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While many women think that Valentine’s Day is a day of love and intimacy, most men think that it’s just an artificial holiday that is cooked up by the greeting card and floral industries. Many people claim Valentine’s Day is overrated and it’s not worth celebrating. Nevertheless, most of us should admit that this is the most romantic day of the year and skipping this day won’t make you happier. Whether you are going to celebrate the day of love or skip it, you may want to find out some of the most interesting facts about Valentine’s Day.

1. Florists make a killing from the holiday
It is no wonder that florists tend to raise their prices around Valentine’s Day. In fact, the actual naira amounts are astonishingly large. Flowers can certainly be a splurge on Valentine’s Day, but it’s hard to imagine a day of love without them.

2. Women prefer Valentine cards to roses
When it comes to Valentine’s Day, most women are a bit greedy in comparison with their free-spending boyfriends and husbands. But, they are more sentimental. Of the one billion Valentine cards purchased annually, women are responsible for more than 80% of all sales. Whether women are frugal or greedy, who knows.

3. Women spend less money than men
Speaking about greediness, studies show that women tend to spend less money than men on Valentine’s Day. Even though women make a big deal about Valentine’s Day, they spend only half as much as men.

4. Condom sales are highest during the holiday
According to Durex, condom sales are around 25% higher than usual on February 14. This fact may explain the statistics reported in the fact three. In reality, men become very generous around Valentine’s Day and the fact number five can reveal why.

5. Pregnancy test sales are high in March

This fact seems to follow as may be expected from number four. Statistics show that pregnancy test sales are higher in the month after February as the consequences of those romantic nights on Valentine’s Day. No matter the situation, pregnancy is a great joy.

6. Flowers are men’s best friends

While women express their feelings through carefully selected Valentine cards, men prefer the traditional way. Boyfriends and husbands buy more than 70% of all the flowers purchased on Valentine’s Day every year. Needless to say, men spend huge amounts of money on flowers, making florists richer and happier.

7. Millions of people buy Valentine cards for their pets
Do you think Valentine’s Day is only for couples? But single people also need love, and they also want to buy greeting cards and gifts. According to a few surveys, about 9 million people buy Valentine’s Day gifts for their pets every year

8. Romance is just a small part
Even though it might seem like the valentine card industry relies on the promise of sex for much of its sales, statistics show that most Valentine money is spent on teachers, children, mothers, girlfriends and wives. After all Valentine’s Day is the time when we should share our love with everyone, including teachers and neighbors.

10. Women send themselves flowers on February 14
When it comes to Valentine’s Day bouquets, size does matter. Nowadays most women are concerned, something is better than nothing. Maybe it sounds strange but as much as 15% of American women send themselves flowers on Valentine’s Day to save face in front of their female co-workers. I think it’s not a wise idea, but why not?

9. Japanese men receive more gifts than women
japanese companies have started a campaign to encourage spending on Valentine’s Day. Due to a powerful campaign conducted by the Japanese chocolate industry, today Japanese women buy more chocolates for their men each Valentine’s Day. Japanese men must be really happy!

Men claim there are no good women out there, while women claim most men are womanizers. When you start dating a man, it can be hard to see if he’s truly committed or not. Dating a womanizer is a huge challenge, but the worst thing is that you may not realize that your partner is a player. Womanizers enjoy flirting with every woman they meet and they don’t worry about what others say. They are not interested in a long-term, committed relationship, and they can’t make anyone happy. Check out a few warning signs you are dating a womanizer.

1. He always stares at other women
If your guy always stares at other women even when he is with you, this may be the warning sign he is a womanizer. When you are with him, he should not stare at other women. The fact that you’re in front of him must be enough reason to get his full attention.

2. He talks in a flirty tone all the time
If he always talks in a flirty tone with you and other girls all the time, he might be a womanizer. Don’t pretend that it doesn’t bother you, because his behavior may be a sign of a more deeply-rooted problem. Flirting with you or other girls once in a while can be acceptable, but it still has to be a red flag for you if your boyfriend keeps doing this all the time!

3. He gives too many compliments
Compliments make any woman feel great about herself, but if a man gives too many compliments to you, chances are they are not sincere and he is not interested in a long-term relationship. Giving compliments is his hobby and he thinks he can charm any woman with his words. If he highlights all aspects of your personality and appearance more than 4 times in a conversation, run away from him.

4. He keeps his cell phone locked
Does your guy get mad if you even glance in a direction of his cell phone? If he is possessive about his phone and gets crazy if you try to grab it, this may be a warning sign that he’s hiding something from you. Continuous conversation and text messages with other girls can be something that he doesn’t want you to see.

5. He never fulfills his promises
If your boyfriend tells you how much he loves you and he wants to marry you, you feel the happiest woman in the world. But if he makes lots of promises and never fulfills any of them, it’s a warning sign. If he always promise you to introduce you to his family and friends, but he don’t even try to do, chances are he is a true womanizer.

6. He has no male friends
If a guy has many female friends and very few male friends, it’s one of the possible signs he is a womanizer. The easiest way to check it is to go through his phonebook. You can also go through his friend list on social media sites and look at his activity. If all the messages and posts on his profile from girls and he has very few male contacts, then there may be a situation that is much deeper than only the fact that your guy is popular with women.

7. He calls you another girl’s name
A womanizer tends to meet and date many women. This can result in mixing up names and he may call you another girl’s name by mistake. This is a clear sign that he is thinking about the other girl even when he is with you. Though, it may also be a sign that your boyfriend can’t forget about his ex.

8. He never calls you by your name
If your womanizer is afraid to call you another girl’s name, he will never call you by your name. You hear ‘sweetheart,’ ‘my love,’ ‘honey,’ or ‘baby,’ but you never hear your own name. The thing is, it’s much easier for a womanizer to remember these sweet words than women’s name.

9. You always see him at night
Men who love their women want to see them all day long. They call their women, meet them during lunch breaks or text them. If you see your boyfriend late at night and he is always busy to have a lunch, a picnic or simply to go for a walk with you, even on the weekends, he is not as busy as you may think. Yes, he is busy, but not at work. If he wants to see you late at night and doesn’t want to see you during the day, he is certainly a womanizer. He doesn’t care about your feelings, he is interested in more than simply a date.

It’s hard to realize that you are dating a womanizer, but the earlier you end your relationship, the better. Just make sure your man is really a womanizer. Have you ever dated a womanizer? Do you know any other warning signs that a man is a womanizer? Share your experience with us.

You know many things most men find attractive in a woman but do you know that there are a few absolutely weird things almost every man finds attractive in his woman? I must admit I didn’t know most of these strange things until I started working on this post. I’ve found the information for this post through some research and interviews with men. Enjoy learning about weird things men find attractive in women and don’t forget to share your thoughts after reading through.

1. Seeing her undone
While most men appreciate when women make the effort to look gorgeous through doing the makeup, dressing nice or fixing the hair, they find it attractive if they see her a mess as well. A lot of guys tell that this helps them know a woman better. They get to see her behind the nice clothes and makeup up.

2. Her accent
Almost every woman is embarrassed by her accent. I didn’t like my accent but I’ve learned to embrace it over the few years. The great news is that men like a woman’s accent and find it really attractive. No matter if you have an accent from the inner city or the south, it can be attractive to your man. I’m sure your accent is nice to listen to, so make sure you embrace it.

3. Seeing her afraid
Another weird thing men find attractive in a woman is fear. I thought it was terrible when I first read about it. A man wanted his woman to be afraid? This was the first question that had crossed my mind. However, then I realized why men find fear attractive. The thing is, a man doesn’t want to wish deep fear on a woman but when he sees her a bit scared, it gives him the chance to comfort her and show he is a real man.

4. Stretch marks
f you’ve had children by your man, you don’t have to worry about stretch marks. Although most women are not happy about stretch marks, most men, including your partner, love them. Stretch marks remind your man of the fact you carried his child. Trust me, he really appreciates it.

5. Camo
Some guys find camo attractive on girls because it means she could be his best hunting buddy. But it doesn’t mean that you should wear camo every single day. Even though men find camo attractive on a woman, they still love cute dresses and nice skirt. Feminity is still important.

6. Glasses
Guys love to see girls in glasses and it’s true. My sweetheart has always told me that he liked to see me in glasses and my sister’s partner feels the same way. If men find a woman that wears glasses attractive, why not throw away those contact lenses? I think this is wonderful news for girls who wear glasses every day.
7. Watching her apply makeup
Did you know your guy likes watching you apply your makeup? It amazes him how precisely you can do this. Guys also seem to be astonished that every girl has her own style with the makeup. So, ladies, feel free to check your makeup in front of your man.

8. Her towel head

One of the strangest things that most men find extremely attractive in his woman is when she washes her hair. They say that a wet hair look, especially if the hair is long, and the towel head is turn on for them. Well, it’s weird, but who knows maybe your sweetheart also loves your towel head.

9. When she works out
Men love it when a woman works out. That tired look and the sweaty feeling attract most men instantly. Perhaps you don’t find it attractive, but your man won’t want to miss this look. So don’t be afraid to work out in front of your partner. The best option is to work out together.

10. In his shirt
The weird thing that men find attractive in a woman is when she’s dressed untidily in his favorite shirt. To most men, it’s a really designer look. From personal experience I can say that my man loves when I wear hist shirts.

Although I don’t like to recommend people to skip Valentine’s Day, I do realize many of us are not going to celebrate the day of love this year. Gone are the days of celebrating Valentine’s Day with sweethearts, or even celebrating this holiday at all. It’s an ordinary day when you can accomplish many important tasks, have a spa day at home or simply watch your favorite shows. If you have a few friends who also want to skip Valentine’s Day, you can have lots of fun together. Check out a few unusual ways to skip Valentine’s Day and pick your favorite one.

1. Unplug
First of all, switch off your phone and avoid social media. I don’t recommend watching TV as well. The thing is, Valentine’s Day is highly overrated and commercialized these days. Save your money, your nerves and your time on February 14. It’s a good idea to have some me time without anyone disturbing you. Last year my sister decided to skip Valentine’s Day. She had a happy day until her toxic friend called her and told her about her romantic dinner and details about her romantic night and then she said she’s so sorry that my sister’s so lonely on Valentine’s Day. In fact, my sister didn’t feel lonely and she really enjoyed her day, but that phone call spoiled the whole evening. Don’t let anyone hurt your feelings, switch off your phone and enjoy the day of love to the fullest! Don’t forget to invite your single friends, if they want to skip Valentine’s Day as well.

2. Start learning a new language
One of the most useful yet unusual ways to spend Valentine’s Day is to start learning a new language. Yes, spending the whole day in front of your laptop or TV is a tempting idea, but why not do something more useful. People who know and speak at least two foreign languages are well-rounded. They have more opportunities to travel, make more new friends and understand other people and their cultures, because when you learn a new language, you learn a new culture.

3. Watch some travel shows
Whether you are a travel junkie or just want to know more about other countries in the world, spend your day watching some travel shows. You will learn many interesting, useful and surprising facts while relaxing at home. One of the things I love about travel shows is that they show us how people live around the world, what they eat, their hobbies and their traditions. It can help you realize how happy and lucky you are to live in your country, or maybe you will choose a place you want to visit or move to.

4. Read an inspirational book
If you are fond of reading, this may be a good way to skip Valentine’s Day. I don’t recommend reading romance books. Look for some inspirational books like the Seasons of Life by Jim Rohn. I believe in the power of books. I believe that they can change our lives. Sure, one book won’t make you happier and more successful, but you can learn some useful things from inspirational books and make some changes in your life.

5. Cook your favorite meals
Do you remember when was the last time you cooked your favorite meals? Valentine’s Day is the perfect time to treat yourself to something delicious. Spend your day cooking your favorite and new meals and then enjoy them while watching a travel show or reading a book. Don’t be afraid of calories. You can burn them off the next day.

6. Play with your pet
Your pet won’t tell you how lonely you are on Valentine’s Day and he doesn’t care that you don’t have money for expensive gifts. Your little friend will help you forget about this day and will teach you how to love unconditionally. We live in a world where money is a must-have if you want to have many friends or even a partner. My coworker gives her hard-earned money to her boyfriend every month, otherwise he will leave her. I don’t understand her and I don’t understand this type of love. I think it’s better to be alone or with a pet on Valentine’s Day than with a partner who doesn't love you if you have no money.

7. Declutter your home and life
Valentine’s Day is also a great time to declutter your home and entire life. Not only will you forget about the day of love, you will clean your home, clear your mind and find out what you really want to do in life. Instead of moaning about your loneliness, do something useful to improve your life.
8. Do some crazy things
If you have nothing to do on Valentine’s Day, why not do some crazy things? Dancing to music, experimenting with makeup and clothing, painting, singing, jumping and moving around all the furniture in your house (if it’s not too heavy) are all fun options to consider. Laugh and smile as more as you can to feel better, look gorgeous and live longer.

So, there you have it! Some of the best ways to skip Valentine’s Day. There are many other ways to do it, so feel free to share your ideas with us. Remember, you live once, so don’t spend any second moaning about a boring, lonely life. Valentine’s Day reminds all the single people that they are lonely, but it’s easy to skip this reminder and have some fun while others have romantic dinners.

Notice I did NOT say "ALL".

It happens in several forms. In long term relationships and marriage, women often become less sexual and affectionate over time.. while expecting their husbands/boyfriends to become more loving, caring and committed over time.

This is confusing.

Then you have the age issue. Many women become more picky and have higher standards as they age. Yet they offer less to a man.. especially if he wants many kids as her reproductive years are ending (if not ended).

This is confusing.

And finally.. there is the situation where a woman will be very "loose" or promiscuous in her youngest and most attractive years.. giving her body away like candy. Then suddenly when she decides she is ready to get "serious" .. she makes the new man "earn" or "work for" her body. In other words.. he must now pay for something others got free.

This is confusing (and stupid).

Thoughts?

Why are we constantly fed this complete and total BS?

If women care so much about love, why are they statistically more likely to leave the man than vice versa?

If women care so much about love, why does the woman place greater emphasis on career, income, and social status than the male typically does?

Women say they "don't want to be used for sex" and yet if the male can't satisfy her in bed he can be kicked to the curb despite whatever level of genuine affection and love he can offer her.

Why is male suicide over breakups a common occurrence, while he opposite is essentially unheard of?

I would say there's very clear reasons to believe men not only want love as much as women, but actually love more. But instead men are immediately marginalized and painted as only caring about sex.

This is wrong.

[quote author=diddydiva post=30596990]respect a woman because your mother is a woman.
I can't go on listing the importance of a woman.
without a woman there wouldn't be You[/

i respect my mum cos she deserve and worth my respect absolutely.most ladies dnt deserve it.Ladies, if you want feminism to be taken seriously, but more importantly, if you want yourself to be taken seriously, Bleep conventions; Bleep what I think you should look like; Bleep that your ; Bleep everyone and everything except what you think and believe. And you know what, maybe you like wearing high heels and looking prettier than is realistic, and if that’s your thing, kudos to you. But don’t sit around and wonder why men continue to treat you like shit and not take you seriously.


If you stand in front of a mirror prettying yourself up for upwards of thirty minutes so that you can attract a man or increase your self-confidence, I don’t respect you, and neither does any man. Say your words of self-empowerment all you want, but so long as your aesthetic personality is perceived as being for or towards a man, men won’t respect, and I won’t respect you on the same level that I would if you showed up wearing pajamas and no make-up.

Now, for those of you who haven’t been repulsed by my words thus far and made it to this point in the post, let me say this: although I prefer natural beauty, I like eye shadow on a woman. I like heels. I like short skirts and push-up bras and red lipstick and thongs and laced lingerie and polite eating manners and submission to my authority and that maybe I’m more successful than you and smarter than you – but who fucking cares Why pander to my shallowness and preferences and insecurities just because it’s not in my cultural DNA to respect you as you are? Seriously!

jerryboiii:
U SHOULD RESPECT WOMEN COS UR MUM IS ONE

its soo lame to criticize someones parents especially when you are ignorant of the whole issue.WHY I should respect a girlfriend or any particular woman? Especially if their are just average.
What might be the benefits for me for giving respect to women?

Why all that chivalery and 'let ladies first' behaviour? Especially today in feminist's world.
How many times I witnessed a bouncer commenting in a club 'Don't push the lady' or something. Why? Well because the pathetic guy spends most of his high quality time on the door and can't pick up women other way so he hopes that that particular woman that is being pushed will fall for him and that he will get *SOME*.

Another example of blackmailing regarding sex. I find it quite stupid because it's clear that women enjoy sex more than men. It was just yesterday when my gf moaned and wouldn't let me on this very same bed where I'm sitting now writing this, only to be 'angry' today because she thinks her girlfriend's boyfriend is more 'caring and respecting' than me.
This will now of course call for another session of brainwashing on my side to control the situation and persuade her that she is actually being wrong.

Clear example how unwanted "girl smalltalk" costs me time and effort, and instead of getting compliments myself for being so good lover and at least very special individual, I have to listen to some bullshit!

When women in general stop rising their pussy to the altar and stop using sex as a weapon to persuade males to do things, then they might get some respect at least from my side.

Do "pretty" girls have better genes?
It has often been said that men are attracted to "pretty" girls because this means they have better genes. Why would this be so? Wouldn't intelligence make for better genes?

There is not a guy out there that is not attracted to "pretty" girls is there? So is it written in our DNA and this means that they have better genes?

Please don't kick me off for trolling. This is not meant to be intentionally upsetting.

In another post, someone said that I should respect women more. I do think about sex a lot, and probably have a "manic" sex drive due to hallucinogen use when I was younger.

Should I respect someone just because they were born female? Does that make sense? Do they need any sort of commensurate achievements? I mean respect any more than the basic respect that you give to anyone just like the cashier at shoprite?

I see some girls walk around like "being female" is an accomplishment, despite the fact that they have never done too much of anything in their life. A lot of girls say they identify with "being female." What does this even mean?

I am male. I don't have to talk about it all the time or expect special treatment, do I?

Should I respect a woman just because she is a woman in a way that I wouldn't respect another man just for being human?

And without getting in to my life story, I have spent quite a bit of time in Intensive Care Unit's amongst other things, so I do not think that "going to school and getting a job" is the definition of survival.

What about the fact that men build houses and women live in them and call a man anytime anything breaks?

What about women that sit around and do next to nothing while their "man" spends his whole life at a job to feed her? Should I respect her just because she is a woman even more than to respect any other human being, even a bum on the street?

I did not say that they were intellectually or emotionally inferior, but I shouldn't have to respect someone just because they are female. And I suppose also, I shouldn't DISRESPECT anyone just because they are female.

I suppose it's all on the individual. (I think I just answered my own question, but feel free to respond anyway).

And here's one for the feminists. For the first 99% of the existence of our species, women depended on men to survive. They could not eat meat without getting it from a man. Men created civilization. Men make up armies. Men defend civilization. Men are the police (for the most part). Men are faster. Men are stronger. Men have better hand-eye coordination. Men hunt. It's only because of thousands of years of civilization that you can go to the grocery store to get your meat. Men build houses.

What do women do? I would like to hear some feminist responses to this one.

Last night I was talking to a friend over text and she said "...you exude insecurity and don't exhibit a single ounce of dominance."

Right away I knew that she's completely right. I also realized that being insecure and not showing any dominance are most likely things that are turning off women that I'm interested in.

This is something I absolutely need to change if I want to get anywhere with women.

So how do I start?

I see talk of it regularly here. Women are sick of being approached. They put on a blank face, go into autopilot excuse mode, or some get downright nasty with a guy!

Because I never get approached, I don't know what this is like. I remember when I was working with a trainer at the gym, he made an offhand comment about how me being a lady, I ought to wear a hat, pull up my hoodie, and put my headphones on to avoid getting bothered. I just smiled and nodded and thanked him, I didn't have the heart to tell him that nobody was bothering me at the gym in the first place.

I was at a coffee shop today. There was a man sitting at a table reading, and one woman in line in front of me.

As soon as she paid for her order and went to stand and wait for it, the man got and went to talk to her.

He wasn't doing anything strange or unpleasant, but she clearly wanted nothing to do with it. She was being polite but short with her responses. He just kept right on talking and asking her questions.

She kept averting her eyes and looking at me, making very strong eye contact and I realized it was a bit of a "help me" look. I smiled at her as an invitation, and she then turned the conversation to me, and asked me a question. I laughed and smiled and answered her, and it turned into a 3 way convo until her drink came. She quickly grabbed her drink, said bye to us and left.

The man didn't bother continuing to talk with me and sat back down immediately.

I wish I could find out what it was about her that inspired that man to walk up to her. I had a very similar experience in the same coffee shop last year. 2 men were sitting outside, when I walked up I smiled at them and went inside. A different woman walked in a minute later, and one of the men got up and followed her inside to chat with her. She politely talked and then he went back outside. As I was leaving the shop, I saw him trying to chat up another woman who had recently walked up.

When I see women getting approached in public, I try to watch and learn something. I feel like I'm still missing some key component.

Men, what makes or breaks a decision to approach a woman?

We hear it all the time. "You have to be happy and content by yourself before you can be happy with someone else". Or, "a relationship shouldn't complete your life, only enhance your life".

What the....?

If people could be perfectly content by themselves, then nobody would enter into relationships. There wouldn't be any incentive; only liability.

So stop telling people that are depressed due to failing with women (or men) that they have to be happy by themselves first. Few people in society are, unless they're Buddhist monks or something.

It is terrible advice, and often hypocritical of the person giving this advice.

WHERE DO OUR GENERATION LADIES BELONG TO?

Women and their mood swings are very much known to the world.

Men usually quote saying that no one can understand the brains of a woman.

But it’s high time that you accept the fact that women will always have those inevitable mood swings and no, PMSing is not the sole reason behind it.

You need to agree to the fact that women are complex and rather than hyping it, it will be really good if we make them feel better about themselves. Mood swings of women are genuine and the reason behind it can be, they being more sensitive towards the nature.

Here I don’t mean that men are insensitive but in many cases women do lead.

First I want to say I'm sorry as this will come off as extrovert bashing.. but I don't know how else to say it

Society favors extroverts way too much. There is nothing wrong with introverts.

More people need to step up and discuss it like I do. Dating is pretty much impossible when your a introvert in your 30s and the world is not on your side

any single girls want a guy in his 30s with a house, several cars of his own, able to fix most anything himself (tries anyway.. more than most can do) and is considered good looking??

NOPE, you don't because I'm a introvert! LOL..my observation though.

wow. just wow.

valkaka:
EVEN THOUGH AM NOT TOTALLY IN SUPPORT OF GEJ AND BUHARI TO MOVE NIGERIA FORWARD.IF ONLY THERE IS SOMEONE ELSE MORE CAPABLE.NEVERTHELESS,I STILL HAVE FAITH SMH IN GEJ BECAUSE OF THE BELOW FACTS:


1] Goodluck Jonathan signed FOI bill that Obasanjo refused to sign and you join then in saying that Goodluck is bad.
2] Goodluck approved N18,000 Minimum wage from N7,500 Which Obasanjo refused to sign and you say that Goodluck is bad and NYSC allowance from N7,500 to nearly approved N39,500, yet they say he is bad.
3] Goodluck dualized federal roads (about 25,000km) which Obasanjo and past Govts abandoned and you say Goodluck is bad.
4] The rail system is working now, with little budget But Obasanjo Sunk billions of dollars without result, other pasts leader ignored and you say that Goodluck is bad.
5] Goodluck has been conducting free and fair elections whereas the ones conducted under Obasanjo are Shameful and national disgrace yet you say Goodluck is bad.
6] Goodluck established 12 new universities, 9 in the North to improve learning and knowledge and increase the Jambites admission rate, yet you say that Goodluck is bad.
7] Goodluck established the Almajiri system for Northern abandoned street children and those deprived of education by their own people and you say Goodluck is bad.
8] Goodluck has been building dams and improving the country's power from 2500mW to 6,000MW - And successfully privatized the sector which many analyst believed is the best way to go and you joined them say that Goodluck is bad.
9] Agriculture have been revamped and for the first time in Nigerian history, Food prices came down during Christmas, instead of skyrocketing and you say that he is a bad President.
10] 2013 and 2014 was the Christmas in Nigeria, where Nigerian did not sleep in filling stations for 3 to 4 days to get Petrol or 100s of people being roasted alive in attempts to get fuel in petrol stations, wickedly, you joined them to say that our God given President is not performing.
11] Airports are wearing world class looks and every zone have International airport and you say Goodluck is bad.
12] This administration has employed more people in their 5years in office than any other in the history of Nigeria [Via Agric, Energy sector,16 New Car Companies, 12 New Universities, 3,826 primary Health care Centers, Teaching Hospitals] SURE-P, YOUWIN and you say Goodluck is bad.
Now do you think that General Muhammadu Buhari will perform magic, which he could not do when he was in his 40s, if you vote him?
What else do they want from President Goodluck Ebele Jonathan?
Share if you agree that President Goodluck Jonathan deserves re-election to continue the good works.

i think if given more time.GEJ will do more cos he is by far the best candidate.my opinion though.

EVEN THOUGH AM NOT TOTALLY IN SUPPORT OF GEJ AND BUHARI TO MOVE NIGERIA FORWARD.IF ONLY THERE IS SOMEONE ELSE MORE CAPABLE.NEVERTHELESS,I STILL HAVE FAITH SMH IN GEJ BECAUSE OF THE BELOW FACTS:


1] Goodluck Jonathan signed FOI bill that Obasanjo refused to sign and you join then in saying that Goodluck is bad.
2] Goodluck approved N18,000 Minimum wage from N7,500 Which Obasanjo refused to sign and you say that Goodluck is bad and NYSC allowance from N7,500 to nearly approved N39,500, yet they say he is bad.
3] Goodluck dualized federal roads (about 25,000km) which Obasanjo and past Govts abandoned and you say Goodluck is bad.
4] The rail system is working now, with little budget But Obasanjo Sunk billions of dollars without result, other pasts leader ignored and you say that Goodluck is bad.
5] Goodluck has been conducting free and fair elections whereas the ones conducted under Obasanjo are Shameful and national disgrace yet you say Goodluck is bad.
6] Goodluck established 12 new universities, 9 in the North to improve learning and knowledge and increase the Jambites admission rate, yet you say that Goodluck is bad.
7] Goodluck established the Almajiri system for Northern abandoned street children and those deprived of education by their own people and you say Goodluck is bad.
8] Goodluck has been building dams and improving the country's power from 2500mW to 6,000MW - And successfully privatized the sector which many analyst believed is the best way to go and you joined them say that Goodluck is bad.
9] Agriculture have been revamped and for the first time in Nigerian history, Food prices came down during Christmas, instead of skyrocketing and you say that he is a bad President.
10] 2013 and 2014 was the Christmas in Nigeria, where Nigerian did not sleep in filling stations for 3 to 4 days to get Petrol or 100s of people being roasted alive in attempts to get fuel in petrol stations, wickedly, you joined them to say that our God given President is not performing.
11] Airports are wearing world class looks and every zone have International airport and you say Goodluck is bad.
12] This administration has employed more people in their 5years in office than any other in the history of Nigeria [Via Agric, Energy sector,16 New Car Companies, 12 New Universities, 3,826 primary Health care Centers, Teaching Hospitals] SURE-P, YOUWIN and you say Goodluck is bad.
Now do you think that General Muhammadu Buhari will perform magic, which he could not do when he was in his 40s, if you vote him?
What else do they want from President Goodluck Ebele Jonathan?
Share if you agree that President Goodluck Jonathan deserves re-election to continue the good works.

#1 Be a Better Listener

It’s very important to listen what people are sharing with you. People like them who are attentive. It is another way to observe people closely. Learn to establish good eye contact with anyone speaking to you and thus people will be more interested to talk to you. It will help you in knowing a better deal about people and attending them in a better way.

#2 Develop a Positive Attitude

No one likes to be around people who are always complaining or have nothing positive to say in any situation. Always be positive in every situation. The way we think the way we do. Make the thing right by this attitude of yours. Negative attitude of vision makes people gloomy. So it is necessary to make any situation better with positive energy. It is also important to think positive about yourself and others.

#3 Read More and Know More

A man of very few interests has very little to talk about. The more you read the more you know about different things. It is very important to know many interests to talk to people while discussing. Thus you also will be enriched with many parts of knowledge which will help you to communicate with others.

#4 Be Confident and be Yourself

This is probably the most important thing for all. Always be confident in every situation. If you cannot be confident you will lose everywhere. Try to act the way you are. Don’t try to be over smart or show yourself what you are really not. You have to show others what you are and they will definitely love you if you are real.

#5 Be Humorous

Everyone enjoys the company of someone who makes them laugh, or smile. Try to be humorous as it helps you to attract people toward you. Everyone will seek and love your company if you are full of energy and a good sense of humor. You will always be able to make any gloomy situation light and take control over it to make people relieve.

#6 Be a Good Conversationalist

Who reads can be a good conversationalist. The more you know about any field you will be able to interconnect with people talking with you. If you are shy to talk that will have an impact over your personality. So try to know more things and start conversation while needed. This will help you to connect with more people and know more things

#7 Be Supportive to Others

Being supportive is probably the most endearing quality you can integrate into your personality. People make mistakes in life but it is necessary to make them realize the mistake and try to alter it by attitude. If you support others in their dire need they will automatically love you. Thus personality will be developed combining positive thinking and supportiveness.

#8 Treat People with Respect

It is necessary to have respect for others as well as for yourself. All the people around you not equally important to you but it is important to take them all cordially. The more you respect people the more you gain respect from others. People will learn to trust you in their bad state for your attitude towards them

#9 Meet New People

Try to meet new people for betterment of yourself. It is important to meet with them who are unlike you. It will help you to improve your vision and broaden your horizons. You will get to know things those are unknown to you. Try to meet people with modesty and thus improve your personality.

#10 Have an Opinion

A conversation has nowhere to go if you have nothing to expound on. It is very important to have opinion and explore it in front of people. Any conversation will go forward if you can take it by giving your won explanations. A unique outlook will expand everyone’s perspective.

Before you go out

1. The “Game” begins as soon as you leave the house. Women notice you before you approach them. They should always see you having fun, being social, and looking good. (Going out with fun people, good wingmen, and to places you like helps with this). If you’ve been circling around, acting nervous, standing alone, you’ll need to have the skills of a Future or a Nick Hoss to get the girl once you approach. Love Systems is about making things easier, not harder.

2. Dress in a way that is fashionable and expresses your identity. Most women see fashion as self-expression. So how do you want her to see you? Dress that way. You can’t avoid this – if you dress to blend in, she’ll just think of you as the kind of guy who wants to blend in.

You see a beautiful woman…

3. Move your feet. If you get the eyes-feet reflex going (i.e., see a hot girl, start walking over to the hot girl), everything else will – eventually – take care of itself. Get this down until it’s automatic. The longer you delay an approach, the harder it will be. Don’t skip this.

4. Memorize five good openers (opening lines) so you always have one ready to go. If you don’t have this, you’ll often stumble the beginning of the conversation or even talk yourself out of approaching in the first place. If you don’t have a set of good “go-to” openers that you know work, grab some from the Routines Manual. Or create your own.

The first few seconds...

5. Body language – this is a massive topic and great body language can almost pick up a girl all by itself. Fundamentals for the first few minutes include eye contact, shoulders back and relaxed, hands calm and not in your pockets, stand up straight (don’t fidget), head straight (not tilted). Stand like you would if you owned the world.

6. Speak up! Love Systems has trained tens of thousands of men in person over the last 10 years. Almost all of them started off speaking too softly when approaching women. Especially at bars and clubs, she must hear you clearly the first time and it must cut across other conversations, the music, etc. Also, use your “chest voice” (Google it) and not your “head voice”.

7. Don’t “milk” the opener. Whatever you said when you came over to talk to her, switch off that topic after a minute. That’s crucial. You want her to see you as an attractive, interesting man, not as “the guy I talked to about such-and-such”.

Getting into the conversation…

8. Be FUN. Don’t be too serious or take yourself or the conversation too seriously. If you look like you’re having fun and enjoying yourself, she will have fun too. Fun is contagious…

9. ..but don’t be a dancing monkey.. You’re not trying to become her personal clown or court jester. Have fun and be fun, but don’t try to entertain.

10. Some things that are great for attraction and are also fun include storytelling, teasing, and role plays. It’s OK if you prefer one or two of these - each of these techniques has its own skill set. I do a lot of storytelling, some teasing, and a rare role play. Braddock (to choose one example) does the opposite. Go with what works for you.

11. Avoid “interviews”. Don’t ask her too many questions. A question or two shows some interest in who she is as a person, but more than that is what every guy does; it’s boring and a turnoff. It’s also a waste – asking her a question about herself does nothing to attract her or let her get to know your good qualities. Instead, make statements. E.g., instead of asking where she’s from, make a guess. Or tell her where you’re from and she’ll do the same.


12. Similarly, don’t play tourist in her life. So you find out she’s a stewardess/porn star/nuclear scientist and you’re curious to know more. Save it. If she’s attracted to you, you’ll have all the time in the world to ask whatever you want.

13. NEVER leave a conversation because you “run out of things to say”. Force yourself to stay. Your brain will learn, if it is forced to, how to improvise. Or use one of the hundreds of proven “things to say” (called routines). Be strict with yourself on this.

Making attraction STICK

Some guys think of attraction as something that takes a long time but once you got it, it’s permanent. That’s doubly wrong. Women feel attracted to men all the time, and it doesn’t take long – within minutes of beginning a conversation. But if you don’t do anything to solidify or lock in that attraction, it goes away as quickly as it came.

14. Qualification is the best way to keep her attracted. By making her work a bit for you and by leading the conversation to a place where you and her admit that you are interested in each other, you’re not some fleeting guy…you’re a guy she needs more of.

15. Phone numbers are not attraction. Getting a phone number does not mean she is attracted to you. Getting a phone number before she is attracted to you is next to useless.

If you ever break any of these 15, print out the list, carry them in your wallet, review them until they are instinctive and you don’t even need to think about them any more.

I’ve been thinking a lot lately about the whole concept of stealing. And not stealing things from a store or a bank but more the relationship kind of stealing. You know, like when someone says “you stole my man.” Maybe I shouldn’t watch so much trashy television.
You have two people who are in a committed relationship. One of them cheats and then decides to end the relationship to be with the person they are cheating with. Or you have two friends. One of them really likes a guy but then the other ends up dating him. What ends up happening is the person who “had” whoever beginning feels scorned because, well, they feel they had them first.
But, honestly, I’m not sure if I would agree with this whole thing here. I’m a genuine believer that someone can’t steal something that’s genuinely yours to begin with.
Now, before I go anywhere, please understand that I am not referring to people as property here. I don’t think of people or relationships in that manner. But I do believe that your significant other is yours in some sort of sense. The sense that you’re going to spend your life together.
I’m also not saying that people don’t have a right to be scorned in these situations. Cheating hurts. When someone wants to be with another person that hurts. And there is nothing wrong with feeling terrible about any of that.
What I am saying, however, is that if someone wants to be with you – I mean truly wants to be with you in every sense of the concept – then that’s that. No one can come in between that. Sure, they might feel connections with other people or think other people are attractive but, at the end of the day, you’re the person they want to come home to.
That doesn’t mean that the relationship will be all rainbows, butterflies, and bowls of cherries either. People are human and they make mistakes. Relationships are difficult and take a lot of work. But, at the end of the day this person wants to be with you so they factor you (and your relationship together) in their decisions.
And it’s not just about hurting you or about what you might think, it’s about the fact that they value what they have with you. And they value that it’s with you. You’re not that easily replaced. Being with someone else isn’t the same and doesn’t sound nearly as appealing to them.
Ultimately I believe that two people who truly love each other have a bond that isn’t easily broken by other people. Actually I would say it can’t be broken by someone else. If the relationship ends, it ends because of something else. Maybe something wasn’t working or the bond wasn’t as strong as you thought. But it’s not just because someone new came along.
It might be a really corny way of looking at love, but sometimes love is corny. And, at the end of the day, I don’t believe it’s possible for anyone to steal your man.

Guys might not admit when it happens, but they feel sentimental at special moments in relationships, just like women do. Sure, society has conditioned us to “man up” and not get too emotional about things — good luck suppressing those feelings. But honestly, it’s not healthy to hold all those feelings in. Men, you know you want to let those feelings out, especially when you’re with a girl who can get your mushy side to come out. So ladies, if you think you don’t know how to make us melt you’re probably not giving yourself enough credit.

Here are a ways you’ll make us fall for you … if we haven’t already. -

1.) Smiling — seriously.
A warm, inviting smile is a surefire way to disarm any man. Flashing him those pearly whites of yours is probably the initial reason he got hooked in the first place. Next time you’re with your guy, smile at him while looking deep into his eyes, bat your eyelashes, and coyly ask “What?” When he freezes like a deer in headlights, that’s when you know you’ve got him. (Most of you already do this, by the way.)
2.) Glancing at each other from afar.
Whether it’s a bar or a cookout, it’s great when you’re a slight distance away from your other half but still close enough to see each other’s facial expressions. It’s the kind of glance where you two share a smirk and know exactly what the other is thinking. That mind reading type of chemistry is pretty special when you find it. It’s also extremely distracting … especially when those glances are loaded with sexual intentions. Um, is it time to go home yet?
3.) Sending random and naughty texts.
The “I miss yous” are cute and all, but it’s the “I can’t we’re alone later ” texts that really get a guy’s attention. The timing of those texts add to the moment, too. Having a bad day at work or sitting in bumper-to-bumper traffic — getting a well-timed saucy text from the girl you’re dating can brighten up the darkest day. There’s nothing hotter than a women who talks the talk and walks the walk.
4.) Sharing intimate details about herself.
It can be hard for women (and men) to open up about personal stories. Revealing intimate details of her past shows she trusts you with her emotions, and more importantly, her heart. If she starts a convo with “I haven’t told too many people this,” it means you’re not just another guy. Intimate details help build rapport, which easily leads to a stronger relationship. If you feel comfortable opening up to him, do it–he’ll feel honored that you aren’t holding back, and you’ll be well on your way to a closer bond.
5.) Giving you a personal gift that relates to a conversation you once had.
When she surprises you with something you talked about for only a second a few weeks ago, it shows that she’s intensely listening to what you have to say. She also wants to show you she cares and that even the tiniest detail matters to her. It’s not about the cost of the gift, it really is the thought that counts here, sometimes the smallest gifts speak the loudest. Don’t forget to say thank you — and pay it forward with a return gift of your own.

6.) Kissing like only you can together.
There are so many kinds of kisses you can give, ranging from the “I want to rip your clothes off” to the “get away from me I have morning breath.” I’m not talking about those. I’m talking about the kiss that lets you know she’s crazy about you — slow, passionate, and to the point where it almost takes your breath away. Will men admit this happens? Of course not, but it does. Getting emo during make-out sessions happens to us too, ladies, even if we don’t want to admit it.

7.) Noticing the first time she makes your bed and tidies up your room.
Coming back to your room after showering to find she’s made the bed and folded a few of your clothes that were scattered around is a sweet moment. Sweet, because we weren’t going to make that bed anytime soon, and it’s a sign you care enough about us that you’re willing to put up with some of our sloppy ways, and you feel comfortable enough to take care of us a little. Respect the gesture, men — but don’t abuse it, this isn’t an invitation to treat her like she’s your personal maid.

8.) Being passionate about similar interests.
While it’s not mandatory, it certainly helps when the two of you are passionate about at least one hobby. Common interests can create an excitement you both care about sharing together.

9) Possessing knowledge of sports.
Again, because I’m from Boston and we’re obsessed with sports there may be a slight Northeast angle to this. However, any guy who’s a diehard fan of anything can agree —there’s nothing hotter than seeing a lady drop sports knowledge like nobody’s business. If she can engage you in a sports debate, she’s sure to rack up more points than 2007 Tom Brady. Combine that sports knowledge with some sexual witty innuendos and you two could have a field day:
“Going deep in the end zone” (football)
“Sliding hard into third” (baseball)
“Goes right to the hole for the jam” (basketball)
“Nice stick work to go top shelf and score” (hockey)
I could keep going, but you get the point.

10) Baking dessert.
Yep, the way to man’s heart is really through his stomach. There are many foods that create a natural aphrodisiac. All that science is great, but you can toss it out the window. It doesn’t matter what dessert is being baked; giving your guy his favorite after-dinner sweet treat is one of the quickest ways to make him salivate over you. The fresh sent of a warm apple pie cooling on top of an oven will make the toughest man melt faster than that scoop of vanilla ice cream topping.

11.) Playing well with kids.
Motherly instincts are a great quality to have when you’re ready to settle down. If you’re a 30-something bachelor like myself, there’s plenty of friends and family who have kids running around during parties and gatherings. Seeing your girl handle children as if they were her own is a sight that might make a guy a little soft on the inside, and start to contemplate the future…a little.

12) Bonding with mom.
For his entire existence there’s only been one woman in his life that was number one — mum. You don’t have to be a momma’s boy to respect her opinion. When he sees that you’ve won his mother over there’s no telling what you can do get away with. Stealing his heart? Absolutely. In fact, he might just hand it over to you.

Guys, what is the number one thing that melts your heart?

1. They uploads pix everyday. Just to get
likes and comments
but when they sees other people's pix she click
the next page
.
2.They answer names like sexy,baby,doll,
slim,tosh,dope,
melon,sweet,sexydopeassbaby,la
hot,becky,strawbeery,sugar,tip sy,jewel,etc
.
3.They attack you when you say the
truthh about them
.
4.They make some guys to sEe the truth but yet
get confused
.
5.They make stupid sttatus and get
500likes and 2000
comments from stupid guys who comment
just to get favour from them
.
6.They are always online especially in the
night
.
7.they are always ugly .
8.They no dey marry early yet they keep
updating I love my
boo,my guy is the best in the world ,love
on air
. 9.They ar reading this and won't
comment. Coz they know
am saying the truth.
.
10.If you don't comment that means you
ar a witch too .
True or false ?

1. Forget about money.
2. Dont even think about
money.
3. Leave money alone.
4. Dont even ask him for money.
5. Give him money instead.
6. I mean give him more money even if he
doesnt ask.
7. I said forget about money oo.
8. Even if he tempts you with money reject it or if
possible shout for help!!.
Ladies I hope you get me.....
If you dont want your guys to cheat just do as I
said!
Or Guys....I dey lie ??

These are 9 qualities that inspire men to give their heart fully.


1. You are self-developed and whole. You have a well-rounded life that you’ve created for yourself that includes healthy friendships and an outlet for service. You’re most likely a reader, and devour things that interest you. Quite often you initiate and contribute a fresh perspective when conversing with your man. You’ve developed your personal philosophies by thinking through and researching several viewpoints. You are confident about your opinions without being dogmatic.

Men love a woman who is intelligent, articulate, and open minded. You have to do homework to be this kind of woman.

2. You offer him respect and priority. You appreciate him with your words, affection, time, and your gaze. When he walks through the door, you stop what you’re doing, stand up and greet him: the man you love just walked in.

Do this no matter how busy you are. Do this even if you’ve been married 10 years. It shows respect.

3. You are a joy to come home to after a long day. When your man has had a bad/busy/stressed-out day, you don’t bomb him with your news when he walks in the door.

4. You let him contribute to you. Men want to be rock stars for their women. You are able to embody being beautifully empowered and independent, while being receptive and appreciative of what your man wants to give you. You are easy to contribute to.

When in a relationship, we must temper hyper-individualism. Count on him for things. Really count on him…..so much so that if he doesn’t come through for you, it will go undone. And if it does go undone, gently remind him that you are counting on him. 95% of the time, your guy simply missed the communication or forgot.

5. You appreciate and accept his financial status. As a conscious woman, you are clear about your financial comfort zone, and you are aware of the economics of your coupling BEFORE you get married.

Get real with yourself. If a “simple life” to him translates as “destitute and poor” to you, you need to find someone who is on the same economic page as you. Do not go into denial because you are in love and then complain about his job choice and your shared standard of living after you are married.

6. You maintain a reserve. You maintain a certain privacy, no matter how long you have been together. Not a sly withholding or secretiveness, but an aura of dignity. You don’t air every thought and emotion that comes into your head. Your man knows it would take a 100 years to unravel you, and that’s because you have maintained a reserve for yourself. You are committed to your own borders of Self for the rest of your life.

7. You are sexually healthy and available to him. You’re open with yourself and generous to him. You’re lit up by him and welcome his desire. You generate your own sexual appetite. You’ve educated yourself in this regard.

If you have past issues with abuse, the most loving thing you can do for YOURSELF is get it dealt with. It is not acceptable to resign yourself to “I was abused” as a reason to stay unexpressed sexually and shut
down your partner’s natural desires. We have been so incredibly fortunate for the past forty (yes, 40) years to have a culture full of therapists, support groups, healing retreats, books, seminars, and kick-ass girlfriends to talk to and get help with. It’s a tremendous disservice to live a low-sex existence because of your abuse, and put that on your husband. It’s your responsibility to make sure that your sexuality is healthy and accessible to the AMAZING man you love. Be delicious for him.

8. You support him in his role as a father. If you love a man who has minor children from a previous marriage, do not behave as if they are in competition with you for his attention. You embrace and support his choice to have a close, nurturing relationship with his children. This means you will, as a couple, be spending time, money, and attention on them.

When men go through divorce, one of the worst fears they deal with is missing out on their kids’ lives. They had a dream when their children were born. Make sure that, on your watch, he gets to live his dream of being an amazing father. Give him the love, freedom, and acceptance to fully engage with his kids.

9. He can trust you 100%. You do not overspend, overeat, become crazy religious, develop emotional relationships with other men, or break his confidence with your mom, sister, or girlfriends. You are faithful. Yes, all of these are areas of faithfulness.

anitank:
because they're always too choosy and do not believe any man is good enough for them

hmmmm...you blowd evrytin out of proportion based on biased mindset.my dear,real men dont go for physical beauty alone...wen it cums to marriage.trust me dat ur physical beauty alone witout gud personality will only get u cheap n fake guys that will only pour cheap champaiqne in between ur thighs.sadly,we ve dis awful thing called ageing,you dnt wana mess with it.i compelled you to continue being choosy.

Gudluck!!

IboBoyNuel:
Getting married to a Beautiful wife matters, cause i aint giving birth to ugly babies.

so ur own point of getting married is to ve pretty kids??....smh!!..i have seen scenarios whereby ugly parents gave birth to pretty kids..you think physical appearance guarantees pretty kids..you are delusional sha??..go and check again.

prettyjo:
Dont be surprised that same guys who claim they dont like pretty girls will be sulking and admiring one.Who are they deceiving??
Say no to ugly guys#lolzzz.
Guys if you are ugly,please marry a beautiful lady to save the face of ur future kids. Thanks

i know they would quote me but i dont even care.
*sips my green tea*

keep hyping urself cos you think that ur pretty..ur point is clueless..you advise some1 to marry a pretty lady cos of unborn kids...smh!!..bear in mind,dat gud luks will fade as the years goes by,its just d reality dat you cannot escape.intelligent and gud personality is lasting and they shud come first before gud luks,which is just seasonal.

africanqueen111:
Did I hear som1 saying yes for d sake of ur unborn children? Hmmm I hav kids dat wil b world changers, brain workers, creative n innovative, dat wil bring pride to their parents,family, n nation dan mere beautiful dummies.

A coursemate of mine(a guy) said. I love women dat r intelligent n hav gud character, who can challenge me in terms of knowledge because I am going to b a prof n b gr8t n wheneva I can't go, my wife wil represent me n represent me well.

Beauty is gud bt it shud nt come first as a criterion. Seek first Godly women, wit gud character, dat r intelligent n den dey r naturally (nt artifical) beautiful whether black or fair

soo on point....love d caligraphy of ur write up...excellent penmanship.