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2mNaira:
Toks2008 is misiforming people. Polygamy is not God's will for his children. He permitted it in the old testament because of the hardness of their heart. Morover, the old testament is different from the new testament. The new testament came into existence after the death and resurrection of Jesus Christ. In the new testament we are expected to walk in God's perfect will. Polygamy is not God's perfect will for man.

Romans 12:2 And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God.




Matthew 19:5 And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh?

Matthew 19:8 He saith unto them, Moses because of the hardness of your hearts suffered you to put away your wives: but from the beginning it was not so.


Jesus, the originator of the new testament pointed out that marriage was originally meant for TWO people.Marrying of more than one wife was not so from the beginning.


Notice he said "two shall be one flesh" and not "three shall be one flesh".

You still dey write this blasphemy.

Be careful guy.

“And if any man shall take away from the words of the book of this prophecy, God shall take away his part out of the book of life, and out of the holy city, and from the things which are written in this book.” (Rev. 22:18–19.)

2mNaira:
Toks2008, kindly read the below.


Matthew 19:4 And he answered and said unto them, Have ye not read, that he which made them at the beginning made them male and female, 19:5 And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh? 19:6 Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder. 19:7 They say unto him, Why did Moses then command to give a writing of divorcement, and to put her away? 19:8 He saith unto them, Moses because of the hardness of your hearts suffered you to put away your wives: but from the beginning it was not so.

Mark 10:5 And Jesus answered and said unto them, For the hardness of your heart he wrote you this precept. 10:6 But from the beginning of the creation God made them male and female. 10:7 For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and cleave to his wife; 10:8 And they twain shall be one flesh: so then they are no more twain, but one flesh.



God's perfect be plan for man was that they there should be marriage between two-a man and a woman.

God's perfect will for man was one man one wife, in the old testament he permitted polygamy. It is not his perfect will for man. In the new testament which Jesus brought to existence by his death and resurrection, it is one man, one wife. Marriage in the new testament is meant for two.


Please stop making reference to the old testament saint in reference to marriage. That was not God's plan or perfect will for man.

Every man who wants to walk in God's perfect will for him should marry one wife. Al Christian's should marry one wife- that is God's perfect will for Christian's.




Romans 12:1 I beseech you therefore, brethren, by the mercies of God, that ye present your bodies a living sacrifice, holy, acceptable unto God, which is your reasonable service. 12:2 And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God.

You need a better understanding and please please don't ever be part of the people writing off old testament... It is blasphemous to do so.

Even Jesus said he hasnt come to abolish it so be guided please.

Please go to this thread to have a proper understanding.

Thanks

https://www.nairaland.com/4303658/dont-deceived-polygamy-not-sin

Solofresh2:
You are always out of points and your topics are always about how a female will benefit from its opposite gender and they are always selfish points.
Whoever tells you polygamy will stop immorality among women should get his/her brain checked.You don't even consider the kids that would be involved.Not knowing that some of the kids will be the one to suffer more in this polygamy shit!
Am from a polygamous home so I know what I faced before I become comfortable.
OP am sorry to say this.You are nothing but a simpleton

I'm sorry to say that your Dad must be a very poor man no pun intended or perhaps did not organise his home well.

Polygamy is not for the poor or for those who are not organized.

xtycool:
So everybody is now refers to as an Hebrew servant. Read exo.21vs 1-10. Bible is not confusing , Christianity starts from new testament after Jesus Christ, those that were behaving like Christ are called Christians. As a Christian you r not permitted to marry more than a wife. Even historically, God made Adam and Eve, if God want polygamy he would have made more than Eve for Adam. Even in Genesis 2:24 was written "a man cleave to his wife not wives", no good Christ believer will marry more than a wife.

Can you just read what you wrote again...

This is the lamest argument many people use

Please read this and broaden your knowledge or continue to wallow in your ignorance

https://www.nairaland.com/4303658/dont-deceived-polygamy-not-sin

lovchalice:
Make i hear
I became a single mum at 40
Got married on 13/11/21 to a widower at 42
Truly martied as in the whole works
Traditional
Court and white
Always believe in yourself and your God
Never settle for less or else you will get less than what you settled for

I would have said congrats but your conclusion makes no sense.

So those who chose to marry a married man settled for less right?

Please Park well.

Jman06:
I cringe at those of you that are always quick to encourage polygamy! And to think that some of you consider yourselves "mature" makes the matter worse.

Our forefathers did polygamy out of ignorance and many of them lived to regret that choice. Polygamy breeds poverty! Most polygamous homes I saw while growing up were mini war fronts!

Step siblings against step siblings, wives against wives, Husband being seen as loving one wife and her children over the other. Even In-laws against In-laws in some cases. Check children from polygamous homes, they're always toxic and battle ready even while dealing with outsiders.

Are we talking about the economic implications Imagine catering for a polygamous family as a man under this government! No be die be that

Polygamy also does not curb sexual immortality and promiscuity, rather it even encourages it. It is even better for a lady to use her vibrator if she cannot find a guy to marry or date her than getting involved in polygamy!

Many people in an attempt to appear "mature" actually expose their ignorance and lack of sound reasoning. It is too bad!

So in your head you are the reasonable one making sense.

Well I don't blame you. Nah you get sense pass.

To think that I wrote this for ladies but some guys are here mastrbating over the matter when they have no clue of how these ladies feel.

You even went ahead to propagate your ignorance by asking ladies to get married to dildos rather than have a man to themselves and nah you get sense pass.

Why did I even respond to you? Mr Mature

I saw this coming.

sellers4buyers:
Where is it stated in the BIBLE OLD AND NEW that polygamy is a SIN I will like to know brother.

The only place I know the Bible goes against polygamy is in 1Timoty 3:1-2 in there, it's actually a requirement for someone who wants to be a Bishop. I will like to know any other verses that outrightly condemned polygamy as a SIN please. Cheers.

Even the verse you quoted is not against polygamy.. It only advised deacons and General overseers to be a husband of one wife.... it was an advice not that it will be counted as a sin if they choose to marry more wives.

Infact there is a translation of the original manuscript that believes that part actually mean THEY SHOULD BE FAITHFUL TO THEIR WIFE NOT THAT THEY SHOULD BE HUSBAND OF ONE WIFE.

The mistake many people make is that they take the singularity of marriage to mean a man can't marry another lady.

Marriage is expressed in singular form but you can be joined with as many ladies as you want.

Please rea this thread of mine for more understanding...

https://www.nairaland.com/4303658/dont-deceived-polygamy-not-sin

sellers4buyers:
I choose not to argue with you. If you believe the above verses condemned polygamy and also makes it a SIN. Peace...

That guy is just ignorant and he has refused to widen his knowledge so it is better to just ignore him.

Righteousness2:
Keep Decieving yourself! It is not me you are doing! You are doing yourself! You will give account to GOD of all these Nonsense you put out.

When you see and stand before GOD, you will understand what u did to yourself.

If you Like Hear! If you Like continue in your evils. Your Sin will find u out!

You are a babe in christ. Grow up.

Te sad twist is that people like you remain toddlers cos I just sent you a link. Rathwr than click it to expand your knowledge, you choose to be closed minded.

Whatever you do biko don't carry your ignorance near my side.

Righteousness2:
Matthew 19: 4-9
Mark 10: 1-12

See your life.

I told you that I will school you.

Now run off to read this thread I created years back and come back to tell me what you have learnt.

https://www.nairaland.com/4303658/dont-deceived-polygamy-not-sin

Righteousness2:
Ignore all these confused teachings of men like Toks2008 that are wise in their own eyes. These are Ungodly and evil teachings that will Destroy your soul.

No matter your age , No matter your Matter! Stick to what GOD says. Read your Bible, see GOD'S word and abide by it.

Polygamy is not of GOD. It is a sin. That is not GOD'S Standard.

Whatever you do you in life, stick to GOD'S Standard because will account to GOD .

Eternity is not a community race.
Eternity is a Personal Race.

Guy carry your ignorance to another thread.

This is a thread for enlightened people with sound intellect.

If you can't back it up with Scriptures then stop disgracing yourself.

Ignorant sheeple like you come and let me school you about the Scriptures.

Were you even born when I gave my life to christ in 1987?

Biko carry your ignorance commot.

GABRIEL6036:
Bros, for a lady to say this out of her mind means there is certainty of death around the corner for the man or the second wife brought in

No reasonable man brings a woman to live in the same home with the first wife... That is the angle many are seeing it from.

These days you let the new wife stay in her own apartment and all you do is spend different days with each one of them.

Any lady that kills or threatens to kill a man because he wants another lady is mentally unstable.

She is free to leave.

perambulator:
whatever problems polygamy create for a child are less than the problems of a fatherless baby. If you are in a position where you are considering polygamy, it is clear no man wants to marry you as an only wife and the best options are not available to you if you want to have a child. So its a question of the lesser of evils.

I have a beautiful single mum friend who is in the process of divorcing her husband and the sad twist is that the child she has for the guy has not set his eyes on his dad and the last has made up her mind to keep the child away from him forever and what is the offence of the guy?... He was previously married and the last has no clue.

After I sat her down and explained some deep things to her, she said what pained her was the lies that he ought to have told her he was previously married and I agree with her but I reiterated that no matter the case, that child deserves to know his dad but she refused.

So to buttress your point I strongly believe that polygamy does not create problem for any child but the main problem is created by divorce and ladies who think the best way to deal with a baby daddy or ex husband is to deny the kids access to him.

Utoimie:
Stop being self centered....we know no women like rivalry...But the truth must be told and reality faced.....just pray you don't find yourself in such situation before you appreciate what op is saying..

attached is a success story of a polygamous man that your likes won't show you....

@ the embolden, this is why I ignore comments from most of them cos they are still at that point when they dwell on fantasies..

Those in the listed groups will just read and ponder but you see those teenagers and smallies who still think it is about their beauty or wishful thinking I always tell them to calm down... They may come back to this thread to read again in the nearest future.

E ni ba lo mo.

Amarabae:
sorry he hates polygamy the same way I do.
not all men love the idea.

Its weird seeing a young guy like you fascinating about polygamy

That is what they say... They hate polygamy but still fvks side chic or you want to vouch for him on that too? Please I beg you just don't go there...

One of the most hypocritical things men do is celebrating years of monogamous marriage anniversary but neglecting to celebrate the anniversary with the side chic.

Please whatever you do, never eve trust any man when it comes to woman matter

Nah my 50kobo be dat.

And about me fascinating about polygamy... Well the truth is that I am a writer and when I write I don't focus on what I fascinate about but I write realistically on issues.

This is not about me, I pride myself as one of the most sexually decent guys out there. I have been on Nairaland for years and no single lady on this forum has anything on me and no lady in the world can point an accusing finger at me.

So leave fantasies out of it. IT IS WHAT IT IS

joyandfaith:
1. Polygamy has never solved issue of adultery or fornication. If you can stick with one woman, you are not likely to stick with 4 women.
2. Not every person would get married and not every married couple would have children.
3. Divorcee, widow, single mum, older ladies should go for older men who are like them. Interestingly, older men, divorcee, widower and single dad tend to get attracted to older ladies, single mum and likes.
It is irony that it is married men and older bachelors that like chasing young girls.
4. Every woman should set meaningful life goals and pursue them. Marriage is not one of them, though.

When I say curb I mean curb NOT SOLVE and I was referring to the women not men. Polygamy curbs sexual immorality in women. This is a FACT

Amarabae:
Sorry I can't share my husband with another woman as a co-wife
imagine using timetable to determine when to sleep with him,
me that love playing with that thing every night

lol
on a serious note, polygamy is a high risk, involves a lot of dramas and stress.
One pencil
One Sharpener

I just bust out laughing anytime i read this line from ladies.

Babe it is not in your place to decide if you can or cant share your husband. it is up to him to decide if he wants to be shared and if he chooses to, you are left with two options.

STAY OR LEAVE

nellyelitz:
this was not from God AlMighty. the Bible is not the word of God but it only contains the word of God, i know that may be too deep for your understanding.

2 Timothy 3:16

All Scripture is inspired by God and is useful to teach us what is true and to make us realize what is wrong in our lives. It corrects us when we are wrong and teaches us to do what is right.

miqos02:
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you are wrong sir, read from verse 7




7 “If a man sells his daughter as a servant, she is not to go free as male servants do.
8 If she does not please the master who has selected her for himself,[b] he must let her be redeemed. He has no right to sell her to foreigners, because he has broken faith with her.
9 If he selects her for his son, he must grant her the rights of a daughter.
10 If he marries another woman, he must not deprive the first one of her food, clothing and marital rights. 11 If he does not provide her with these three things, she is to go free, without any payment of money.

Lol! So what is the point?

I read from vs 1 of that chapter so I understand it clearly... My point is that GOD GAVE A REGULATORY RULE TO GUIDE POLYGAMY.

So I don't undrstand what you meant by saying I'm Wrong so please shed more light. You just quoted without making your point.

VULCAN:
You wrote a fantastic piece and I could not find any major fault in it.

But this response is beneath you.

The person was only questioning the practicality of your article and you responded like a know it all instead of using the opportunity to turn it around and make a stronger case.

You got emotional and it wasn't called for.

Those feminists that are being insulting, you said nothing to them but you responded to this with a put down whereas it is nothing but a demand for deeper clarification of your thoughts.

You can do better.

Thanks for the article. I will send the link out to friends

Stop taking life too seriously. She wasn't asking for clarification but she made a conclusion and as Nigerians we mix humour with discussion sometimes so my post was a jovial response.

pocohantas:
K1 the Ultimate just married a mother of four. So who are you and your fellow Nairaland alfa males? Leftover indeed.

A Mother of 3 actually.

georgemarcus:
I pray they read and understand this your copied thread or even listen to your advise. Because in this country now, we have eyes but we cant see, have ears yet we cant hear. We no se ABA road no good yet we still de go Aba...u get the point now

Is your head paining you?

I don't copy threads, I create my threads.

VULCAN:
The most problematic kids in the world are found in the US.

Polygamy is illegal there and the Mormons who practice it unofficially actually usually bring up better behaved children than the average Monogamist.

So update your operating system

No reasonable person will use the standard of the western world as a prototype for marriage.

But for my sexual decency, I would have lost count of the number of single mums and divorcees I would have slept with or even be servicing regularly.

Ask them why they left their marriage and you will hear the same reason... "He wanted another lady"

In Africa we keep the woman in our lives even if we go for another thereby maintaining the sanity of the children and the sanctity of marriage but in the western world, because of the illegality 9f polygamy, they just kuku divorce the wife and go for the new lady not minding the mental health of the kids.

Now the funniest twist is that these ladies who left their husbands end up as sx toys in the hands of randy men and even married men.

Those who choose to be celibate take succour in sx toys for years and I know may who have not had proper sx with a man for many years.

So I begin to wonder, why leave your husband when there is no guarantee that you will find a faithful man out there?, why not just stay in your marriage, focus on your kids and yourself and just see your husband as a booty call if you feel you don't love him as you use to.... Are there no better things in life than looking for one man that will seed his manhood to only you as long as he lives?

AutoChick4U:
Polygamy in this harsh economy? How we go share d gbola sef? Will there be like a timetable? Will he have the strength to function after I've hammmered him? Will there be peace when the kids grow and the head is gone? I want peace, don't want strife and stress abeg.

I have many single mums as friends and most of them have been single for years as in no sex.

So tell me if it won't be a succour to even feel the touch of a man even if it is once a week.

If you know the number of ladies in the categories I highlighted you will agree with me that polygamy is the future.

The crazy part is that many single guys see ever ready to catch cruise with these ladies until they are fed up with them.

You may never understand this write up until you find yourself in any of the groups.

Shokoloko:
You know my great grand father did this method. It worked well until he died and it was time to share the properties. Very violent sibling rivalry among the children of the different wives sprung up from nowhere. It was not a question of equal sharing because some believed that the wives with the highest number of boys should inherit more, some said it was the first wives children to inherit more, some said it was the woman with the most children whether boy or girl.
They were not interested in the will (whether it was written or not). Different factions were applying different laws of the land.

In that case, what solution do you proffer for a man to avoid this situation after his death? And for a woman to ensure that her children are not dragged into this property menace?

If he did the will well there won't be any issue.

Shokoloko:
No, even when I lived in Nigeria, I wasn't a fan of movies.

I am not a TV person. I am a reader, a researcher, a life-long learner/student.
I watch TV at the most four times a month only because I am trying to do movie night with my spouse

I suggest we stick to the topic rather than digress to the frequency of my TV watching

If you watch Nollywood films you will understand why I wrote that.

It usually depicts chaos and strife in polygamous homes but it is not that way in majority of polygamous homes...

And these days men don't put wives together.. They have their seperate abodes and some don't even see each other for as long as the man lives and they only get to see on very rare occasions.

Ask some sugar daddies and they will tell you how many side chics they have in different apartments and their wives have no single Clue.

Shokoloko:
What happens to those of us who are not Muslims?
Is there a general process that can be applied across board regardless of faith? Thank you

GOD almighty has proffered a solution in the Scriptures as regards regulating polygamous homes cos as I wrote, he permits it for a reason.


Exodus 21 vs 10

If he takes an additional wife, he must not reduce the food, clothing, or marital rights of the first wife.

This is how to treat an extra wife as well. As her kids.

Wey lalasticlala

Make i run get my troll proof cos of Nairaland babies.

Shokoloko:
Your writeup seems to proffer a solution to females to curb sexual immorality.
While it might favour the woman, but it doesn't talk about the problems that polygamy will cause for the children

You watch too many Nollywood Movies.

22o62021:
Oga last year

You never marry

Are you now married?

How does my marital status change the fact that Buhari is still the president?

E don land.

Nairaland female toddlers, teenagers and under 30s please just read and learn.. No need to comment