Alesa3341: Hello Guys, please I need a sincere and matured advise on what to do. This will be long, please bare with me.
I'm 27, am a businessman, I have this girl I really love so much and intend to marry her this year December, but one thing about her is her bad character. She challenge me, talk back at me, shout at me, get angry with me for days, refuse to cook when she is angry, disrespect my family, most especially my mum, always trying to paint herself good and paint me bad in presence of people, these are just little of the things she has done to me.
When she lost her job, and had nowhere to go, I had to bring her to my house, and provide everything for her, food, I change her hair twice a month, subscribe unlimited for her, I just provided everything a woman need to be happy for her. Last year November, she told me she haven't seen her mum for 5years and wanted to travel to see her, I spent close to 200k to take her to and fro, including other things she needed. She insisted on collecting the bride price list for me when coming back, I spoke to her mum and they gave her to give me. I was planning to finalize all on the weeding this year.
Last year DECEMBER, I took her to my family to introduce her, but this was the biggest mistake of my life. She was completely disrespectful to my mum, talks to me anyhow in presence of anyone, even to the extent of refusing to cook for me anytime she is angry, I go to kitchen and prepare food myself.
I love this girl so much but I still thought of continuing, with all this attitudes, I advise her everyday, I also took her to my pastor who advise her too most of the times, but she never changes.
Fast forward to 2days ago, we had issues because she told me to join her in washing and I refused because I was working on a client project, she got angry, washed the clothes and when it was evening she brought the clothes inside, folded her own in the wardrobe and just threw mine into the wardrobe without folding or arranging them. I was angry about this, but I kept mute. The next day, she sent me "sorry" on WhatsApp, I told her to come to me physically and apologize but she told me she can never do that, and why was she even apologizing, that she did nothing wrong, we exchanged words and she left my house.
Today, she called me and told me she is pregnant, and that I should send her money to remove it. I was like "just like that"? We didn't discuss about it, how will you just tell me you want to terminate my pregnancy, I told her to go to hospital and confirm it and also get the test report, she did this and sent to me, it was true she is pregnant, but she insisted on removing it, I persuaded her and she still refused, claiming she can't be a single mother. I told her I will take responsibility, but she insisted on removing it, I told her to go home and think about it, and she told me she can't leave there without removing it. After so much persuading I decided to give her the money, and told her if she removed it, that it's on her, that I didn't consent to this.
I asked her why we can't keep it, and she said because my family is bad, we support evil, if the sky is blue, we say it's red, that my mother is a bad woman, and she doesn't want to come there. She said so many bad things about my family, I was shocked! I asked her, how are they bad, she said "how can my mother be telling her to wash my clothes" I was just confused, After all I have done for you, is it bad if you wash your husband to be clothes, I left her!
Later she told me the doctor referred her to another hospital, I still tried to persuade her and she said her decision is final. She asked me to give her money to go to the hospital she was referred to, I refused! I insisted that we keep the baby, she told me "I'm a nobody, that she will call now and she will get money to go" I angrily blocked her. Later, she called my other line and told me, she went to the other hospital and the doctor told her, the cost to remove the pregnancy is 125k, she told me and I insisted on keeping the baby.
Please guys help.me, I don't want to terminate my first child, the girl is too disrespectful and rude, I don't want to continue with such woman, but she is carrying my baby, what do I do? And if she later agree to keep it, how do I go about it?
You all are just saying "don't marry her" what about the baby? Should I agree to abort it and give her the money?
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Do not let her trap you with the pregnancy. You have taken a stand, stand by it- she should not willfully terminate the pregnancy. If she insist to have her way; no problem that is her choice and she will be answerable to God. On other hand she decides to keep the pregnancy make sure you fulfill your responsibilities during this period and afterward to your born baby. However, do not marry that lady.
Toneypen247: Lol. All these Agbado and Mikano boys can rejoice now because they have seen something that will make Peter Obi lose the election. Confused lot
Someone should explain to these confused lots that there is no essence in paying tax in an area you stopped doing business with a long time ago. Simply put that the business is no longer functioning there. This happened about three years ago, but Agbado and Mikano boys are already salivating thinking that Peter Obi is like their principals who have a skeleton in their cupboards
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Someone should explain to these confused lots that there is no essence in paying tax in an area you stopped doing business with a long time ago. Simply put that the business is no longer functioning there. This happened about three years ago, but Agbado and Mikano boys are already salivating thinking that Peter Obi is like their principals who have a skeleton in their cupboards grin
Fmartin: I am dating a lady, and we are about to get married. She's already carrying my baby. I have taken her to my parents. I have never taken a lady to my parents before. I have seen her parents too, and have communicated my intention to marry their daughter.
The only thing holding me now is to get things in order before paying her dowry.
The main problem now is that we keep having issues, coz, she's always making calls with her exs. i have confronted her on Several occasions, we have had fights, physical fights as well.
She told me she dont have the guts to tell them to stop calling her. She can only keep playing them till they walk away. I told her i dont have that Luxury of patience. She has to choose between me and her exs.
Now, the issue is that she's pregnant and I have already taken her to my parents, they all like her.
I would have broken up if not because of the pregnancy. Coz, I wouldn't want to leave her with the pregnancy like that. To make matters worse, She have a kid out of wedlock. Though the father of the baby and her are not in good terms.
I hhave told her to stop making calls with her ex, but she seems sturbon. She's ready for me to Change her sim card but I want her to use her sanity and end things with her ex in a boldly manner rather than hiding under the guise of changing sim. I have registered a new sim, but It's still with me, I have not given her.
Am confused, I need you guys advices for way forward. No think insult, coz I gaht over dose. Peace.....
If you need peace in life, run away from that lady. Please, get it right, I did not write walk away, I mean RUN away.
Tinubuadvocate: Igbo pastor all what they know is our enemy die die .Even when jesus said pray for your enemies.
They do not pray for their enemy to die, rather what they pray to die is the evil spirits(demons) manipulating the enemy against them. Please, for people that still believe that spirits do not die, read the scripture; Matthew 8:28-32.
happiness32: This warehouse economist of a man don come again. Is it bad for the NPA to have an office in London? The biggest city in the world? What if that’s a way of generating revenue for the NPA to become self reliant at the London office? How will any sane president not want his country to have an efficient ports office in one of the biggest cities in the world. Now I agree with Tinubu, Obi is just a warehouse economist and trader who couldn’t transform Anambra but wants to transform Nigeria. Bala bulu economics
Are you aware that the Nigerian Ports Authority is the only Port Authority in the world that has an office outside its country of operation?
None of the Asian Tigers Ports Authority has office outside her shores not withstanding their high volume of trade globally.
obembet: As we all know that year 2022 has been a wonderful year, the year of Survival. I believe that year 2022 is a year many of us can not forget in a hurry. Despite the sad news, many of us still achieve our goals.
So therefore, what are the things are u appreciating God for?
As for me, I really appreciate God for the Gift of life and protection over me and my family throughout the year 2022
I am grateful and thanking God for everything, both for the good and not so good because I believe all worked and still working for my good and wellness.
Oga, please allow Nigerian electorates to decide. You can cast your vote to a party which in time past or currently controls forty{40} states. That is your personal choice.
Masama: The voice is also an instrument, it's not compulsory that you must play other instruments before you become a musician
Your voice is a gift from God, playing one or more musical instruments is acquired skill which makes one a complete musician. If you cannot play any musical instrument, you are only just a singer.
Zikojukwu: Primate Elijah Ayodele, the Leader of INRI Evangelical Spiritual Church, on Tuesday warned Bola Tinubu, National Leader of the All Progressives Congress, APC, against contesting the 2023 presidency.
Primate Ayodele warned Tinubu to seek the face of God because he may not survive till 2023.
Speaking exclusively with DAILY POST, the clergyman warned that the former Lagos State governor may suffer same fate as MKO Abiola.
Noting that the APC National Leader would be risking his life, Ayodele said Tinubu was being deceived to contest.
Primate Ayodele also charged the former Peoples Democratic Party, PDP, presidential candidate, Atiku Abubakar against contesting.
He said: “Let Atiku go and rest while Tinubu should consult God for him to survive till that time in good health.
“Tinubu is very desperate to become Nigeria’s president at all cost, he should be conscious of his health implications and should be aware that he has to seek the face of God if he wants to further because so many things are going to happen in the process.
“Tinubu is risking his life for opting to run in the next election. PDP may break because of Atiku.
“These two people; Atiku should go and take his rest and Tinubu is risking his life, he will be molested, embarrassed.
“I tell you they will drag Tinubu the way they dragged Abiola, he has not done what is right for him to contest for 2023 presidency.
“Some people are just hailing him but he will goof in so many ways. He is a good man to rule Nigeria but not divinely nominated. He is being deceived.”
Tinubu and the Atiku are yet to declare their intention to run for the presidency in 2023.
Despite their silence on this issue, some Nigerians have being clamouring for both men to contest the election.
“Some people are just hailing him but he will goof in so many ways. He is a good man to rule Nigeria but not divinely nominated. He is being deceived.”
When you see men of God, show respect. This was prophetic utterance released May last year.
Napata77: Ode, the old airport terminal was like a 1980s bus station.
Buhari came in and built a massive brand new terminal that was commissioned in 2018.
The re-modelling of the airports was initiated in 2014 by former president Jonathan with a $500m loan from Chinese government. The contract was awarded to CECCC, a Chinese company.
I do not know the actual cost of the project, but are you aware that rail line in the original design of that project was skipped. That was why the cost of executing the project was less of what Jonathan administration had earmarked, persons who did not have this information will think that the previous government inflated the cost of constructing the bridge.
Wagwanbrethren: Governments constantly run a budget deficit, at every level. So for those who might say 'how about tax' no, taxes aren't always enough.
Toll bridges are a little different. Big bridges are incredibly expensive to construct, so the builders need a way to recuperate that enormous loss of cash. Whether the bridge was built by a government, the private sector, or a partnership of the two, projects like that are only viable if they can partially pay for themselves through tolls. For example, the Ambassador Bridge (the busiest crossing on the USA_ Canada states border) is 100% privately owned, and earns the owner about $60,000,000 per year in revenue. In theory, the tolls pay for repairs, maintenance, and upgrades for the road. In practice, however, abuses occurs. Occasionally the toll money goes to projects besides the road itself. But generally the toll roads are better maintained and thus less wear and tear on.
Truth is, government has to recover part of the cost of making new highways. It must not be forever. After 10 years it should be discontinued. It depends on how construction and maintenance was financed. Every so often, the taxpayers agree to build a bridge. Other times they may object to the cost and only agree to partial funding. In that case, people using the bridge are charged a toll until the costs are paid off. In some cases, it’s never paid off.
Truth is, government has to recover part of the cost of making new highways. It must not be forever. After 10 years it should be discontinued. It depends on how construction and maintenance was financed. Every so often, the taxpayers agree to build a bridge. Other times they may object to the cost and only agree to partial funding. In that case, people using the bridge are charged a toll until the costs are paid off. In some cases, it’s never paid off.
No fund was borrowed to complete this project, it was funded with the repatriated Abacha loot.
Raheeqilmaktoom: Saying things as they are is fanning the embers of disunity?
You would rather have innocent travelers tagged killer herdsmen and killed for no reason? That's what unity means to you?
I do not support shedding of innocent blood, human life is sacrosanct even that of criminals. The point I am stressing is, we should not escalate the issue to a point there will be a kind of tribal disaffection.
OyigboUpdate: Remember this thread? https://www.nairaland.com/7470445/armed-herdsmen-intercepted-enugu-burnt The truth is out We will continue ringing it to them there is no killer herdsmen in Igbo land. Remember Nnamdi Kanu himself was posting about killer herdsmen in Rivers State and the need for ESN but since Wike smoked them off it's over 2 years plus no killer fulani in Rivers state.
I believe former governor Oyetola has skeleton in his cupboard, why did he object to setting up of a transition committee where the two parties would interfaced on pressing matters which would have make for smooth take off of the present administration.
Offpointng: Remain like that bro. You're empty doesn't mean you're not happy cuz statistical study have make us believe Relatives from the father's side are close to being very useless. but Ion know your full story sha, but Papa wey no look for you all these years till you turn 25, what gives you the assurance he'll care or give a F about you?
You do not seem to understand the word 'EMPTY'; and I wonder were you got your statistics, maybe that is your personal experience and should not be generalized. You need to understand there is a strong emotional vacuum that needs to be occupied and it is only he who knows it feels it.
ElBenny: Hi guys. I need your comment and advice on this matte.
I got to know this girl from a friend back in July. She's a 23 year old final year LLB student and I'm 27 years old Lab Scientist.
We got talking at first and I began to develop interest in her. She's calm, cool headed and has never even bothered me with any financial needs (which I'm still stunned about, very unlikely of Port Harcourt girls).
I'm very selective of girls but found this one to be very decent and maybe different. I have plans of taking things serious with her.
We've gone out in a date at a bar once and it was all shades of amazing, there we shared our first kiss.
Just recently, on Sunday, a friend celebrated his birthday at a night club here in PH (411). I thought to invite this babe, she was pleased and accepted the invite.
We got there, ate, drank and it was dancing time with the DJ and hypeman. We danced and she was wild on the dance floor with me. I was quite surprised but kept my cool because of the atmosphere.
The next shock happened, one of the big boys began throwing money up in the air, minted ₦100 & 200 notes and this babe legit left me and began picking money on the ground.
I brought her close, but she would let go and kept fighting with the crowd for the cash, she was almost trampled on. For more than 15 minutes, I watched her picking. I was quite embarrassed.
Shortly after, we left and I dropped her off.
I've not been the same again since then, I've struggled with myself to communicate with her unlike before.
I know money is important, but is that a bad sign? Is this a red flag? Should I ignore her actions and forge ahead? I'm really confused.
She's calm, cool headed and has never even bothered me with any financial needs (which I'm still stunned about, very unlikely of Port Harcourt girls).
At least you now know why she is not bothering you and you are complaining. Oya oga take care of her financial needs, then watch if she will still pick money in public.
YourhealthNG2: The problem of Nigeria has remained the same in the past 4 decades so expectedly the solutions will be similar. However, what stands Peter Obi out is sincerity of purpose and political will for diligent implementation of the solutions
Exactly. They want to coerce him to divulge his template to solving the problems which he had held close to his chest with a promise not to let the cat out of the bag.
Madam activist, the Holy book says, " Therefore all things whatsoever ye would that men should do to you: do ye even so to them: for this is the law and the prophets." That's the 'Golden Rule'.
Asawa Joe, you cannot claim to be ignorant of current but unfortunate political development in PDP in some states, including Benue state. Why would you wear campaign T-shirt of a candidate who did not mobilize your state governor for campaign to a political rally organized by the governor and his supporters. Haa! Indeed common sense is not common.
buckeyemedia: Till date, still waiting to hear the reason, why the Judas abandoned Apga who made him Governor for 8 years, immediately his tenure was over.
Study the difference between parochial and liberal/broad mindedness.
[b]The party urged the governor to settle down to study the handover notes, so as to prevent the blunders he was committing.
In a statement signed by its Director of Operations, Sunday Akere, APC said: “We told you from day one that these people have nothing to offer. We can all see from their first action that they are even confused. “They had told us long time ago that they were coming to sack. They came and announced it. Why set up a panel after taking a decision? What they are doing can be likened to doing ablution after observing prayers. Who does that?”
Why is APC wailing when it failed to set up a transition committee where these issues could have been discussed and ironed out.
gloryhomemaker: This is a simple Okro soup recipe with all the easy to follow steps included. Okro is a very healthy vegetable, and this cook with me video gives all the details on how to cook the Nigerian Okro soup in a special and healthy way.
STEPS: Its important to prep all the ingredients before you start cooking. That way, it is easier and your food turns out better. Season the meat with onions, seasoning cubes and salt and start cooking. When the meat boils, add in water and cook till tender. Wash and slice the Okro and Uziza leaves. Blend the peppers roughly or as you wish. Add in palm oil in a pot on heat, add in chopped onions and stir fry for a minute. Add in Iru and stir fry for 2 minutes. Add in blended crayfish and stir fry for 30 seconds. Add in the blended peppers and stir fry all for 5 minutes. Add in seasoning and salt, don't add too much oooooo. Bring in the cooked meat with its broth. Add in the washed and deboned smoked Titus fish. Add in the smoked shrimps. Taste for the seasoning and salt and adjust if need be. Cover and cook for 2 minutes. Add in the sliced Okro and Uziza leaves at once. Stir and add in some more blended crayfish for extra flavour. Cover to cook for 2 minutes max. Take it out the heat. Serve and enjoy with any swallow of your choice.
I think after adding the sliced okra and oziza, one do not need to cover the pot in these the okra go draw wella.
The judiciary has performed their duty, what is left now is for the executive arm of government to carry out their own part. Presidency over to you, 'Rule of law calls to obey'.
Family › Re: My Ex Fiancee Is Pregnant For Me by TYCO77: 3:49pm On Jan 13, 2023
