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 Romance / Re: Should I Wish My Ex-girlfriend Happy Birthday ? by topup: 2:13am On Oct 14, 2010 |
Don't bother, yours was a relationship in which you always put in more than she ever did. I am sure she can't hold a grudge on you if for once you decide to care less too. However, if you don't mind either way - just message her a short happy birthday message. (I don't get the impression that this is the case though because of the effort taking to create this message). |
| Politics / Re: Why Is America So Blessed? by topup: 2:06am On Oct 14, 2010 |
I believe that this is so because of the way that the country was "founded", it is almost the same reason why Australia is a blessed country and similar to the UK (all of the people who happen to be descendants of the same English heritage). The pioneers who arrived in America forcefully removed the land owners, and they reaped from the resources native to the land, such as gold (gold rush), cotton, other metals etc., they had the backing of their establish colony back in the UK and they took their faith which aided them when it came to doctrine and enforcing their rules and beliefs on others. They also took slaves from "negroland" - mostly West Africa, so they got a lot of 'things' for free, resources and work force, with the cliche cotton picking slaves and maids working for nothing in the house. The slaves were not allowed to resemble anything African, were not allowed to speak in their languages and were punished and often killed off, as for the native indians - many were killed off in order to secure land and pushed further south, much like the Africans, they could not predict the effect of colonisation. Any country this day, if they can get work and resources for free will be making 100% profit from another country and of course will become successful, wealthy and powerful. Apologies - I lack in references. |
| Politics / Re: Happy 50th Independence To All Nigerians - Is It Worth It? by topup: 4:55am On Oct 01, 2010 |
Happy Independence day!! Will return to this topic once I've had my sleep. |
| Food / Re: Hide Your Food! by topup: 4:53am On Oct 01, 2010 |
Fhemmmy: Well I wish it was shared, but I came back to find nothing left for me. And she played coy too, she said "maybe" she'll have some, lol!! Oloju kokoro indeed!! *****HAPPY INDEPENDENCE DAY INDEED!!!!***** |
| Food / Hide Your Food! by topup: 12:58am On Sep 29, 2010 |
I never thought I would have to hide my food from a grown 21 year old girl. I offered a friend of mine some snacks I had bought, I was staying over at her house and I wasn't hungry yet but opened the packet, and offered her a few, she was reluctant, but said she might have some later. I then got ready in her bathroom, and when I returned about 20 minutes later, the girl had eaten every last crumb of the snack - this was enough to share between 4 people, she ate everything, even before eating the last one, she didn't think anything wrong of it?? She seemed a little embarrased, as she didn't even offer any to the other girls who she was talking to, she quickly made a promise to replace them. Later in the week, she just decided she couldn't be bothered, and gave me what she thought would account for what she ate. I'm just thinking back to when I was holding the snacks in my bag, and I felt ridiculous, moments before I offered her some, now I'm thinking, is this NORMAL, do you have to hide food from a grown woman!! Surely, momma must have warned us not to be greedy or eat other people's food!! |
| Health / Re: My Journey To Losing A Stone! by topup: 5:05am On Sep 03, 2010 |
I am really pleased with myself, I am now 135lbs. 1 Like |
| Nairaland / General / Re: What Is The Best Thing That Has Ever Happened To Nigeria by topup: 2:45am On Aug 25, 2010 |
thweraja10: You're getting 'a' Nigeria   The best thing that has ever happened is a feeling of being rooted, knowing where I belong, understand people easily and also being on the edge, enjoying every day as it comes, and eating Acara and bread from street sellers. |
| Nairaland / General / Re: So: Why Are You Here? by topup: 2:37am On Aug 25, 2010 |
Particularly the romance section, used to be much more interesting, long-term members didn't just turn up to derail threads, they often came in to contribute, and there were several really well-meaning people who just wanted to tell you just like it is, and not sugar coat anything, and they were always very level-headed. But many went, many have gone to other forums, and the romance forum is basically recycling the same stuff over and over, we're no longer developing together, but instead, new people come to post the same things over and over again. Now, I'm not saying noobs spoil the fun, but you need those existing members to carry on the flow of the board, otherwise it never really goes anywhere, the direction becomes thrown off. Many old members now prefer to chat and discuss in their private IMs and such with members that they have come to like and grow with, they would rather invest their advice there, with like-minded people, and socialise with their friends, probably in their minds, there's no need for these noobs. Lastly, I really think that there is a HUGE problem with this forum not having PM, it leaves a gap, which people need, and they fill using other websites, other mediums. So Nairaland does all the hard work, the debates are started and opened, and members are advertised, by MSN, Yahoo, AIM, physical social gatherings, seal the deal, by pairing together like minds, allow them to express themselves, their secrets etc, and they take the glory. I really don't understand why there isn't any PM, I haven't ever seen an explanation. This could be a reason why I might leave myself. |
| Romance / Re: Why Would Ladies Not Marry A Virgin Man? by topup: 2:30am On Aug 25, 2010 |
You don't seem to respect his choice to remain faithful to his religion or ideals  .Secondly, it is just the same as thinking men want virgins, it's just the trend these days, maybe the woman herself is not ready for such a commitment, because anyone seriously considering marriage should be looking at qualities and not just stats or facts. If your friend is a very passionate, confident, good-looking and driven individual, I don't see why he should struggle to get another woman, this time, someone who is worthy of his attention. |
| Romance / Re: How Can I Hit My Girl Friends Best Friend The Girl Dey Drive Me Kolo by topup: 5:01am On Aug 24, 2010 |
This is what happens when there is no private message option in a forum!!!  |
| Food / Re: Chicken Or Turkey by topup: 9:16pm On Aug 22, 2010 |
Chicken has more flavour and takes in seasoning very easily. . me thinks. |
| Romance / Re: Majority Of Nigerian Babes Cannot Be Comfortable Without Nigerian Boyfriends by topup: 9:09pm On Aug 22, 2010 |
190.: This probably reflects badly on your choice in women, come on, not every Nigerian woman wants a recharge card, especially at this day and age where it appears really needy and makes you look like a user. |
| Health / Re: Nigerian Doctors Should Be Killed By Hanging For Practicing by topup: 4:20pm On Aug 22, 2010 |
This is so true, I am sure many of them still believe strongly in the 'local medicines' too (outside their practice). I have had 3 relatives die because of medics not knowing what to do, simple things that my mother who happens to be in the medical field in the UK, was agonizing over because they are the types of conditions that there are set ways of dealing with them, and easily curable. A terminated pregnancy A bleeding stomach A careless cataract operation etc, Standard procedures elsewhere in the world. |
| Health / Re: 'wast It Or Use Straw' Everyone Must Read by topup: 4:15pm On Aug 22, 2010 |
This is crazy, in the UK it is the norm to drink straight from cans of coke wherever you purchase it from because standards here are always applied in a preventative manner, if the cans can be kept without rats being able to access them, that says a lot about the company too, who likes to know that rats pee everywhere in the warehouse that your drinks are stored/made, how do we know they didn't contaminate the actual liquid inside. There should be a regulation in place, this could have been easily avoided. What a sad way to die . |
| Health / My Journey To Losing A Stone! by topup: 3:09am On Aug 22, 2010 |
I've tried many times, to lose weight to stick to it, I've lost half a stone before, and then somehow it's creeped back up, maybe I feel my bosoms are getting too small for my liking, or maybe I feel like I've come to terms with what 'God gave me'. But I'm here again, and for some reason, I'm so happy that I've lost 2 pounds, fair enough the ticket says 1.2 but last week I was 139.9 pounds and this week I'm 137.8, this proves that running on the treadmill does work!! Aerobics, I was dancing before and I didn't notice much, but I just go on the treadmill 3 times a week, and then I lose a pound. I'll re-weigh myself tomorrow. Usually I go through an anoerexic phase, where I am so controlled with my food, because of my success, but then soon after comes the 'acceptance' AND denial phase, where I accept that it's going to take a while, so my depriving myself and being such a control freak isn't the solution, the denial comes in, when I tell myself, that it'll take a very long time to get to where I want to be, so I 'take it slow' I increase the calories etc. In a way I'm thrilled because I know I did some sneaky things, I had like 4 bagels with thick cream cheese in one day (though it was all I ate), and I drink sugary drinks still and I could work out during some lazy days, but all in all, I didn't gain weight. Now, to get to my stone off, I just need to lose approx. 12 more pounds (afterwards I can start deciding on whether to go for the ideal 121lbs, btw, I'm 5ft 1 inch/155cm and apple shaped), which if everything goes as planned is 12 more weeks. That might seem long, but I CAN wait  .Tarah. If you're trying to lose weight I advise you visit these really good websites: http://www.sparkpeople.com http://www.livestrong.com/myplate http://www.tickerfactory.com http://annie-shrinkinggirl..com/ http://www4.weightmirror.com/weightmirror/liftupload.php I will be adding more websites later!! 1 Like |
| Health / Re: See What You Would Look Like If You Lost Or Gain Some Weight: by topup: 1:03am On Aug 22, 2010 |
You need to use the scale on the left, move it up and down to see what you would look like if you gained so or so pounds or lost so or so pounds. Hope this reaches you well!! |
| Romance / Re: How Come Women Initiate The Breakup 80% Of The Time? by topup: 12:53am On Aug 22, 2010 |
The reason why it appears that women initiate break ups most of the time, is because the way men and women break up is usually very different. Most men will distance themselves emotionally, they'll stop calling as often, they won't be as caring, that already is a break up, but it may be the woman who says the words, but in that example it is clear to see that she did not in fact initiate the breakup. Secondly, at times women will initiate a break up, but usually that is when she is very certain that there is something better out there, or she feels trapped in the relationship, or doesn't think it's going anywhere. I think both men and women use this method. Lastly, men are typically more the types to be scared of committing to a woman in a relationship, so they may be at a stalemate in which the relationship is nothing more than just a weird friendship with benefits, and they block any emotional development, and with this not being sufficient for the woman, she decides she's unfulfiled in the relationship and ends things. That's all I can think of for now. |
| Romance / Re: I Met Him Again by topup: 5:38am On Aug 17, 2010 |
Whatever you do, do not be the girl on the side, even if you think you're the main girl, you will be the girl on the side, only interfere if you can gather enough information to prove that he is not that serious about his girlfriend and is planning on exiting the relationship, because if you steal him away from his current, then you are at risk of being as equally easy to replace. Sorry to say but what goes around comes around. All the best if he does respond honestly, and does intend to leave his girlfriend. |
| Romance / Re: ff by topup: 4:50am On Aug 17, 2010 |
1. There is nothing wrong with white men. 2. You are just as cheap as she is. After all, it takes two to tango. A classic case of the pot calling the kettle black. 3. She wouldn't have rode you if you weren't willing. |
| Car Talk / Re: China's Future Bus by topup: 2:08am On Aug 17, 2010 |
This is the major difference between asian countries and African countries - and yes I am generalising here!!, things and ideologies that are foreign and unsual are not immediately rejected but tested. Didn't people say flying in air above roads and cars would be impossible. We need to become developers, inventors or at least innovators. This might not work, but on the other hand if micromanaged well, it could all the above mentioned things. |
| Music/Radio / Re: If It Ain't Shaking, It Ain't Selling by topup: 1:54am On Aug 17, 2010 |
My belief is that we've been groomed over time to accept these things as being right, when you see a woman covering herself up admist those who aren't, you assume she is insecure, and those who aren't seem to get more attention. Of course there is a balance, you can dress so that it is flirty, but not revealing, and leaves more to the imagination, however, we are being groomed to see dressing just for comfort as a bore, and 'showing your assets' as the way forward. Women believe that if they're not openly getting attention from men that don't have any reason to be particularly nice to them, then they are not attractive. The definition of an attractive female is that she must be widely accepted as being sexy, which means adopting what is in the the mainstream. There used to be a time when well done braids and nicely kept natural hair was appealing to men, but now if you dont look like a celebrity, you could get dumped for a more 'glamourous' and fashionable woman. I just think it's a phase, a very long phase, it isn't just adults who think this, I have had an issue with this since I was 15. It has gotten to the point that people think I am insecure because I don't flaunt my cleavage and wear tight fitting clothes. I am sure most men don't mind, but what about the fathers of these girls? Oba234: USHER is a perv, they're all messed up highly sexualized individuals, from the women to the men. I really think Americans are highly responsible for the behaviour that other people copy, what we see in the media of black women, african women immitate. They don't realise that they already had a good deal, their men were more loyal because they didn't give everything up so easily to just any guy, but now. . that is rapidly changing. |
| Health / See What You Would Look Like If You Lost Or Gain Some Weight: by topup: 3:22am On Aug 16, 2010 |
This is NOT a scam, this website is fantastic!! http://www4.weightmirror.com/weightmirror/liftupload.php |
| Romance / Re: What Is The Best Way To Quit A Relationship? by topup: 3:54am On Aug 13, 2010 |
Tell the truth, it hurts but it'll get better for both of you in due time. If you lie, everything always messes up. There is no way out of a serious relationship without one or both people getting hurt, the next best thing is to just give the other person some respect, tell them the truth, if it'll help them reflect, even if it is painful to hear, avoid saying things that will just bring a person down for no reason e.g. things about their looks or figure. |
| Food / Unsure About This Voucher. by topup: 2:42am On Aug 10, 2010 |
Hi, just wondering what you think about this voucher I want to use at a restaurant. I am planning on booking a table for 8 girls. But the voucher mentions that only one of the vouchers can be used in a party, do you think this means the party of eight, or considering the coupon is get £10 for two people dining, it's one per party of 2, that means if 4 vouchers are printed, my group can sit together AND use 4 vouchers to claim £40 off their meals?? And also, is it when two people spend more than £20 in total OR when two people spend £20 each? Here's the voucher quoted word for word: "*Terms and conditions: Offer available Sunday to Friday, until 31/8/10, when two people dining spend £20 or more on food. Not in conjunction with any other offer, promotion, set menu. Please check our current offers, before ordering. Only one voucher per party, per day, which must be produced at the time of dining. Management reserves the right to refuse custom and/or this voucher and to withdraw/change offers (without notice), at any time. Subject to availability, during food-service hours only. Participating outlets." |
| Romance / Re: Stalemate! by topup: 4:42am On Aug 09, 2010 |
deniyor: When it's made that simple, it's obvious what I should do. I know most of you want a Nollywood plot, but I'm not really one for throwing myself out into the deep end for a guy who is uncertain about me. I am not stuck in fairytale land, I know knights don't come and whisk princesses away, but is it too much to ask for a guy to just make it clear how he feels about you. A week ago, I hinted, I told him that the reason why my friend was asking him what he thought about me a while ago, is because I told her I had a crush on him. Any guy would have taken that as their queue to at least probe further. He didn't say a thing. Didn't even ask me if I still liked him. Bummer lol!! |
| Romance / Re: England White Women, I Miss Nigeria Ladies (play Boy Confession) by topup: 4:36am On Aug 09, 2010 |
It's a little sad, that this is what you hold Nigerian Ladies in high regard for, is there nothing else they offer?? Also, just make sure you aren't harming yourself along the way, with all these partners. |
| Romance / Re: Stalemate! by topup: 4:22am On Aug 09, 2010 |
Pweety4me: See, I do!! My close friend, when she used to be best friends with him (and was only a distant friend of mine), she used to hint me and drop his name in conversation all the time, telling me that we should really get together etc, she was convinced he liked me (I wasn't), and another friend says that he talks about me in my absence and he highly regards me, recently, when he found out that I would be moving cities, he said he was disappointed, he wanted to 'hang out' with me more in the near future. And once when we were playing the oh-so-mature game of truth or dare, he picked me out of all my friends as the one he could actually marry etc, but he mentioned that he is put off by girls with lots of girlfriends, and I have a strong group of 4 amazing ladies (my downfall ). I don't know really, he doesn't know what he wants, and I def don't spend another moment considering those type of guys, some people have mentioned that maybe I should make the move, but I'm not convinced, and even though I'm female, I can still guard my heart really well, avoid me falling in love with someone who's "just not that into me".  Anyway, I would like some unbiased information someone, like the question about marriage was asked whilst I was there, I would like some info when I'm not around when his guard's down. I think he's not really moved to make a move, I know he has mentioned that he is really considering having a serious relationship soon, but at times, I just think that he's just a friendly nice guy who appreciates nice girls. 5p1naz: Very possible. |
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