₦airaland Forum

Iyaebe:
The first age bracket.

Chai you still small nah. If i got a lady pregnant at the age of 17 i could still have someone like you as a child. You must be wiser than your age judging from your posts.

Iyaebe:
Pansophist is a good dish but someone is already on that table, babe look well ooo,crackhus too is married just in case.Cannicius I can't say much about him. The way small boys are irritating me these days ehn you'll think I'm in my 70's.

What is your age bracket sef?

20-25
26-30
30-35

Ruby458:
God bless you for this. You have said it all.

Yen yen yen yen. Nah person wey una go kill still enjoy his wealth with another man una dey find.

Even in great countries with good economy, there is a sharing formula between couples howbeit naija with crazy economy.

franchasng:
You weh wan share expenses with woman, no Nigerian chick (even Dangote daughter) go hear that kind thing from u and accept u as a side boyfriend self

I don't need their type.

I am the type who can invest on my woman so that she will start contributing. It needs not be 50|50

TheOnlyUyai:
The same here. Once a man cannot take an initiative on caring about your needs and general well-being, how would he become responsible in marriage? As for me, if I see no sign of that, it's bye from me.

It is not about initiative but reality.

With the way Naija economy is, only a witch will expect a man to provide all the needs of the family let alone her own needs too. Except the guy specifically chooses to.

Marriage is not employment.

Iyaebe:
The young men(I avoid them like a plague) would term it gold digging even if its obvious you can care for yourself. Well, no wahala as long as I'm not on anyone's neck to be responsible I'll stick firmly to my belief.

Babe, I repeat this is naija mindset that you have

Outside the country you will either share bills with your husband or remain a single baby mama where you are forced to pay all your bills yourself.

This is why most Naija ladies can't cope with the life in the West cos they are so used to the traditional pattern

Iyaebe:
Women only endure in polygamy,no woman truly wants a polygamous home. I'm not afraid of polygamy, I perfectly understand how it goes with polygamy because my mom comes from a very large polygamous home. Polygamy is a game for the women involved and the weak and less calculative loose out.For men in polygamy there's also some disadvantages attached to it,there will come a time when all your kids will be their mother's children while caring less about you and by that time you'll be old and tired.

As far as I know, whether official Or unofficial, 8 out of every 10 men out there are polygamous.

Even many ladies are in a polygamous dating relationship. Monogamy is just a lie we tell ourselves to feel cool.

Iyaebe:
I'll intimidate your wife into leaving you lol,polygamy not my thing.I'm very territorial.

Lol! But honestly you should be very open minded when it comes to polygamy.. As long as you don't share the same roof with another lady, your needs are adequately met and you are happy.

What profits a lady to be with a jerk in the name of monogamy when she can be with an amazing polygamous man?

How many so called monogamous affair are truly monogamous?

TheOnlyUyai:
Zukwanuike, my sister.

Before I tell you say person never marry, believe me. I said Pansophist isn't married. All those him posts na fronting. He doesn't want any girl to send him Emails. But, I have to tell you the truth, he's seriously searching. Na my person. No argue am.

The guy must be one hell of a dude for him not to want mails from ladies.

TheOnlyUyai:
Na traditional men I dey consider because me sef be traditional woman with a touch of modernity. You be feminist and I even suspect that you are married.

Babe trust me, some Ladies happiness lies with a married man.

This is a mystery and mind you, most men are practising polygamy just that sincere men like us don't hide but the real terrible ones pretend and I guess that is what many ladies love... LIES

Iyaebe:
You are very much married, but open to polygamy. You don't even hide your own.

And trust me, you will never want to go if you try polygamous affair with me... Infact it will be so monogamous that you will start to wonder if there are other ladies.

TheOnlyUyai:
You're right. But the thing is, most of them don't comment here like all Romancelanders small boys. Most are married too. Na Acidosis I been wan corner, but e leave me go marry. There's God sha. As Franchasng don tell me say him don marry, na to look Pansophist side now maybe him go fit consider me. Another one wey I dey look now na Cannicus. But, that one too like woman. Tufiakwa.

You no look my side ni ?

Iyaebe:
Don't be deceived ooo,Pansophist is very married. Before I begin to chat with any guy here I must have gone through every every about him.That he's available for side knacks doesn't make him unmarried, its just his very high libido taking a toll on him.

And what about me? Am I married or single?

bukatyne:
You have forgotten the 'right to cheat' because they are the 'head/men'

Must ladies twist things?

We are talking about gender roles here and they are bringing RIGHTS to cheat. Chai

Iyaebe:
Very annoying set of Nigerian men,African women are designed to give care while the husband huzle and provide comfort for the family. Any married woman still huzling like a Jackie is just suffering,the stress a woman go through while single should not remain so when married. You give care and provide again? no naaaa that's too much,you can help but not a provider. Well, I don't come across such men sha,I only see them on nairaland.

You are missing the vital part....THEY BOTH GIVE CARE AND PROVIDE.

Iyaebe:
I've actually met two people from here but couldn't date them,a particular one came with the vibes I put here and at a point started flashing money as if money is my problem. The truth is most young men don't have that core family values anymore, don't know how to tame a woman, see ehn most of them fear me here and I enjoy it,at the mention of my Monika they run but I enjoy it because I don't want a weak man,who wants a man who can't be in charge and in control? Most people I like here are already married and don't look forward to meeting anyone from here anymore.Looking forward to snatching sha lol

But Nairalanders say you are a male.

Wahala dey o

franchasng:
hehe, anyway na American and European lifestyle sha, na their way. I am a typical Nigerian traditional man, I prefer to be in total control of my marriage financially while my wife keeps the home bro.



But you are absolutely right, it's his personal choice which I doubt cos if at my small level I can afford domestic staff, imagine billionaire in dollars like Jay Z talking lies of taking care of the home, what then will his domestic staffs be doing? Na cruise him de catch with him followers sha as him just join Instagram, him need more Mumu followers to beef up his dying fame



As for u Toks, deep inside u, your Nigerian version prefers to be the main provider of your home but the European devil in u is telling u no, but I rebuke that European devil on your behalf, say a big AMEN!

@European Devil

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Bro, trust me Jay Z mindset is the norm in the western world.

Billionaires do domestic stuffs and share bills which is why they live longer than their African counterparts who die young struggling to provide everything thereby putting themselves under serious pressure.

franchasng:
Don't mind Jay Z with him Mumu advice. That his yeye advice is only for lazy black American jigolos, most Nigerian guys wish to be the main financial provider of their marriage, forget what they say on Nairaland, Naija guys prefer to provide for their marriage while their wife take care of the family, that's the desire of majority of Nigerian men, take it from me.



As you desire sis, God will grant unto you. Law of attraction is real, it works.

We attract whatever we desire and place our mind on always. I have applied the law of attraction in my life and it worked and working, so focus on that which you desire and believe me, you will surely get it.


I do read some of your fight fight comments and I will just be laughing cos I know most of those comments are just to while away time and not the real you lol

You are the one fooling around now. He did not give any advice

Guy talk sey nah wettin e like be dat and you are hear abusing him....what you like may necessarily not be what i like.

I love his type of relationship and i want such too. Somebody son can not come and kill himself in the name of maintaining traditional role.

I don't know if it is a naija mindset though but outside Nigeria, that is the norm.

RightToReject:
I don't have a cure for you if truly everyday words appear heavy for you and your likes. Actually, one major problem you have is that you lack discernment, citing that you termed "sweet" Eyinju112's post, which is a clear pointer that you did not see Jay-Z's submission beyond its pleasing surface.

Before I go on, I haven't seen any sane man who can't cook and do house chores in general under normal circumstances or who will idle away at home and watch his reasonable wife handling all the house chores without helping out directly or through the employment of house helps. On the other hand, I have not seen a sane woman who has the wherewithal who doesn't generously support her reasonable man financially in running their home

There is a great difference between when a man goes into an intimate union with a woman working on the reality notion that he is a man and relating with his equal of a woman in that regard compared to when he goes into the union with the unpronounced selfish notion of no gender roles. One with the former notion, for instance, will always cheerfully and intuitively get the physical heavy chores done no matter how many times it occurs and without minding whether his woman has done anything beneficial for him within the intervening time, the same way a woman with a similar notion will cheerfully and intuitively see nothing wrong in seeing cooking regularly for the household, provided that time permits her, without minding whether her man has done anything beneficial for him within the intervening time. All this doesn't mean that in the absence of the woman, that the man can't cook or won't have food to eat, same as it doesn't mean that in the absence of the man, the woman can't get heavy physical chores done directly or indirectly.

There is nothing wrong with equality, provided that its intent isn't to propagate and commit greed, contentiousness, and negation of common sense, and provided that it encourages selflessness, thoughtfulness, deference and discretion, and fairness in general

Hey just negodu there. When i say write simple English it is nit because i can't comprehend but it just doesn't make sense writing big grammar to make simple sense. I hear English and possibly speak am pass you so don't get over your head.

Your point is my stand view so i guess we are on the same page.

NoToPile:
I am a lady oo

But you didn't say anything about the man taking domestic responsibility , I can't see that any where in your write up advising me as a male to take any domestic responsibility.

I know you might not respond now you know I am female.


Advice your fellow men to take domestic responsibility too, women are providing already ,same way financial burdens can kill the man is the same way a woman can die carrying both financial and domestic burdens.

You want one person to carry two responsibilities while you are carrying only one, its not nice.

Tell the men to do chores women are providing already shikena.

And traditional roles are not dead if not you won't see guys on these thread saying they can't do domestic work.

Since they can't let them provide fully now.

Don't bring abroad into this issue, all those shouting they can't do chores do it with joy over there, Nigeria is the case study

Anyway I salute the real men out there who at least acknowledge its their responsibility even though economic constraint may prevent them from providing fully. And to those that provide all na man you be.

What are you talking about?

Did you not see my post. Am i not the OP?

NoToPile:
@bolded preach it but the romance section boys will soon come for you.

The fact that some men don't see providing as their responsibility is baffling. Kudos to real men out there that at least acknowledge its their responsibility even if economic constraints may neccesitate the wife's financial support


To provide fully they can't or don't want to, oya let the woman also hustle and you help running with chores lailai.

Most women are already providing, its the men that need to do chores.

Guy biko if you want to live long, encourage your wife to hustle and take some financial responsibility too.

The world is in recession and only a joint effort can sustain the family.

For instance if you live abroad a man can never shoulder all responsibilities else he will just drop dead.

You pay house rent or mortgage, water bills council tax, electricity and ofcourse some debts from installment payment and then you feed the family and still remember home... And guess what? The lady is also working so what will she be doing with her own money?

Save it or probably start building mansions back home and sending money to her own family whilst she still has enough to save.

Then you die before your time and she will claim the life insurance and enjoy it with another man.

Be wise bro. Traditional roles died long ago.

bepositive11:
There is some truth to this but we can't deny that men and women are different.

Men can't give birth. They will never be able to neither will they be able to breastfeed

Men are physically stronger and women love men who can protect them

There are many gender differences like these so there will always be different gender roles

Either way, I believe in having a relationship where both individual are self sufficient and decide to come together to form a union

Gender roles is not the same as what you guys keep posting about child birth... That is a different ball game.

Brimstone77:
I only feel pity for those that lost their live because of this Biafra rubbish..

Ipob now decided to heed to advice of oha naze ndi Igbo and south east governor's what nonsense..


Same people that invited the Operation python dance 1,2 & 3...
Same people that never condemned the killing of Igbo youths..


Sooner or later Ipob must surely account for the death of every igbo person that died because of this their nonsense agitation..

When an oracle feel to proud of it self we show him the tree he was calved from..


Ipob should not take our support for foolishness..

This is why I call this Biafra agitation a wild goose chase.

I do kit support a break up of the country but restructuring talking about resource control but breakup should be the last resort.

However if the Ipob really mean business then I don't see why any Eastern state should even allow any form of election as that will drive home their intent.

RightToReject:
His concept of equality can never breed a mutually healthy and happy relationship in the long run because even though it's centered on mutual selfishness, animosity and contentiousness are inevitable.

The concept of equality that has always bred mutual healthiness and a happy ending is one that is mutually centered on scrupulousness and conscientiousness in general. Here is the equality that doesn't negate and abhor selflessness, thoughtfulness, deference, and discretion.

Bro biko write simple English habba!

Gadafii:
Nigerian girls just want to relax and be taken care, just because she's a female

A thief and more

Lol! Naija girls don suffer for una hand.

nijaomegacode:
Me 2years.

Me I don't even know how to chase.

I invite you on a date, tell you my mind.. If you say there is no prospect, I move on.. If you say let's be friends first I see it as a green light and if you say we should give it a go then we move.

i love this.

Lalasticlala what is your take?

Eyinju112:
This happens in Zimbabwe
I’ve got this neighbor in turkey then
They both hustle..The woman cooks, wash, sweep for one week without the man’s assistance and the following week the man cooks, clean, wash even toilet without the woman’s assistance, the woman would sit down watching tv while the man does everything for that whole week
It’s a 50/50 thing
They both hustle, the girl doesn’t have the right to demand, they pay every damn bills 50/50 even split foodstuffs money into two hahahaha
I was forced to ask her what kind of life is that, she said that’s their culture in Zimbabwe, and to be honest she loves it ...

They believe in equality
Nobody is superior....

This is sweet.

I love this.

®Jay-Z

"I want a relationship with no gender roles. We both hustlers, we both cook, we both clean, we both pay, we're both romantic & we spoil each other."


What is your opinion?

Hardvance:
Lol

Sarcasm?

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