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MISSNORA:
Good evening all! Please i need mature replies on this topic. My elder brother is really hurting right now.

The Story.
My elder brother got married earlier this year...before the marriage, he was fully aware that his childhood friend[Michael] had dated his wife to be with sexx involved. The wife is the truthful type and lays everything bare. Michael is well aware that his ex [my elder Bros wife] is fully married to his friend[my brother]....My brothers wife and Michael recently reconnected again on social media and has since started up chats that "MAY" lead to them flirting. She shows my brother the chats and gives him every update. My brother is not happy with this development and is yet to communicate this to his wife.

Questions.
1...Should he tell the wife to block of Michael (his wife's ex, whom is coincidentally his childhood till date friend) ?is this a wise move considering the fact that this might make his wife start hiding stuffs
... The wife is cool with maintaining contact with this particular ex[Michael]....thought he tells my brother everything /the chats.
2....Can you allow ur spouse still in contacts with his/her ex?
3....Should my brother just talk to Michael straight up to stop chatting his wife?

Which kain kindergarten question be this? Chai:

Car Bawo?

provided the monetary value of the car is the same with the 3bedroom, i will pick the house cos in about 10years, the house will appreciate in value and i can sell the house to buy a car and even build another 3 bedroom but the car can only depreciate in value.

I decide to drop this after reading a condescending post about a mother of 3 that just got married to a popular fuji artiste and i implore everyone to read this with an open mind.

Polygamy may not be appropriate for everyone but it remains a viable option for certain groups. Polygamy in Islam is a norm and there is no part in the Bible that forbids it or tags it a sin but rather it is Permissible just as GOD permits Divorce.

The concept of Polygamy is not about Men having many wives but it is geared towards ensuring that every lady who wants to get married can easily have a husband thereby curbing the act of sexual immorality.

Sometimes what may seem inappropriate may be an ideal option and talking about polygamy, i will strongly advise the following group of ladies to give it a thorough consideration.

1. THE WIDOW/DIVORCEE: Except a lady is still very young at the time she lost her husband or got divorced and she has no kids then she just might be fortunate to easily get a single guy who would love to marry her but as we know, many widows and divorcees are usually with kids and of age which makes them more appealing to married men rather than single guys who would prefer to go for young never married ladies. So If you are in this group, stop bothering your head hoping for a single guy except you just want to be toyed with. Consider marrying a married man who is willing to love and care for you.

2. THE NEVER MARRIED LADIES IN THEIR 40s: Many ladies in this group usually have this hope that there just might be one single guy who will be willing to settle down with them AND YES it is very possible just that the chances of this happening is very low. Most guys usually get married in their 30s and except they see a divorcee or a widower then they just might be lucky but unfortunately, even the widower or divorcee will still most likely prefer to go for far younger ladies which makes it even more difficult to come across single guys. My candid advise for this group of ladies is to get a responsible man to settle with regardless of his marital status.

3. THE NEVER MARRIED SINGLE MUMS: I have so many single mums as friends and the common mind-set they still have is that there is one single guy out there who will gladly marry them and some of them have remained celibate for years because according to them, they don't want to marry a married man and they are scared of single guys.... I think it just doesn't make any sense to continue hoping for one single guy to leave millions of ladies without kids to marry you. In most cases, this set of ladies get used by single men who just want to catch cruise with them. If you belong to this group please consider settling down with one responsible married man and avoid getting used by fvk boys in the name of looking for a single guy to marry.

4. THE IMPATIENT MONEY LOVERS/GOLD PICKERS: I honestly see nothing wrong in wanting a made guy after all, everyone has the right to make a choice but the problem i have with this set of ladies is when they put so much demand on a young progressive guy to provide what he can't. Wealth is progressive and except a man is very lucky to make huge money in his early age, I strongly believe that the best bet is for such a lady to look for one rich married man to marry because in most cases, it is men who are married and advanced in age that will be able to provide the type of life style this group of ladies desire .

5. THE UNLUCKY ONES: This group of ladies cut across all ages. They are just unlucky with single guys. They have tried many relationships with single men but they are just so unfortunate and they are totally fed up. My advice to them is to consider polygamy as there are many married men out there who will be willing to marry them and make them happy for as long as they live. It just doesn't make any sense to settle for a jerk just because you want a single man for yourself when there are super responsible married men ready to treat you like a queen.

6.THE SUGAR BABIES: This group of ladies are usually very young and to them, it is ok to date married men or sugar daddies who can take care of them but when it comes to marriage, it is a taboo for them to marry such men. I honestly do not understand how a lady will be having sexual relationship with a married man, enjoy the lavish lifestyle he provides but will find it difficult to marry same man and the worst twist is that in most cases, even after this set of ladies get married, they still linger in the relationship with their sugar daddies. No be juju be dat?


Make i stop here

IamGblaize:
If not for the greed of some women and love for material things... I don't know how a lady will be comfortable being the second , third or even fourth wife..... Of an old man like wasiu... Na dem sabi

You just inspired me to create a thread about the issue perhaps you will learn one or two things from this. It Is deeper than what you think.. Life happens and when it does, many ladies who have vowed never to have anything to do with polygamy usually make a uturn.
The title will be...
Any lady that belongs to any of these groups should consider Polygamy (Opinion)

tiger28:
Just like Sunny Ade, this one will keep playing and performing until he is in his wheelchair. ......Tooooo many Children and wives to PROPERLY take care of!!!! I laugh at Polygamy because someone will be lying to Someone in terms of fidelity. HOW can ONE man satisfy all these women?AND most of these men have side Chicks EVEN with all these wives. Just like it is rampant with AIDS in East Africa, ONE infection and EVERYONE catches NINJA(AIDS).

Solomon satisfied 1000 wives and concubines. Some men are stronger than other men in bed so leave story.

Deborah98:
Takes latest wife,well I'm not a party to any man who takes a second or even third wife when the first is still alive. The only legal grounds by which this can happen is in the case of adultery and death, nothing more nothing less.

Yen yen yen yen yen

Athemisia:
You seem to forget that not everyone practice your religion so stop compelling others to live by your philosophy.

Awon Christian radicals.

Do you need religion to understand the fact that any giving that excludes the needy, orphans and widows is not complete?

This is simple logic.

Their money, their choice as long as they can help the needy with the same energy no wahala but if not then they are stupid.

James 1:27
For pure and holy ministry before God The Father is this: to take care of orphans and widows in their affliction, and for a man to keep his soul without defilement from the world.

flexlatifa:
Small business are crumbling and u people are giving out millions of naira.

While 200,00k can save a business and help remove so many out of poverty.

Life no balance. Naija nah cruise

advanceDNA:
U seem to reason in a weird way...if I don’t know you on this forum, I would have thought you are 14 years old....how can you assume everyone will choose polygamy over monogamy because of money..... is money the only thing driving your faculties.??cos it’s surprising how you would automatically think so if others

I guess you will shout for joy and gladness when you 22 year daughter comes home with a man with multiple wives as her husband to be?
Of course you won’t be happy...because You are the hypocrite here..

men like you think other people’s daughters should gladly accept going to a polygamous home because U feel its a natural for community penis like yourself to jump from one pvssy to another..

u are so driven with the polygamous idea that u advised a single young woman with a moment of weakness, lusting after someone else’s husband that polygamy would have solved her problem..
you ddnt even mind that she would be hurting and destabilizing a peaceful family....nigga...it’s not everytime a man should think with his penis..

There is no hypocrisy from my part...I state facts...and it’s simple... no woman is happy sharing her man with other women... women who do it only do so out of desperation or lack of choice...

.if you doubt it, you can take a survey of just 200 women and see their response

Now ask yourself if this post does not deserve a harsh response..

Learn to communicate without sounding condescending or insulting people.

advanceDNA:
Toks, what exactly is the topic of this dialogue?
I don’t support polygamy..
You love it... that’s fine by me...I respect your opinion

What I ddnt like was you calling me foolish for my presence, saying I have to lean from your, calling women that want monogamy foolish. You were cocky and arrogant. U have a right to your opinion but it’s not the standard

Whats’s more, u jumped into conclusions by saying it’s only Christians that clamor for monogamy.. you also said all women will rush at polygamy for the money...
now your assistant came to insult me and also jumped into conclusion bringing the Bible from no where into the discussion... u both kept jumping into the conclusion that’s why I said u have the same problem...

But clearly u see everything as an insult.. a classic behavior of pre-millennials.. you seem to be older than everyone and expect everyone to learn from you...even if your opinion is bunch of fallacy...

You are not teaching me anything.. there’s nothing to lean from you... polygamy is trash no matter how old the practice is... and no woman is happy about it...

even from your point.. money is what will make some do it... even you confirmed that money is what will make you give your Virgin daughter to an old man with 100 wives... so in reality no one will gladly or happily go into polygamy unless they were bought with money....

Go back to your very first response to my post and read your words again.

I have zero tolerance for people who lack communicative manners.

Go back and read again and see why I came hard on you.

advanceDNA:
Bible...??
U and toks have the same problem??
U jump into conclusion and spill fallacy all over the place.... what has this conversation got to do with the Bible...

Have we even discussed Bible here??...what is this one saying??
My first point to toks was that polygamous settings promotes strife, jealousy and conflict... but you pompous self ddnt want to see that just as toks concluded only only Christians clamor for monogamy...

Look, It’s hard talking with people like you that feel you are superior because,
Your reasoning is basically flawed because anything that doesn’t agree with your opinion is foolish... so enjoy your knowledge on polygamy and polygamous lifestyle .....you want to have multiple wives, go ahead, but tagging people that are not in the same both with your foolish is just irritating..

I don’t have to read books on culture, history, philosophy, anthropology, or psychology to know polygamy has its flaws and I don’t support it....

I thought you were against him talking down on you. Is it not obvious that you lack manners when it comes to purposeful communication.

I have a problem because im in support of an age long culture that has been in existence before the generations of your fore fathers even came into existence but you don't have problem for foolishly arguing the matter. The Bible and Quran supports polygamy but in your ignorance you spew nonsense endlessly rather than calm down to learn so who has a problem?

Please rest this matter and continue in your delusion.

advanceDNA:
Mr toks..stop deceiving yourself..
U have a flawed way of reasoning coupled with pride....u don’t even dialogue objectively, yet you expect me to lean from you...nigga spending years on this forum doesn’t make you your opinion the standard..

First you claim all women will gladly chose polygamy because of money.... it’s irritating to to think everyone is driven by money...
now you are fallaciously concluding only christain ladies prefer monogamy....

Muslims ladies accept your polygamous ideology because u use religion to tie their hands in Africa and Islamic States...saying It’s blessing for her to allow her husband have multiple women...I’m not surprised.. ur religion has various strategies of caging women...

Go to the US and see muslim men gladly embracing monogamy....it’s in Africa u community penis can flex muscles about polygamy, claiming it the will of God...that’s the same why you claim it’s the will of God to have Islamic state...
using will of God to deprive people of their right is a norm in most religion.. so I’m not surprised

U stylishly skipped the part where I asked if you’ll be happy your 22 year old daughter comes home with a man of multiple wives....u can’t truthfully answer that because u know u would want better for her....

Again... u claims about women is just irritating.
I’ve seen muslim men that don’t want polygamy both in this country and abroad, so your point that only foolish women want monogamy is not only invalid, but lacks sense..

Do you even understand the concept of polygamy to start with?

8 out of 10 men are not exclusively in a sexual relationship with one woman so what is your point really? And yes i will gladly give my 18year old virgin daughter to a man with 100wives if that is where her heart belongs.

You need to be schooled in this matter, it is not about pouring emotions all over the place but i guess it is pointless going back and forth with you on this matter.

Believe whatever you want if that makes you happy. Cheers

The song is cool but i give it to that lady that sang with him...her voice gave the song a lift and nice beats too. Wizzy and Davido are really doing us proud.

BennyDon:
Whenever the thought creeps to your consciousness, speak in tongues.
Covetousness and theft can't stand Holy Spirit.

May God deliver you, Hanty

I agree that covetousness is when you want what belongs to another person but in this case she is not really coveting the man cos the man may choose to be polygamous meaning he does not belong exclusively to his wife.

This thing is deep and only those with deep understanding and objectivity of reasoning can grasp. The tenth commandment expressly says ''Don't covet your neighbours wife''

The act of adultery is when a married lady sleeps with a man that is not her husband. A married man can have concubines and as long as the concubines are not married at the time he has them then there is no issues. A man can not commit adultery until he sleeps with another man's wife or lust/covet(Desires to have) another man's wife.

A single lady can desire a married man as long as the man also wants her and my advice to any single lady who desires a married man is to avoid becoming a side chic. If he wants you as you want him then let him marry you...if he can't do that then its not worth it.

advanceDNA:
U seem to reason in a weird way...if I don’t know you on this forum, I would have thought you are 14 years old....how can you assume everyone will choose polygamy over monogamy because of money..... is money the only thing driving your faculties.??cos it’s surprising how you would automatically think so if others

I guess you will shout for joy and gladness when you 22 year daughter comes home with a man with multiple wives as her husband to be?
Of course you won’t be happy...because You are the hypocrite here..

men like you think other people’s daughters should gladly accept going to a polygamous home because U feel its a natural for community penis like yourself to jump from one pvssy to another..

u are so driven with the polygamous idea that u advised a single young woman with a moment of weakness, lusting after someone else’s husband that polygamy would have solved her problem..
you ddnt even mind that she would be hurting and destabilizing a peaceful family....nigga...it’s not everytime a man should think with his penis..

There is no hypocrisy from my part...I state facts...and it’s simple... no woman is happy sharing her man with other women... women who do it only do so out of desperation or lack of choice...

.if you doubt it, you can take a survey of just 200 women and see their response

I can bet my left testicles on it that you are either a teenager or mentally immature. Of course if you are 25years or lower i can confidently be your dad.

When people like me write on romance or marital issues you should just learn or shush rather than pour your emotions blindly on a matter you are so naive about.

I put it to you again that 8 out of 10 ladies will glady be a baby mama, a side dish or 100th wife of a billionaire rather than be the only wife of a broke man INCLUDING YOU.

How come it is the christian ladies that wail over this matter? who are you compared to extremely beautiful Muslim ladies all over the world who are happy in their polygamous marriages? and let me shock you, your husband or boyfriend is most likely with other women but because they know how immature you are, they will hide it from you and when you find out you will possibly leave him to start sleeping with different men in the bid to have a faithful man to yourself until you have been so used like a s.x toy by many men and that is when your brain will grasp the fact that men are polygamous and ONLY A FOOLISH LADY EXPECTS TO HAVE A MAN TO HERSELF. And that is the path you are presently.

flokii:
@OP Kill that feeling fast else you won't like the end result.

You are just exhibiting the female trait of wanting to take what is already taken.. I'm sure if you see a single and homely gentleman, you won't even remember you have boxes talkless of ticking them. You'll be disgraced las las and the shame and stigma will follow you around.

If you're now unfortunate, they'll go and report you to witches and wizard that will turn your life upside down.. then you'll know ojukokoro (greed) is not good.

This generation is lost in delusion.

Ojukokoro because a single lady desires a man that can marry 100 wives if he so desires.

This generation is foolish and in serious bondage of some unfounded indoctrination.

advanceDNA:
There is no arrangement where polygamy is better than monogamy....
It breeds avoidable jealousy, strife, hatred, and promote all conflict...

Humans are territorial species...and a jealous one naturally....

If you believe any woman is happy and joyfully sharing her husband’s pen!s, lips, money with other women under one roof, then u must believe when I tell you my mother is still a Virgin.

women in polygamy are just there becos they have no choice.....

U men that promote polygamy, why do u always think it’s only okay for men and women should allow it? but you can’t stand it if another man is sleeping with your wife.... so women are not humans like you...they don’t like sweet things..

But if aliko Dangote decides to marry you or your sister as 5th wife you will suddenly forget all the crinkum crankum you wrote.

I pity men who allow any woman dictates his sexuality...

Bunch of hypocrites.. As single ladies they are the side dish of a married man, they cheat on their broke husband with a rich man and they will gladly leave their monogamous husband to be a 10th wife of a billionaire yet will start wailing when the topic of polygamy is raised.

NovesaTillie:
I moved to this city because of my new job and my neighbors have been very homely and helpful to me especially the ones next flat,a young man and his wife with a kid . They have been very kind to me, sometimes when I get home late from work his wife calls me to join them for dinner and hangouts. M
My issue now is I am beginning to grow fond of the man because of how gentlemanly he treats his wife and how dotting he is of their son. He ticks all the qualities that I dream of and sometimes I just feel like inviting him over to my place when his wife is out to tempt him a little
What can I do to stop this feeling?
I don't want someone else man or to destroy a cute family

Please don't insult me. I am in a relationship though very young relationship. I'm just human admiring someone else.

This bondage you ladies have put yourselves cos if many of you embrace polygamy it would have been easier for him to make you an extra wife. What profit a lady to marry jerk in the name of ''i want my man to myself alone'' when there are very decent, responsible purpose driven married men willing to marry at least 2 or 3 wives?

Polygamy YOU SAY NO but another woman's husband dey enter your eyes.

Chai! I must kill goat tomorrow as i promised.

My number one best Nigeria Art is back.

I am so happy and i pray for eternal unity in the family....Why do i have this feeling that Paul's wife made this happen after threatening to divorce Paul or he reunites with his brother.

kktbm:
Check out the video of p square reuniting and Hugging each other after 4 years of serious fight
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AmdFxCzsGkU?feature=share

By a metal....They should sue that club asap.

MAY HER SOUL REST IN PEACE

Barrister026:
My wife attitudes towards food she cooked with my money is getting on my nerves.

How can my wife be dishing food to me like she's serving it for our kids.times without number have complained but still no changes.

It's either she makes eba that won't satisfy us ( when they is enough garri available) her defense is that she don't want it to be wasted.

OR

She dished out soup for me with lesser meat like am a kid. Have told her several times when cooking..to buy enough protein in the soup or stew. But to my surprise she always economise the money and divert it into something else.

I even had to start buying suya in the evening when coming back from work, because I know what I be expecting when my food is dished out. ( Recent news we saw of how suya killed some families, made me limiit it)

Have ordered her on several occasions to take it back and put more protein, but must i always do that?

Please This is really getting out of hand, I really don't know how to handle this situation.

She is wonderful wife..
Helping you to manage.

My prayer for you is that GOD blesses you so much that you will beg her to reduce the number of meats in your food.

christistruth01:
Here is Nathaniel Solomon who was no 46 on that useless fake list and listed as dead at Lekki Toll granting Punch Newspaper an Interview on 11 Sep 2021

He was also awarded N25 Million for the only Lekki fatality his brother on Pg 304 line 7

https://punchng.com/video-i-fainte

It is not about an error but the fact that people died is crux. People were killed and that is bad enough so whether they mistakenly put a name or not is not the issue.

jornwhite:
The essence of the panel was to establish if there was truly "a massacre" which happens to be the bone of contention .... finally the report out, and it as being established unarmed citizens were killed, with the level of your education do you need the panel or liein mohammed to call it "massacre before you know what massacre is, what happens to discretion and whoever think otherwise should pls re-define massacre.

Yoruba adage says, oun ti o da ko da, ko nii oruko meji,i.e call a spade a spade. stop looking for how to sugar coat evil

I am a writer bro and when you present any write up that bothers on a specific news, it is alwasy better to highlight that section that specifically passes the message without leaving anyone to start guessing.

Indeed there was a massacre and the report clearly points it out but not that part Seun put up here.

rolams:
Pls download the report and read Page 290 downward. Or page 295 you will see it there.

Yeah i have seen it. Just that next time The OP should crop out that section so that it will make more sense.

jornwhite:
with the number of casualties glaring rite back @ your face ... if killing defenseless people holding their country flag is not a "MASSACRE" then what is it
same way liein mohammed claim cnn was misleading the world, kini yato yin

Dont get me wrong.

Seun should modify the topic of the thread cos nothing in the report he showed up there suggests that the report specifically called it a massacre. Leave emotions out of this. i am not saying there was no massacre.

The Panel phrased it in such a way that it was not expressly called a massacre but they tried to dance around it. That is still unfair

Seun:
According to the following excerpt from the report of the Lagos #EndSARS Judicial panel, the Lekki Shooting of October, 20, 2020 was a massacre.

This is a misleading caption.

They never sad it was a massacre.

This world is a mystery... Only the foolish doubt.

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gasparpisciotta:
Rubbish

Typical example of why Nigeria still remains backward.

Is he the cause of Nigeria problem!

discusant:
You are struggling for your Yoruba to succeed Fulani in Aso Rock in 2023, you talk about ECONOMIC Restructuring while most of the south and middle belt areas clamour for political restructuring and change from unitary government to true and fiscal federalism.?
And what is economic restructuring?
Which one you de?

Fiscal federalism or true federalism can be achieved with economic restructuring.

With E restructuring comes resource control and with resource control there will be no need for Biafra or Oduduwa republic cos each state will control what they have and keep a very large % to Foster the growth of the state.

The federal seat will be less attractive cos only a meagre % will be given to it as the federal unit.

That is true federalism as practised by United States.

discusant:
Yoruba Nation agitators are now more determined than the agitators for restoration of Biafra.

Did you watch the video of the slap given to a Yoruba diplomat trying to persuade Yoruba Nation agitators to scale down in New York City during the last UN Heads of Govt Meeting?
The Yoruba diplomat’s eye glasses fell out on the floor as he was dazed by the slap from his fellow Yorubas.
Yorubas are great in business as well.

All those foreign agitators are noise makers. I believe in economic restructuring rather than disintegration and that is what they should clamour for.