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BoosBae:
Number 6 is so true!

A lady's perception about marriage changes when she's due.
All the tall, dark and handsome talk will slowly die down in her head
What about the naira loaded talk?? She'll start saying "as long as the guy can take care of me, I'm okay, he doesn't have to be rich" Lol

The hustle for "husband" when you're due is real.

I admire your sincerity dear

Imstrong:
these external pressures can cloud their judgements or reasonings and can influence a wrong decision that's the point am trying to make here at the end I suggested they shouldn't succumbed to it, am not ruling out a personal desire to marry who am I to fight nature? Without that humanity will not be sustainable, that personal drive, urge, desire will always be there else humanity is doomed I know where you are coming from we are talking about a particular age where funny enough the society wants to help out when a lady is not taking decisions on time as expected I hope you got my points?

May God bless your reasoning bro.. In this part of the world, a woman becomes a subject of mockery and pity when she refuses to get married

lovethchioma:
Tosin Marriage is not an achievement. I disagree.
How can you say marriage is an achievement for the ladies? oh gosh...
OK what Is an achievement for the men?

Let's take men out of this.. Whether you agree or not, our society places so much emphasis on marriage, which invariably makes it one of the greatest achievements of a lady. Remember we are talking about "Nigeria'' not Yankee

Cleopatra4:
I guess you went through my profile that is why you have the guts to call me a child. God why you give me baby face na. Anyways you know better. If I prefer big joystick is it your business? I guess you are one of them with small joystick. Please don't spoil my morning for me ooo!

Eeehyah.. Sorry dear.. May you find a man with a pleasurable joystick

solasoulmusic:
I have dated a Well to do guy have also dated a hardworking guy honestly your topics are a little biased nothing like frustrated choice it marriage nowadays people conceal a lot

And you get what you give in life

I see nothing wrong with people going for people who have had failed relationships or children don't be immature who says that single guy wont hurt you as well.

Take your time some of us are in no rush the decision is for the rest of your life plan to live long by Gods Grace once someone admits they resent you....whether na argument leave that union.

Tear rubber tire fit burst before used one

Our experience teaches wisdom don't let your experience cloud your ability to be fair

I don't think the topic is based because, I know you won't dispute the fact that, even if a lady is not in a rush to get married, there would be a time when society and family pressure will begin to mount pressure on her. . My dear, that's just the society we find ourselves

shinarlaura:
Exactly mum. I really don't know why we (especially Africans) sees marriage as such a big deal. I ll rather be single than to marry someone I don't like all because in the name of marriage. By the way is it by force to get married. As if marriage is a lifetime achievement

I believe you're only talking from your own perception but the society don't see it they way you do.. And yes, marriage is the greatest achievement of a lady in this part of the world

lovethchioma:
Tosin this your write-up is sha. How can someone be that desperate? Marriage isn't a do or die affair. The question isn't about getting married, but it's actually about staying happily married. I don't want to believe someone will open her eyes and go into marriage with any of the guys you've listed knowing what awaits her in the marriage. This is called desperation at its peak.
This is not to say that it's not happening though, e dey happen.

Happy Belated Birthday.... why you nor tell me say you dey do your birthday? it's been long I heard from you.

Although, marriage isn't a do or die affair, but in this part if the world, it's one the greatest achievement of a lady. The pressure usually mounted on ladies towards marriage is very much compared to the male folks

Anyway thanks for the wishes

Bumbae1:
Its true

As females lol we want more but sometimes end up marrying someone we would never pick
Anyway not me .. will rather die single than marry what i dont like .. no be by force and trust me mama will understand ..
when ur parents are educated to a level, travel and seen how the rest of the world opperate the pressure not that great ...

I admire your sincerity.. When your patently are highly educated, the pressure is very minimal

And you're sure they haven't automatically migrated you to another plan?

justmenoni:
Tosyne'2much, come and marry

Give me two years bro

T2best:
this can b corrected and possible mk a thing of the past if all this girls forming sisi can bury their pride, reduce their pursuit for instant riches and focus on d needful

That's what it is bro... A woman who doesn't have thirst for insatiable desires is a virtuous woman bro

martphreak:
aswear op is in all the categories technically and clinically..

Tosyn ah just the look u

I no fit fit in for all the categories nah

dadabashua1:
Hahahahaha haha.....@OP that your number 6 experience got me laughing like mad....God nairaland no go kill person o...lolz

Bro, no mind me jawe

henrimoto:
@tosyne2much. You! you ehnn, For your own good, The Single Ladies Association of Nigeria - ( Nairaland Chapter) headed by @Safiaa dey plan wicked meeting for you.

Kwantinue.... Lol

Brother, you know say me I be one man MOPOL

dalass:
She would not mind if the man is younger than she is. Age will no longer be an issue or barrier

You're right my sister

modelmike7:
Interesting......
Tosyne don come again o!!
Many Happy Returns.
Hope you enjoyed your day?

Baba, I don land again ooo.. Thanks for the wishes, and yes, I enjoyed my day

Imstrong:
In summary they become reasonable and get better understanding as they age, imagine a lady about to marry a struggling man and she was asked"emeka is just coming up ooh he is not fit to settle down o“she replied 'I don't care whether he lives in the store we will start from there and succeed in life' but seriously it's really not funny for them at that stage, family and social pressures sets in I think is better not to succumb to them

You're very right brother

Nickymezor:
my own no dey dere o.

Make you dey deceive yourself, sotigbo?

skarlett:
I just came to wish the op happy birthday

Oooooh thanks dearie.

mrdreams:
I tire for this babe own o

No mind am jawe baba

An 80 year old man? Oma se oooo

And they keep deceiving youths that they are the leaders of tomorrow

Lashort:
Not entirely but it does. I'm 15 BTW

No wonder.. You're still viewing life from ignorance perspective.. When maturity sets in, you will read your comments on this very thread and will remember you were only arguing out of childishness

Lashort:
I don't know anyone who's hardworking and yet broke but I'm yet to discover them today

It depends on your occupation when your mates choose maths and science you opted for something easy innit? Then you'll keep working small small jobs and see no reward from them and who's to blame for that? Nobody but yourself

So the course someone studies determines how rich the person will be in life right? How old are you?

Esepayne:
me nor dey the same page with you bros

So you no fit date broke guys like us abi?

Iamdmentor1:
Made your day around 12am? Happy birthday! Hope I made your night

Yes you also made my night bro

Where are those feminists always clamoring for gender equality?

Esepayne:
and who is talking about rich dude here

We are still on the same page

Esepayne:
I cannot, in fact God forbid, have done it before i was even the one supporting and he later cheated on me with my friend. I can't, I can't, I can't, God forbid

And what gives you the impression that if you throw yourself at a rich man, he won't do the same?

There are still ladies that believe in the dream of a man no matter how broke he is, just that they're already going into extinct

You already have everything in this world if you have a woman that stands by you despite your financial incapacitation

Nickymezor:
Hmmmmm, very funny...Quite true sha.

So which category do you belong?

Nairalanders, today is my birthday.. Please show me some love

[quote] In this part of the world, especially Nigeria, no matter how pretty and career oriented a lady is, when she gets to a certain age yet unmarried, the pressure to get married is mounted on her by parents (mothers especially) as well as the society who places negative stigmas on unmarried ladies.

This is the period when frustration and circumstances usually coerce many of them into considering men that are below their class or status.

Without wasting time, below are the categories of men ladies normally consider as husbands out of martial pressure.

1. Conductors/Vulcanizers/ Okada Men

In as much as I don't want to discriminate against these categories of people, the urge to get married borne out of impatience sometimes make educated ladies consider men that are below their class or status. When their friends and younger ones are already married, they become uncomfortable at home and will do anything to make sure they also leave their parents house too. This urge sometimes lead them into the hands of danfo drivers, vulcanizers, okada men, etc

2. Promiscuous Men/ Baby Daddies

Many will agree with Tosyne2much that most arrogant ladies usually become so cold and humble when they are due for marriage. This is the period of humility when they treat men with fairness and wouldn't hesitate to give listening ears to guys they would have bashed when they were still the hottest girls in town. This is when pride is thrown to the wind and will embrace any man that shows interest in them. They may consider baby daddies/ polygamous men, in a bid to bear the status of married women

3. Thugs/ Area Boys

This may sound funny, but it's very true. We have seen cases when ladies usually go for men that are below their class or status due to due the fact that they have chased good guys away out of ignorance and insatiable desires. When they are getting aged and no guy is proposing, they see any man as husband material not minding if he's below their class. They may consider thugs or area boys as husbands out of the marital pressures.

4. Stingy Men

As we all know that most ladies, if not all, ladies have stingy men and will never consider them as husbands but when too much peer pressures and intimidation set in, that's when fate recommend husbands for them. Even if they find men that have PhDs in stinginess, they will embrace him. This is just to bear the status of "being married" and start their family too.

5. Abroad Based Guys

Most ladies that are overdue for marriage are usually obsessed with abroad based guys and may use fetish means to bring these men home. At this stage, they become very active on Facebook, Twitter and Instagram just to increase their chances of finding future partners . They accept request from random men and are quick to give out their contacts. This is due to the fact that they stand a chance to travel abroad if these men marry them.

6. Men with Low Financial Status

When a lady is due for marriage, her perception about marriage changes and she stops talking about her disgust for broke men. This is the period when they no longer talk about elaborate wedding and aso ebi, and are ready to start from the scratch with a man. This reminds me of a lady, out of martial pressures, wanted to lure me (Tosyne2much) to bed and trap me down with pregnancy, despite the fact that that she knows that I can't boast of one square meal a day let alone feed another woman.

7. Over-aged Men

Some parents (mothers) are not helping matters and will frustrate the hell out of their daughters to marry a rich and wealthy man who has spoken to them about their interest in their daughters. They force their daughters to marry this men for selfish reasons even if these men are Buhari's age grade.

8. Men with Small Joysticks

Many may laugh at this, but believe me, it's the very true. Sometimes, ladies consider settling down with men with tiny joysticks or men who can't even last up to thirty seconds in bed , unlike before that they ridicule and discriminate against men that are not good in bed. These ladies will always say that they will sex is not food, so, it shouldn't be a criteria for choosing a man.

9. Uneducated Men

Most educated ladies always want their men to be more educated than them but things like this no longer counts when the urge to get married is being heaped on them. At this point, they wouldn't mind settling down with a man even if has a degree in "Lion Rearing" or "Snake Hunting". Even if the guy is a drop out, they will say that love is all that matters not a degree.

10. Gamblers/ Football Bet Addicts (Virtual, aja n sare, 1960, Baba Ijebu, etc)

Despite the stereotype ladies place on men that are bet addicts, some ladies may even consider these men as husbands out of martial frustration. They hold firmly unto these men with the hope that he will one day will millions and send these bet companies packing.

Ladies, please make hay while the sun shines. Playing kites good men will later haunt you. Don't treat men rudely because you think you've got so many toasters. If you do, you may find yourself in any of these categories

I drop my pen at this juncture

Feel free to add yours

Written by: Tosyne2much



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