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Family › Re: How Facebook Relationship Ended 11-yr-old Marriage by umehmj(m): 11:42pm On Nov 20, 2015
CR77:
i need Sense cool
end time sense
Nairaland General › Quote Of The Day by umehmj(op): 8:10pm On Nov 20, 2015
Any man that uses his teeth to cut shaki from pepper soup with his eyes open is not afraid of anything ~ Barack Obama
Romance › Re: Why Do Most Handsome Guys Beg? by umehmj(m): 7:47pm On Nov 20, 2015
LadyJul:
Why is it that most handsome guys like begging money from girls? Every time they'll begging money and expecting girls to give them money because of their looks....Most of them don't even know how to treat a lady right....They treat ladies like rag and believe they can get any lady because of their looks.....To hell with their handsome face....I'll choose a not too handsome guy anyday, anytime.....
end time handsome guys. nne biko choose me na. i am not handsome, my pockets are.
Family › Re: How Facebook Relationship Ended 11-yr-old Marriage by umehmj(m): 7:34pm On Nov 20, 2015
end time marriage
TV/Movies › Re: Transgender Woman Commits Sucide After She Was Sent To Male Prison by umehmj(op): 7:29pm On Nov 20, 2015
thenny312:
Can some pls enlighten me on dis Transgender issue......... is it dat they r born like dat or wat sad
as in gender wey dey for trans lol.


don't mind me. transgender is the end product when a guy/babe undergoes surgical procedure to become a babe/guy. don't get it?...... right. use your Google
Romance › Re: Girls What Attracts You When U 1st Sees A Guy by umehmj(m): 7:22pm On Nov 20, 2015
luvguy:
Aboki
haba! aboki kwo? dan iska wawa
Romance › Re: Girls What Attracts You When U 1st Sees A Guy by umehmj(m): 4:55pm On Nov 20, 2015
PunkyVeer:
Ok, good looks are a bonus & pleasant to the eyes. HOWEVER, for me, attraction doesn't develop until I have spoken to the person. My main attraction is words. I love a guy that speaks well. Words are a gateway to his mind & there better be someone home in there because, here's a tongue twister- I don't do dumb dudes grin
bebe i was the man for you. i speaking well grin
PunkyVeer:
Ok, good looks are a bonus & pleasant to the eyes. HOWEVER, for me, attraction doesn't develop until I have spoken to the person. My main attraction is words. I love a guy that speaks well. Words are a gateway to his mind & there better be someone home in there because, here's a tongue twister- I don't do dumb dudes grin
bebe i was the man for you. i speaking well
Romance › Re: Girls What Attracts You When U 1st Sees A Guy by umehmj(m): 3:10pm On Nov 20, 2015
luvguy:
mr. Lecturer correct de sentence den
ha dunno the correct spell o
TV/Movies › Re: Transgender Woman Commits Sucide After She Was Sent To Male Prison by umehmj(op): 3:07pm On Nov 20, 2015
Bambless1:
See As She Be Like Vampire!
hahahahaha
Romance › Re: Girls What Attracts You When U 1st Sees A Guy by umehmj(m): 3:04pm On Nov 20, 2015
luvguy:
gals we wnt u 2 share ur xperiences if any, and ur taught abt dis....lets row....!!!
see as this guys carrying sledge hammer murdered english. i thinking only i got hammer. well Hactually what attraction my girls to me is my fat wallet hand big oblocus
TV/Movies › Transgender Woman Commits Sucide After She Was Sent To Male Prison by umehmj(op): 2:51pm On Nov 20, 2015
A transgender woman who had threatened to kill herself if she was sent to a men’s prison has been found dead. Vicky Thompson, 21, was serving a 12-month term at HMP Leeds after breaching a suspended sentence.

Solicitor, Mohammed Hussain had advised the judge she was “essentially a woman” and asked for her to be sent to New Hall women’s prison, near Wakefield. Daily mirror reports Ms Thompson, who had not undergone gender reassignment surgery , was so distraught at being jailed with men she warned she would commit suicide.

Prison rules state convicts should be placed according to their gender “as recognised by UK law” – that usually means as stated on their birth certificate. Thompson of Keighley, West Yorks, had identified as female since her teens but did not have reassignment surgery

Celebrities › After Leaving Husband, New Lover Beats Celebrated Nollywood Actress To Stupor by umehmj(op): 10:30am On Nov 20, 2015
The once happily married actress who got married to Adeniyi Johnson and was always happy to flaunt their affairs on social media has since abandoned her matrimonial home over infidelity on the part of her husband.

Despite the husband going on same social media where they have celebrated their love to admit to the wrong doing and also apologized to her, Toyin still went ahead to abandon her matrimonial home. Weeks back, it was reported that the actress who is also the vice president of Actors Guild of Nigeria (AGN) has moved in with new lover popularly Seun Egbegbe who is a popular socialite. Toyin was quick to have denied ever been in a relationship with Egbegbe but agreed that he is merely her run-to friend.

Toyin’s denial of not having a relationship with Egbegbe is said to have put her in trouble with the socialite who it was alleged beat her to a pulp. This it was said have kept Toyin away from Instagram which she is addicted to as she has abandoned it for days. Toyin is alleged to have since relocated to her parents’ home to heal up after the beating.

Politics › Carter Says Jonathan Is Africa's Symbol Of Democracy by umehmj(op): 10:19am On Nov 20, 2015
Former United States President Jimmy Carter has described Nigeria’s former President Goodluck Jonathan as the symbol of democracy in Africa.

According to The Nation, Carter, the 39th US President, showered praises on the Peoples Democratic Party (PDP) chieftain at the Jimmy Carter Presidential Library and Museum located at the Carter Center in Atlanta.
Carter and Jonathan were said to have discussed a wide range of issues during the meeting, including how to promote peace, democracy and good governance on the African continent and the world at large.

“President Goodluck Jonathan is the symbol of democracy in action. You set an example that other African leaders should follow,” the former US leader said. While also praising Jonathan for organizing a
transparent election, easily conceding defeat and handing over to the opposition, Carter said Jonathan showed his deep democratic commitment.

Jonathan, in his response, said that his actions while in office were based on his belief in a peaceful, transparent and people-oriented governance. He added that Africa can only move forward through democracy and good governance and while commending Carter for the exemplary manner he had in his post-presidential life, the former African leader, noted that he
(Jonathan) was inspired by Carter’s commitment to causes that advance the path of humanity

Since his ouster as Nigeria’s president a few months back, Jonathan has been visiting many strategic pro-democracy institutions on invitation, to share his experience in office as a promoter of democracy and advocate of good governance in Africa. And as he adds another year to his years today, i say happy birthday to my hero, my menthor.

Webmasters › Re: Facebook & Youtube Problem by umehmj(m): 12:40am On Nov 20, 2015
thought it's just me. i use airtel and i haven't been able to access my fbk on opera
Romance › Re: My Dad Is So Good In Bed; Cant Stop Sleeping With Him by umehmj(op): 12:20am On Nov 20, 2015
kokoA:
Let her come and try my dad naw.. she will never go back to her dad. I believe my pale die! Horsepower!
don't tell me you dey peep am when he dey with your maleh?
Romance › My Dad Is So Good In Bed; Cant Stop Sleeping With Him by umehmj(op): 7:06pm On Nov 19, 2015
A Kenyan girl says she will prefer having sex with
her biological father than her boyfriend Anthony.

In a phone interview with Kate Vobik, a morning show presenter at “Hero Radio” 99.0FM located in Nakuru Kenya. The girl identified on as Stella openly said that
she has been having sex with her dad for 4 yrs now.

“Yes I’ve been sleeping with my dad for 4
years now” She said.

She’s now 25 yrs old and confesses to be the one
who approached her father for sex.

“He has money, he’s hot, I even envy my mum, I just can’t resist him [Her Father] Stella explains her dad has a good body and has it all.

“My dad is so good in bed”
She even narrates an incident in which she went
with her father to Mombasa for a week of marathon sex
“We were fucking”.. Ok we were making love. She says her father give her money and she owns a big house..

“Would never leave him for anyone else”. Stella’s mother is still alive but the daughter says the mum is not aware of the affair with the mum’s man who doubles as her father and lover.
Politics › Re: Buhari Inspects Made-in-nigeria Peugeot Cars(photos) by umehmj(m): 6:50pm On Nov 19, 2015
ify2016:
Good President. Hope previous rulers are seeing the handwork of a good leader. More are yet to come.
nne na good luck jonah initiate am.

#teamgoodgovernance
Nairaland General › Re: Stop Comparing Yourself To Others by umehmj(op): 10:35pm On Nov 18, 2015
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Nairaland General › Re: Stop Comparing Yourself To Others by umehmj(op): 10:32pm On Nov 18, 2015
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Nairaland General › Re: Stop Comparing Yourself To Others by umehmj(op): 10:30pm On Nov 18, 2015
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Nairaland General › Re: Stop Comparing Yourself To Others by umehmj(op): 10:29pm On Nov 18, 2015
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Nairaland General › Re: Stop Comparing Yourself To Others by umehmj(op): 10:07pm On Nov 18, 2015
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Nairaland General › Stop Comparing Yourself To Others by umehmj(op): 10:06pm On Nov 18, 2015
this is why

Romance › Re: 'I Waited Until My Wedding Night To Lose My Virginity And I Wish I Hadn’'t by umehmj(m): 1:32pm On Nov 17, 2015
no doubt the op is a dicck! not only is the story not his original write up but he selfishly want us to click on his damn link. well lemme import the full story here




At the age of 10, I took a pledge at my church
alongside a group of other girls to remain a virgin
until marriage. Yes, you read that right — I was
10 years old.
Let’s take a look at who I was as a 10-year-old: I
was in fourth grade. I played with Barbie dolls
and had tea parties with imaginary friends. I
pretended I was a mermaid every time I took a
bath. I still thought boys were icky and I had no
idea I liked girls, too. I wouldn’t get my period for
another four years. And most importantly, I didn’t
have a clue about sex.
The church taught me that sex was for married
people. Extramarital sex was sinful and dirty and
I would go to Hell if I did it. I learned that as a
girl, I had a responsibility to my future husband
to remain pure for him. It was entirely possible
that my future husband wouldn’t remain pure for
me, because he didn’t have that same
responsibility, according to the Bible. And of
course, because I was a Christian, I would forgive
him for his past transgressions and fully give
myself to him, body and soul.
Once I got married, it would be my duty to fulfill
my husband’s sexual needs. I was told over and
over again, so many times I lost count, that if I
remained pure, my marriage would be blessed by
God and if I didn’t that it would fall apart and end
in tragic divorce.
I believed it. Why wouldn’t I? I was young and
these were people I trusted. Everyone knew I’d
taken the virginity vow, of course. Gossip is the
lifeblood of the Baptist Church. My parents were
so proud of me for making such a spiritual
decision. The church congregation applauded my
righteousness.
For more than a decade, I wore my virginity like a
badge of honor. My church encouraged me to do
so, saying my testimony would inspire other
young girls to follow suit. If the topic ever came
up in conversation, I was happy to let people
know that I had taken a pledge of purity.
It became my entire identity by the time I hit my
teen years. When I met my then boyfriend-now
husband, I told him right away that I was saving
myself for marriage and he was fine with that
because it was my body, my choice and he loved
me.
We were together for six years before we got
married. Any time we did anything remotely
sexual, guilt overwhelmed me. I wondered where
the line was because I was terrified to cross it.
Was he allowed to touch my breasts? Could we
look at each other naked? I didn’t know what was
considered sexual enough to condemn my future
marriage and send me straight to Hell.
An unhealthy mixture of pride, fear, and guilt
helped me keep my pledge until we got married.
In the weeks before our wedding, I often got
congratulated on keeping my virginity for so long.
The comments ranged from curious (how in the
world did you manage?) to downright disgusting (I
bet you’re going to have one busy wedding night!)
. I let them place me on the pedestal as their
virginal, perfect-Christian-girl mascot.
I lost my virginity on my wedding night, with my
husband, just as I had promised that day when I
was 10 years old. I stood in the hotel bathroom
beforehand, wearing my white lingerie, thinking, “I
made it. I’m a good Christian.” There was no
chorus of angels, no shining light from Heaven. It
was just me and my husband in a dark room,
fumbling with a condom and a bottle of lube for
the first time.
Sex hurt. I knew it would. Everyone told me it
would be uncomfortable the first time. What they
didn’t tell me is that I would be back in the
bathroom afterward, crying quietly for reasons I
didn’t yet comprehend. They didn’t tell me that I’d
be on my honeymoon, crying again, because sex
felt dirty and wrong and sinful even though I was
married and it was supposed to be okay now.
When we got home, I couldn’t look anyone in the
eye. Everyone knew my virginity was gone. My
parents, my church, my friends, my co-workers.
They all knew I was soiled and tarnished. I wasn’t
special anymore. My virginity had become such
an essential part of my personality that I didn’t
know who I was without it.
It didn’t get better. I avoided undressing in front
of my husband. I tried not to kiss him too often
or too amorously so I wouldn’t lead him on. I
dreaded bedtime. Maybe he’d want to have sex.
When he did, I obliged. I wanted nothing more
than to make him happy because I loved him so
much and because I’d been taught it was my duty
to fulfill his needs. But I hated sex. Sometimes I
cried myself to sleep because I wanted to like it,
because it wasn’t fair. I had done everything
right. I took the pledge and stayed true to it.
Where was the blessed marriage I was promised?
I let it go on this way for almost two years before
I broke down. I just couldn’t do it anymore. I told
my husband everything. My feminist husband was
horrified that I’d let him touch me when I didn’t
want him to. He made me promise I’d never do
anything I didn’t want to do ever again. We
stopped having sex. He encouraged me to see a
therapist and I did. It was the first step on a long
journey to healing.
Ten-year-old girls want to believe in fairy tales.
Take this pledge and God will love you so much
and be so proud of you, they told me. If you wait
to have sex until marriage, God will bring you a
wonderful Christian husband and you’ll get
married and live happily ever after, they said.
Waiting didn’t give me a happily ever after.
Instead, it controlled my identity for over a
decade, landed me in therapy, and left me a
stranger in my own skin. I was so completely
ashamed of my body and my sexuality that it
made having sex a demoralizing experience.
I don’t go to church anymore, nor am I religious.
As I started to heal, I realized that I couldn’t
figure out how to be both religious and sexual at
the same time. I chose sex. Every single day is a
battle to remember that my body belongs to me
and not to the church of my childhood. I have to
constantly remind myself that a pledge I took
when I was only 10 doesn’t define who I am
today. When I have sex with my husband, I make
sure it’s because I have a sexual need and not
because I feel I’m required to fulfill his desires.
I’m now thoroughly convinced that the entire
concept of virginity is used to control female
sexuality. If I could go back, I would not wait. I
would have sex with my then-boyfriend-now-
husband and I wouldn’t go to hell for it. We
would have gotten married at a more appropriate
age and I would have kept my sexuality to
myself.
Unfortunately, I can’t go back but I can give you
this message as a culmination of my experiences:
If you want to wait to have sex until marriage
make sure it’s because you want to. It’s your
body; it belongs to you, not your church. Your
sexuality is nobody’s business but yours.
Romance › Re: What Will You Do When Your Gf Calls You A Bastard! by umehmj(m): 6:39pm On Nov 16, 2015
are you a bastardhuh?
Health › Re: HIV Prevalence Ranking: Rivers State Most Rampant, Ekiti The Safest by umehmj(m): 4:48pm On Nov 16, 2015
ayusco85:
Came to check the state with the highest. Who else came for Dat reason
me too plus to see the ranking of anambra,enugu, and ebonyi cos that's the three states i shuttle if you know what i mean lol
Romance › Re: Tell Him I Love Him by umehmj(m): 10:47am On Nov 16, 2015
sameer1212:
Lol... Thank You!
cheers!! hasta la vista. I'm off
Romance › Re: Tell Him I Love Him by umehmj(m): 10:35am On Nov 16, 2015
midehi2:
pls let this end, it might not go down well, he lost the mother of his child

osedvgirl this is all your fault, you would have just PM this guy without your bullshit love thread

sameer1212 am out of this thread, because am getting upset now, moreover this is monday morning in the office
owki-dowki. let's call it a wrap please
Romance › Re: Tell Him I Love Him by umehmj(m): 10:29am On Nov 16, 2015
sameer1212:
Not physically anymore cos she is late now. She will always be in my heart. I missed Her very much. embarassed
aww! sad...that settles it na. you have a daughter, your baby mama is late (rest her soul), your crush knows all about it (i guess? ) but it doesn't matter (cos it doesn't really matter ). If you feel same way she feels about you, i don't see why you two shouldn't get on with the program. well unless you a seeing someone else. im no fan of two-timers

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