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 Fashion / Re: Is It Okay For Ladies To Wear Second-hand Undies? by topup: 1:20am On Jul 01, 2010 |
Oh come on, it's a vanity thing, not everyone can afford brand new underwear - I doubt anyone on earth prefers these (apart from pervs). |
| Jobs/Vacancies / Re: Vacancies! Urgently Needed For Immediate Employment. by topup: 1:14am On Jul 01, 2010 |
Hello there, I am an experienced Graphic and Logo designer. |
| Fashion / Re: What Color Are Yur Nails? by topup: 1:13am On Jul 01, 2010 |
Pink with an orange gleam. . those holographic colours. |
| Fashion / Re: High Heels: How High Can You Go? by topup: 1:09am On Jul 01, 2010 |
This high!! = 6 inches (including the platform).
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| Fashion / Re: Why Wear Bra? Ladies Only by topup: 12:22am On Jul 01, 2010 |
Urgh!! This auto-sensoring is so tiresome!! |
| Romance / Re: This Is Not Funny by topup: 12:21am On Jul 01, 2010 |
What would you suggest instead? Nothing stops you asking a woman what she does for a living, and possibly you'll learn a lot. A lot of men think they're unstoppable, better get wise and have more requirements other than a hot bod for a girlfriend, before you get attached to a user or a gold-digger who has no job. |
| Romance / Re: Marriage Marriage Marriage by topup: 12:20am On Jul 01, 2010 |
Great point!! What are your suggestions?? Where are the areas of weakness?? Do you think the society/country supports those who go against the grain to dedicated their efforts towards research and hard work? Like you mentioned a woman isn't really expected to do much, definitely not expected to live alone. |
| Fashion / Re: Why Wear Bra? Ladies Only by topup: 9:50pm On Jun 30, 2010 |
Bosoms will sag, bra or no bra. Bras are to uplift the bosoms and create cleavage - no woman on earth has naturally pushed together bosoms - there's usually a gap in between the two bosoms. Secondly, some women would rather the status of their unmentionables be kept private, thirdly bosoms are now expected to be gravity-defying. |
| Romance / Re: Would You Date A Guy Without A Car? by topup: 9:29pm On Jun 30, 2010 |
Yes. I'm young, I don't need someone else's car to get around. Lucky to live in a country with GREAT public transport links. |
| Romance / Re: This Is Pure Madness! by topup: 4:14am On Jun 30, 2010 |
1. Sex sells 2. Definition of sexy has changed. 3. Sexy is a more attainable quality to being a 'beautiful' woman - something most women don't believe they are. |
| Romance / Re: Women by topup: 4:05am On Jun 30, 2010 |
LadyLocs: Well iice is "60ish"  and she is one hot mama. Here age is nothing but a number. Lol - I know you were being sarcastic. |
| Romance / Re: He Must Love Me! by topup: 4:03am On Jun 30, 2010 |
I have ya know, but it was so long ago, and when I was much younger, it made me restless in bed, it made me focus on him all the time, it just wasn't healthy. I tried pretending I wasn't fazed by his rejection, which made him seek me more, but in all honesty, this was a different type of guy, he genuinely could not pursue anything with me, he wasn't playing games, he was genuinely happy pursuing another relationship instead. I don't know how it happened, I think I started speaking to a guy who was so understanding and I could tell that he cared for me, the guy I 'wanted' couldnt' care less and messed me around, telling me he loved me, but telling me we couldn't be together (as if this is Romeo and Juliet), but this new guy was everything the other guy wasn't and the fact that he put me at such ease made me forget about the other guy, I laughed with the new guy, and kinda forgot about the old guy. I got over the old guy also because after you snap out of the intense infatuation you can see things clearly, I forgot why I was infatuated with him, the feelings slowly died and then when everything was thought in black and white, I realised there really wasn't much to be infatuated by. He didn't want me, and luckily now I don't want him - ever!! Lol!! |
| Romance / Re: An Open Warnin To My Proud Roomie Who Treats Her BF Like Poo-I'll Take Your Man by topup: 3:53am On Jun 30, 2010 |
Well thank God you don't have to live with her forever eh? It's only temporary, and maybe this is to allow you to experience the otherside of a cheater. In all of this, you haven't shown any remorse for Jay, it's as if you're being slightly selfish. Jay's the one being hurt here, I understand she spreads rumours about you, but I'm sure she probably has bad rumours about herself!! Forget about getting revengance, graduate, get a great job, a great man and move on that way, that's the best revenge. Knowing that she gets to you may even encourage her. It is not about being weak, we are not saying you should get walked over, but as long as it's all words and petty actions, there's no good in retaliating - seriously, you two will be at the same level then. If you cared about J, then you could be forgiven for being so concerned about her cheating, but it's almost as if you want something bad to happen to a 'bad' person. That is not being mature. This time alone, you should be developing your character, becoming a better woman. Be wise and stand above the crap you're exposed to, leave if you have to. No one says you have to be friends with her for life, and probably J will find out eventually. So leave it be? |
| Dating And Meet-up Zone / Re: I Need A Boyfriend Ooo by topup: 4:55am On Jun 29, 2010 |
ondo_boi: I didn't tell you, I highly hinted at it. Just re-read your post again and tell me what you think this time. |
| Family / Re: Have You Got Any Reason Why You Think Incest Is Wrong? by topup: 4:47am On Jun 29, 2010 |
Yes, as someone mentioned before, it is best to increase the variety in the characteristics present in a child's genetics, if a family of short giraffes mated with one another, none of them would be tall enough to reach the taller leaves, they would out compete and die, as they are all competiting against the same thing - silly analogy. With humans, genetics make us either resistant or susceptible. If we mate with those who we share a very similar genetic makeup with we will never acquire other immunities from others (ofcourse we acquire susceptibilities too), but variety is ALWAYS good. It's the reason why not all of us suffer from sickle-cell anaemia, it is the reason why some African's are supposedly more immune to the HIV, it is the reason why some of us have hazel eyes instead of all brown, long hair instead of short, dark skin instead of light etc. For example if there is a family wiht a history of having very high blood pressure, mating within the family means that there is a high chance that they may all get it, and could all possibly be wiped out from heart attacks. In terms of prolonguing the human life/generation, this isn't good. But this argument is only relevant when considering the quality of life of offspring. Socially, incest is taboo. The reasons which have passed over the generations and seeped into our subconscious are valied (offspring and such), but the other pschological aspect of it is strange. For example direct family incest i.e. Father daughter, brother sister, mother son relationships seem weird because of the polygamic aspect of the parent child relationships, whilst the brother sister aspect seems weird too in terms of a family that seems to implode. The natural and typical conversations of "the child has your nose" etc is missing, as both brother and sister will share their parent's noses. The idea that the children go forth and bring back a loving wife is not there, the marriage the father will give his daughter to his son, it just works in EVERY opposite direction to that to which we are accustomed to living in. It is also the strange idea that sexual desires are developed about an individual even before they are aware of what those are. A mother who breastfeeds her son and fights for his survival, turn seductress is a strange and uncomfortable concept, a father turn the lover of his younger and naive daughter is also a strange and paedophilic concept. All in all, there are many reasons, laced with paedophilia, genetic disarray, social norms and in-built psychological guideliness that are acted against in order to commit such. My opinion. [n3rve]: What's your suggestion then? How'd all of mankind appear?? Just a century ago the world population was estimated to be 7 TIMES smaller. And before then even smaller, we all came from Adam and Eve, which was the ONLY way of humans prolonguing life long enough to seek to get right with God. Ancient Egyptian history shows that many pharoahs married their sisters, as the pair both had to be of royal lineage etc. I am sure even in pre-Nigeria, and where tribe numbers were very very low, cousins marrying was the norm, now we have the option not to limit ourselves, to expand and go outwards, why would we want to relive what was practiced thousands of years ago? 1 Like |
| Romance / Re: Just When I Wanted To Propose by topup: 4:32am On Jun 29, 2010 |
I advice you see her, find out the reasons, ask her and test her reasons, you never know what the truth is, following your instinct in this case is unnecessary, just wait for her to tell you her reasons, and then decide upon how you feel. After all you don't want to be the one in future feeling like you've missed a good thing, and were too proud to forgive. I must admit, her behaviour and refusal to see you was a little strange, but maybe she declined because she thought a hotel stay would put her in an uncompromising position - the girl in question sounds very young too. Just hear her out, suck in your pride for a few seconds, be chivalrous, the bigger man, and if you need to walk away with your head held up high. |
| Romance / Re: My Boyfriend's Friend Ra*ped Me by topup: 4:24am On Jun 29, 2010 |
The response to this woman's plea is DISGUSTING!! People who think like this have a problem. R.O, Benin Any man in your guy's shoes would have reacted same way, so you cannot blame him. To give a partner some support after such a horrendous crime has been committed against them is too much to ask? And to take it out on you when you're already suffering is to be expected?!?!? You have to give him some time to get over this issue before bombarding him with calls because he could get irritated The emphasis is all on the man, the woman is not given the benefit of the doubt, that she could have been the rare gem of the relationship who had this unfortunate and disgusting act committed against her. Where is it that she can just walk away as he did not believe her, he let his pain override hers, she needs him in this time of weakness, he left her, she didn't travel away from him.. But how close were you to his friend to have warranted a r.ape The choice of words here is crucial - to warrant a rap.e - to ask for it?!?! Are you kidding me, do we still believe all rapists choose 'deserving candidates' before they attack? I'm sure all serial killers choose only the worst human beings to slaughter right?? All those children murdered were all "horrible, horrible kids". !!!? Did he ever ask you out? Or did you turn him on with unnecessary comments and invitations YOU MUST UNDERSTAND most women who turn on the man, are usually FAR too ashamed to confess to r.ape, they are disgusted, they feel they deserved it, often with r.ape victims, psychologists have to help the r.ape victim understand that showing cleavage or wear tight clothes does NOT warrant a r.ape. It is their body, you cannot insert a peni.s into a woman's womanliness and say she deserved it. Don't ignore this, don't refuse to acknowledge her pain, her embarrasment - just because you believe 'she deserved it'. - DUMB!!? When and where did he r.ape you? I am sure these are questions your guy would ponder in his heart and not have anything to do with you again. It is so sad that you cannot get him arrested because of the undue publicity this could bring Err!! Yes she CAN!! I'm furious!! If she was put through something SO horrific and humiliating as this (there could have been bruising, bleeding, scratch marks etc.) I am sure the suspect can be tried to pay for their crime. What is with this person replying the topic.. You have to be careful on who you tell this incident because if it spreads too far, you may lose this guy forever This may not be a bad thing, a man who shouts at you when you're down is no man - sorry.. Keep praying that he changes his mind and I want you to conduct yourself well among his friends The same friends who would have intimacy with their friend's girlfriend!! You must be joking!!. You need not visit any of them now or ever. The best bit of advice all paragraph!! This is the BIGGEST piece of BS I have READ in a VERY LONG TIME!! Seriously, do people still think like this!!! When you hear a ra.pe victim speak, or you see one being re-enacted then you will understand the gravity of such a situation. An educational documentary/drama to watch would be "Human Trafficking" - a six part series to the lives of different women who were tricked and forced into s.ex work - very different from th case here, but still involves a violation of human rights and s.exual abuse. 190: Sick. |
| Romance / Re: An Open Warnin To My Proud Roomie Who Treats Her BF Like Poo-I'll Take Your Man by topup: 4:08am On Jun 29, 2010 |
Okay. . you seem to be using this as an excuse to revert to your old ways, and you know what? If you go through with it, you'll be far worse off than her, you would have earnt that title that she's been calling you. I mean come on!! Is your life a Nollywood movie? There is a reason why they put those type of storylines in movies you know!! Sheesh!! Don't let yourself down, you're not cheap, you're not going to just offer yourself to a man you have no feelings for to get back at an annoying roommate? I mean if you cared for J then at least I would say maybe you're saving him from his cheating girlfriend, but you don't. What about J? What about his feelings, he seems like he cares for his girlfriend and you'll throw his relationship into jeopardy - completely removing the blame off his cheating girlfriend!! Seriously, why can't you just confront her? Are you scared of talking to her? Are you afraid of confrontation? I'm sorry to be harsh with my words, but maybe a reality check is in que. Your body deserves better, after trying so hard to change, this isn't worth it!! |
| Romance / Re: Advise To Single Women by topup: 3:59am On Jun 29, 2010 |
This is a really lovely extensive write up - despite it's length. I think there're are a lot of wise words there, but there are a few contradictions - sorry but I'm a little picky. You mentioned not waiting for a man and encouraging women saying we do not need to have a man in our life - especially if we are forcing it, yet you mentioned that every girl dreams of a man. (This can be confusing for a woman who wants to be independent - marriage is not for everyone, the Bible says this). I also think the post doesn't quite decide whether you really should put all your effort into your development, or whether you are only doing the development that will make you a great catch for a guy, subliminally the message that is being sent out is to prepare yourself for your husband - which is the same as sowing seeds for a husband etc. Nonetheless, there are some releasing and enlightening paragraphs in this write up, and I really enjoyed it. With time and patience and wisdom, we can all find what we need in life, and to some extent even achieve our desires and wants. Letting others govern our decisions is the way downwards (unless the other is God  ).Peace. |
| Romance / Re: What Does It Mean To You Average Forumer by topup: 3:48am On Jun 29, 2010 |
Marriage to me means forever, this means that you can't just be anybody, and you can't afford to get offended if I'm strict with my heart and body, because I intend to give my everything to my husband forever. I will be naive and smitten within marriage. I will be wise, but go full throttle, this is not the time for pride, if I have to beg I will. Though in saying all this, it is SO much easier said than done, nonetheless these are my intentions. Marriage really is a big deal to me, it is much more than the ceremony. Just because we're all smiles on the wedding day doesn't mean everything's going to be perfect forever, marriage is a lot of hard work, it's a full time job, and if it's treated any other way, it could suffer. Marriage comes first, before friends, and sometimes before other family members. (I keep thinking to myself - these are only words, let the action speak for itself). But, yes genuinely, I believe this, I would rather be foolish in love than just foolish (but of course prefer not to be foolish at all). In marriage I want the man to give his all, and I will give my all, making us both to provide the 50:50 that will hopefully make things work. Understanding that there WILL be problems here there and everywhere is a big must, in marriage, it's important to only let it consume you emotionally within it, and not to be blinded by emotions before the big commitment. I think deep down inside most people have their escape plans be it divorce, or adultery, or seclusion, but if you grow up with a mentality that you must solve things, YOU HAVE TO SOLVE things, all of yourself will be given to that person, all of the arguments, all of the love and all of the growth. Hmmm. . |
| Dating And Meet-up Zone / Re: I Need A Boyfriend Ooo by topup: 2:14am On Jun 29, 2010 |
ondo_boi: Now, that doesn't sound like you have the fear of God in you - LOL!! |
| Dating And Meet-up Zone / Re: I Need A Boyfriend Ooo by topup: 2:13am On Jun 29, 2010 |
jegyeancah: I think that's a good call. Now, realistically, that's what you need, but what do you currently want/crave?  |
| Nairaland / General / Re: Nland Cult:"so Called Founding Fathers Who Run Rackets In Nairaland. . .e.g Odia by topup: 2:06am On Jun 29, 2010 |
I wouldn't call it a cult, more like a clique, and not because of anything malicious other than, they are familiar with each other and like each other. I think this is human nature. I agree with the stuff about newbies, but I know that EVERY forum picks on newbies, because they are the butt of every joke. Newbies don't take too much time to observe the forum rules, and sometimes just get things wrong, or in their enthusiasm to post - they agitate the typical flow of the forum. However, I welcome this, silly posts are funny, this post is funny, it is a breath of fresh air. I do agree that there is a bias, so some senseless posts by some higher-ranked members of Nairaland, get away with much more and are veen congratulated simply because they like the person. I myself don't know the amount of crap I've posted here, but seeing such a large post count next to a person's name, is enough to make anyone think twice about challenging them. Also, newbies don't give themselves a good name, most come on without really thinking about what they are going to say, if Nairaland is a reflection of Nigerian society, then why drop your guards just because you're online. It's a shame that we don't encourage free speech, but virgin talk is now a taboo, people who bring up certain topics are "time-wasters" etc. When you dig up an old post that you find relevant - you are teased for bumping up an extinct post, when you start a new one, you are told off for repeating something that already has been answered. But this is the way it is. Are you sure poster, that once you gain over a thousand posts, and your name is known, and people start to suck up to you, that you too won't forget about the newbie, and you too won't become proud?? rhymz: I think this issue in particular has a lot to do with the private messaging that all advanced forums have as a means of private conversation between members who want that option. I still don't understand why 'til this day Nairaland does not have this!! |
| Romance / Re: Being A Nice/descent Person Without Being Taken Advantage Of. by topup: 5:52am On Jun 28, 2010 |
madlady: Bravo!! I completely agree!! |
| Romance / Re: Im Confused Oh by topup: 5:49am On Jun 28, 2010 |
You're very indecisive, but that's okay because I am too!! Like someone mentioned above, if you love him stay, if you don't leave, don't convince yourself to do either. Look for warning signs, laziness, not being ambitious, being content with too little, if these are present then you have every reason to worry, if these aren't present and the poor guy is seriously trying his best to better himself, then I really think that you could separate for a while, so you can clearly decide whether you will lose something tremendously good or whether you had only just convinced yourself that he was good for you. |
| Romance / Re: What Do Women Want? by topup: 5:44am On Jun 28, 2010 |
My friend, what you've described is a game of tag with a little girl. Real women are pretty okay at discerning what they are likely to want/need from what they obviously don't want. We're human, sometimes you think you want something but you don't, and sometimes you go after what you need only to realise that this has not convinced you to want it. Cut us some slack, you won't mention this if you did it, you probably wouldn't be able to appreciate how the other person involved would feel. That's because as humans we are selfish!! As for playing games, yes some girls revert back to babies, they take whatever comes their way if it looks attractive at the time, but then once they take it in, you have to wait a while, only time will tell if they're truly enjoying it, or whether they'll throw it all back up. . |
| Romance / Re: The Power Of "forming" by topup: 5:38am On Jun 28, 2010 |
eyoniggar: That shows that you were shallow all along, if she could readily grab hold of your emotions and run off with them!!  Or am I wrong??Anyways, back to the topic, it's not only girls who form, some guys front, and then at the end of it, they disappoint. The way I've experienced it is that most guys claim to be emotionally, spiritually etc. sorted, and claim to be in a place where they are happy with who they are, but the truth is after you start dating them, you discover the holes and holes and the insecurities which they've tried to hide, and then you get not even a fraction of what they hinted at 'having' to offer. |
| Romance / Taking Yourself Less Seriously! by topup: 5:34am On Jun 28, 2010 |
This pride and ego thing is all stupid!! It really is. We all know that pride is foolish, cos we have nothing to be proud about in the eyes of God. No, realistically, I love it when people don't take themselves too seriously, I think you can enjoy life a lot more. Too many people I know, you say a joke about them and they tense up become defensive, and add you to their 'dislike' list, and then I know some really amazing people who just laugh everything off. Being stroppy is NOT attractive, this is the 21st century, you needn't have such a high guard to prove you're a man or an independent or strong woman, you don't need to forage for food or collect firewood there are supermarkets and DIY shops. I think people need to enjoy life more, allow and accept criticism - which is INEVITABLE and most of all; laugh more. A lot of the arguments here on Nairaland, you just need to take a step back and it becomes obvious that right corner vs left corner - both look ridiculous, taking things to heart - insulting the person's tribe, parents, upbringing and sexuality - it's all been done here, and for what, some arbritrary point system. I've noticed that those who laugh more and don't take themselves too seriously enjoy life the most, things just deflect off them, they see things clearer, they are not offended by just anything and everything and they make those who insult appear pathetic. I dunno, just a suggestion. . |
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