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 Culture / Re: Yoruba Traditional Marriage - What Are The Steps Involved? Pls Help: by topup: 5:37am On Jul 05, 2010 |
Thanks Naija-Sisi for asking this question, a lot of Nigerians don't know what is involved in the process let alone why they are doing what they are doing. I like tpiah's explanation. Some would like to elaborate, but it basically outlines the overall stucture of the whole thing, you can afford to go as extravagant or practical as your budgets and the families see fit. You have to go into it full-heartedly, you can't just half- do it, like everything Nigerian, it's much better when you put all of you into it. |
| Crime / Re: Why I Threw My Baby Into Pit Latrine by topup: 4:00am On Jul 05, 2010 |
Please can be sensitive to readers!! Not everyone needs to see the picture of a dead baby in a Latrine to know how horrific the situation is. Sometimes the censoring on these magazines and even this website is horrible!! |
| Dating And Meet-up Zone / Re: Truth Be Told Ethiopian/eritrean Girls Are: by topup: 3:51am On Jul 05, 2010 |
Wow, those beautiful women are - beautiful!! But come one there are beautiful girls in every country - sheesh!! |
| Nairaland / General / Re: Great Ife Students Arena by topup: 3:48am On Jul 05, 2010 |
bece: No longer Africa's most beautiful campus, that title was awarded to it in the 1970s. . |
| Crime / Re: Okada Operators Foil Kidnap Attempt by topup: 3:46am On Jul 05, 2010 |
I can't help but think that these men should be rewarded, by the police, or he should pay a visit to their families, or something truly lasting and not just a few words of thanks. They risked their lives, how many Nigerians would do this for a stranger?!?! |
| Business / Re: Do You Need To Go To University To Make Money by topup: 3:30am On Jul 05, 2010 |
I definitely don't believe that you need to go to university to make money. For Nigerians of today looking to become business people or high-earners, you have to discover a niche market, there is a lot of space for such as industries are still growing and finding their feet. This is a perfect time to really invest and follow your instincts. I think what matters more than being 'book smart' is being 'street smart'. Know how people work, what they need and how they want it to be given to them, then work out how you are going to make it happen. For many ingenious people it is the capital that is difficult to raise, but for some rich non-ingenious people, it is the know-how and the business-savy attitude that is lacking. Also, perfectly said by the posters above me. To be a business person you need to be accustomed to taking risks, you need to take risks to gain most things life, and Nigerian parents don't ever encourage taking risks, tv presenters, singers, journalists etc are all special people, who took risks to do jobs that they probably weren't encouraged to do. I know most Nigerians want-ed their children to become doctors, bankers, teachers and jobs that you have to work under a union or a main employer - and our history shows that we've not encouraged such roles either - but with the business thing, it is usually those who have no other option or are in the right place or at the right that do it, it's not something highly encouraged. I don't think this is a bad thing though, Nigerians are very smart people, we're starting to see the light in media, entertainment, branding and industry and I believe many are shifting towards innovation. I believe if there was a national push towards business there would be a lot of people who lacked commitment undertaking the risks and maybe a lot of people would become bankrupt too - just what we don't need, more people in poverty. |
| Culture / Re: If You Can Speak Yoruba, Talk It In Here. Everybody Is Invited! by topup: 3:19am On Jul 05, 2010 |
nike4luv:Nike4luv, bi iwo se'n so yoruba, ni emi ma so, mo ma loo oyinbo pupo ninu ikon ti emi'n so. (Ti mi o ko yoruba mi dada, se le ba mi tu'n ko - ese) |
| Culture / Re: African Ladies Abroad Carrying Babies On Their Back!(Dirty Clothes) by topup: 3:15am On Jul 05, 2010 |
For the extreme cases which you've described, yes it does make you think what impression they are giving, BUT I see many westerners carry babies on their tummies, there are little 'inventions' for that, like a back pack you can wear on your chest with a baby pouch for the baby to sit in. If the wrapper is clean, and the baby looks comfortable and his/her head is not just hanging then I see nothing wrong. Our ancestors were not barbarians and were certainly NOT stupid, carry a baby on your back, keeps both hands free, it keeps the baby near to the mother, and puts less strain on the arms of the mother, and on sore breasts. As we know most African women are often on the move and have a lot of responsibility to the household, they didn't have the time to be prancing around with their babies. Btw, I have a hard time seeing many Africans casually wearing African attire, let alone seeing women act as if they are in the village. Where I live I have never seen an African/Black woman carry a baby in a wrapper on her back casually or in public.  |
| Nairaland / General / Re: Ur Experience On A Speed Boat: Pls by topup: 3:02am On Jul 05, 2010 |
I've been on one, if your 'captain' is trained and competent, he will make you feel safe, but drive the boat fast enough for you to enjoy the 'speed'. The main issue is to feel safe which comes from wearing lifejackets for safety, and being alert and accountable for each other. 1 Like |
| Nairaland / General / Re: Governor Fashola Continue Your Good Job! by topup: 3:00am On Jul 05, 2010 |
Well done to him, any good change should ALWAYS be welcomed, as long as it doesn't come at the expense of human lives or is ruining another area of life. As for blaming Nigerians, or Lagosians, a large net population of immigrants do enter Nigeria to settle BELIEVE IT OR NOT, there are several exploits here, so a lot of Africans do settle in Nigeria, so blame the people, but blame everyone. |
| Nairaland / General / Re: I Am So High! by topup: 2:58am On Jul 05, 2010 |
Don't come on here, when you're drunk/"high". . setting a bad example for all these impressionable Nairalanders  . |
| Nairaland / General / Re: Light Complexn Gurls(omo Pupa) by topup: 2:57am On Jul 05, 2010 |
When she has shown no sign to worry about, why should others be concerned. The best advice the pastor can give is for you to seek God's wisdom about the subject, unless he prayed and received a negative premonition about her. The woman in quesiton seems pleasant, is there any information that you're not telling us?? I don't understand why anyone would be quick to judge, and why wouldn't your mother like girls who are lovely and make you happy, just because of their skin colour?? Is your mother feeling inferior - just wondering. |
| TV/Movies / Re: Top Ten Movies That Make You Cry by topup: 2:49am On Jul 05, 2010 |
kadman: I prefer Season 6, were BIG follows her to Paris, but she is running from the hotel and misses bumping into him a few times, and then she finally runs into him and bursts into tears. "Sometimes in April." Reminds me of "Shooting Dogs", which made me cry. I never used to cry to movies, as I knew they were clearly fiction, actors props, but now a days since something happened to me (in the last 2 years), I've become easily tearful - even to baby adverts, I can cry for the cancer trust adverts, or seeing little children call for their mums, or father and son depictions. I'm a wreck .~Bluetooth: Haha, I was very moved when the players were very upset at the end. |
| Romance / Re: My Boyfriend Want Me To Get Pregnant Before Marriage And Am Still A Virgin by topup: 5:18am On Jul 03, 2010 |
It wouldn't kill him to wait - it really wouldn't. And he is giving you an ultimatum, you're emotionally attached, you're supposed to be thinking about marriage, and he is scared of going any further before he has sex with you. He could be: A) Really Hot and a jerk. B) Unsure if the sex will be good after marriage and a bit immature. C) Wants to ensure he has sex with you - because he is still considering dumping you. Guys must realise, women aren't stupid, we're not trying to blackmail you into marrying us, a lot of relationships are smoother because sex is in there so a lot of the times this IS the harder route to take. What woman in their right mind wouldn't see alarm bells in this scenario?? IF the issue of sex is going to break a marriage for you, then it could easily break a relationship and then it's all over, and the sex wasn't worth it. I mean if you think having sex before marriage will make a difference to a relationship which you SO claim and have made the other partner believe is special and unbreakable, then it really contradicts that. When a man makes up his mind to work at something, and to persevere with one woman, it's made. This is how 'self-professed' players marry and commit to relationships without sex. When you haven't made up your mind whether to stay with someone, that's when you start asking to taste things. How are you to trust that someone is taking the relationship seriously, if they are already having doubts, and if what keeps them around is because of the bump and grind and not really you, the personality, the 3Dimensional character with much to offer. Rsking not having sex is a risk for BOTH involved and not just a Hot guy or girl, a woman choosing to abstain puts a risk on her sex life too - let's not forget that, so if she's willing to take the risk and he's not, then it says a lot about his view of the relationship - then again he is a normal guy!! 1 Like |
| Romance / Re: Are Female Bosses Really Nice? by topup: 4:58am On Jul 03, 2010 |
All I can say is people are people, you never know what to expect, and when you've given all hope, they surprise you - good or bad - it's up to you. As you've mentioned you've had experiences of both good and bad female bosses, what more evidence do you need?? |
| Romance / Re: I Dont Ask 4 Much In A Guy,he Only Has To Be : by topup: 4:44am On Jul 03, 2010 |
I think that sounds reasonable, and she could find all of that in a guy, however, she shouldn't limit herself to all of that, Lord knows you typically attract what you put out, and if she's not perfect like the guy she describes then goodluck to her. I think guys should make a point to be very serious about their choice in mate too, why say women are being too picky - I think men should be picky too, before you marry a husband beater, or a gold digger or a woman who has no interest in having kids etc. Back to the original point, that's a lot of qualities she is expecting to see before committing to a relationship, a lot of guys won't give all of that until they're convinced, and she may never get to that stage because of this pre-requisite. |
| Fashion / Re: Big Bottoms And Jeggins/leggins by topup: 7:17pm On Jul 02, 2010 |
michelin89: Hahaha, well you can't filter it, not only nice bums, but ALL bums, even some you wish were hidden.
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| Fashion / Big Bottoms And Jeggins/leggins by topup: 7:08pm On Jul 02, 2010 |
What do you think about women with volumptuous bottoms, wearing jeggins/leggins which are all the rage now. I am talking about those who substitute trousers or skirts for these jegging/leggins, which are skin tight, (not talking about those that wear long tops or tunics over and cover their bums, but those who just wear them as bottoms). Do you think they should be a no-go OR do you think everyone can wear them, kinda like cleavage, if you've got it flaunt it? 1 Like
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| Jobs/Vacancies / Re: A Decision I Must Make: by topup: 6:52pm On Jul 02, 2010 |
Just go with your gut feeling. |
| Nairaland / General / Re: Should Nigerians Be Allowed To Have A License To Own Guns/firearms by topup: 6:00pm On Jul 02, 2010 |
I definitely disagree, look at a country like America, they have a great legal system, and criminals are usually ALWAYS cost, but the expenses are overwhelming, imagine a police officer preparing for death at everytime he stops a drunken driver on the street. If you watch cop shows, compare British to American, the American is MUCH more violent, and that doesn't mean that they have less crime. It gains nothing worth the things that are lost - I believe. donleke: |
| Culture / Re: Friend Who Has Good Intentions But Is A User. by topup: 5:56pm On Jul 02, 2010 |
iice: Do you think it has a lot to do with people not being confident in themselves, climbing on others isn't the only route, but a lot of people have that mentality, to go up, someone must come down. I value friends, but I learnt a lesson thanks to my mum and awful girls in highschool when I was younger, you don't need friends. Really, you don't. I've been on my own before, and it works. |
| Culture / Friend Who Has Good Intentions But Is A User. by topup: 5:00pm On Jul 02, 2010 |
Hey there, I guess this is more of a rant than an actual search for answers - though I would very much like to hear what people have to say. Well, last year my roommate was kinda imposed on me, in a group of 6 girls, we all split into pairs when searching for accomodation, my roomie wasn't the neatest so I voiced out some concerns - after all who actually did the pairing off?? Anyways, we ended up together, and that year I had decided to do my own thing, and branch off slightly away from my 'friends' because I was starting to take some of their negative characteristics. Anyways, fast-forward another year living with her - just her, and due to circumstances we are very close, and she is has good intentions and has been there for me a lot of the times, she is always there to talk etc. But yesterday has just reminded me of how different we are. I feel like I'm the giver in the relationship, I have a car, and it almost came to an argument to prove to her that I should be able to do whatever I want with it - it's mine!! I used to get calls - asking me to pick her up because of period pains and such. Anyways, recently we had an event to attend, and explaining my plan to my mother, she brought a valid concern, why am I going to pick up this roomie, when she lives in the opposite direction to the place where I am travelling i.e. I waste an hour going in the opposite direction to pick her up from her house, and then return to mine to travel. So I called her up (knowing she would be difficult about it) - she is very convincing and good with words, and if she doesn't want to do something, she finds a way to make others do it for her, I explained how ridiculous it is, and she began to say, she'll be tired, it's the day after her birthday so she just wanted to relax, the train journey to meet me is 1hr or so, and she'll be tired. I mention that she'll be tired, but then I'll drive all the way to the party, and I'll be tired, so she wouldn't have to worry about that bit. Most people, if faced with a lift, will just back down, and listen to the person - but she began to ask "Is it a money thing, I will gladly pay you to come and pick me up. Cos if it's not the money, then fine I'll back down, but if it is I'll pay." I'm not a taxi service, money for petrol doesn't cover money for servicing etc, and it's not that simple, is she gonna pay for my tiredness etc? Then she mentioned "You always say these comments." Shocked for being criticised for airing my opinions, I reply "If you don't agree with what I have to say, then that's fine, these are just my opnions." Well anyways, I told her, it's not because of the money and funnily enough she continued - despite previously saying she'd back down. Now, in this conversation, she is coming up with very convincing arguments, like she can pay any price, to take a train to mine is expensive, I changed my mind not to pick her up 2 days before the event, but Lord, I'm not asking her to go it alone, I'm just asking her to reduce 1 hr journey time in half by doing her bit. Anyways, the conversation went on for so long, with me standing my ground but her finding more reasons and different options. She suggested we meet in the middle, which I initially disagreed with until I realised the location she mentioned was in fact half way to the event location, so I agreed, but I was fatigued. I have finally decided to slow down this friendship, the year we've spent together living in the same flat has given us a delusional sense that we are best friends, but we're really not, I think I give more into the relationship than she does. I know she gives a lot, and because of the stress I had in school, sh has had to be alone a lot and manage the house cleaning a lot too. But now that school is over, and she's inviting me here and there, calling me most days, I want to dim things down. I'm kinda tired. Any suggestions? Has anyone ever had to kill a relationship?? |
| Fashion / Re: ~ Street Style! Get Inspired Or Steal A Style! by topup: 4:55am On Jul 02, 2010 |
The key to looking great is GREAT HAIR (and skin)!! That's what all these fashionistas have in common. For some reason I enjoyed the mens more than the womens. I love this topic it's fabulous and each of the examples here deserve ot be here!! CultureCynic her style's great, as for me, I tried vintage, I dunno. . . |
| Romance / Re: This Is Not Funny by topup: 4:48am On Jul 02, 2010 |
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| TV/Movies / Re: Big Brother Africa Returns With Shower Hour For Fifth Season. by topup: 1:43am On Jul 02, 2010 |
Big Brother African P.orn. |
| TV/Movies / Re: Top Ten Movies That Make You Cry by topup: 1:00am On Jul 02, 2010 |
Shawshank Redemption. Acutex: Hehehe!!! |
| Romance / Re: Point A Ghana Girl & Ill Show You Her Structure (figure 8) . by topup: 4:21pm On Jul 01, 2010 |
Haha, in history, it is believed that some of the early settlers in what is now known as Nigeria migrated further West into Ghana. Ghanaians don't look ALL that different from Nigerians afterall. My darker skinned Nigerian friends always get a lot of "Are you Ghanian" lol. . |
| Nairaland / General / Re: The Most Popular Nairalander by topup: 5:43am On Jul 01, 2010 |
I don't know, I feel to say iice, but I think that's the romance section that has given me that impression. |
| Celebrities / Re: Mercy Johnson Used To Sell Pure Water by topup: 2:14am On Jul 01, 2010 |
Hopefully she still remembers where she comes from, so she tries to make a difference for those who went through what she went through. . That is the only way that the cycle can end. |
| Fashion / Re: Show Off Your Favorite Things by topup: 1:54am On Jul 01, 2010 |
Mohawkchic NICE!! |
| Fashion / Re: Bleaching Called "Lightening The Skin" by topup: 1:27am On Jul 01, 2010 |
Yes, there is a difference between bleaching and lightening. Lightening creams rarely ever contain harsh chemicals, they are very common, and they are for evening the skintone, not actually lightening it - they even out all the dark bits to match the rest of your skintone - which is the lightening part - however, if they make dark scars and patches match the rest of your skintone, they are mostly evening out your skintone. Bleaches on the other hand have no intention other than to remove the pigment that gives a person their darkness or skintone, and to make a person appear lighter, this does not even the skintone, but it just lightens it, this is why some say there are tell tale signs of a person who lightens i.e. dark knuckles, some darker discolourations etc. A person who lightens/tones is evening out their scars and freckles, to attain an even skintone, a person who bleaches is trying to attain a completely different skintone altogether. I hope that's made it clearer. 2 Likes |
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