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This two should get married.

FanRong:
I'm sorry, this post is going to be a long one. But you're saving a soul if you read through and advice candidly.


My story
We've dated for 6months and we've lived together for the 6months.

On our 3rd month, I found her interesting and told her I'll like to marry her. She accepted but no engagement ring or anything to show. We just accepted by word of mouth.

Since then, I've worked towards it. I've told her to call her mum and eldest brother(dad is late) to relate my idea and understand their feeling since it won't be that easy to marry. (same state, but my people and her people are highly selective in marriage)

After several persuasion, and threat that I'll throw her out if she doesn't relate the circumstances to her family, she called the mum. And again I had to force her to call the eldest brother. She claimed she did. And that's enough. I'm ok.

Meanwhile, there's this guy(her ex) she claims helped her when she came to Lagos. It was when I started accommodating her that I found out in her chats that she was living with this guy, but lied to me she was living with her Aunt and the aunt's husband was harassing her sexually and she wants to leave. She later told me the guy, though provides for him but has never had sex with her, even when she was living in his house. These stories doesn't move me since everyone, who is not a virgin has an ex. So I forgave all that and we moved on.

She wasn't everything I need in a women, but I told myself I could train her the way I want. We continued adjusting to each others likes and dislikes.

I feed her this 6 months, provide comfortable shelter, buy her things she needs,(not want). Told her I'll do more and open a shop for her, if we get married, but she still confronts me asking why should I wait till after marriage? . I didn't allow the words move me cos Its my decision and my money and also, I'm used to gold diggers.

A good number of times, I see her as being selfish. If things doesn't benefit her, she'll not get bothered even if I'm involved.

Just this week, It became obvious to me that she argues everything I request her to do. From 24th Dec, we've been on holiday, we're always at home.
1. I'll wake her up at 9 and ask her to prepare breakfast for the family, she'll prefer to roll on the bed than do it. I'll finally have to do it myself so I can get things done and get busy.

2. I detest girls on eye lashes. I've repeatedly told her how I dislike it, but when she went to fix herself for the Christmas, she fixed the eyelashes, Contrary to my demand.

3. I got her some sneakers to upgrade her fashion style and look smarter, instead of the usual slippers and sandals she wears.
When we prepared to go to the beach few days ago, I requested her to put on the sneakers to look more fashionable, but she refused buttressing that she must wear what she wants, sandals.

4. Few days ago, we had a heated argument and she said that if I'm not happy that she's living with me, that she can go, afterall, she has somewhere to stay. I asked her to go and she immediately called that her ex bf to come to my house. I immediately swung into action, took all her belongings out, before the ex will arrive, at the same time, retrieving the items I gifted her.
While she was struggling to have her gifted items back, our neighbours heard the struggle and had to come and settle for us. She apologized and I forgave her. we were back into the house.

5. Just yesterday , we left home together, and I locked the door and I took the keys with me. We walked down the street together to the Busstop, I have almost no friend and seldomly greet. But there's this my ex girlfriend by the roadside, she saw me and yelled my name, I went to greet her and my Fiancée picked offence, left me without waiting for me. After that I chased her and told her it's nothing because I've told her everything about this ex.
Before we could get to the Busstop, she demanded for the house keys and I gave her since she might come back earlier than me.
We couldn't say bye. The anger was clear on her face and we parted ways.

After about 15mins, I got to where I wanted to make payment for the items I picked only to notice I am not with my transaction phone. I was confused where could I have kept it, the seller insisted I may not have come to his shop with the phone, and the phone rang as I called with my second phone. so I had to call my Fiancée for assistance since she's with the keys.
At first, she said she was still around the Busstop but when I told her I needed her to go home and confirm my phones whereabout, she said she can't go back that she has gone far, shouted on me and hung the phone.

I called and called and called, but she didn't pick. Many thoughts ran into me. Who took this phone? My money? , my phone? , my sim card? . I had to find my way and trekked back about 4km to the house since I had no cash with me. And finally saw the phone ringing in my house. I was relieved.

The way she shouted to me on the phone got me unbalanced, I felt she would be fire if I get this girl as a wife.

We finally traveled to our home state today and I paid the bills for the traveling. My major plan of traveling was to see her people and do the needful before I mistakenly get her pregnant. But I'm seriously contemplating of canceling this plan and throw her out come January. I need peace.

Dear nairalanders, I'm really in the middle of the deep blue sea and the devil.

I need mature and candid advice please.
Should I continue with the marriage plans or the redflags are obvious?

Believe, I can relate to your ordeal.
You're dealing with a WHORÉ with bad upbringing.
Can you allow your daughter live with various guys she's not married to?


I'm sure your girl will have lost count of her BODYCOUNT.
She doesn't love nor respect you and you be making the greatest mistake of your life if you end up marrying her.
The only thing that's still keeping that attention addict with you is that SHE HAS NOT FOUND SOMEONE BETTER THAN YOU, THE MOMENT SHE DOES, SHE WON'T RETHINK DUMPING YOU.

ASK HER TO GO NAKED WITH A BIBLE AND SWEAR WITH HER WOMB AND DAD'S GRAVE THAT SINCE BOTH OF YOU HAVE BEEN DATING, SHE HAS NOT SLEPT WITH ANOTHER GUY.

Mumu
Millions of dollars kọ, trillions of naira ni

Mumu people go just dey call money anyhow.
All this show fit no even pass 50k dollars. Banza poster.

Cheating.

Cheating is something THAT SHOULD NEVER BE FORGIVEN, NO MATTER THE EXCUSE.

Jeon:

This is why I laugh out loud whenever Men said "looks doesn't matter, it's all about character"


Looks matters, if you like call me shallow, IDC.

Looks matter, but purity and character matters the most.
An ugly, clean and modest virgin girl is far better than the most beautiful olosho or girl with numerous BODYCOUNT.

jubrilELsudan:
YOUR MOM IS REALLY VERY STUPID

INFACT YOUR MAMA NA CONFAM WINTCH PLUS EXPIRED VILLAGE ASHY

YOU AND YOUR MAMA IS MOST STUPID OF DA STUPID

Lol
You be weyrey

egobetter4me:
I know a lot of you will blame me after reading this and even want to curse me, but this is my sad story and I just want to put it out there for people to learn. Don't ever let your parents decide your partner for you. Even if you have to run away, do it.

I recently got married to an ugly, short, black, smelly, village girl. At first my uncle took me to see her, then we spoke and she came visiting. All these happened in the village.

When I went back to the city, I told my mom I wasn't interested in her any more, but she insisted I must marry her. My mom would always take my joy by telling me about the girl anytime she sees me happy. There was no breathing space. We live together and I pay the rent. I loved her so much that I could do anything for her. She once sold her wrappers/materials and jewelleries, to send me money for school fees.

Anytime she tries to talk to me about the girl, I will beg her and let her understand that young people like to marry who they truly love. I don't want her, I don't love her and I don't think I will ever will.
After all said and done, she still insisted, so I called my elder bro to come talk to her. He came in from another state and spoke with my mom for hours. She did as if she would allow me marry my choice, just for my brother to go. Immediately my brother left, she started again.

My mom has BP. She stopped using her medication and was ailing. she threatened that if she dies, that I killed her. I thought to myself, that if she truly dies, I might live with the regrets for the rest of my life. I really tried but I was defeated. I succumbed. But before marrying the girl, I spoke to her(the girl) that I don't love her and that I'm marrying her against my wish, but I guess she was desperate. She said I shouldn't worry, that the love would grow in the marriage.

We got married. She lives with me and my mom. Even my neighbours were disappointed in me, when they saw her. Church members and friends were all disappointed. I can't start narrating to them how I got here.

We are over a year gone now and she still irritates me. I so much hate to look at her. We've had sex only about 5 times or so and I have to get high to do this. I only kissed her once(at the alter and I cringed)

I cry everyday.....both at home and while hustling. I never envisaged my life to be like this. I had hoped to meet a beautiful, clean and well mannered graduate from the city. Someone I would truly love and she would love me too. I'd hoped that I would meet her, approach her and we start as friends, then lovers, then I would propose and all. I never planned for it to be like this.

I am so sad with my life. Right now, I'm thinking of applying for masters abroad and probably use the means to Japa and never come back again.

My life is so miserable!

Learn from me. Don't ever let your parents blackmail you into marrying someone you don't love. Pls don't. Just run away for months or few years and they will leave you alone.

First, I HOPE YOU MARRIED HER A VIRGIN OTHERWISE, U A WEYREY AND A DISAPPOINTMENT TO THIS GENERATION.

Shebi dem talk say na another man wife...

And man wanted to stop her from committing suicide...

It's obvious that intimacy and relationship was involved and the cause of the killing now.

THIS IS WHY I HATE ANYTHING THAT HAS TO DO WITH RELATIONSHIP, ESPECIALLY AN INTIMATE ONE OUTSIDE MARRIAGE.

IT'S USUALLY A WASTE OF TIME AND CAUSES MORE HARM AND DAMAGES IN THE END IF IT DOESN'T LEAD TO MARRIAGE.

It's only an avenue for fornication, BILLING and headache and heartaches.

What people are supposed to be doing is few months courtship when marriage intentions is there already.
Sex should be avoided
The past of each partner should be checked and studied.
The family background should be checked as well.
More importantly, THE GIRL'S SEXUAL PAST, THIS IS ONE OF THE MOST IMPORTANT THING. GOING FOR A VIRGIN SAVES YOU PLENTY OF HEADACHE.


Another evil thing about this intimate relationship thing outside marriage is the power and access the ex usually have...
Marrying a NON-VIRGIN girl with multiple ex is extremely dangerous and a tough gamble.
Most girls with more than 2 BODYCOUNT are morally bankrupt. They lack the ability to love, stay loyal and committed to the next relationship.
They'll hardly date one guy at a time, even after marriage, many still sleep with their ex and MOST will still sleep with their ex if they get the opportunity. Their ex usually just have easy access to them...

This useless dead man must have still been having an affair with the lady and things went out of control. ANY MAN WHO IS KNOWINGLY SLEEPING WITH ANOTHER MAN'S WIFE OR A WIFE SLEEPING WITH ANOTHER MAN DESERVES NOTHING BUT PAI.
A VERY PAINFUL PAI AND NOTHING SHORT.

Beremx:
He didn't even marry one first then marry another later. He decided to marry two at once. I hope he's rich enough to take care of both women.

19years old boy and polygamy. Smh

They're probably VIRGINS.

Far better than una here wey @ 19 many don get up to 19 BODYCOUNT

FOR MY HOUSE, IF U DEY MARRY AS A GIRL AND U NOR BE VIRGIN, U GO GO FIND ANOTHER WEY GO DO PAPA FOR U ON YOUR WEDDING DAY.


MAKE GOD NO LET US BORN RUBBISH AND DISGRACE AS PIKIN

jmoore:
Time for virgin women to line up and he will select one as his wife.

VIRGINS ONLY!

ALL OTHER WHORÉS
SLÚTS
OLOSHOS
HOOKUP LEFTOVER WASTE PRODUCT BASTARDS SHOULD KEEP OFF!

TINUBU SEEMS TO BE VERY FOOLISH AND INCOMPETENT FOR ALLOWING HIMSELF TO CONTINUE IN THE MESS, CORRUPTION AND SHADY ACTIVITIES OF THE NNPC.

That subsidy removal messed everything up.
For more than 30 years now, Nigeria has been been feeding:
Benin republic
Togo
Niger
Cameroon and EVEN GHANA to some extent with our cheap CRUDE OILS, especially petrol.

Why would Tinubu agree to effect the removal of the petrol when he knows the effect it will have on our economy?
BUHARI THE MOST USELESS, OLD FOOL, CORRUPT AND EVIL PRESIDENT NIGERIA EVER HAD REMOVED IT BUT COULDN'T EFFECT IT IN HIS REGIME. HE USED IT TO SET TRAP FOR TINUBU AND TINUBU FELL FOR IT.


How can you remove fuel subsidy when you don't have a functional refinery yet?
You still spend 70% of our total revenue on oil importations, what sense does that make.

Imagine ordinary CFA cefa now x2 of naira in strength!
What a big shame.

inoki247:
Lol from phone to home appliances like Electric jug now Car....


Hope say the Car no go dey hot like dere Phone


Nd no link sef this pishure looks like all doz AI generated pishure.....

Which of their phone dey hot.
NoticeME
iPhone no dey hot pass Tecno?

BABANGBALI:
The thing pain am.



First to comment. I dedicate this my award of first to comment to Mynd44 and all others who won't let me breathe on nairaland

dawnomike:
She should calm down... She will find her own happiness

Astra101:
She was probably toxic going by her bile

Namaster:
Girl is really hurt. Next BF will see shege.

By the way, the guy has the face of someone that CONDEMNS pus.sy. Little wonder she's so pained after having her pussy traumatized SEVERALLY.

Dialpad:
Why curse, if you were so good for him he won't marry another.

Men ... just like women know what they want

But imagine if the girl was your sister or daughter.
Let's say she date him for 2-5 years and he was the one that disvirgined her, WOULD YOU SAY THIS?

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lexy2014:
how did he rejoice and dance?

what is the treacherous act you are referring to?

Or deh

zoedew:
Psalms 53:1

TO THE CHIEF MUSICIAN UPON MAHALATH, MASCHIL, A PSALM OF DAVID.
The fool hath said in his heart, There is no God.
Corrupt are they, and have done abominable iniquity:
there is none that doeth good.

You're still quoting the same storybook to prove a point. A storybook I don't believe in.
You're indeed very foolìsh man.
Who wrote the storybook in the first place?
How do we believe and trust the authors?
What makes your storybook (bible) special and truer than other religious books?

Bonapart:
let bitterness outta ya soul

Let foolishness outta ya life

Judima:
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Engine and gear are okay
Ac is not working
Bonnet is not locking
Battery light come on at intervals
Location is Obanikoro
Call/WhatsApp on 08228

V8?
Lol
Dey play....

theamazonguru:
Just as your monicker says, the same koboko is waiting to hit him. Not just him but everyone. Death is a debt we all owe.

So make the living no spite the dead. The dead has only gone ahead of the living.

Everyone is us should learn to live life knowing will the next minute is not assured,so live a meaningful and impactful life..

Accept Jesus today.

Life without Jesus is a waste.

Ọdẹ
Who's Jesus?
I should accept some human that lived some 2000 years ago BECAUSE A STORYBOOK PROCLAIMED HIM TO BE god?
DO YOU HAVE BRAINS AT ALL?

foreveryoung1515:
This rant of yours shows the type of woman that raised you. You need healing!

Weyrey
I can sense your frustration and truma.
Meanwhile, no be everybody parents be ugly old hag olosho mama and drunkard old foōl father.
Stop comparing yourself with others.

UndilutedTruth1:
Mumu, who lives forever?

Oloriburuku
Maybe your drunkard old foōl and olosho mama will.

One legacy I'm very proud Akeredolu left behind is

- STANDING FIRM WITH YORUBAS.
- DETERRING FOOL ANI HERDSMEN CRIMINALS
- CREATION OF AMOTEKUN




RIP AKETI!

One thing I'm very sure of now is, that idìot deputy who took over from him will be the most useless and WORST governor Ondo State ever had.
He's currently the happiest man alive for this news of Aketi's death... He'll sure not live forever as well.

SAVE THIS POST!

PEOPLE NEVER CHANGE IN THIS LIFE, MOST TIMES, IT'S LIFE SITUATION AND CONDITIONS THAT BENDS PEOPLE TO MAKE THEM APPEAR LIKE THEY'VE CHANGED....

A thief is forever a thief...

A promiscuous woman never changes...

A wayward SLÚT never changes...

A druggie is forever a druggie...

Emeka picked this woman from the gutters, brushed her up and she later grew wings to deal with him. I know personally that she physically attacks him. Of course, People won't talk about the countless times she hits him, but will capitalize on the very few times he hits her back.

One thing I can never tolerate from a woman is she attacking me, I WILL BEAT YOU BACK BLACK AND BLUE.
HOW DARE YOU RAISE YOUR HANDS AGAINST SOMEONE YOU KNOW YOU CAN'T FIGHT?


THE AWARD OF THE MOST MISERABLE AND EVIL WIFE OF THIS YEAR GOES TO THE FOLLOWING:

1, WÙNMI... MohBad's olosho wife

2, MohBad's mother...

3, Emeka Ike's wife.

PandoraObi:
Life, after going through all the treatment for leukemia, he later died, may sickness and suffering never end our lives, it is such a pathetic situation

Even Steve Jobs OWNER OF APPLE, A MULTI BILLIONAIRE COULDN'T SURVIVE IT.

mastermaestro:
Some sense of decency should prevail. Why in a rush to announce new appointments on the same day/week you announced the death of your former principal? Some actions are preposterous.

Pretend to mourn for some days, at least. Reserve all appointments and announcements until the New Year which is just a few days away. Quite unfortunate.

Like say he send Akere. Lol
This bastarɗ is the happiest man alive at the moment.
He'll definitely be a very useless and corrupt governor.

tochez24:
A non virgin girl is like an opened wine bottle, any guy from anywhere is free to take a sip my brother until a foolish man walks up and buys an almost empty bottle... Now this is not about wine bottle⚠️

My brother marrying a non virgin is a big risk any young man can take, then again coupled with a lady that takes no responsibility for her actions can be a deal breaker for me... Imagine she blamed your absence for cheating and you're still asking questions!!!!

It's either you have money for DNA tests or you don't consider your peace and mental health for you to be considering such a woman for marriage!!!

I know you will still reason with your dick instead of your brain!!!⚠️

Marry her and see HELL, I'm already pitying you in advance🥺

Fact!

albert2512:
The next person u might be dating might be worse and she will never mention it to you. Stick to her but do this:
Make a big deal out of the issue to see 1. how she reacts and 2. to let her know that such will never be tolerated.
If after you made a big deal out of it and she felt calm and undisturbed, run n leave the relation as it is a clear indication that she doesn't value and she is still seeing someone else n possibly the NYSC guy.

You guys should stop all these senseless and negative mentality.
What if the next person he's about dating is a serious, loyal and committed virtuous lady, who's even a virgin.
Abi virgin no dey alive again?

tooth4tooth:
What if she had lied to you that nothing happened? You will still believe her. Shes a nice girl for been truthful and sincere and she loves you. Just warn her never to try such again. Forgive her !

Lol
You too mumu
You're talking the DIRECT OPPOSITE, HONESTLY.
NO GIRL ALIVE WILL TELL U SUCH TRUTH UNLESS SHE DOESN'T LOVE OR RESPECT U...

atobs4real:
The lady who openly told u such wants you to discontinue the relationship.
How u go hear that and digest it is like...

It baffles me why a lot of men don't think like this and understand the woman's nature and mind.
A girl that loves and respects you WILL NEVER EVER REVEAL SUCH SECRET TO YOU EVEN AT GUN POINT.
UNLESS SUCH GIRL IS EXTREMELY STUPÌD.

UnfairLife7:
FYI, i am not a woman so don't think every average Nigerian man reason or has same mentality as yours. I am not in India so i wouldn't say if the wife cheat or not on the basis of bride price.

Reason why Africa will forever be underdeveloped and remain a 3rd world nation. Same you will change your wack mentality the moment you cross murtala international airport. why don't you take that same mentality with you like MTN, everywhere you go?

Even Bible frown against fornication and adultery for both gender, but an average man from a 3rd world nation said otherwise and you keep wondering why they remain backward, underdeveloped and blessed with useless leaders

You're just sounding senseless just because you want to seem different.
Your thinking is far worse than the so-called backward and thirdworld billshìt

Jeon:
Why can't women be polygamous since men are polygamous in nature?.

I always laugh whenever I see complains like this, for fuvk sake men also engage in sexual explore with other ladies, but will get pissed off if the same card is been played on them.


modified:The nonsense justification coming from the weak gender that can't takes what they gave out

Ọdẹ
Is that why your BODYCOUNT figure is greater than your age figure?
Are you proud of your BODYCOUNT?
My problem is not always with loose and senseless WHÓRES FUCƘING around, my issue with you people is being proud of it and being honest about it.
If your papa, husband , boyfriend or son ask you about it now, will you be honest about it?