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Most of us find ourselves in the middle of friends who don't wish us well, or let me say that many of us have, at a point, had friends who expect to be included in every single outing; friends who take over the story you have been telling somebody else just to receive praises; friends who are envious of your success and will silently try to bring you down; or friends who try to dominate you every second of your life.

Without wasting time, below are the signs that your friends are enemies of progress.

1. They give flimsy excuses when you are in need

A clear sign that your friends are enemies progress is that, it's either they give flimsy excuses or act busy just to avoid helping you out of an ugly situation. These are people who will keep to themselves any vital information that will make you become a better person. When they perceive you need financial help to embark on a project that will make you become a great person, they will never help you out even if they have all you need. Take for example, when they are in school and you're at home, they won't tell you when registration will close, or when a test is holding, they can't write attendance for you in your absence. When you eventually fail, they will sympathize with but will jubilate your misfortune at your back.

2. They become jealous of your Success/Achievements

Every bad friend presents himself as a kind and caring person. But it’s all just an act to look good even though they are unintentional masters in the art of deception. These are the same people who eat, laugh and even sleep together with you but stab you in the back if you work in the same place and the boss happens to appreciate your work over theirs. This is one of the clear signs that your friends are enemies of progress.

3. They attempt to snatch your Boyfriend/Girlfriend

I know some of us have that very friend who has once attempted to snatch your partner from you out of jealousy coupled with stupidity. We have heard ridiculous stories of friends who successfully snatched their friend's partner while we have also heard stories of who raped their friends' girlfriends. When they see your partner is the kind of person they've always wished for, they go behind your back to say bad things about you just to discredit and discourage him/her from dating you. When you notice your friend flirts unnecessary with your partner, it's better to put an end to such a friendship, because, such people are your "enemies" under the guise of "friends"

4. They always want you beneath them

When we were kids, there was that self centered friend who always wanted to use other people's toys without returning it, and ousted other kids from the group if they refused his every beck and call. And now during our adult life too, things aren’t very different. There are also people you call your friends who will always want you beneath them.

5. They don't appreciate good things

They always have negative perceptions towards almost everything. When they see people buy new cars, it's either they say that person is into shady business or he duped people to buy car. When you travel abroad in search of greener pastures, they will start gossiping about you telling everybody that it's not everybody that travels abroad that will make it. Many will agree with Tosyne2much that when you keep company of friends who don't appreciate good things, be rest assure that they will never wish you well too if you also excel

6. They intimate/frustrate you when rich

I've had childhood friends that have spanned the entire course of my lifetime who later snubbed and ignored me the moment they were privileged to secure jobs or gain admission into tertiary institutions before me. Most friends who act this way despite being good to them were never your friends in the first place, they were just mere talk mates. Since they don't want you to surpass them in life, they neglect you and mock you the very moment they have something to boast about. When circumstances push your to work under them, they talk to you anyhow and turn you to an errand boy

7. They are usually stingy people

Another sign that your friends are enemkes of progress is that they are intentionally stingy when it comes to lending you money to embark on a project that will make you become a better person and this is due to the fact that they don't want you to surpass them. They prefer to spend their money on slay queens or beer rather than lending you. Just when you have that friend who has money and refuses to borrow you for no good reason, be rest assured that he doesn't wish you well

8. They mobilize people against you and pretend to support you

Some of can be jealous of your riches and wealth to the extent that they will send 419 to dupe you while some will go as far as seeking solace in hired killers. This is why it's extremely dangerous to keep giving people the impression that money is never your problem

9. They don't show up during your celebration

Don't get wrong because I'm not trying to say that any friend that doesn't show up during your celebration is an enemy of progress. All I'm trying to say is that, some don't even you well to the point that they will never show up during your house warming, wedding or naming even though they are very much available. They will ways give unending excuses to justify their absence

10. They always want you to worship them

An enemy of progress can either richer or poorer than you but it's only worse if you're richer than him. The ones that are richer than you will always want you to accord them with high level of respect because they feel you can never attain their height.
These are always people who are fond of requesting for the gift they buy for you after a serious argument or controversial discussion.

Please let's be mindful of the kinds of people who call our friends. Some of them are nothing but enemies under the guise of friends and can anything to bring you down

I hope this article makes sense

Feel free to add yours
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Written by: Tosyne2much

Source: http://www.tosyne2much.com/2017/04/10-signs-your-friends-are-enemies-of.html

Can you see why the whites are better than the blacks? .. I'm yet to see any politician express his grief about the death of these young men

zainmaxwell:
them dey look for guys like dat idiot jack for titanic......make thunder from alabama fire them.....na guy good to die spending but d ladies good for collecting what nonsense

Baba, make I no deceive you, if I become rich and wealthy today, the first person to consider is someone that stood by me in the days of affliction

freethesheeple:
This is the best i have read this 2017....The fact remains,that who ever is broke will make it someday and no matter how a mad gy spend money on the slay queens,when ever he is ready to marry,he goes solo looking for who was with him when he had notin.

May God bless your reasoning bro

People are managjng your network, you're still chasing them away.. Oma se oooo

When even get patience for this their snail speed?

Sapiosexuality:
Finally a good reason to dump this snail speed

Abi oooo

Even an animal has the love of the people at heart, but what about our politicians?

Eeehyah.. What a tragedy.. RIP bro

wristbangle:
E go dey pepper quinn22 at d moment

My brother, this thread dey pepper some ladies and I don't know why

niceair:
A girl should be independent and hardworking to able to settle @ least 70% of her needs. No body wants to associate with a lazy person either a guy/girl, So once you have the pushing spirit, passion and drive to succeed I think you in the right track.
Remember success is by chance n opportunity also God grace on someone. Please who is a "BROKE GUY"...?
Relationship is mutual and symbiotic... not parasitic. I had funds to take care of her need well before and now I don't have to fulfil the needs like before, are u suggesting she should leave or does that define me as a broke guy??
Please all the " don't date a broke guy team" answer.... Remember what's ur definition of a broke guy??

My brother you still don't get their own definition of "broke".. It simply means a guy is broke if he doesn't spend or dish out his hard earned money for them to spend

ipobarecriminals:
focus on ur book/school not girls. 2,u don't know how to talk to girls cos u are razor blade..Finish ur jamb/waec,graduate from university, get job and watch how beautiful girls go dey run after u.@ ur age,if u give one girl Bellevue just cut short ur grace

This is not a good advice.. This is one of the reasons why we have remained backward in this part of the world

What has book got to do with being able/unable to approach a lady? Haven't you seen men who are through with school yet they can't woo a lady?

When you offer this kind of advice to young chaps, they won't listen at all, but will only take your advice into consideration if you guide on how to go about it or how to minimize it

2dugged:
and if she was tossed aside by a rich man,she would have had time to save her money and some of his money too which would have been a win win for her, don't forget I also used myself as an example, but his brokeness didn't stop him from cheating either
as for a woman helping her man to reach stardom, I prefer she becomes a business partner than investing her money in a man,that is the wisest thing to do,imagine you give your body and still give him your money ontop, double loss
if after all this you still are not seeing my points then I can't help you, my signature is there to let you why why you can't see my points

I'm glad your response was devoid of insult this time

Well, my observation about you is that you've been hurt by a dude you invested so much on, hence, you ruled a conclusion never to help a man to stardom again.. My dear, this is not a new thing under the sun.. It's just part of life.. I have also been neglected by a friend whom I helped to stardom.. So it can happen to anybody

mrphysics:
I completely understand you and I also believe that you are still missing something about relationship. It is a sin to stay with a lazy man, a man that doesn't look for ways to improve his condition. But leaving a guy because he is broke, my sister, it means you are there for only his money.
I have this lady, we were together since my undergraduate days and one thing I noticed is that she is this Safia type. Coming from a poor homes, she doesn't have the patience to strive in life. So on several occasions, she have asked me to pay her school fees? House rent, refill her gas, and host of other things. I rejected all of them and off she went.
I didn't even bother to know how she is doing, so one day I finally sent her a message to know if she has finally arrived. To my greatest surprise, the guy she gave herself to borrowed her money and she wants the guy to forget about it and at the end the guy had to beat her. Lol. she started explaining and I was laughing.
Do you want me to remember such kind of girl in life? I promised to pay her debt and set her free from that but at my own terms that nothing holds us together.

The emboldened got me laughing out loud at a football viewing Centre

2dugged:
hehehehhehe, sentimental folks are too blinded by their sentiments to bother how it really works out there, most of your Nairaland guys and alot of guys out there are operating on fribaults law, and it's time ladies wake up too, yes,infact I intend to raise my daughter that way,because I have seen case where the women helped bring up their men and at the end of the day they get tossed to a corner when things change, infact I have two examples with one of them being a close relative, so please, spare me all your online charade y'all play on this forum, I also encourage every lady reading this thread to read about fribaults law and the red pill, it will be your greatest loss as a woman to take care of yourself and take care of your man too,infact it's an error, even the Holy book says "a man who cannot provide for his house, is worse then an infidel". so my man,park well, and don't let sentiments blurr your logic

So a woman who can't assist a man to attain heights should be applauded abi?

So, you're ruling your conclusion on the fact that your close relative was tossed to a corner by a man whom she supported to rise to stardom? And what is the assurance that a rich man wouldn't have tossed your relative away?

Your point still doesn't justify the subject matter.. Try to come up with a more convincing point.. Try to think well this time. I'm waiting

wristbangle:
God bless u my brother

Egbon Wristbangle, you still dey Nairaland?

2dugged:
please, let's be sure to draw the line between broke and poor, let's all face the fact, with this generation of guys that don't know the meaning of loyalty, I personally will there is a lesser chance that you will remain his number one when things change, and by the way, I dated a broke guy but that didn't stop him from cheating. NO WOMAN SHOULD EVER SPEND HER MONEY ON A GUY NO MATTER HOW BROKE HE IS, hence the reason ladies should avoid them all together, a man that cannot take care of himself financially has no business dating

Please don't raise your daughter with this bad notion abeg, because you have a flawed orientation about relationship. The essence of relationship is "give and take".. Giving shouldn't only emanate from the guy but the lady too

I just pray you will not end up breeding lazy daughters and slay queens

FTBOY:
that man is a thief! i'm sure he's from anambra.

Brother, I just shook my head at his ignorance when he uttered that statement

sosa993:
babe be ready for attack, I remembered I created a thread like this last year, come see curse on top my head. some won't listen but you've said absolutely the truth. I was talking to a girl like that last week just normal discussion and she was talking about how she should just finished school marry rich man, men I was boiling... You wanna know why that's because this gal has a crazy Cgpa 3.98 or so, she still aiming for first class. so what she's telling me now is once she finishes school she'll waste the certificate and marry rich man.

lindaikeji too na woman like us na. babe thumbs up.

i'd prefer getting advise like this from a womanthan to get it from a man.

Brother most of these ladies grew up with bad upbringing.. That was how an Igbo man told me he will only give her daughter out for marriage to the highest bidder

naturalwaves:
Hahahaha...Cool then. We can work out something subsequently. I will pm you.

Alright bro.. I will be expecting

naturalwaves:
You're welcome. Hope you had a nice birthday celebration? Would have taken you out if you were in Lagos

I'm in Lagos bro

Hmmmm.. What a thread!!

OP, in as much as you tried make sense, your write-up became flawed when you said that ladies are only meant to be at the receiving end.. This notion is very wrong and will only put women in trouble

I just hope you don't take this notion into your marriage

Esepayne:
broke guys with plan not poor church fool

But a rich guy can date a broke girl without plans shey?

EgunMogaji:
There's no such thing as fetish to bring abroad guy home, na lie sold by hungry pastor/babalawo/imam to the gullible.

Bro, never despise the work of juju oooo.. It happens for real

naturalwaves:
Leather but it has to be a perforated leather seat that can be heated or otherwise like the ones in the Avalon series. 2012 model precisely.

I also prefer leather


Bros, thanks for yesterday's wishes

[quote author=CokersClub post=55977485]Chai, see poverty everywhere! . is that biscuit you guys are eating?. Seems the security man warn una never to enter the river . Una funeral party weak me.[/quote Baba easy now

Softorgasm:
Normally the romance land kiddults that i know will never leave a pool empty, they will all jump into the pool with some of their dirty shorts and undies, making the water change its color to black..
The photo up there shows that people that attended are people of class.

May God have mercy on you... Why you sef no attend the party

LethargiQue:


Abeg, what kind of car is that?

Baba this one strong gan oooo..

BTW, thanks for yesterday's wishes

It's disheartening that most ladies have little or nothing to offer in relationships.. The best a lady can ever offer in a relationship is to give to her man imassive support, encouragement and contribution that will better the lives of both parties.. But the question is, how many ladies have these qualities?

solasoulmusic:
He called me a dude to spite me that had return to sender written all over it from then it's like him saying a woman is not smart enough to have an opinion contrary to his very insulting

Thank you

Referring to you as a dude was just a mistake nah.. It wasn't that I thought you are smart enough to tackle me

alexialin:
Tosyne, if only u know UV just insulted 80percent of Nigerian single guys . cause all what UV typed up there ? 80% of single guys belong there .
So I wonder what the Morale of this thread is ?

On can be wooed by a young tall dark handsome 6packed, 6.5ft macho guy , who has a good paying job but small dickkk.
So tell me , what else remain again?

Nobody is insulting anybody dear.. . No matter how subtle a write-up is, it will surely get on the other side of some people

Nizox:
HBD oga Ten tins, age graciously sire

Thank you baba

pweeryambre:
This is too low even for you.. anyway this marriage of a thing sef... what makes you think she's desperate? cos that's the easiest way to insult a lady.
Do you think this is OK...?
even if this is true about our society you can start by changing your own perception at least so that others who look up to you will follow suit, it's really that simple. we are the ones holding ourselves from developing in every way...

My dear, it's the society that made it so not me.. Well, I will try to change my perception as advised by you