my bee

Hannysmilez:
Okay,so I don't care about what the OP is advising females to do-that's their problem,I just have one question:"Are you saying that the Bible has nothing against polygamy?" Islam doesn't,and I sure as hell don-t care either,but what you claim to be a Christian and it's funny what you're implying

Lalas247:
It's better to give up

Lalas247:
The whole post .. just accept you are wrong here biko
Make u no go fall finish

pocohantas:
Leave him, he will be claiming free thinker with high IQ. That's how he keeps reiterating that rubbish that it's foolish to seek a faithful man. Endtime marriage counsellor.

alexialin:
Have sent u a message on watsapp.
Kindly check?

alexialin:
Ok will click on your pm.
Hope it works ?

alexialin:
Toks2008, are u based in Lagos ?

pocohantas:
Very very bad. Imagine saying it's foolish for a lady to desire a faithful man, if it were me that said it now...they will use mentions to finish me. They'll tell me to change my circle.

I guess it's okay as long as it comes from a man.

DanXplore:
Toks2008
This is error. Trust me

Lalas247:
My dear .. it's an insult to say we don't have real men who stay faithful when they are eventually married ..
So are you saying you will also cheat?
Too bad for the ladies .. too bad