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fieryy:
What irritates me the most about this thread is the op. He claims he's lonely, asks if he should worried by his approach, agrees with everyone that says no, disagrees with everyone that calls him out, claims to be unbothered, but created TWO threads today in which he complains about his loneliness. His approach is already final, yet he seeks opinions and validations and as mentioned earlier, complains about loneliness.

Occasional loneliness. I won’t lie just to prevail over the impression you’re trying to create. I don’t hate women & I agree I need their company but I won’t dishonor myself in the process.

cassyrooy:
You're writing about me.

But I'm gradually becoming a little relaxed with the ego, the stiffness and the summing up of where a potential relationship will lead to.

Relaxing a little bit like Healthswerve pointed out will help you find the right balance. Please, do compromise a little bit.

Thank you brother. I appreciate.

Mindfulness:
They hope that menopause will make women settle for their useless existence but it won't. They will keep begging till death do us part. The aging process is not a privilege of women alone. Prostate cancer, erectile dysfunction, impotence are real.

Why are you doing this?

Fear God ooo. Men & women are not at war & cannot do without each other.

Please do better as we enter the new year.

Biglittlelois:
I had high hope for this thread, infact, I was loving the comments, until I got to some pages and I started seeing, "menopause" and other degrading words just to prove certain points, it's really sad that at this age and time, women are still perceived certain ways using something or a phase that can't be controlled as their drive home point, and funny thing is, they don't, won't, refuse to see it as bad, instead, they prefer to call for more re-inforcement to continue the men movement and gender insults, because that is how their points, opinion, can make sense or a prove of worth, crassness.

This is gross misrepresentation of what transpired in this thread but it’s alrifht if this is how you want to qualify the edifying & enlightening comments on this thread.

It is well.

Biglittlelois:
You should stay away from women for a long time, you are not ready to have even a cordial relationship with any woman, your hasty generalisation of the Nigerian women being a certain way, gradually sliding into bashing females here that don't agree with your opinion, asking for proofs of that like its untrue, seeing the proofs of you and healthserve, and then trying to backpedal by standing by your words shows you are very unstable, you have a lot of work to do on your persona, a huge lot.

I don’t see why I deserve this much vitriol for having an opinion. I mean no harm with the thread.

It is well.

kunleweb:
BTW I haven't seen Pansophist Franchasng around here

Maybe if the thread is escalated to the front page, they might see it & comment.

kunleweb:
Hahahaha knack me stick already. You can see how these women here are trying so so hard to "emotionally manipulate", too bad, the modern guy's unnaive to these sneaky theatrics

I am flabbergasted at the subtle attempt to manipulate hearts & minds of other reasonable females on NL. My thread was a honest request for opinions on my modus operandi & not an avenue to bash our female compatriots.

I thank God we have members who can sniff out stratagems to derail threads into the usual gender wars we have on romance & family sections of NL.

It is well.

crackhaus:
This is what happens when people put themselves on a pedestal for no other worthy reason except having pum pums.

You don't have the patience to indulge, chase, or beg, it's because you have an ego.
You want to have some financial legroom before embarking on relationships because women require it, you have low self-esteem.
You speak about the realities as they are, and you're being disrespectful, bashful, & insulting.

The princess-complex is as real as it comes.



@ uninspired07, I hope you have been able to pick relevant points from both sides regardless. Just understand that there is nothing wrong in wanting to develop your finances, or in lacking patience with women who have no obvious interest in you. The best woman to be with is that one which presents you with the least amount of work/obstacles/roadblocks in winning her over, simply because she is already won over in some small measure of her own accord.

Developing yourself should be your ultimate goal in life FOR YOURSELF, not because you need it to be better in the eyes of women. Also, making just any woman or every woman feel good about themselves is not your job - there are already multitudes of men doing that. You only just need to find that ONE woman who has a mutual interest in you, hit it off, and make her the object of all your attention and devotion. What every other one thinks is really not your concern.

Cheers.

Wow, can anybody imagine the objectivity & unbiased quality of this post compared to those of the usual suspects i.e Mindfulness?

Bro, I appreciate you for your sincere & heartfelt advice. I sure will pick & imbibe most of it to chart the way forward. I have never been deceived that there’s any other roadmap to this thing, I only needed reassurance.

Thank you.

Mindfulness:
Who wants your attention? You are the one who has been begging for attention. You can't make this up mehn. This one is seriously confused. Go back to romance section boy.

You keep getting things all mixed up. My post was an objective observation not a subjective one.

I hear you sha.

Confirmedzombie:
Both are my role models. I urge the Nigerian youths to emulate them for a better Nigeria.

Long live Tacha
Long live Bob risky

We love you.

Yes, they are good role models.

They have been able to make something of themselves from the mess the politicians have thrust Nigeria into.

You cannot demand money & devoted attention at the same time. You have to choose a struggle. You can’t eat your cake & have it.

If you see an unaccomplished man that is willing to give you all the attention in the world, by all means enjoy the attention. But you can’t blame young men who choose to face their struggle or accuse them of being rude because they hold the opinion that women are still undeserving of their attention & stand by it.

Women should please do better in 2020. Men cannot be everywhere at the same time.

I own my comments here & on other threads. And I stand by them because I didn’t arrive at those conclusions by coincidence—it took years & tears of observation of the opposite gender.

cococandy:
Apology accepted. And no I’m not hurt. Lol

I just felt like I wasted my time. Was envisaging a normal convo until it turned south.

Same here. Bye.

[quote author=Mindfulness post=85258984][/quote]If these assertions are what you hold on to to justify your view that I am rude, then I wholeheartedly adopt & hold on to them.

Nobody will bully me to change my ideology. It took me many years to arrive at these conclusions & no emotional blackmail will make me abandon my beliefs.

Have a profitable rest of the day.

cococandy:
Stating you have no politeness today offer any woman, Implying that women do not need courtesy, or respect from men but only money must be high praise where you come from. @OP

once I get a hint of disrespect, I’m out.

So have fun.

OMG. I changed it to attention not politeness.

I apologize though if you’re hurt.

I have nothing to gain from being rude to women because it won’t change anything.

cyndy1000:
She looks like Chioma and she is beautiful.
I love cheeky kids

We know why you likened to her Chioma.

The girl has a mother & she looks like her mother not Chioma.

We all know what you’re trying to do.

Naijaarchive:
She is looking like Chioma...

Why are you people like this? You know what you did abi?

If you don’t, respond & I will let you know how your innate tribalism is showing through.

blowjohn:

If u understand what good living means u wouldn't say that.
Like u said , don't live by moral code. Start stealing.
Then divert a lil into prostituting or homosexuality.
Nonsense.

Bro, you would to face your hustle in the new year.

I don’t know what gives you the impression that you’re better than these people? They have been able to make a life for themselves in the jungle called Nigeria & you still choose to demonize them rather than face the politicians that have turned Nigeria to hell on earth.

You know what? You are just jealous that the people you see as immoral & unholy are living your dream. It hurts & I know that but you should channel your energy into creating a good life for yourself because Nigeria is for the fittest oo.

Do better in 2020 abeg.

emeraldlife:
Bros, I don dey disturb the babe jare. That her money we wee spend it together

Lol.....Mad Oh!!!

Mindfulness:
It will serve you much more than bashing other people. I am happy to have contributed to more clarity in your life.

Evidence of the bashing?

Common....let’s be objective in our analysis and comments on threads like this. It will help to deescalate the gender wars on NL.

kunleweb:
No. You won't be pampered here with validations o. The truth isn't masculine. Deal with it



Prove it that anyone has bashed women here

Please help me ask her ooo.

Rather than bash women, this thread has advocated for men to be financially ready to face the hazards of chasing women.

It’s not all men that are able to stomach insults from women. I have done my fair share of that while in university, I won’t tolerate it anymore.

cococandy:
The generalizations are insulting to start with.

What generalizations? That women like the good life & a financially stable man?

Am I lying by asserting this female preferences in men?

Na wa o.

bukatyne:
All these game theories only work for people with low self-esteem on both divides.

Which is why I wish more ladies read all these game threads so they understand some things.

I believe a man should woo a woman, cultivate deep friendship with her before introducing sex.

Know her, know her value system, know what makes her tick, observe her etc.

Yes, a man should do all you’ve said but not without a defence for the barrage of emotional hazards that he will face in the process.But it’s not all men that have the patience for that.

That’s the gravamen of my argument ever since.

Mindfulness:
He is living in denial. He doesn't want to accept the fact that he has absolutely nothing to offer. His first strategy was to beg women for attention but it didn't work out. The fact that he had to beg in the first place says a lot. He has given up on it and decided to blame others for not loving his miserable self. Now all the people telling him how to improve himself (not financially) are his enemies because they shine a light on his shortcomings. It's easier to bash (Nigerian) women than to accept that one is not very attractive and not the brightest candle and do the work to improve. You don't have to be a psychologist to understand these coping mechanisms.

Here we go again. I accept all the insults you’ve heaped on me & thank you for contributing to the thread.

I will improve myself as an all round individual—not to attract women—but to affect all who come in contact with me going forward.

Thanks once more.

I can’t believe that women on this thread will derail this thread and falsely allege that it’s a woman-bashing thread. There’s no evidence of such happening on this thread. Anyway, I thank all the women that have contributed to this thread. You have added further to gender related jurisprudence on NL.

cococandy:
Change women from what to what? What is it that you’re seeing women are and can’t be changed from?

And what response are you expecting from me? To tell you that you’re right or try to disprove you?

So that you and I can have a whole 20 pages of conversation about why I’m not worthy of your respect( all the while laughing with you). Or maybe you pay me a measly compliment about how I’m not like other girls because I’m currently agreeing with you.

I won’t be having a discourse with you henceforth since you’re bent on disrespect. Women with healthy self esteem do not think it’s worth engaging with anyone who is disrespectful.

Happy New Year

Show me where I have disrespected women in this thread? So seeking to protect myself as a man is disrespect for women?

I am beyond shocked.

Happy New Year in advance & thanks for contributing to the thread.

Things will pan out well while men keep hustling. Whether fate gifts us “good” women is a maybe but we keep going.

fieryy:
So why create this thread then? Why ask us, if you should be worried? It seems your mind is already made up

You see ehn, I created it because I wanted to sample multiple opinions on my approach to the issue. I accept that I have a preconceived notion about this already but I am open to contrary persuasive arguments.

Freshfish4:
Clowns

Why are you calling them clowns? They live better than millions of Nigerians. You would do well to change in 2020. Everybody doesn’t have to live by your moral code oo.

Edit: if you insult me, I won’t respond oo so don’t bother.

Ladycewhy:
there is a woman out there of any man. Even bricklayers and shoe makers have wives

Of course, that’s true.

fieryy:
You noticed that too? Lol! He shouldn't have asked the question, if he only wants to agree with people who validate his points.

I have disproved your assertion in an earlier post.

cococandy:
It didn’t take a minute for the thread to degenerate into the woman-bash fest it was probably intended to be from the beginning.

Shame on me for thinking it could possibly go another way.

OP good for you that you’re only happy with the posts that validate your bias. Good luck.

No. You’re wrong about this. I have come to accept that no amount of online bashing will change women. What we are seeing is who they are.

I just did this thread to sample other opinions about my approach to things. And believe you me, I appreciate all the contributions of the women on this thread.

No amount of online bashing will change women so what’s the point?