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mrmetoo1:


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mrmetoo1:
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My daughter (2+) started school some months back. She is in the pre-nursery classes and she has been amazing. Since then she has been showing us (myself and her mum) what she has been learning and it's been very interesting. I think their teachers in the pre-nursery are very strict and have been enforcing a regime of discipline in the little ones ( I say this because I have been receiving A LOT OF BEATINGS for anything I do wrong from her. From telling her to sit down, be careful when jumping or stop screaming etc).

Some days ago, it was bed time and I insisted that she goes to bed (we all sleep together) and as usual we fought. She cried and grudgingly went to bed and was still sulking from my insistence that she go to sleep. Well when I finally went to sleep and I tried to pacify her, my daughter said, "dont touch me, am not your friend". "Go face the naughty corner". Clearly, it is obvious that when they, the children in her class are naughty, their teacher tells them to go face a corner in the class for a short while and not play with anyone as punishment for being naughty. Well, I did go to face the naughty corner until my wife interceded on my behalf and my daughter approved my sleep for the night. They own the house, afterall.

mcdokwe:
I was born into what I consider a street life, public compounds and all its troubles.

My hustling parents still made sure I got the best especially in education but that didn’t in any way help as I picked up the most annoying and shameful personality.

I even as a kid would keep late nights without carrying out household chores and when it becomes apparent that I couldn’t escape my parents “do good,” opt to sleep out in trucks and sheds, I would occasionally sneak in and proceed to make under the bed my beautiful foams, this habit was cultivated to mitigate the effect of the surprise floggings mum especially had this habit of using deep into the mornings when she’d flog sleep out of my eyes. By the time she’d drag me out, I’d be fully awake to bear the consequences of my sins. How I managed to stay top of my class in primary school then still escapes me as I’d play my life out on daily basis.

I would pilfer on people, unsuspecting people whose heart I easily warmed up into and would sustain my belly and as such could keep avoiding home.

Oh! God bless my mum and grant my dad eternal rest. I’d constantly make “withdrawals” from their “home banks” and with it, live large in school. And constantly devised various methods to avoid detection. My neatly wrapped note books served as conduits to hide my loots to avoid detection and when that method failed, I resorted to hiding them in shoes, pens, I’d tear up the folds of my shirts and shorts and pass the folded cash into them. God knows if I had continued like that, I would have ended up a highway robber and maybe dead by now.
I was closely marked so I no go do, but two loose seconds were more than enough for me to hit a bounty when need be. I was a nightmare to my parents and at appoint when my dad moved and left us to the care of my mum, my constant acts made my dad make up his mind to come and take him along lest I killed his darling wife with HBP.
It is totally and completely ignoble thing to do, and looking back, I wonder what prompted me into such.

While staying with my dad, he once called me and told me how I was his favorite child. Till date, I still can’t tell how and why, because apart from the consequences of being the black sheep of the family, I was often the last to get gifts as they bothered me not.

Yes, I spent more time with my dad possibly due to the close marking I needed to keep my deviant behavior in check and naturally predisposed to his kind of job, but I still didn’t and haven’t seen how I was the favorite child; but I was deeply touched. He spoke of how my act pains him more than it would have if it were to be from anyone else and it sunk, he also said I wouldn’t stop being his favourite child notwithstanding. Today, thanks to those words, I’d rather dig poo to feed than pilfer on anyone. Well, the house chores are still there but I can at least shout my younger ones into doing them.

My Dad’s words (sweet and not the curses) made me a better person that I am today.

I had hoped that he lives for me to show him how much proud I was prepared to make him but death had other plans which were stronger.

Touching! Strengthens my resolve to be a good Dad! I love my wife and Children.

kaziblake:
Good day all, Please pardon my grammatical error if you observe any because as am typing this am not my self.

I finished my ND last year and proceed to work because I want to get my Bsc direct instead of going for HND. So I got a job at Palms lekki. Right from when I started, he was already showing me sign that he was interested in me but I just waved it aside. After working for about 1 year and 1month, the man asked me out but I ignored him and continued working, since that time he started treating me anyhow, shouting at me, but I endured. October this year, he asked me to choose either my job or I quit. I had no option than to quit. I used the opportunity to register for jamb and attend preparatory class. So, I told my mum I want to do part time job and attend lectures at the same time to get money, she agreed.

I started hunting for job and told my friends about it. Last week, my friend called me and told me about an opening in their organisation, so I went there on Monday. Immediatly I saw the manager I knew I was in for trouble (a manager with dread and ear rings drinking dry gin on duty). He saw me and smiled, ask of my name age and qualifications, I told him everything about myself. After the interview, he asked me to resume on Wednesday that's today. I prepared and went to work. After sometimes, he called me into his office and started saying silly thing "how he liked me from the first day he saw me, blah blah blah". I was just looking at him like ode, after saying his mind, the next thing I heard was "can we have sex now?". I was so shocked to hear it from him but all the same I played cool and started telling him stories of about my bf and how my mum will kill me if she found out. He still insist,i lied again that I was on my period, he said he want to see the period. I was shocked and short of words. I told him I wasn't interested, the next thing he said was if I was not interested I should go, so I got up, picked my bag and left his office, met my friend and told her everything that transpired at the office between me and her boss,on my way out if the building I met the security man who asked me if I was not working that day, I told him no and explained everything to him he got so angry and promised to do something about it. Just this evening my friend called me saying the security man told their boss about what happened between me and the manager that the man would like to speak to me, the man called me and ask me to come tomorrow around 8am. My questions are: did I go far by reporting him to the security or should I go tomorrow (although am no longer interested in the job) because the manager looks scary, he can arrange for me if the owner sacks him, am so scared right now pls matured advice, thanks.

STAY AWAY!

hammariise:
May he rot in hell fire

Clueless in life and clueless in death. Couldn't even close his mouth!

dearpreye:
I'm sharing this message due to a thread I read last night where it was reported a Nigerian higher Institution student committed suicide after being allegedly told to repeat a year by the school authorities. As the manner is with most Nigerians, the victim was lampooned and mocked by most commenters on the thread, even when they didn't travel in the victim's shoes. Only a few could even type the now-redundant RIP. I pray his soul rest in peace.

I've got a somewhat similar experience though I didn't go the extra mile the Nigerian student went. I was withdrawn from my normal shift duty to cover a new project that will require my being on permanent duty for over 3 weeks. I was mandated to draw the HSE plan for the project, conduct safety talks at appropriate intervals and give situation report to my department on a daily basis. On this terrible day, I had gone to the job site even before the contractors had shown up. It was a Tuesday- a black one for that matter.

When I arrived the site and saw no workers around, I elected to seat with some other workers in a stormshleter- a little building operators seek little comfort whenever there are running the plant. While waiting for my colleagues to show up at the job site, some talks started. It was around money, the Rat Race, Women, etc.....but financial management or the lack of it, was the MAIN ISSUE. After listening for some time my consent was sought on the matter. Believe me, I spoke passionately. An I spoke for over 10 minutes, narrating my financial struggle from the day I was employed to the present day, and my beliefs about financial discipline, the role of women in our lives, etc.

I had this Motorola radio in my hand. It's a means of communication within the department. A lot of top guys are also linked to it. Some managers, senior colleagues, junior ones, even casual workers by proxy are tuned into this departmental channel. Now the radio on me was kinda a little defective and I've improvised on it by tapering it with a tiny binding wire. Somehow the wired rested on the SPEAK knob, and all along, while I thought I was having a discreet convo with some persons, ALL my communications were heard by EVERYONE who was on the HSE channel. Some of the details I had revealed were regrettable mistakes I wouldnt want anyone beyond that group to hear. So far as the binding wire depressed the speak knob, and I didn't know, I was on channel air- interrupting every other call in the channel, in an emergency channel. I didn't know. I later realised mobile calls were made by my superiors to my mobile phone but I hadn't seen them as the phone was on SILENT mode, hidden away in my coverall. All attempts to have me stop was of no effect.

All this while the contractors had not arrived for work. I've found another work. LOL! Firemen and other HSE professionals were dispatched to physically stop my programme. SMH. I knew there was some troubles when I saw a team of firemen running towards me in a manner similar to their response to a fire emergency. I looked around and didn't spot any fire in the operational area. One of them was even laughing. They motioned for my radio and removed the binding wire, stopping my programme. SMH. When they told me what happened, I almost dropped dead. My blood pressure rose; my heart tripled it's rate, my feet quaked, my mood dropped and I wished the Earth would open up and had me swallowed.

My God! What have I done to myself? I've shared on radio issues I'll consider too personal. The shame. The embarrassment. Will my colleagues even stop mocking me? Why? I wished I hadn't come to work that day. I had never felt such pressure. The pressure almost choked me. How do I go to face my colleagues? My superiors? God. How do I erase these details from the minds of my colleagues? How do I go back to the control room? No one could describe the pressure I felt.

When the pressure became too much, I had to distract myself and play some Enya music like Caribbean blue,Orinoco Flow, etc, to relax me. The more I tried,the more my mind wondered back to the issue. Immediately, I felt what most suicide victims felt before committing suicide. Once in my lifetime, I had found myself in their shoes and it wasn't palatable in the least.

Ours is a society that has failed to try to understand depression and people. We suddenly become experts at advice whenever people commit acts that we feel were improper. We don't mind abusing and denigrating them even when we've not understood their struggles, depression,anxiety and deep worries. We simply condemn; we simply attack.

If I had done the worst, the extreme, God forbid, the same attacks would have landed on me. SMH. Now, I'm NOT in any way supporting or encouraging suicide; I'm simply saying we should endeavour to show sympathy and empathy to people whenever they can't seem to handle the pressures of life and quit.

Whatever you're passing through at the moment, don't give up. There's still hope and life ahead. There's still light at the end of the tunnel. When pressures seem too tough, seek a true friend and confide in, OR seek some other means of relieving the pressure. It could be some serene sort of music. Don't just give up. Suicide is a temporal solution to a permanent problem. Think about your loved ones and the pains and gloom they'll experience.

Man that's born of a woman is of few days and full of trouble. Job 14.1. But with determination and patience,all worries and sadness will give way to peace, serenity and joy. And when you observe a person to be in deep depression, don't judge them.Simply help them. A word could save a soul. Call and encourage that friend passing through unemployment, marital crisis, temporal barrenness, admission delay, etc. Give someone a hug. Send an email. A text message could also suffice.

God bless you all. And have a great day.

Lalasticlala, good morning. Please, let's share; it could save a soul.

Well thought out and articulated! Suicide is a selfish and painful way to complicate a problem. I say this in connection with those who can actually contemplate it before taking the action. There are those who, for psychotic reasons, cannot think through the odds of the decision to commit suicide.

Like you have said, anyone with suicidal thoughts should not forget that it is not over yet. It may seem long but every bad experience will have an end if we persist and do the right things. An attempt at suicide (or the committing of it) may well reflect a narrow minded and inflexible mindset that refuses to see things in different perspectives. In the case of the student, he/she may not have been flexible enough to accept the reality of the situation and understand that it was not the end of the world. He was probably more overwhelmed with care about what people will say or think, than focusing on the benefits of taking things by his strides and moving on.

We all need to understand that there are thing that we cannot change (no matter what people tell you) and we have to live with. There are things that time will change. There are limits to what we can do as well as heights that we can surpass. When we understand who we are accept our limits and embrace our heights, we will be better suited and equipped to handle situations that come our way and avoid the emptiness AND waste that comes with taking our OWN LIVES.

Totfulguy:


I hope your Dad reads this. You sound like a fellow between 25 and 30 judging from your diction. A part of me tells me you can do your own thing. What you are doing right now is a bit of self-pity but you can do better. I have a feeling your have let what you see as "your condition" deem all the capabilities you have in you. This may be your dad telling you to challenge yourself.

We could talk if you send me a private massage and your phone number.

Oh I just looked at your profile picture...Now I think your Dad has his reasons!

Therock5555:
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Sorry for the long epistle, I'm broken and seriously need advice, I hope he gets to see this and then kills me afterwards.


Cc. Ishilove Lalasticlala Sean RoyalRoy

I hope your Dad reads this. You sound like a fellow between 25 and 30 judging from your diction. A part of me tells me you can do your own thing. What you are doing right now is a bit of self-pity but you can do better. I have a feeling your have let what you see as "your condition" deem all the capabilities you have in you. This may be your dad telling you to challenge yourself.

We could talk if you send me a private massage and your phone number.

DJBIGGY:


beauty is in the eyes of the beholder sir

My point is, you cannot call an "Ugly" people's pageant a "Beauty Pageant". The intent is to show the UGLIEST person.

zibi2:
This was published today on Youtube.....

What could have caused this?OMG!

They are speaking Bini Language....

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cR13jQ9Pq9I

The foreigners were just watching wicked people.
Cccc Lalasticlala

When I read this kind of nonsense I dont fail to wonder where this people left the minds...Two ADULTS fight and you are blaming the foreigner for not stopping them. How many of this drug addicts will the "foreigner" go round to stop from killing each other. Why dont we ever take responsibility for our actions? Why is the foreigners "wicked"for not stopping the fight? Well if I were there I'd probably not stop the fight because I'd probably have died someone's death and I am NOT ready. Mtscheeeeeew!

Hello All,

I know there are people on this forum who have privileged information. Or those who know that petrol with a not-too-long-queue or a station where there is fuel in Lagos state. Please lets know where we can get fuel in Lagos.

DJBIGGY:
As the rate of unemployment looms Zimbabwe, people decided to create something to get people some cash to reduce unemployment effects. One of such is the creation of most ugly beauty pageant in the country.

This 42 years old unemployed man Maison Sere contested and was able to win the sum of $500 which is a lot of money in their country. Sere who wore overall and has a number of teeth contested before but he took the fourth position.

When he was announced winner this year, he told journalists thus;

"I want to thank God for winning this title, last time I came fourth. I just want to thank the judges for recognizing me as the winner."

However, the runner up William Masvinu, who has won three times in the past accused the judges for being biased as he walked away with $100 cash prize. Wetin, must you win all the time?

In his words, "The judges were not fair, the organisers must look for new judges to start the contest afresh. I did not lose today.".

http://www.olamzy.com/2015/11/this-man-wins-zimbabwes-ugliest-man.html

You cannot have an "ugliest man" "beauty" Pageant.

Onegai:
Totfulguy, if you keep making posts like these, one of 3 things will happen:

1. awon NL association of male wailers will. start saying you are a lesbian or a female posting under a man's moniker

2. awon NL association of male wailers will ignore you and pretend as if you don't exist, because you are daring to say that women should be treated decently

3. some young men and women will learn.

I'm glad you're a traditional guy saying this. I believe a man and woman should do their best to support each other. There is actually no shame in being a Stay at Home Wife, your contributions truly surpass finances. If you make a good selection of a spouse, you won't be scared to tell him how much you earn, you won't be afraid to put joint properties and accounts in her name.

Onegal you are right about my traditional views of marriage and I feel strongly about the need for unity on all fronts in the running of a home. I however detest the arrogance of men who feel it's their right to Lord over their wives income or else the marriage ends. Or who feel there is no love because a woman won't spill everything about their income. Am also against a thoughtless non-support on the part of a woman who can help. I remember that my mum used to have reserves of some change that came in handy whenever there was need to make up for what my dad gave for home keeping. My father NEVER nosed on my mums income. He knew she had some funds but that was it. He did what he had to do when he had to do it. When my dad was hit with tough times, my mum whom my dad trained through teachers training college, stood up to fill the gap for years. My dad did not ask her to disclose her income. He'd never he is a proud man. He sought other jobs and finally got one. And then he continued his role. That's what it should be. Men are not Dukes or slaves. Women are not Duchess or slaves in the home. And no am not a woman posting as a man.

Eketem:
I respectfully disagree. A couple should have some sort of financial planning and budget.

A man is not a beast of burden. Nigeria is hard, economy is tough a wife who earns an income should work with her husband to ensure family needs are met and the man doesn't stress himself carrying all the burden.

A woman's income is not a secret society issue abeg, every family should be able to plan income and expenditure and work together to achieve long term plans.

It is the same women who will come and be crying that their husband's sibblings are next of kin yet they want to hide their salaries instead of working as a team to achieve financial success.

A man is more than money for food and rent, a husband is more than that, a husband is a lover, partner and friend. If I go into a partnership then I should do so with no hidden assets or liabilities. Financial misunderstanding is a major problem in most marriages. When we stop making men mere pay cheques while we hide our money then we will start having a proper stake in our marriages.

Marry proper husbands who you trust with your body and money. Marriage isn't that hard lets stop complicating it with outdated stereotypes that help no one

Like I said, when the couple are genuinely working together and BEING A COUPLE, the issues flatten out because they both have each other's best interest at heart. I am not an advocate of the western styled nuclear family where the couple ignore their families of birth because they are now married. They still have a responsibility towards these ones but their primary focus once they are married are themselves. And everyone should gradually adjust to this reality. They on their own part should not neglect parents or sibling who have need if they can be of assistance. That would be unholy.

I agree that many women hoard their income and latch on to their husbands resources. Many women have practically enriched themselves and run their husband dry. Men should know the women they married and understand how to handle such situations. There are women who are gold diggers. BUT NOT ALL WOMEN ARE LIKE THAT. The average woman who goes into a marriage goes in with the desire to stay married (I might be wrong but the statistics may be 6 out of 10 as against 3 out of 10 men). With this mentality, such a woman will do her best to see that their marriage works...including but not limited to contributing to the home in any way possible. If you are fortunate to marry such a woman then there are chances that you can work together and achieve what you want to achieve.

Proper husband are a rarity these days just like proper wives...Chances are, there are more proper wives than there are proper husbands. I speak as a man. And I sometime wonder if I am putting in as much as my wife does. But I DO NOT demand it. Couples can learn to work together without being coaxed into it. When marriage is like friendship problems like money and other issues are easier to manage.

Brandnew2:
It's not always necessary especially if the husband doesn't mind.

Thats exactly my question...is it the scripture,constitution,tradition or common sense that gives the man the RIGHT to "mind"? Why do men feel their wife is under an obligation to disclose their income but they do not feel they same duty to disclose theirs?

I had to respond to a post here on NL where a poster and some contributors where of the opinion that a woman is under a duty to disclose her income to her husband. To them, it is an indication that you are a united couple and the family is integrated. The poster suggested that his wife "Finally opened up" and so has told him her income and they were in the process opening a "joint" account.

As a husband and father, I beg to differ that it takes your wife's disclosure of her income for your family to be united. A confident man does not INSIST that his wife "opens up" on her income. It is not compulsory that a woman tells her husband what she earn. Such information or disclosure should be earned not commanded/forced/conned/coerced out of a woman. Men should understand that when you take a wife, it is your primary responsibility to take care of her and your children WHETHER SHE CONTRIBUTES OR NOT. SHE IS A HELPER NOT A CO-HEAD. A man is the HEAD and should carry out his duties.

When a man a noses around his wife's earning and wants to know what she earns and becomes insecure or unhappy that she has not divulged such information, it IS CONDESCENDING and amounts to reneging ones responsibility or vacating his duty. He is not a confident man and is not acting responsibly. He comes across as a weak man who is probably a gold digger. A man is not a man in his capacity to coax his wife into divulging her income, he is a man in his capacity to hustle genuinely and honorably and hold his own. When a REAL and CARING woman perceives the hard work, honest contribution and sense of caring leadership of her husband, she will voluntarily support him. Women are some of the most loyal beings and you get the best of them when you make them feel like a the center of the world (I mean genuinely not deceitfully). When you make a woman feel like the queen of your life, you will become her banker and her real estates agent (that the OP appears to yearn for and has finally secured).

I am not saying that some hardworking men dont get hit with tough times. They do. But MOST responsible men with a sense of pride do not insist on getting to know their income lest they loose their self respect. Even a broke man who is confident will not want to loose his gloss by crying over her earning.

My experience with men who get their wife to change title of property and open joint account (and they often are the sole signatory of the "joint" account) is that down the line, they gullible woman gets kicked out to face the reality of her stupidity because the "joint" account does not join the heart. It mostly funds the lazy mans excesses or profligacy. In many cases they get killed. If I were friends with the OP's wife I would advise her against opening the joint accounts and changing document titles. Men who marry women with the intention of leaving off them like leeches should simply swap positions and become the woman.

My love for my wife is not a consequence of her disclosure of her income, but the quality of woman she is. Dont mistake me for implying that I have NEVER HAD TO ASK MY WIFE FOR ASSISTANCE. I DO, but my wife knows that I am a hardworking man and I do not live off her. And even if her father were a "Tinubu" I (THE MAN SHE MARRIED) would NEVER ask her to change her property titles to my name and change her bank account to my name. That would be unnecessary because I am genuinely hustling and I do not need her father's property willed to her to be fine. That is not love...that is a heist in the making. Her father is a man like myself and worked hard to get his property. Why cant I do the same to have mine in my own way?

My take that is.

satowind:
Some days ago I created a topic on why people hide there salary from there spouse.

https://www.nairaland.com/2713974/why-people-keep-salaries-secret

I didn't even know my wife was that active on nairaland and she felt bad and apologized. She said she didn't know the salary issue bothered me this much and was a little bit angry I didn't tell her it bother me that much before taking it to the forum.

I didn't want the topic to hit front page but am glad it did cause it saved my marriage and she showed me every thing, her pay slips, her investment and her two bank account details and for the first time it seems as if I now know her. And we will soon be opening a joint account for family welfare. It just feels so right and is as if our marriage just began last night. At least now I have seen a future with her.


But o boy she rich oh and yet she is loyal at least that love or I think.



Thank you Seun and lalasticlala for saving my marriage.

Thank you all those that condemned the act and pls those that still hide, marriage is more fun when you share and communicate.

To those that gave a bad advice or said my wife is cheating ...thanks too

I beg to differ that it takes your wife's disclosure of her income for your family to be united. A confident man does not INSIST that his wife "opens up" on her income. It is not compulsory that a woman tells her husband what she earn. Such information or disclosure should be earned not commanded/forced/conned/coerced out of a woman. Men should understand that when you take a wife, it is your primary responsibility to take care of her and your children WHETHER SHE CONTRIBUTES OR NOT. SHE IS A HELPER NOT A CO-HEAD. A man is the HEAD and should carry out his duties.

When a man a noses around his wife's earning and wants to know what she earns and becomes insecure or unhappy that she has not divulged such information, it IS CONDESCENDING and amounts to reneging ones responsibility or vacating his duty. He is not a confident man and is not acting responsibly. He comes across as a weak man who is probably a gold digger. A man is not a man in his capacity to coax his wife into divulging her income, he is a man in his capacity to hustle genuinely and honorably and hold his own. When a REAL and CARING woman perceives the hard work, honest contribution and sense of caring leadership of her husband, she will voluntarily support him. Women are some of the most loyal beings and you get the best of them when you make them feel like a the center of the world (I mean genuinely not deceitfully). When you make a woman feel like the queen of your life, you will become her banker and her real estates agent (that the OP appears to yearn for and has finally secured).

I am not saying that some hardworking men dont get hit with tough times. They do. But MOST responsible men with a sense of pride do not insist on getting to know their income lest they loose their self respect. Even a broke man who is confident will not want to loose his gloss by crying over her earning.

My experience with men who get their wife to change title of property and open joint account (and they often are the sole signatory of the "joint" account) is that down the line, they gullible woman gets kicked out to face the reality of her stupidity because the "joint" account does not join the heart. It mostly funds the lazy mans excesses or profligacy. In many cases they get killed. If I were friends with the OP's wife I would advise her against opening the joint accounts and changing document titles. Men who marry women with the intention of leaving off them like leeches should simply swap positions and become the woman.

My love for my wife is not a consequence of her disclosure of her income, but the quality of woman she is. Dont mistake me for implying that I have NEVER HAD TO ASK MY WIFE FOR ASSISTANCE. I DO, but my wife knows that I am a hardworking man and I do not live off her. And even if her father were a "Tinubu" I (THE MAN SHE MARRIED) would NEVER ask her to change her property titles to my name and change her bank account to my name. That would be unnecessary because I am genuinely hustling and I do not need her father's property willed to her to be fine. That is not love...that is a heist in the making. Her father is a man like myself and worked hard to get his property. Why cant I do the same to have mine in my own way?

My take that is.

ujuvals:
I dont know if this is the best platform to express myself but i just want to cry out as there is power in the social media. I am a young girl of 27 years. I live with my dad in lagos, lost my mum 10 years ago and have been sustaining the family for a while now as my dad's business collapsed due to some circumstances. I am a graduate and very hardworking, i have worked in few places in the past but i want to say i haven't been lucky.

I worked with a transport company in ikeja as at feburary and after working for 3months we were asked to stop with no pay on the note that the company was collapsing and they had no money to pay staffers. It was so painful because i live at iyanoba and have to go through a whole lot of stress and pay up to 700 a day for transport to be at work despite we worked weekends. I felt so used but prayed to God to take control and judge them.

I got another job in september at ikeja i didn't want to take it because i had my fears about salary issue after my past experience but looking at the situation at home where they depended on me for survival i had to let go of my instincts and take the job. It was very stressful, the distance, the constant work on the system and sometimes starving just to be able to save up for transport. Despite the distance i always got to the office by 7:30am to resume 8:00am so you can imagine when i leave my house.

When it got to pay time, i was told my boss travelled and there was no talk on salary till after a long while. i also want to add that on one of those occasions i was going to work i was robbed and my phones taken from me, it was so painful but then its part of life. My female boss eventually took pity on me and paid me for September, i told her i would like to stop but she encouraged me to continue with the impression that i was just tested on my patience. I continued work and now halfway into this month of November i am yet to be paid for October.

The worst part is my boss has refused to show up at work, he avoids calls and sends no message. I eventually got across to him with a strange number and when he picked he said he has a lot of issues his going through but i can stop coming to work; just like that. I asked him for my pay and he said no money at the moment i should stop.

I really feel bitter as i have no one to fight for me and worse is i have debts i incurred in the process of going to work. How do i offset them and start again when am practically cashless. My monthly pay is 40,000 and it can't be too difficult for a man his caliber to pay but i feel he just wants to cheat me knowing there is nothing i can do.

Please nairalanders what do i do? i feel so bad, i don't even know what next to do as am so confused.

Why are the employers taking advantage of the jobless graduates and using them? How bad can it be for someone not working and then after working you get tossed in the bin? I want God to intervene but i need help. Please pardon any grammatical blunders and errors, as i am not in the right frame of mind.

Thanks.

Send me a private message...(not promising anything. But lets see how it goes)

This thread is dedicated to sharing perspectives and experiences about the goings on in homes and businesses as it relates to maid-Oga-Madam-Children relationships. In many instances it is thought that the frosty relationships between maids and the host family is the fault of the maid. In some cases it is true. In other cases too the maid finds himself/herself with a "faulty" host (Oga,Madam,Children) who do not appreciate the efforts of the madi no matter what. This thread is designed to give us the opportunity to relate your experience (firsthand or secondhand) on what a maid around you or anywhere did for/to her host. And what the host did for/to a maid around you.

Well here is an experience I heard. Because a neighbor is usually harsh with her maid, several instances have occurred where the baby receives some serious beating at the hands of the when the parents were not around. Often, due to abuse and in a bid to prevent further battery, then child adapts to the abuse and NEVER tell her/his parent. I have heard someone give a first-hand experience where a maid held the baby and practically used the baby to wedge a returning door that she swung open. ( I HATE TO relate this).

On the flipside, I have also heard of stories of families whose children, much older than a maid but who subject their maids to impossible tasks and errands which she runs for everyone in the home. She does not get to eat what everyone eats. Her meals are the worst, served in dehumanizing bowls. She is the first to wake and the last to sleep. She is just Nine. A time comes when we have to look out for each other and relate our experiences to provide cues that could be useful in our effort to stop the abuse of maids and children. What have you seen or heard in your environment?

FlirtyKaren:
Nigerian ‘Prophet’ T.B. Joshua has released another controversial YouTube clip, claiming he predicted the tragic Russian plane crash in Egypt well over one year ago.

On Sunday 31st August 2014, the cleric, who is famed for his alleged ability to foretell the future, warned of an impending plane crash involving Russia.

"It will not be between Ukraine and Russia this time but a close region, a neighbouring
region," he stated, warning passenger planes to be careful of the routes they take over such volatile areas. I am seeing a full load of passengers crash again," he declared.

On Saturday 31st October 2015, a Russian jet tragically crashed while flying across the Sinai peninsula in Egypt en-route to St Petersburg, killing all 224 on board.

"We pray for all those involved in this tragic incident, that God would comfort and strengthen them in this difficult time," the clip on the YouTube channel ‘Emmanuel TV’ concluded.

Watch the video below and let's know what you think about that.

http://www.lailasblog.com/2015/11/i-predicted-crash-of-russian-plane-tb.html





https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Xb7PFiT5yXo

lalasticlala

He is a CLUELESS after-the-fact prophet...with a wild sense of guessing. Okay I predict a mass shooting in America (God forbid) So if it happens, does that make me a prophet I predict the death of senior politician in Nigeria...(is it not to be expected? Especially with all their unholy loots) Abeg gullible Nigerians begin to follow Prophet Totfulguy. I feel sorry for people who are irredeemably configured to be permanently deceived!

My daughter (2+) started school recently and I really feared she will catch a flu and she did (mild flu tho, thankfully). She has been on mid-term break since Wednesday this week so she has been home. Normally when I return home, the routine thing she does is tell me something that will make me give her ALL my attention...Anything from "My hand is paining me" or "My teacher bit (past tense of bite) me" or the bus hit my hand"...ANYTHING for daddy to say "Oh Angel sorry" or "Where did she bite you" and then I will have to touch the area she is complaining about and to promise to "deal with ANYONE" who disturbed her (Including her grandmother who looks after her ). Then she'd calm down and begin to play.

When I came home on Thursday, as usual she was at the door and she said "Daddy am hot" and then she said "my nose is running away". And I stood there and held the urge to burst into a very loud laugh. (I try not to laugh at her to avoid stifling her freedom and willingness to approach me)

I knew she was referring to her "runny nose" that was due to her cold. When I got into the room, I had the laugh of the month.

adewumiopeyemi:
A true life story and I know little about the story. Read below:

“I’m so confused, I don’t know what to do. My roommate is dating our landlord and they do have s.ex under the same roof we are living. We are students but we live off campus.

Our landlord should be in his 40s and he is married with 2 kids, our landlord and his family lives in the same building with us. The first day I knew they were dating was when I caught them making love in our room although I’ve been suspecting their movement before I caught them together.

My roommate confessed to me that she’s dating him and they’ve been going out for over 4 months now.

My problem now is our landlord’s wife is a very nice woman, she’s one of the most nicest people I’ve ever met, she gives us food, money and she treats us like her sisters. I still remember the last time I misplaced N3200 for my medical in school, it was our landlord’s wife that gave me N4000 to pay for it and she has also helped this my roommate countless time.

Knowing my friend and my landlord doing extra ordinary is giving me guilty conscience each time I see the landlord’s wife. Do you think I should tell the landlord’s wife?”

Well you have a choice to make. Now that you know they are sleeping with each other and you KNOW what they are doing is WRONG, you become an accomplice and equally guilty if you do not tell your landlords wife. If you fear to loose your friend, then you would have betrayed a woman who treats you like her sister and daughter. And she is still giving and being nice to you. Its the wrong way to repay good. Would you like someone to sleep with your husband?

Tell your friend to STOP what she is doing (since you may be feeling that you cant face your landlord). I am not sure you want to be as guilty as the offender for refusing to speak up. If you are living with your friend (that's if she is accommodating you) you may want to find a way to relocate. If you are housing her, then you should ask her to stop or leave your house. In not talking you are as guilty as she is (Even though you are not sleeping with your landlord)

Tell your friend to stop what she is doing.

Send me a mail and I will advise you.

A neighbour's son was in the habit of asking for whatever he saw with anyone...(bread, biscuits, toys, pencil etc). His mother was furious on discovering this and warned her son NEVER to beg ANYONE for anything. And if anyone gave him ANYTHING he had to show it to her FIRST. On this day he came out of their apartment with lollipop and was licking it hungrily and playing around with it...(And we are very fond of him). One of the neigbours (a guy) saw him and decided to tease him a bit. And this conversation ensued;

Neighbour: Simeon give me your lollipop.

Simeon: Mummy said dont beg.

Classic! Epic!

I told my daughter (2+) to ALWAYS say please whenever she wants a thing or asks for anything. This evening she (as usual) goes to fiddle with my laptop and a conversation ensued.
Me: Please can you leave my laptop
My daughter: (in her baby voice) Can you please stop saying that.
Hmmm! People, it's MY laptop we are talking about here and her mum has a laptop.

adanny01:
For those who know Hausa but i will translate.

My then little cousin came visiting in my house, she mostly spoke in English.

After eating lunch with her and my sisters, we all had too much to eat and i said in Hausa, "Na Koshi" meaning i am full. My sisters said same too. This little cousin of mine repeated same words. Then a thought crossed my mind that if this girl speaks only in English, does she know what she just repeated after us? So i asked her a question.

Bethel, how will you say "Na koshi" in English. With her finger on the head like she was thinking she replied "emmmmmmmmmmmm Eat koshi". Come and see laughter.

Lol!

raffyreuz:
My neighbour's little gal was walkn around wearing just a pant. So mum was like "Blessing,why arn't you wearing your clothes?"

She replied "My cloth have break" lol,i cudn't hold bk the lafta

My neigbour has a Four-Year-Old daughter who is very fund of him. She is always following him around wherever he goes, just like a bodyguard. She started school recently...everytime her school bus comes to pick her to school, you will hear her tell her dad; "Daddy don't go out you hear?" Stay in the house till I come you hear". Daddy's girl want to be sure she will meet her dad when she comes back.