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happy birthday.

honesty and support.

looks doesn't make any one beautiful.beauty lies in the heart,everything else is vanity.

a few months back a friend of mine recieved her scan results and then she told her mother in-law she was having a boy.the old day got upset and told her it was a sin/an abomination to check for the gender of an unborn baby.How true is this?

@every one

but seriously guys/ladies,you're right. . . we should hook up sometime soon & get our gifts ready for pslm23's baby shower.

@pslm23
i can feel your excitment from here. . . i'm sure you didn't pee on just one stick but 2 no 3 or is it 4 sticks . . . lol.

any way like i said,just hang in there and just as one of posters said,its a passing phase,you're already a mother.

as an Anambarian myself i'm going to have to suggest 6 igbo names which i think you will like.
1. Egwuchukwu ( male) meaning fear/awesomeness of God
2. Sochikanyima (unisex) meaning we only know God (Kaima for short)
3. Chim-ama-nda(female) meaning my God never fails(Amanda for short)
4. Kambilichukwu (unisex) meaning let me live for God
5. Chigozili (unisex) meaning God has blessed
and the sixth one. . .uhm , i think as the god mother to be i shouldn't reveal that yet until the day of the Christening.lol

to stop hair breakage,steam your hair 30 mins,twice a week with this mixture

1 part pure natural honey
1 part pure natural shea butter(melted)
1 part olive oil
1 part mayonnaise (used in salad dressing)

@pslm23

Hang in there girl! i found my self laughing and smiling when i read this latest update,(hubby doing the house chores) that happened to me as well ,some times i try to take a piss by saying stuffs like"hun ,can you wipe my bum for me,you know the doctor said not to bend over all the time, i also need a drink & get me a straw while you're at it " lol.
,its nice to see your hubby is being supportive all the way.
i guess you'll be shopping & buying in dozens since its TRIPLETS

that picture is gross.

i shave my legs from time to time.

i like it on other ladies when its nicely done.

i have loads of make up stuff.but i only use a mascara,and a lip gloss.(to prevent dry,chapped lips)any thing else will make me look like a masquarade

some days i don't even bother with make up and i still look ok.

"crayons" ha ha ha . . . . lol

iice:
[color=#9900ff]I love bright colors

Some dark people don't like to wear them but i do. I like the contrast with my complexion. [/color]

yea,i have friends who say they can't wear bright colours cos they are dark in complexion,i wonder why.

i think the challenge is finding a way to balance the colours of the outfit.
you could use accessories,jewelries etc. to pull it off.

well,for me i can put on any thing in any colour,Bring it on.

never leave the house with out applying a sun block,even if you were as black as coal.

the UVA/UVB From the sun not only causes premature aging and wrinkles but also causes cancer as well.
use an spf moisturizer that has a protection for both.

@pslm23

ok, . . . No 3! lol
its my lucky number. i'm about getting ready for church and so i'll be adding you to my prayer request today.
do take it easy during the 9 months period.relax as much as you can,always keep your feet up when sitting.
incase u begin to crave for home made food (bitter leaf soup & pounded yam)remember No pounding (yam. . lol),No lifting of heavy objects & be careful not to bend over all the time.no worries just maintain a positive (mental) attitude.
it is well,i can already see you and your big tummy.

@pslm23

well,i've been meaning to ask you this (i hope its no imposition. . . lol) can i be the baby's God mother when he/she arrives.lol . . . plleeaase ,lol

@pro01

i guess common sense isn't common.

probably because the present day husbands are taking their wives for granted,and never appreciative of these qualities.

@horny4u
you get my drift

@jenifa
from your last reply here i get the feeling that you believe that no matter what one does

1. weight-loss can never be achieved except through binging,eating disorders.surgery etc
2. emulating celebrity weight loss is living in a "make believe world"

i've had relatives whose doctors can't even do much for them because they were warned that thier life & death situatioN depends on how determined they are to shed fat.and drop their bad diet.

no one is saying you should start a crash diet or emulate celebrity weight loss/diet.

i only used them as an example for those (lazy ones)who think weight loss can never be achieved and therefore continue to eat their way to an early grave.
i have friends & relatives who work out too to shed fat & have maintained a healthy size.(but cant post pictures cos of privacy)
i will continue to say it YOU CAN NEVER UNDER ESTIMATE THE BENEFITS OF ROUTINE EXERCISE & HEALTHY DIETS.

start yours now & you wont have to worry about diseases linked to old age.

besides , every work out session is quite refreshing,gives you a positive mental attitude,relieves stress.what more can i say , its FUN.

@pslm23

good , i'll be praying for you all the way.

i've heard it all

exercise & diet is not part of our culture,
going to the gym is expencive,
exercise will shrink bossoms and back sides

bla bla bla. . .

there are so many things that are not part of our culture but we're very quick to adapt to them. .
smoking,sagging pants etc.

what will it cost you to buy a jump rope & do 500 to 1000 skips ,get a mat & do 100 sit/push ups. even in-doors for 30/45 mins every other day.

J.Lo had twins and worked out everyday to get back to her size & figure.Her back side is still intact.

Jennifer Hudson combined diet and exercise and went from a size 22 to a wow figure of size 12/14.her bossom is still intact.

shouldn't this be a source of motivation and challenge.

i guess there's always an excuse for laziness.

guys lets be honest here,even the naija guys have their fashion mishaps too.

i keep wondering why they always refer to that safari out fit as "french suit".
even the bloody french don't wear the damn thing.

start a morning and night routine

srub your face with apricot scrub 3 or 4 times a week ( you can use St.ives apricot scrub for black head & blemishes)

apply NEUTROGENA CLEAR SKIN FORMULA morning and night. use a sun block after applying it in the morning.

try to steam your face once a week for 15 mins,then apply fresh tomatoe juice on your face leave for 20 to 30 mins before washing off.

there are so many things Nigerians( girls ) have borrowed and imbibed into their culture,why can't this be one of them?

@pslm23
i still admire your courage to share your story.i just think that all these Naija people looking down on other mothers to be are just so ignorant,narrow minded and hypocritical.
you have my support as well. . . in prayers too.

you're probably right ,she may have gone through IVF & not want to discuss it,but then again i dont want to step into any couples boundries.i just try to respect her decisions & lend a support when its needed.

Discipline - yourself by avoiding fatty foods & watching what you eat.

Dedication - 2 or 3 hours ,5 days a week to cardio exercise(make sure you're sweating & panting)

Determination - if you are a size 16 ,buy your self a very beutiful size 14 dress/skirt/pair of pants/top or shirt & tell youself you must fit into it before this year's christmas holidays.


get a personal scale & weigh yourself regularly to make sure you're on track.

taking long walks every day or at night is also a good form of exercise.
eliminating fatty foods in your diet ,taking at least two litres of water everyday.
resist the urge to eat everything served at parties.
take natural healthy drinks or even water in place of coke,beer & the rest.
avoid "voluntary" starvation in other to .lose weight ,rather,take small portions of meals every 2 or 3 hours instead of a big bowl of rice or swallow for lunch or dinner.

even our so called nolly wood celebs find it hard to maintain an ideal weight and figure.(tummy bulging out )every where
i'm yet to see one celeb who has taken up a challenging role that requires gaining a lot of weight for that particular role and having to lose it back.

Renee Zelwegger was asked to gain 20 pounds to play the role of a fat clumsy single girl who was in love with Collin Firth(can't remember the name of the movie). and after the movie was shot she worked out 3 hours every day to return to her slim figure within a few months.
same with other holly wood celebs.

my point is regular exercise and healthy diet can transform you & you wont even recognise yourself in the mirror.
it eliminates a lot of diseases linked to old age( high BP,etc).
a lot Nigerian girls come to you & say stuffs like "if you were weighing 65kg before child birth,you can never go back to that weight ever again after child birth"
isn't that ignorance?
when you try 2 convince them its possible by showing them before & after pictures of celebrity moms like Heidi klum,they tell you that "don't be fooled ,those people go under the knife & take certain drugs to look thin"
what will i call that . . . ignorance?

i met a lady who was celebrating her 70th birthday today who looked 40(for real) when i asked her grand child who's a teenager to show me her mom.both the mother & 70 yr old granny looked like sisters.
everyone at the party said she worked out 4 or 5 days a week at the National stadium for the past 20.years.

@ pslm23
i'm happy for you especially for taking the bold step.

i tried so hard to convince a relative of mine to try ivf with her husband after 4 yrs of marriage and all she adamantly kept telling me was that it was "un-natural" and she wanted to have a baby like how normal couples do. (this is coming from a B.Sc holder)

well i think a lot of Nigerians(even our so called graduates) still need a lot more enlightenment in the area of ivf and assisted pregnancy.

times are changing and the older the woman gets the harder it becomes because the eggs are not as viable as before.

i'm looking forward to reading your updates here.just try and take it easy . good luck dear!