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emusmith:
7 different things ladies mean when they say, "I need a God fearing man for a partner."


I'm pretty sure I'm not the only who has heard ladies say, "I want a man who fears God." Haha! That's an ambiguous word, you know.

So, don't get all happy saying, "I've finally met a good girl", hmm!

That's the same lady you'll hear saying, "Ladies, love bad guys". And she wants a Godfearing man. So, in essence, she wants a good-bad guy for love and for marriage? Am I missing something here?

Different strokes for different folks- Different Ladies mean different things when they, "I need a God- fearing man for a life partner".


Ride with me as we explore some of their underlying and decoded interpretation of the sentence, "I need a God-fearing man for a marriage partner":



1. I need a man who fears God enough to keep me in control of his financial dynasty

While this is not bad in itself, obsession for it is deadly. I've had friends who got married just hearing him say, "I live in Dubai", "I did my MSc in Ontario Canada". "My mum is in Germany" and as for my dad "he lives and works in Abuja"... She is already head over heels in love already. He may be lying o! These days, guys fake calls and let her hear it. How cheap!


2. I need a man who fears God enough not to hit me

She probably have seen the way women were maltreated by Unreasonable Men in the past and she grew to detest such. She doesn't want much from a man-she abhors a man hitting a Lady. She can call a relationship quit for that.


3. I need a man who fears God enough not to cheat on me

Her name is... She is like every girl... No girl wants to be cheated upon? But she is different. It has never been easy "testing" relationships because of her "fragile heart". She sees love as a man not cheating on her. Even if he is, she doesn't wanna know.


4. I need a man who fears God enough to raise me Strong and Wise Children that will be leaders

She truly loves children and all her childhood dream was hinged on raising children that will change the world or make a national difference. If she can find such a man, she calls him, God fearing.


5. I need a man who fears God so much that he sticks with me and my dreams even through hard times and doesn't take sides against me with his family.

Basically, standing by her means a lot. She just need to be sure you'll stand by her should there a situation. How do you respond to her dreams?


6. I need a man who fears God enough to join me in my church/ religion

She is so glued to her worship centre that if you're not worshipping with her she can't even classify you a strong believer. I heard JW only marry themselves..


7. I need a man who truly fears, loves, and Serves God with All his heart.

She loves him mainly because he truly upholds the tenet of her religion. He loves her Lord, so she loves him unconditionally. They're not many but they exist. She isn't into the "Good girls love bad guys" gameshit... Her flair is first towards seeking a man that can be a man, in prayers, the Bible/ Qur'an, and Giving to the poor. This is the lady that really understands what she is saying when she says, " I need a man who fears God for a partner".


Gnyt.

I will advice ladies to start looking for a GOD loving man rather than God fearing ones because satan might also come their way.

Abi are they not aware that it is indeed satan that fears GOD the most lol

mencade4:
women wants gpd-fearing men yet....they dont fear god with their treacherous, eve-like behaviour, JEZEBELIC minds and numerous keeping of boyfriends.


*spits*

That is the problem bro

Even if you are more than what they want,they are still prone to misbehave

Oyind17:
She go wait tire

Wait tire?

Is anything out of place on those list?

Even number one is very true if you are fortunate to meet a prudent lady.

Without any fear of contradictions i believe a man should emulate all thee virtues listed.

For those interested in sharing your relationships issue here it will be very important to state the age as well as that of your partner as well as the duration of dating or courtship as these info will go a long way in ensuring that you get the verybest counsel possible.

Trust me,age and courtship duration are very vital factors in determining the module of any affair.

Captainswag225:
i think u have change how u play with him.... Some people are like that, they dont know the diff btn joke and seriousness..... I had a g.f like that too. I suggest u find a female friend to continue ur playful mood with but not with ur man.

I appreciate your input so please you may try to focus more on giving advice here rather than derailing with your chats on football matters and other sttuffs.Hope you understand.

I want visitors to this thread to see it as a serious and formidable thread which provides great succor to their relationship brouhaha.

Do have a great sunday

reminiscing:
Hmmmmm,I've got relationship.Relationships are not meant for me.I think

No one is an island so relationship is for everyone.

cyara:
I have been in a relationship for a while now but I noticed that whenever I annoy my man and I beg for forgiveness even when he claims he has forgiven, It takes him like two to three weeks to still speak to me after much persuasion. I am tired of always begging him to talk to me. I don't know what else to do, I am a very play full person and he takes everything I say to heart even when I tell him I don't mean it. He now feels I intensionally annoy and mock him. I don't know who to turn to or what to do anymore

Thanks for sharing your issue.

First i would like to know the age of the guy and yours because often times age usually plays a vital role in the schematics of our affairs.

I wouldd also like to know how long you have been dating him and finally i would like to know those things you do sometimes that get him pissed to the extent of him going into an incommunicado mode with you.

Please feed me with these details as soon as you can.

Thanks

Gloryblossom:
What the op said is true,some guys here r already claiming rich guys,u tink iz all girls in nija d@ comes after a rich dude,when he meant broke d@ those not mean just finacially broke and some of us here will come out n b claiming they went to university,dat u r broke those nt mean u don't v just d@ u don't enough to gt exactly w@ u want.keep formin rich dude n let d sharp babes keep scammin u,2mrw u will complain forgetin that u started it ist by takin dem to mr bigg instead of mama put.any guy that quote me is fuckin broke.

If any guy forms level here then such a guy is indeed fake and must be avoided by any reasonable lady.

Any guy can be freaking broke with a ywist of fate.

As at July 2001 i was a millionaire and after making some seriious financial commitments i was left with just 1.5m and in nov of same year i had an auto crash which and i spent my last dime on trying to get back on my feet.

About 3 yrs ago after another long years of plenty i had financial issues and i thank GOD once more today.

Being broke is temporary and a man of vision will always bounce back.

This is why i keep asking ladies who just want a rich man at all cost...WHAT HAPPENS IF HE GOES BROKE, will you now leave him for another rich guy? if No then why not just follow your heart in the first instance? and if yes then what does that make you?

make i stop here

Omotayor123:
Nice points OP.. Money is Good but it's not Everything.!
Even if the guy is not broke, this points are needed to boost his relationship level with ladies.

Better pickim

INTERMAN:
but they say sometimes the wife's antibodies can attack the man's Y chromosome thinking it is a foreign or dangerous body. Thereby killing all the Y chromo that ought to lead to a male child. So it could be the wife's fault too.

I understand your point but this condition is called immunologic infertility which does not allow fertility to take place at all and not that it will selectively destroy a specific chromosome.

And in this case they can go for an anti sperm antibody test.

An antisperm antibody test looks for special proteins (antibodies) that fight against a man's sperm in blood, vaginal fluids, or semen. The test uses a sample of sperm and adds a substance that binds only to affected sperm.

Semen can cause an immune system response in either the man's or woman's body. The antibodies can damage or kill sperm. If a high number of sperm antibodies come into contact with a man's sperm, it may be hard for the sperm to fertilize an egg. The couple has a hard time becoming pregnant. This is called immunologic infertility.

A man can make sperm antibodies when his sperm come into contact with his immune system. This can happen when the testicles are injured or after surgeries (such as a biopsy or vasectomy) or after a prostate gland camera.gif infection. The testicles normally keep the sperm away from the rest of the body and the immune system.

A woman can have an allergic reaction to her partner's semen and make sperm antibodies. This kind of immune response is not fully understood but may affect fertility. This is a rare cause of infertility.

Please for those sending mails concerning relationship advice,you don't have to mail me because im not so cool with the long process of receiving and sending mails.

You can add me on your watsup on 08023146046


But please lets discuss your issue here for others to learn from it.

Thanks

Ebi89:
I dnt stay in same state with my fiancée, I tried calling his fone I was getting netwk busy then checked him on whatsup I could not see his display picture, that was wen I knew he has blocked me. I then used my oda line to check his whatsup lo and behold I saw a pix of him and a gal.
He later call me after two days and told me his sorry that he went to his village and there was no lite there. I told him is a lie that he has been online for d pass two days and he denied it, I then sent him a chat with my oda line. he started apologizing saying is d devil work. that he dnt want me to leave. What do I do

I have really tried to explain to ladies that cheating is so much in the nature of many guys and a man can love you to pieces and still cheat on you and when a man cheats on you the next coolest advice anyone will give you is that you dump him and get another man but the question is if the next guy also cheats on you what will you do? i guess you dump that one too and get another man.

My sis the bottom line is for you to sit and weigh the situation and its a good thing he is begging you not to go.

Now we have cheating with fear and respect for your woman and cheating with impunity where you care less if she knows or not and the latter is what no woman should condole so for the sake of your peace you can forgive him if he is remorseful about it and tell him he must never do it again even if there is no guaranty.

The point is that i will not advice a lady to start jumping from one man to another in the name of looking for a faithful partner except there is a way you can ascertain if the next man won't do worse,

But let every man reading this understand that cheating on your wife or fiancee diminishes not just her but yourself. GO for a lady you will be pleased with in terms of her physical sexual features and remain faithful to her.Its same hole but different container so go for your choice container and enjoy your hole.

The question every woman must ask herself in any affair is this "Am i still his main woman or one of the other women"? as long as he makes it conspicuous that you are still his main and only woman in his heart,please go blind to his possible sexcapades for the sake of your happiness.
No man is worth the stress.

My humble advice.

INTERMAN:
How would you feel if your wife did not give birth to a baby boy for you. daughters no son.

I want to assume you are either the one involved or you know someone who is really worried about this situation and this is one funny reason many myopic men miss it.

Now i will explain briefly what you can do to increase your chance of having a male child.

Please read this article i wrote 3years ago on my wall

Man determines the gender.

I laugh in Swahili at any man who gets angry with his wife or even makes the blunder of sending his wife parking as well as getting another woman pregnant because the wife bears only female children.

Such a man is not only dumb but a bofun and the greatest mutumu to ever live on planet earth.

A woman has no business in determining the gender of a baby. A woman naturally has two X chromosomes which are 100% feminine but a man has the X and Y chromosome.

If you give your wife the Y chromosome you get a boy and if you give her the X chromosome you have a girl child. Simple and straight forward.

So the big question is what can you do to ensure that you give your wife the Y chromosome at the right time?

Now all you need to understand is that a woman only ovulates about a day or two during a month's menstrual circle so you must try to time her ovulation period which is about 14days from the commencement of her last menstrual flow.The Y chromosome are prone to die faster than the x chromosome so you really need to monitor your wife's circle.

The most important element is intercourse timing. Because male sperm cells are moving faster, having intercourse as closely to ovulation as possible increases the chance that a male sperm will reach the egg first. On the other hand, intercourse in the days before ovulation will increase the likelihood of having a girl: Because the female sperm cells live longer, there will be more female than male sperm still around when the egg is finally released and ready to be fertilized.

Try this with prayers and i believe GOD will give you a male child and if you are not that lucky just accept your fate.

My humble opinion

john2k4:
There is this beautiful girl in my church I have being asking and she opened up to me that she has being crushing on me but issue is dat my eldest bro got to her before me and is asking her out with intent to marry her. She told me dat but dat she is not interested in him because the age difference is much btw the two of them. He is still pushing and she is running to me, if not for chance she ready for me to enter Jerusalem but we r both busy. The issue nw is that my elder is different mother from me, and if I date her he will feel I'm the one dat spoilt his chance. I like the n she is my spec, pls what do u guys think? Pls help me

This is a very simple issue.

I remember when i was very young,my older brother wooed a lady and she told him point blank that she would prefer me to him but i guess my holy holy nature did not make me go into the affair even when my brother opined that i go ahead to be with her.

Now the question is not about whether she is interested in your brother or not but HAS SHE AGREED TO GO OUT WITH HIM?

Has she said yes to his dating interest? If yes then forget her totally.

If she has not said yes to his dating proposal then let her tell him straight up that she is already into an emotional affair with you and you are well aware and with this you are free to have your girl and i hope you dont break her heart.

My humble advice

[quote author=Nayah post=37463868][/quote]Just curios.

Sleekyshuga:
Should I tell you one truth? Don't take Jaybee3 serious in matters like this.. He is only teasing you .. The earlier you know his kinda person, the better for you...

Jaybee3, it yaff do .. Stop ruining someone's pleasant evening.. You still owe me a massage .. Oya, start running down..

lol i understand his type jare but just setting the tables straight.

And for that massage thing oh my thats one thing i cant be tired of givng my lady talking about deep naked erotic massage.

Men should give their wives lots of it and wives should give their husband too talking about happy ending massage "winks"

jaybee3:
Omo mehn you need to chill oooo
Stop taking me serious mehn
I'm just messing with you

lol
I am not angry in anyway

jaybee3:
Relax jare...it's really not that serious

You do need to get laid though

Now bite me

oh my which kain people be this?

You have no idea who i am.

Iim not a sex freak,infact i have lost count of how many ladies i have ignored when it comes to cheap sex.

Im a decent guy to the core. If i want to blxxp 4fferent girls every day its no brainer for me but as one filled with the spirit of God i will not allow that robb me off eternal life.

Sex is not a do or die thing and from age 17 to 38 i have had ladies serving me sex but i just look the other way.

sex is not my problem bro and nver wll b

nokiaba3:
thanks for the advice

My pleasure

jaybee3:
Please help us beg

We desperately need something that will occupy uncle toks time which in turn will transcend to fewer romantic epistles

Have you ever come across the word passion?

Writting to me is an elixir to my soul so if you freaking think my writings are as a result of idleness then you must be an akpors.

I am more busy than bankers but because im my own boss and my work is 90% online i tend to do my thing.

So im not only iinsulted but pissed at your unfounded deductions.

If you want to woo a lady pls go ahead and do that and leave me outta it.

All the epistles i write according to you have been written over 3yrs ago on my wall on fb and i just copy and paste them here.

Please lets maintain proper decorum and not derail this thread

thanks

Icecomrade:
[b]I have never visited a Spa and Massage Parlour my life. What's the difference between professional massage and what anyone can get at home. How does it benefit ones health. 

 I have never shown any interest in what transpired there until one of my friend started his convincing sermons after I told him of Body aches.  ‎He couldn't stop talking about how it will benefit my health. 

Today, I decided to visit a Massage ‎Palour in Maitama he reffered me to. The place looked cool, with lots of cute guys and ladies serving as Moussetour. 

After registration and payment, I had the choice to choose between a guy and a lady. I can't stand a guy touching me, so I opted for a lady.  She acted professionally which put me in a comfort zone.

During my session, I embarrassingly ‎got a hard on, as her fingers caressed my back while I laid face down. When it was time  for me to face up, I couldn't. I simply told her "Am okay, I don't want to proceed any further" She thanked me and walked out.
I still have more 3weeks s‎ession. I still can't get my head around what happened today.

Is it right for a married man to visit spa and massage parlour?

Does it truely have any benefit to our health?

Is it abnormal for a man to get hard on during a massage session?

How does women feel about there husbans visiting massage parlours?

Let's have reasonable feedback from those who attend massage session. 
[/b]

Interesting one i must say

Well bro,you just crossed the line and im sorry to say that you are hooked already at least meentally.

Now the truth is that ladies also go to spa and yes many of them do priivate room massage and YES many do naked body massage with guys as their messeur.

Massage is good for the body and thats why i got a massage bed at home to give my woman a full body naked errotic massage.

So do this right away...get a good massage table at home and gve your wife a hot massage like once or twice and ask her to give you too and save yourself the addition of looking forward to have another woman ravage your body.

Would you be happy to know that another man is freestyling your wife s body with his hands?

please watch it and retrace right now.

my humble advice

SUGARBEE:
Hmm observing

As long as a lady has firm moderate boobs,thats a yes for me.

And after giving birth to my kids,i will get her great products to firm up the boobs.

Sugarbee how are u?

nokiaba3:
by friends with benefit i mean sexual.so ur saying its wrong to have had sex 2wice in 3weeks?

No and yes

From your post you wrote that you first met her ever 3wks back and u v had sx twice.

Now in the logical world that is too fast but not mpossible but thats not even the issue.

From what you just wrote,it is apparent that she is unperturbed about the sex thing for her to state it clearly which to me is totally iimproper.

My advice once again is that if you have strong feelings for her which could still be initial gragra though,you can change her oriientation and make her a better person because she really needs a re-orientation an if she is willing to change,keep her,focus less on sex and buld yourselves up.

my humble advice

Omotayor123:
Registering my presence.... TeamAmebo

lol

Nairalanzzis are welcomed

SUGARBEE:
Don't mean to but I'll prefer it's left personal

Sugarbee,its personal is a delicate word that have totally destroyed what would have been mended.

I wont force it.

nokiaba3:
so me n dis particular gurl have bin moving togeda fr a while nw,met her bout 3weeks ago n we ve had sex 2times ,the problem now is d first time i met her she told me she doesnt do friends with benefit buh somehw smhw av had sex with her already without asking her out for a date now she wants to knw if she is my galfriend. should i go ahead n ask her to just be a friend with benefit cos i knw dis will hurt her alot ...need ur advice pls

When you use those phrase ..friends with benefits.. the question is ..what sought of benefits does she mean?

Spiritual
material or financial?

Apparently she is not interested in a real affaiir where no condition applies.

The ball lies in your court bro,3 weeks and sex 2ce is not my idea of a purposeful union so if you are ok with such then stay put and focus more on iindividual aspirations with less emphasy on sex.

BRIGHTRIVERS:
ok! ..i'll share mine later 2nite tho

Trust me,you will appreciate my advice

BRIGHTRIVERS:
d topic is not "Share Pleasantries"
Op admit it..u've derailed 8-)

If any issue is shared,it will be discussed adequately irrespective.
Thanks