₦airaland Forum

EmmyDJourno:
Lol, yesterday newspaper rest please, as a man ages so does the demographic of women he can get, as a man ages so does he discover the secret to wealth
A man’s life is always on the rise, while a woman’s own is in decline, take your beef to nature, it has nothing to do with me, you bitter old newspaper🤣

imustsaymymindo:
Exactly my point. We are on the same page. Because there are mechanisms for divorce - culture, norms, and even an economy would be built with it. So the more we borrow from that culture, the more divorces or failed marriages. When there is less focus on divorce as an easy mechanism like the traditional society, people would resort to other ways of fixing the issue rather than divorce like the family example you gave.

The question now would be which is more efficient, divorce or the other strategies? Maybe, I'll need more data for that. But if divorce was that efficient, people wouldn't be experiencing 2nd, 3rd, or 4th divorce. I also know the dangers of some of the traditional strategies, however, the traditional strategies seem to be beneficial to the collective(Husband, wife, and children), while divorce seems to be more favorable to the unhappy individual only. Where my talk on "love" comes in is because the expectations in marriages these days are based on definitions of the "borrowed culture" while we expect the outcome of the "traditional values". But I guess it's high time we realize that it has come to stay, and divorce rates will get higher both in Nigeria and everywhere else.

StaffofOrayan:
The phenomenon of wanting to date a local is universal! That is why indigenous people are still around, that is why we still have ethnic groups! It is not unique to Nigerian or African women!
There are women that leave their toxic husbands rightfully I might add, but for the most part it's an overdose of new 'freedoms'. Then they decide the only person they would be submissive to are their bosses, they forget their own inadequacies!

When you are desirable, you automatically get suitors, these women quickly find out no man wants them, so they toil away in the cold, getting infected with the European disease called depression,

ubunja:
A Player Is Nothing But A Woman With A Dick (And A Nice Guy Is Nothing But A Man With A Pussy)

THE ONLY MAN PUSSY HAS NO POWER OVER.
Men want to fvck women more than women want to fvck men. It has always been. It will always be. This mismatch of values gives women an upper hand. Fortunately there is a mindset that a man can develop that will re-align his values with those of women to help him regain some measure of an upper hand.

Sex begins in the mind. The brain is the biggest sex organ. So power over pussy begins with a mental reset. this epistle will seek to press that reset button and recreate in you the mindset of the only man pussy has no power over: The Player.

Women control sex because men let sex control them. It is a survival strategy of the powerless woman to control the powerful man by becoming a Master of what a man is a Slave to.

RE-ALIGNING VALUES.
Consider the table of values below. It may not apply to every woman, but for the majority of them it's accurate.

As a man whatever you have on High that women have on Low is what you love more than women love and women
will use that to control you. and what women have on High that you have on Low is what women love more than you love and you can use that to control them. what you have on matching values with women cant be used by women against you and chances are you can get it free:

ACT . ---- WOMEN --------- MEN . ----------- PLAYERS

KISSES --- high--------------------high -------------------high
CUDDLES --- high --------------------low---------------------low
SEX --- low---------------------------- high---------------------low
BJs ---- low-----------------------------low----------------------high
LOVE ----- high----------------------------low--------------------high
PUSSY LICK ------high-------------------------high-------------------low
NUDITY -----low----------------------------high--------------------low
phone intimacy ----high-----------------low----------------------low

The first step to freedom is to move from a place where pussy means Everything to a place where it means Nothing. Because unless that value is correct all other values won't be and you'll forever be a slave to anyone with a pussy. Remember the only value pussy has is the value that you give it.

In the Table above, a Player is basically a woman. He matches a woman's values to perfection. to a woman he is a mirror. She's dealing with another woman and sex-wise she has zero leverage. Sex means to a Player exactly what it means to her: NOTHING. ZERO. NADA. ZILCH. NAUGHT. While Sex means so much to the 80% of the male population that they sing about it, pedestalize it, worship it and are willing to buy it, marry for it, fight for it and die for it. Things a woman or a Player will never do.

PUSSY IS PUSSY.
women love money. It doesn't matter whether you make that money cleaning toilets or robbing people or investing on the stock exchange. To them All money is good money. And all money is the same. Likewise to a Player all pussy is good pussy and all pussy is the same. Doesn't matter the woman's looks. Pussy is pussy.

The Player has fvcked so many pussies that they are now the same to him, no matter how beautiful a woman is. Why should hers be special when even the ugliest woman has one? What does her pussy have that 3 billion others don't have? Two clitorises? Or maybe it can talk? pussy is pussy. To the Player that thing it's just a hole between a woman's legs.

But not to the average guy!!!. The average guy "fvcks faces". He only wants Nicki Minaj. He's only interested in those women whose beauty takes his breath away. He is choosy.

Now here is the thing about human sexuality: We all begin as virgins intending to marry the first person we have sex with. Our First Time must be our First Love. That is because we have an internal instinct that Sex=Love. Essentially we attach to the person who takes our virginity. It is only when we keep fvcking more and more people that this instinct switches off and Love is mentally divorced from Sex allowing us to love without sex and have sex without being in love.

Back to the Average Guy...
The average guy only wants beautiful women. But as much as he only has an eye for beautiful women he is also afraid of approaching these beautiful women. beautiful women are hard to get and even harder to fvck, so the average guy goes through life having sex maybe once in a blue moon. At the end he gets to 30 without any real skill in talking to women or fvcking them. Where regular sex with the easy Plain Janes and Ugly Ducklings would have forced his mind to separate Love from Sex he remains uncured of the above instinct. He goes through life emotional with sex. Where he is given sex there he will fall in love.

Men are visual and select for beauty in women, but thats no reason to ignore ugly women. A Player understands this. He ignores faces. And because he ignores faces he also fvcks ugly girls, if only to keep his Dick Game eversharp.
Again because he ignores faces a Player can treat beautiful girls like trash, shocking the princesses accustomed to a never-ending chorus of male compliments and succeeding in presenting himself as High Value with the sex skills to prove it.

DICK IS LIKE MONEY.
To women Dick is like money.100cents make $1 the same way two 50¢ coins make $1. its the total that counts. Not the parts. if her BF is under-performing in the bedroom it makes sense to a woman to ask his best friend "to help the failing BF out" by fvcking her. its not cheating, its
her saving the relationship. hence the popular belief "Women Cheat To Save Relationships"

If a woman values your love enough, but your dick ain't enough she'll cheat rather than lose you. She would be
insane to walk away from an amazing love such as yours just because you are not fvcking her proper. True Love is harder to find than Good Dick. So she'll find Dick elsewhere, but in someone bonded to you so the
sex will have meaning. That someone will be your best friend or your brother. the bond you share with these two men makes it the closest she'll Bleep you without fucking you. they are the closest to you. It makes emotional sense. To seduce these men, your GF will present your sex problems to them in such a way it becomes a temptation .

Always remember:
Women cheat because they care (by choice), While men cheat with no feelings (by chance). That is, a woman cheats because something is missing in the relationship (So she PRE-PLANS and because of this its hard for her to get caught), While a man cheats simply because an opportunity presented itself.

99 PROBLEMS BUT A DICK AIN'T 1.
For a woman Dick is easy, it is Love that is hard. Her life is 99% dick but 1% Love. because of this, you can't really get a girl by promising her sex (she can get it all by herself thank you. Besides, what can you do to her that she hasn't experienced 10X before?) But you get her by promising her Love. Just as she gets you by promising you Sex. Because love is as difficult to get for a woman as sex is difficult for a man to get.

women have 99 problems but a dick ain't 1. while a Virgin has 99 problems and they're all about dick. To many men a virgin has nothing to offer because she is not sexually active. This forces the Virgin to find love among Players And Bad Boys; the men who sleep eat and live pussy, because these men are the only men who can love even
though sex is not promised. while the average man's motto is "If you love me have sex with me".

Men use love to get sex ("If you love me prove it" ) , while women use sex to get love ("if you like it put a ring on it" ) . Men hope love will lead to Sex while women hope Sex will lead to Love. To men sex is the Final Destination, to women sex is the Start of the Journey. A man manipulates until he gets sex (as women always lament "He left me after we had sex!" ), and a woman starts manipulating after giving sex (as men always lament "After sex she has started making demands" )

to the average man love is not love until he's given sex. To a woman sex is not sex until she's in love. Even if she has sex, "it doesn't count". If a woman tells you she has slept with 5 guys in her life she means SHE HAS BEEN IN LOVE with 5 guys in her life. Not that her body count is 5. It can be as high as 50.

HOW A PLAYER PLAYS A VIRGIN.
Players know 1 thing other men don't: A virgin is the only GF you can cheat on with her approval. A Player need only sit his virgin down, hold her hands, look deep into
her eyes and solemnly say "I wanna do everything right by you, that's why I'm saving everything for marriage because you're the only girl i care about and i respect you too much to do to you the things i do to those other girls" ; and the Virgin's eyes fill with wonder and awe. to her this man is a Marvellous Wonder. she's amazed at how easily he can fvck 10 women and not feel anything inside! because to herself Love And Sex are the same thing she's 100% sure she'll marry the first guy who'll fvck her and never cheat on him.....and that is exactly what the Player is counting on, for when the time comes, he will not forsake all others for her, but will bring in a new manipulation and continue his womanizing ways while knowing 99.9% his Woman is his and his alone; while men
fight each other to wife up his hoes..

HOW A PLAYER PLAYS A NON-VIRGIN.
The very excuses men use to avoid fucking virgins ("virgins are too clingy" / "Virgins get too attached" ), the Player uses to Bleep non-virgins. like this: he tells a girl in a belittling tone that sex with him will make her fall in love. Easy. that he's tired of girls becoming clingy and possessive because of sex and that himself he's no longer looking for love because love doesn't love him. love is pain. now, these are words a girl last heard when she was a virgin, and they're an insult to her matured ability to separate Love And Sex. She feels challenged to prove she's now a big girl who can handle Sex Without Emotion.

When the Player tells a girl he no longer believes in love it is a trap he has set for her and she becomes trapped in it the moment she sets out to prove to him that love still exists.
It's a trap because, one: It puts the burden of romance on the Girl since she's the one with a point to prove and, two: It gives a Player a ready excuse for when he'll disappoint her ("but I told you I don't believe in love" ).

A Player presents himself as an innocent love-seeker cruelly wounded in his search for love by saying stuff like "i will never marry for love", coming across as someone who's drowning his sorrows in pussy and fvcking the pain away. This gives a woman hope that a Player can be tamed if he can be proven wrong. And so a woman sets out to prove him wrong and show him that romance is not dead - using the only super power a woman has: Pussy Power.

The woman hopes against hope that out of the dozens of pussies the Player is fvcking her own will be the sweetest most amazing pussy that will reset the Player's heart and make him a romantic.

You have heard many a woman falling into this trap boastfully declare; "He has never been with a woman like me..."

In this regard, Players don't really break hearts. Women break their own hearts. They get their hopes up too high that a Player will change if overdosed with pussy. Which never happens. A Player is nothing but a woman with a Dick. You don't get him by offering sex. what can you do for him that he hasn't experienced 10X before??

You are just being played.

HOW A PLAYER PLAYS A WOMAN BASED ON HER LOOKS AND AGE.
After a lifetime of lying to herself through fakeup (AKA makeup), fake nails, fake eyelashes, fake butts, fake thighs, fake hair, fake skin complexion, fake orgasms. etc, a woman's mind has developed a weakness for lies. An addiction. If women love money, then the one thing they hate with an equal opposite passion is Truth. Truth hurts. Their feelings. If you love truth women don't love you. And if you don't have money then better be a damn good liar.

Tell a beautiful girl she's ugly enough times and she'll believe it. And vice versa. A woman's susceptibility to lies goes back thousands of years, right back to the Garden of Eden and to Eve, the First Woman who believed a lie. This weakness for falsehoods coupled with her incurable insecurity about her looks and age exposes a woman to manipulation.

Like this: A Player knows that you fvck an Ugly Girl by making her feel Beautiful (flattery) but you fvck a Beautiful Girl by making her feel Ugly (negging). A Player knows teenage girls envy grown women for their freedom while grown women envy teenage girls for their fresh bodies. Which tells him that you fvck a Teenager by making her feel Grown Up but you fvck an Older Woman by making her feel Young Again. A Player knows complimenting a woman's Intelligence over her Beauty will unlock her legs. and so on and so forth.

A Player knows.

THE POLARITY RULE.
Everything about men and women concerning love and sex happens on polarities. On opposites. The sexes contradict each other. In their desires, methods and goals.

See the contradiction here: Sex means nothing to a woman yet a man's sexual experience means everything to her (he must blow her mind). Sex means everything to a man yet a woman's sexual experience means nothing to
him (she must be chaste). hence "I'm fucking for experience" coming from a woman is as hilarious as "im saving myself for marriage" coming from a man. There are no such things.

Another contradiction: The weakness of men is the pleasures of the flesh and the weakness of women is the
pleasures of the cash. and so a woman plays hard to get by spending men's money but refusing to Bleep; and a man plays hard to get by fucking many women but refusing to
love. a man fucking a busload of women without falling in love is an insult to the power of pussy the same way a woman spending millions from men without fucking
is an insult to the power of money. a man whom no amount of pussy can buy his love is as priceless as a woman whom no amount of money can buy her pussy. that man is the Player and that woman is the Virgin. both the Player's heart and the Virgin's pussy cant be bought. hence when the Player falls in love it is always with a Virgin and when the Virgin loses her virginity it is to a Player. It is the Virgin who eventually tames the Player in
the same way its the Player that eventually unleashes the Virgin. Because technically the Player and the Virgin are the same thing: they are both virgins. While the female virgin has known love but not sex, the male Virgin (the Player) has known sex but not love.

THE GOOD MAN IS THE VILLAIN OF THE STORY.
The cheap man is not that man who fvcks every pussy that comes his way. No. He's just fulfilling his evolutionary imperative of sowing his seed everywhere like a good farmer. The cheap man is that one who falls in love everytime he has sex. His heart is as cheap as his dick. Not only will he break women's hearts by getting them invested emotionally only to abandon them when the next pussy comes along, but he will turn the said women into cold conniving wh0res.

And that man is the Good Man.

Good Men break hearts. Or more correctly: Good Men create sluts . By being easy. When a woman deals with a good man she lets her guard down and doesn't expect to be stabbed in the back and left for dead - that's more a Player's thing right? Wrong! To a good man Love and Sex are the same thing. From that flawed perspective all manner of šhít will flow. He is a wrecking ball. Every woman he fvcks he falls in love with. Even a pr0stitute will be told "i love you". While this cheap loser walks around feeling morally superior to the Player he's leaving behind a trial of broken hearts that will, in time, heal and from then on consider the Player a Safer Option. After all, with a Player what's on the label is what's on the inside. You know what you are getting. No surprises.

# TheRedPill
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NB: From now on I'm not going to kill myself trying to shorten my posts. No more cutting off paragraphs. Apologies if you hate long posts.

Kelechi009:
LOL. Even in the abroad, It is prevalent. The reality of this conversation is, for most of our women, you will have to pay that monthly allowance. It usually does not come in form of monthly allowance but it comes in form of notification of problems. As a guy, you will be told monthly of a woman's problems, and you will have the option of selecting from the list of problems offered to you. Relationships in Nigeria are used to solve problems, and for the record, surprisingly I am not against the line of thought at all. Nigeria has seeded the germ of entitlement in every sector, beginning with our parents lifestyle, civil service, government employees, and private organisations, and it has filtered down to women. We are reaping the seeds we have sown. Once a lady is beautiful, she puts an heavy price on herself. Consider this: a recent dude who is graduate at 25 years old doing an internship at any of the Big 4 will approach a lady of 23 years old; do you think he will be able to maintain any relationships with her on his Internship salary? NO is the answer. It means you have to be littered with cash to be able to land any beautiful lady at all. Emphasis on beautiful because If a woman is ugly, she would go with any poor dude that comes around. So anytime you hear that a woman suffered with a man, ask him to show you the picture of that woman, therein lies your answer.

In terms of financial benefit men derive, the answer is also NO. The benefit is not Finance but in offspring & family unit you have. You're simply paying with cash & women are paying with their bodies (ability to carry babies in the marriage & child care). Trade by provision & trade by nurturing. At the end, no matter how intelligent we become, we will pay that monthly allowance [either directly or indirectly].

deyplay:
Follow his advice, he get OT.And what Naija girls don't know is that ONLY NAIJA GUY CAN DATE, TOLERATE, MANAGE and UNDERSTAND a NAIJA GIRL. Other nations will think they are mad or something

ednut1:
some of the guys played along sha and just dey sleep with them. You will hear things like- at my level and age i can’t build with any man he has to come correct, he must be living in a nice condo and have a car, he must be able to buy me 10k dols ring.

A few of them still get sense sha but the competition for those ones high as other guys can see the value .

pansophist:
Try to appear large.

So go to church with an expensive car, put your Instagram on public, and showcase pictures of you doing expensive stuff.

Look for one sweet title as a designation and slam it on your insta bio, better if you have social proof (eg large following).

Your zip code should not be the ghetto or normal area of town, but the expensive part of it.

Look to match. So suits, jackets and formal wear, and speak good English like you created the language yourself. Now start toasting from this foundation.

And after you get a girl (which you will), ask yourself this question. ''Are you looking for a wife or a materialistic demon?''

If you need a materialistic demon, then make sure you maintain that lie for eternity. Accept your suffering. If not, then maybe you should expand your circle and not restrict yourself to Naija babes.

If materialism is the basis of most relationships in Nigeria, why do you think it will change abroad? it will only amplify.

Good women full everywhere, na you just de stress yourself with women wey no want you. Expand to other races.

pansophist:
The default assumption is that you need them for papers.

You may even have papers yourself, but the default assumption is that you don't. It is hypergamy, mixed with a poverty mentality.

And also, everybody has wised up. No one wants to compromise anything. It is hard to know if someone loves you genuinely when they are lower in status/paper/wealth etc.

And since women generally rise up in wealth via marriage, they know those dynamics very well and will refuse to make others use them to climb, that a female privilege.

Hopefully, you don't reach a point to see say love na scam. In reality, it is just an exchange of value, where the one with the bigger value to offer sets the terms and conditions for the other person.

Sorry.

ednut1:
even Canada that most of us came with permanent residency and papers wasn’t an issue. The Nigerian babes showed men pepper.

i have many friends that started with jobs like customer care and admin while they were doing certificates and training. The Nigerian babes rejected them. But when they got jobs of 90k to 130k a year . The babes came back, but the guys were having none of it. 🤣

The babes also want to live black girl luxury lives( expensive condo, vacations 3 to 4 times a year, eating out everytime etc) . As a guy you are saving for you downpayment and future and will want to live modestly. They will call you broke join 🤣

Omoawoke:
Na so dem be oo, especially if you are still a student. But once you start working, their eyes will start to chook. I have realized that humans are very selfish and think only about the short term benefits, they want it now and not a promised long term benefit.
Especially the female gender, they think of now and nothing more. Only few can think into the long term.
But bros, since you are already working, you should know it won’t be difficult again to bed these girls, bed them and find better wife later. Na wetin bed put for mouth he go carry fly, chop the ones you can chop, enjoy your life and money

Aaaaarghmed:
Ah,you get time still dey pursue Naija girls even as you dey abroad o .They cant even see my shadow sef.If I dey follow my oyibo waka for street ,and I mistakenly jam African girl,na so so look dem dey look

LadyRosa2:
I will advice you ignore them if you feel you have tried enough. Sometimes this ladies make plans out of ignorance only to regret it miserably later in life.

Sometimes people actually make plans to fail,especially when its out if selfishness.

That thing wey you dey pursue, another way dey, its just that you're too greedy selfish, ignorant and proud to see the reason to change your plans and humble yourself.

My brother, no mind them. You no get menopause. The one wey get sense go soon reach your hand.

ednut1:
I get time today. Nigerian women in Canada are responsible for their own downfall over here. Many are single, lonely and depressed. Its hard to pity them.
1. They have misapplied feminism in homes and relationships. No man wants a warrior as a wife.
2. They only want ready made guys and wont even talk to upcoming. The ready made guys just Bleep and dump them as they are in demand.
3. The idea of going back home to marry is an abomination to many of them.
4. They love feminism but still do my money is my money your money is ours. Whites and other Africans babes don’t usually do this.
5. They carry religion on their head like gala in a country where the average man dont attend church or mosque.on their dating app profile some will say they want only catholic lol.
6. In a country where babes dey toast men or accept your toasting in a day. Our mumu sisters want us to carry them on multiple dates you will pay for o, use one month to accept your advances. Sorry o, we not doing that anymore when easy option dey.
7.they mostly live above their means, expensive apartments, holidays, shoes and bags. No plans for investment. Any sane guy would avoid them.
8. They are power drunk knowing the law favours them. You the man will be the wife when you marry them.

There are still good ones but few sha. Unfortunately for the married ones these babes won’t allow you enjoy your marriage as they will be seducing una husbands for sex in 10 to 20 years time when they become old for dating apps. A shame

pansophist:
You may google about it, and lots of info abounds online, narc traits are not exoteric secrets or planetary sciences, it's all out there. But what I will say is this.

Narcissism is more of a female trait than a male, while psychopathy is more of a male trait than a female. Narcissism is how a corrupt woman reaches her goals, while psychopathy is how a corrupt man/weak reaches his goals.

For someone to be so ruthless, such as killing for a living (assassins), war criminals destroying countries (Bush), international criminal pimps that traffic humans, Killing millions of people (eg nazi to the Jews), and all other despicable crimes, a massive dose of psychopathy is the foundation.

You will find men in all these areas. Psychopaths do not share the normal, healthy human empathetic response. Someone may just be slaughtered like a ram in their presence and they will just walk by like it's nothing.

Traits that go hand in hand with psychopathy are dictatorship, authoritarianism, ruthlessness, repression, subjugation, injustice, etc. These are typically male traits. When people think of these words, they don't think of a woman.

Now for narcissism, its typical traits are ego, arrogance, entitlement, attention slave, lack of accountability, exploitation, playing the victim card, obsession with controlling others, self-centered, petty, exceptionalism, addiction to social media, obsession with social status, insecure, cannot be satisfied, vain, instability in relationships, liar, self-righteousness, etc.

You can agree that the above paragraph is what you will experience mostly from females. Given their weak nature, it's how corrupted women navigate life to get what they want. Virtuous women will get their way in life due to their virtue.

Of course, you will experience female psychopaths and example of such are those females you see that were caught with men committing crimes like assassinations, but exceptions only proves the rules.

Also if you see a narcissistic man, he is probably not strong in essence, has no power at all in society, a low-barrel slowpoke, that has humiliated himself to deploy corrupt feminine tactics (manipulation/narcissism) to survive.

So watch out for the above traits when determining if someone is something. Just be patient and they will expose themselves. Time is a narcist's worse enemy. You will always find a narcissist in relational dynamics where the other person has something that they want.

Then, such narcs will employ all these dark traits to get to the meat of their desires. And they always want it quick. So make sure you put up a vague hope that they will get it, then waste their time.

That's how you punish those demons effectively. Don't confront them, it's futile. They choose to operate in the dark with you, then beat them in their game. The giver will always have more game-changing cards to play than the receiver.

Weakness can never defeat strength unless strength is stupid and doesn't know the operations of the weak. All in all, narcs are losers, and treat them as such. They can only win when you don't know their operations.

So yea.

Dubetex96:
lmoa lmao

The so called church girls are the dare devil's

Sometimes I asked why do men value virginity over character and wisdom.

I rather go with an asshole who has sense and can coordinate well

iLegendd:
Most women just don't understand the game. When you call another guy in front of the new one you're admiring to make him jealous and chase while giving the impression you have lots of options, the guy will automatically assume you've slept with all those options and sees you as everyone's product.

When I go to the market, I don't buy those garri buyers are always touching even if it's not the cleanest. What if I want to drink it? Garri everybody in the market has touched with their unwashed hands after using the...fill in the blank. I feel they've infected it with germs from their dirty hands.

This jealous tactics only works when a man is doing it on a woman. When a woman does it, only SIMPs fall for it. Real men will leave you, bad boys will still bang you to add to their catalog, but only SIMPs will go ahead with something serious.

A man with lots of options is what every woman wants as their husband, because they want to find out why other women love him so much. (They want to find out if he's from a rich home, rich himself or great in bed).

But a woman with lots of options is scary to men because we feel she could be into hookup with such male attentions. Even if she isn't into hookup, we don't like women with male besties because we know what's up.

If she's such a good girl, why isn't her male bestie taking her seriously in a real relationship? Or, is the bestie not up to her taste? Funnily, this bestie is banging her on a regular basis with no feelings attached.

So, women should wise up. That game isn't in their favor. Use another tactic. I wrote a book for women, but I don't know why I don't want to publish it. It will give them upper hand against SIMPs.

Gentlelox:
Some time ago, i was in a public place and a lady sitting next to me was obviously staring at me and drawing his face out anytime I turn.

Eventually, she took her phone and started a call with a guy. Discussing over love. I had the feeling the girl was doing it because of me and that it not to drive me away but to show interest in her.

Happened again at the airport. A girl I was sitting next to asked me to get her something politely as i took permission to go get something. When I arrived, she was obviously into me. But then, she brought her phone out and started a video call with another guy. She does it in a way that will make me notice by fire by thunder. After the call, my demeanor changed and I avoided her and I could see the girl somewhat disappointed. From her looks, she was expecting another type of reaction from me.

A lady friend met me and we talked. She wanted relationship and she was into me But then I asked her if she has a boyfriend and she said yes. Then i changed the topic and she could see my interest has changed. So she said it not a serious relationship and she doesn't even know if it a relationship because she doesn't love the guy... She started telling tales. Las las i nor give am line.

These things happened alot. Maybe because they are all up to marriage age. If a girl thinks that chatting or calling another guy would make a guy interested in them, then they need to rethink. Or maybe she just doesn't like me.

What's your opinion on this.

willy2000:
Of course I understand you very well, there are rules, and everyone follows it. But how many of the laid down laws do you know?
As a full-time worker, you get tax returns for setting up a home office, every year you are entitled to a pair of suits and shoes, and many more. Do you get to read that on official sites?
These are information you don't see because 1) it is written in the law, but not stated the way you can understand it. Read my previous post where I said, get a good tax adviser and you will be surprised with the information you will gain even as a Student

Tainted22:
I am assuming fully sponsored does not mean a scholarship in Germany.

Go do your PhD in Germany! PhD here in the US is 5 to 6+ years with course work and you need to pass a qualifying exam after 2+ years to continue the PhD. It is 3 - 4 years in Germany and you are well paid than the US (comparing cost of living). No course work in Germany, just research. You will be on a work visa in Germany and not a student visa (if you're not on scholarship). In Germany, you have an opportunity of having and training bachelors/masters students who will also support your PhD research work. In the US, you do everything yourself, and it is very very hectic with a lot of pressure to publish or you don't graduate. You don't need to publish in Germany to get your PhD if you end up having negative results. It's good to have some publications if you plan to stay in academia though.

Heidelberg is one of the best unis for medical research in Germany. Immunologist and oncologist are in high demand in Germany. You have a better chance of finding a good job as an oncologist PhD in Germany with ease. English is the work language in most research Institutes in Germany. Heidelberg is a small student town though, so you will move to another city after your PhD for another job offer.
The German PhD is a 'global passport' on its own, you can move globally with ease after.

Stay away from Kentucky. I was in Cincinnati, Ohio for a few months, just 5 mins away from Kentucky. It is very boring and flat there in the mid-west. Not a popular destination for migrants. Kind of behind compared to most states in the US. Most people there are natives (born and raised, friendly but not that welcoming to outsiders. Even fellow Americans). You will have a better life in Germany while doing your PhD than the US.

Your PhD would be highly valued in Germany. And you will become a citizen faster. After the PhD, you can do a postdoc in Academia or switch to industry. Postdoc is well paid as well, compared to the US. Getting a postdoc is easy in both countries though. Working in academia (PhD or postdoc) in Germany is way relaxed than in the US, with better quality of life.

The US is good to pursue a career in biotech after the PhD, but the issue here is the immigration laws and it is very complicated. In Germany, even if you don't have a PR you don't need to go through all that visa hassle. You just continue working after your PhD.

The only con about Germany is just the language barrier and finding an apartment is quite difficult depending on the city. That's not much of an issue.

To sum up, I advise you go get your PhD in Germany which is faster, followed by a PR or citizenship. With that, you can move else where if you want (I highly doubt this).

Let me know if you have further questions.

Bethiano:
TIPS FOR NIGERIANS COMING TO GERMANY FOR STUDIES.

Note: these are my views, so don't fight...

For almost three years, in Germany, my advice to a young Nigerian coming here for studies.

1. Learn the Language if you can before coming; at best, start learning in Nigeria
2. Never study a course you are not down for, don't struggle in an area that is not a good fit for you.
3. Do not focus on lager jobs when you arrive. It's a bad deal. I know it may be difficult, but focus more on work student position in a company focusing on things related to your course of study.
4a. I would advise, you take the first six months of your Blocked account-sponsored stay in Germany to intensively apply for a work student position in a company rather than start a lager job from the first go. I understand some of you may have to return the funds you collected from people. If that is the case, start applying for work student positions in Nigeria. Those in IT have a good chance. I have heard of a UNN student working for an IT firm in Germany in a work student position. He receives a monthly stipend of like 1500 euros for 80 hours per month of work.

4b. The most valuable assets you have in your first 2 years here are the Internet, constant power supply and your student status. Many fail to understand the power of this resource. They undermine it or take for granted the opportunity that has been presented before them. Don't spend your time streaming videos always, engage the internet for productive uses. Don't be deceived, time flies in Germany. Before you know it, 2 years is gone. Maximise these resources for your own gain, learn a skill or software, your school may have the premium version software, ask from your uni library or international office, there is numerous software you can get the premium version for free. Don't waste this opportunity, your competition is on a global scale.

5. it's wise to spend your blocked account money with a PETER OBI mindset.

6. You must be intentionally social in DE to enjoy and gain the international student experience in a country like DE. This is because of language and cultural barriers, but if you have attended to point (1) above, you are fine.

7. Covid 19 is over, so you guys would be coming in at a better time than I did. I can't overemphasise that your study is the main reason you are in Germany (at least officially); do well to keep things straight. However, don't miss out on other opportunities, especially travel and continuous learning opportunities (e.g. summer schools, conferences etc.). Some of these continuous learning opportunities are fully funded.
I combine my desire to travel around Europe with learning something new and adding some certificates to my portfolio.
I have since visited Lithuania, Poland, Ireland and other cities in Germany to attend one summer school, workshop or conference. All were fully funded.

8. Build network and friends while in Germany. If this is important to you and your career plans, please consider doing this intentionally. You must be intentional, quiet and wise about it, don't be "standoffish". Germans or say Europeans don't warm up to foreigners quickly, so don't be like that...., its not so deep. I trust you understand what i mean here.

9. In contrast to what you may have heard, appreciate the Nigerian community if you find one in your city. Its a big help in socialising and finding people to argue about NIGERIA occasionally. Your Nigerian community can be of great help. However, do not be petty. Don't bring bad behaviour here. For instance, the Nigerian student community in Darmstadt is lovely, with quality Nigerians who are cool-headed, fun-loving and exciting. We have had many parties that are the pride of black people in this city. We are gracious, LOUD, BLACK, and PROUD.
In summary, we get sense.

10. Appreciate the relationships you are living behind in Nigeria and keep them cordial. Yes, I understand some people feel the need to lock up and ignore people back home. Well, I am not one to tell you how to treat or behave toward your friends. My point is, you may need one or too assistance from family and friends back home. So keeping it cordial is fine. Some may ask you for money because you are now in Europe, where money grows on trees. Well, it's up to you; if you give them that impression, then deal with it: Na, you sabi.


If you have any questions, you can ask them here or drop me an email.

cojack:
Fellow colleagues, just to draw your attention to the experience I had last weekend (precisely 18th of March) and also get your views.
I came across the above subject matter sometimes early February (last month) and I applied.
Last week, I received a mail from them precisely Thursday, scheduling me for a virtual interview on Friday by 9:40am, and sure, I was seated prepared some few minutes to the scheduled time. I was able to link up with them using the link they gave me. I waited until I saw some other participants came on board as well.
After about roughly an hour, they apologized for keeping us that long, and demanded we log out so we can be contacted one after the other for the interview. We gladly did and that was all until date. No call for me as I sat behind my laptop until 4pm. I made a mail to them, trying to figure out what went wrong but no response until date.
Did anybody experienced same, cos I am so confused.

callontolu:
Thank you so much I really appreciate

callontolu:
Hello guys. Pls I have a question. I saw on the checklist for visa application for students that only E- passports can be accepted. Does it mean we can not use the regular international passport?

tobimvo:
You can use the new passport that is connected to your NIN (Even has your NIN on the datapage). That's what they mean by E-passport.

Maranatha5:
The mode of communication is via DAAD portal. So there's no way to mk it anonymous.
October interview with the school
18 February contacted to register on DAAD portal.

Maranatha5:
Hello.
I have just been offered DAAD EPOS scholarship.
I have a 15 month old, during the application, in the column for number of children I filled 1. Though I'm currently pregnant and my EDD is 1st August.

Now for the scholarship, the mandatory language course is starting on 1st August and my course 1st October. Please how do I proceed?

Although, along the line I was asked to submit a statement regarding my plan on relocating with family if offered scholarship.
I replied that I intend coming alone during the language course to find accommodation before my family will join me.
I didn't mention the pregnancy for fear of it deterring my chances of getting the offer.

During the registration on DAAD portal there was no question about pregnancy so I didn't know how to mention it.

Contacting daad on the development are they going to withdraw the scholarship?
Please can anyone with experience advice me on the way forward.

Thank you

AreaFada2:
My brother, it's a major reason a lot of kids do not belong to their supposed father but other men outside. Paternity fraud.

From comments here, especially from ladies, it's about biological clock, women being ready to marry in their 20s, friends, family and Nairalanders will be shaming unmarried women at 30, she married a guy who was ready, blah blah.....

Now the following seem to be the case:

Girls can marry just anyone ready to marry them.
Marriage is a major achievement.
Love has no role in marriage at all.
The woman has no will or power to defy what society will say but just a zombie following others. But a guy should always stand by the woman.
A girl might just accept to marry you as a shaming escape opportunity.
The woman can just leave a guy, no biggie.
A woman can leave one guy and go straight into marrying another man, the former has no right to make pim...
A lady with a guy can be scoping and tasting other guys if one of them will marry her.

Well, if this is what women are telling us we should accept from girls, then guys better wise up. A guy should know what to do and play the game better. He who meets a killer in a quiet, narrow alley must sort himself out and find a way to stay alive.

Kayyy:
So let me get this right , virtually everyone came up with excuses while it was right for the girl to move on, not saying some were genuine or not, now when all agree that this is the way most women see themselves in their mid to late 20s, why do we have a lot arguments when people talk of hypergamy, women seeking financial comfort and all from men before getting married , why do we have back and forth when issues like women looking for providers all the time, looking for comfort and rich men all over, why do we have arguements when there is issue of marriage being the only important thing a woman is thinking about in her 20s ?

Here we have a lady that is just finishing school and has not even served not to talk of having a job and independent planning a marriage and y'all feel it's normal and some even said all girls think along such line, the same people advocating for her and giving excuses will be the set to come out to debunk the hypergamy and comfort talk. It is well

TsaTrinity:
The name of the accuser is Wanetta Gibson. After the whole saga, the mother and her were sued over $1m for false accusation.
Though it's a bad thing but that situation made him an important figure in the society