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5. Leaving A Legacy
It has been said that the best legacies are the ones we build. Have you ever taken a trip to the first storey building in Nigeria? If yes, were you told about the rooms Samuel Ajayi Crowther lived in and where he worked from? Have you been to the new kalakuta republic where fela lived and still lives on? Have you been to Wole Soyinka’s house in Ogun State? What about your family house/compound built by your grandfather or father back in your hometown?





These buildings arouse the life and times of their owners in you. It is in people’s houses that we understand how they lived their lives. The houses we live in are an extension of who we are. Don’t live and leave your best memories in a rented apartment. Build one so you can own your memories, and leave something for your generation to cherish.

Love the calligraphy of this write up. Excellent Handmanship. Keep it up, it's always good to begin the day with awe-insiring post like this. Kudos

Cutehector:
I made a comment in u most recent thread.. why not go check it out..

Ain't chastising you Biko, don't just find your post very inspiring.sorry sha.

samted:
I don't think a normal guy will choose hanging out with a guy over hanging out with a girl.
Opposites attract... It's just nature.

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Halt blowing everything out of proportion based on predetermined mindset. It's so lame to think that it's not normal for guy to have penchant for hanging out with fellow guys than ladies. Believe you me there is nothing incoherently wrong with a dude having predilection for hanging out with fellow dudes than ladies.AFricans and their myopic way of comprehending and iterating things. So very reprehensible.

[quote author=Cutehector post=46450225] permit me to laff small abeg.....





Guys, have you ever come accross such ladies who "jokingly" or "knowingly" asks u this question.. "Come and take me out na" i believe the first thing dat comes to ur mind after hearing dat will be laughable.... Buh be that as it may, i'd like yall to really tell us what u really feel when u hear such statements from the ladies...


Do u see them as being cheap or loose


Or would u ever take such babe seriously if she is not your girlfrnd and she asks u dat just too too early.[/quote


WTF this scrap makes the FP. Ostensibly this platform ain't ennobling and instructive anymore. It's quite disheartening cos it's becoming stupendous.

This platform is becoming more and more irksome with each day passing,i wonder why underwhelming and mind numbing posts should continue to make the FP.the whole scenario is becoming a constant vexation to my sight.

The debate among singles whether fornication is a sin or not is on the increase, especially among those engaged to get married. The Bible is very clear on this matter and this article will not only show it is wrong, but will also help singles know how to avoid fornication.
It would be helpful to those of you who want to keep their marriage bed undefiled, those who want to lay the right foundation for their marriage. Or for those who know someone who does…

1. AGREE IT IS WRONG.

First you must be one whose Lord is God and who takes His word as final authority over your life. You must be one who believes and seeks to obey Him in all your ways. You must be one who is ready to swim against the tide of the world and follow the narrow path of unpopularity of this world we live in. you must be one who believes that if God says not to do it then you would ensure to obey. If this is established then let me show you that God does not approve of pre-marital sex (fornication).

For this is the will of God, even your sanctification, that ye should abstain from fornication. 1 Thessalonians 4:3Open in Logos Bible Software (if available)

But that we write unto them, that they abstain from pollutions of idols, and from fornication, and from things strangled, and from blood… Acts 15: 20Open in Logos Bible Software (if available)

These are just two of many scriptures showing how God wants us to handle our bodies. He lives in us and demands that we should treat our bodies like His temple that it is. You do not own your body!

What? Know ye not that your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost which is in you, which ye have of God, and ye are not your own? For ye are bought with a price: therefore glorify God in your body, and in your spirit, which are God’s. 1 Corinthians 619-20

2. MAKE IT INCONVENIENT.

I always tell singles and those already in a relationship to make it very inconvenient for them to have sex with their fiancés/fiancées before marriage. Let me explain:
You should visit and meet each other or spend time together in places where it will be impossible for you to commit the act. Visits to each other’s homes, or even friend’s homes where you can be “left alone” can pose a serious threat.
I hear some ladies say they went to cook or clean for their fiancés and I tell those who want to listen that it is not very appropriate for them to do that, there is time for every thing. I might subscribe to you cooking and sending to him but not going over to his house to do it. You should avoid making room for “mistakes” to occur.

…And do not give the devil a foothold. Ephesians 4:27Open in Logos Bible Software (if available)


Chastity is possible with God.

3. TOUCHES.

One thing to also beware of is touches; yes touches. When you start touching each other, you increase the chances of arousing your sexuality.
And when you continue touching each other so, your defences get weaker and weaker to the point where you will no longer be able to resist the urge to go on and do “it”, this is because the mind is very powerful and thoughts of what could happen with you two will keep playing in your mind.

…And do not give the devil a foothold. Ephesians 4:27Open in Logos Bible Software (if available)

4. THINK OF THE CONSEQUENCES.

Thinking of the consequences of fornication will put godly fear in you, especially if you are a true believer in God and you believe that Jesus can return any moment and will not take you with Him if He finds you in sin. Since no one knows when His return will be, you should live everyday like it is “The Day”.

Know ye not that the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Be not deceived: neither fornicators,nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor abusers of themselves with mankind. 1 Corinthians 6:9Open in Logos Bible Software (if available)

5. PRAY.

For it is in prayer you receive wisdom and power to over come all. Prayer causes you to be filled more with God’s Spirit. If you do not pray then you make yourself an easy prey for the devil.
Notice that I put this towards the end, if you pray and leave the above mentioned undone then you are setting yourself up.

Watch ye and pray, lest ye enter into temptation… Mark 14:38Open in Logos Bible Software (if available)

6. RUN FOR YOUR LIFE!
Finally on this list, I advise that when face to face with the temptation to commit a sexual sin, instead of conversing with each other or the enemy, you should do one very important thing God recommends: RUN!

Joseph ran for his life and he enjoyed God’s blessing, Samson remained and lost his glory, which would you choose?

Flee fornication… 1 Corinthians 6:18Open in Logos Bible Software (if available)

I pray this helps in ways more than one way, and remember to email or share with a friend or loved one.

Ok so the title of this thread was meant to attract attention to it because I'd like serious input here....

I'm not saying a person shouldn't be picky because spending your life with someone is too big a deal to just go with anyone who comes along. What I think is that women might not be willing to accept a man for who he is as much as what they want him to be.

All I hear is how when you meet a woman she has a mental checklist and she has tests she's going to put you through and as a man trying to meet women I'm told what to wear, how to do my hair, how to smell, how to stand, how to talk, how to walk but.... I should just be myself. What

I feel like I'm going to sing in front of Simon Cowell rather than just trying to meet a new person...maybe make a new friend and possibly date if we have a connection.

Another HUGE thing I hear about is this thing called status. Men should have status. Which is the polite term for money. Everyone knows that, but it sounds too shallow to say it so we cover up our true intentions with pleasant/politically correct language.

My impression of all this is that with all this talk I hear about checklists,tests, and status makes me feel like women don't want you for who you are...they want you because of what you can do for them.

This is fine. A person should go after what they want no matter what that is...to each his own. But it doesn't work for me is the thing.

Just being myself: I have 2 degrees, good job, financially independent and stable but not wealthy, I am healthy and fit, like the outdoors and learning new skills blah blah blah...is middle of the road/average and doesn't exactly reek of "STATUS". So I'm never going to pass a checklist or test.

I would like women's thoughts on this...why do you seem so displeased with the average man?

this is the most myopic and gibber post i have ever encountered on this platform.wtf this lame post made the front page..smh.op your talents simply underwhelm me..no offence cos its only a feeble mindset will undergo all those aforenamed remarks just for ladies attentions.and believe you me,its only lame girls will get engrained by such mind-numbing remarks.ostensibly lame girls have been patronizing social media oflate.no offence sha.

When I was in junior high school, I had a teacher who tried to encourage students to expand their vocabulary. What she did was encourage students to try out "new words" in any papers they wrote for the class. However, because students aren't always comfortable with those words, we were told to write (new word) after the new word -- parenthetically pointing out that we knew that word might be awkward or flat out wrong. Ever since then, however, I tend to notice when writers use a "big" word where a small one would do and mentally add the (new word) marking to it. According to a new study, I may not be the only one. People notice when writers use large words where small ones will do -- and it doesn't make them think very highly of the writer. In fact, all those attempts to look smart tend to backfire and make people think you're even dumber. It's probably a case where the general awkwardness of the larger words make people feel that the writer is trying too hard. Of course, Clive Thompson (who we link to for this story) has another explanation. He feels that the test, which was done by simply swapping out actual simple words with thesaurus-picked complex ones, modified the original meaning just enough that it didn't feel right -- making people think the writer was less intelligent when, perhaps, a natural writer could use larger words effectively in writing the entire sentence. Perhaps it really depends on the context. In certain types of writing, short words just make more sense than others.

.These girls ‘conditions are really disheartening considering what they are exposed to; most of them use almost seven months to pay back the money. Even at that, when they request to go back to Nigeria they are made to swear to different kind of oaths that will keep them in Ghana and in the trade.
Poverty and desperation for financial success amongst some Nigerians have led them into prostitution and, the trade of innocent young bright Nigerian girls. Nigeria, a country which is supposed be referred to as the pride of Africa is losing under aged girls who are the future of the country to prostitution in Ghana our next door neighbor not to talk about Overseas.

The Nigerian governments have failed the Nigerian youths and the citizens at large, I have time without number tried to imagine what the future holds for our young ones who should be in school studying hard to contribute to the nation's development in the future, instead have decided to go after quick money and AIDS! I know every reader might be pointing fingers and saying all kind of things, but seriously speaking this is not a time to point fingers but to do something about it. Most of these ladies are educated but, can’t find jobs or anybody to help them. Majority of them do not enjoy being sex workers. We should have a look at the circumstances which have led these girls into prostitution and have forced them to remain in the trade.

I vividly remember how Ghanaian’s were flocking into Nigeria in the 1980’s in search of greener prospects and better living standard. The Ghana must go bags incidents still lingers in my mind. Amazingly 30 years later, Nigerian's; both the rich, poor and our industries are rushing to the same Ghana and funny enough they are been welcomed with a new kind of bag “The Nigeria must come Bags”
Nigeria!!! What a country, blessed but shallow deep in poverty. It simply shows our past and present leaders have failed us.
Conclusively, it is very important for the government of Nigeria most especially the diplomatic mission in Ghana to come to their aid, most of these girls are under aged who can still make good use of their life and should not be caught up in such acts.

I saw this posted in my feed by a single woman I know who is Christian. So this is written from a Christian point of view.

Subject: SELF WORTH (Very Deep!!!) In a brief conversation, a man asked a woman he was pursuing the question: 'What kind of man are you looking for?' She sat quietly for a moment before looking him in the eye & asking, 'Do you really want to know?' Reluctantly, he said, 'Yes. She began to expound, 'As a woman in this day & age, I am in a position to ask a man what can you do for me that I can't do for myself? I pay my own bills. I take care of my household without the help of any man... or woman for that matter. I am in the position to ask, 'What can you bring to the table?'

The man looked at her. Clearly he thought that she was referring to money. She quickly corrected his thought & stated, 'I am not referring to money. I need something more. I need a man who is striving for excellence in every aspect of life. He sat back in his chair, folded his arms, & asked her to explain. She said, 'I need someone who is striving for excellence mentally because I need conversation & mental stimulation. I don't need a simple-minded man. I need someone who is striving for excellence spiritually because I don't need to be unequally yoked...believers mixed with unbelievers is a recipe for disaster. I need a man who is striving for excellence financially because I don't need a financial burden.

I need someone who is sensitive enough to understand what I go through as a woman, but strong enough to keep me grounded. I need someone who has integrity in dealing with relationships. Lies and game-playing are not my idea of a strong man. I need a man who is family-oriented. One who can be the leader, priest and provider to the lives entrusted to him by God. I need someone whom I can respect. In order to be submissive, I must respect him. I cannot be submissive to a man who isn't taking care of his business.

I have no problem being submissive...he just has to be worthy. And by the way, I am not looking for him...He will find me. He will recognize himself in me. Hey may not be able to explain the connection, but he will always be drawn to me. God made woman to be a help-mate for man. I can't help a man if he can't help himself. When she finished her spill, she looked at him.

He sat there with a puzzled look on his face. He said, 'You are asking a lot. She replied, "I'm worth a lot". Send this to every woman who's worth a lot.... and every man who has the brains to understand!!

Thoughts on this? Is she asking a lot or is this the typical expectation women are looking for in a

Hello everyone, long time I haven't been on but there is something I want to ask and I know NAIRALANDERS can generate some pretty interesting discussion!

I'm asking the question because I've listened to a show my female was watching and in it they were talking about how breast implants were a thing of the past, because nowadays it's all about butt implants. I was telling her it doesn't surprise me because I believe women are more superficial than men.

I mean women would wear makeup, get hair extensions, get breast/butt implant, etc, in order to be prettier and attract higher quality men. I'll give you that men will spend more time at the gym to be more attractive but, other than that, most men would not opt for plastic surgery to attract higher quality women. It's as if men are more "real" and ready to accept who they are while women struggle to accept their reality, ie: they would rather hide it or be more superficial about it in order to attain a "higher reality" of themselves.

Let's discuss

-are women more superficial or equally superficial?

1)90% of Ugandan chicks have aborted a minimum of
5 times before their final year.

2)75%Of Kenyan chicks follow men because of
money-gold diggers

3)75% OF GHANA girls have given birth before 25.

4)80% of Nigerian can open their legs for you if you promise them marriage

5)82% of Somali chicks do not wear panties

6)77% of Zambia chicks have never seen a BlackBerry
before.

7) 96 of Zimbabwe babes wear one pant for one
week.
79% of Botswana chicks have orgasms as soon as
they hear gun shots.

9) 98% of South African chicks have hair in their
chests and Nipples.

10) 80% of Sudan chicks carry their panties in their
handbag cos they don't know where they will spend
the night.

11)90% of Burundi chicks look like Weird animals

12)71% of Tanzanian chicks wear second hand panties

If you believe that you are what you feel, then life truly stems from your thoughts and emotions. Affirmations or the process of repeating positive words can boost your spirit to new levels. We must translate our thoughts into words and eventually into intention in order to manifest what we want in our reality. Affirmations are proven methods of self-improvement because of their ability to rewire our brains and have the power to change people’s lives. Science also says that positive self-talk definitely brings about changes in the brain. Here are 10 powerful affirmations that can change your life.

1) I can achieve greatness
One of the most influential ones is to tell yourself on a daily basis that you can achieve all the greatness in life. Focus on your vision and dreams and then attach the emotion to that vision. By telling this to yourself and believing that you can achieve greatness, it will eventually turn into reality.

2) Today, I am brimming with energy and overflowing with joy
Joy starts from within not from outside of yourself. It also starts as soon as you rise. So make it habit to repeat this to yourself first thing in the morning.

3) I love and accept myself for who I am
Self love is meant to be the purest and the highest form of love. When you love yourself, you automatically start appreciating and respecting yourself. If you have confidence and pride in what you do, you will begin to see yourself in a new light and be encouraged and inspired to do bigger and better things.

4) My body is healthy; my mind is brilliant; my soul is tranquil
A healthy body starts with a healthy mind and soul. If either suffers from negative emotions, the others will be affected. The number one cause of health or disease is you. You can also remove and revoke all permission that you have given consciously, subconsciously, to all the ills of the world because you share that pain. You are conquering your illness and defeating it steadily each day.

5) I believe I can do everything
You need to say this to yourself every day. Because this is something that is so important for counseling yourself to stay encouraged. By saying this, you are able to do anything and everything that you put your mind to.

6) Everything that is happening now is happening for my ultimate good
There are no victims, no accidents and no coincidences EVER. They simply do not exist in this reality as you and others will only attract what you and they are a part of. So know from the bottom of your heart that everything happens for a reason and in perfect synchronicity. You are at peace with all that has happened, is happening, and will happen. Your fears of tomorrow are simply melting away.

7) I am the architect of my life; I build its foundation and choose its contents
This is something that you should tell yourself when you wake up every morning. Every new day offers a fresh start and also makes an impact on others around you. You can make anything of that day that you like because you are the architect of your own life. If you begin your day with a positive thought and feeling it will transform your day into something incredible. Works every time.

I forgive those who have harmed me in my past and peacefully detach from them
That doesn’t mean you forget what they did, but you are at peace with what they did and the lessons served. Your strength to forgive is what allows you to move forward and your reaction to any experience is independent of what others think of you. You can forgive one thousand people and even if none of them forgive you, there will always be a sense of peace and freedom within you that they will never have until they share that sentiment. Your power to forgive them also instantly changes how they react to you.

9) My ability to conquer my challenges is limitless; my potential to succeed is infinite
Plain and simple, you have no limits but those you place on yourself. What kind of life do you want? What is stopping you? What barriers are you imposing on yourself? This affirmation will help you address all of the boundaries.

10) Today, I abandon my old habits and take up new, more positive ones
Realize that any difficult time are only a short phase of life. This too shall pass along with your old habits as you take in the new. You are a fully adapting being with creative energy which surges through you and leads you to new and brilliant ideas and the mindset that allows that energy to flow.

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Several global advocacy groups, including the World Health Organization, Amnesty International, and Human Rights Watch, are calling for the decriminalization of prostitution, but many are fighting to keep the practice illegal, citing the moral, ethical, and practical concerns of condoning the sale of sex. Here are the pros and cons of legalizing prostitution:

PRO

1 Creates additional tax revenue to be withheld from women’s health care
2 Bold new frontier of Yelp reviews
3 Politicians caught soliciting prostitutes can boast about supporting small businesses
4 Would free up law enforcement agents to finally win that war on drugs
5 Saves us from any chance of a modern reimagining of Risky Business
6 Probably a little easier than convincing everyone to stop.


CON

1 Sex is wrong
2 One more group we’re forced to acknowledge as human beings
3 Commodifies women without the benefit of a two-year contract from Maybelline
4 With legalization of marijuana and gay marriage, news outlets can’t afford to lose another source of endless debate
5 Clients will still be terrible people
6 If we let consenting adults have sex, who knows what else they’ll want permission to do?

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We have, for longer than anyone can remember, divided men into 2 rough, very inexact categories:

The good guys and the bad boys.

Yet today, in 2015, women are still falling for the tricks used by bad boys to get them thinking that true love and marriage are around the corner – when that’s actually the farthest thing from the truth.

It’s time that all women learn how to differentiate the men interested in meaningful relationships form the players! Sadly, for every serious single guy out there, there are five assh@les.

While good guys hit on a girl because they love women, players just love playing the “Game.” Womanizers don’t really love women, they love sex.

Here are some words of wisdom to make the difference even more recognizable:

1. Good guys love women. Players love sex, regardless of who is in the bed with them.

2. Players think that they understand what women want. Good guys acknowledge that they don’t, but want to try.

3. Players always have a plan. Good guys are usually open to new ideas and playing it by the ear.

4. Players refer to you as “baby.” Good guys remember your name.

5. Players find it hard to admit or show you that they care about a subject, or you. Good guys will not hide their feelings.

6. Players make promises and don’t keep them. Good guys talk less and do more.

7. Players will tell you how great they are: Rich, smart, successful, etc. Good guys will let you discover it on your own.

8. Players will show you off and check every other guy’s reaction to you. A good guy will only be looking at you.

9. A good guy will be trying to get into your heart, not your pants.

10. Players will not reveal too much about themselves. Good guys will open up and let you in.

11. Players want to get you drunk. Good guys will order a nice bottle of wine and drink it slowly.

12. Players will fall asleep afterwards. A good guy will invite you to sleep over.

13. A player will listen to what you have to say. A good guy will ask you lots of questions too.

14. Players will sweet talk you for one purpose. Good guys will sincerely build up your confidence.

15. A player is always casual about plans, sex and the future. A good guy will know when to be serious.

16. A player will always try to impress you with fancy restaurant reservations. A good guy isn’t afraid to stay home and let his true self become apparent.

17. A player forgets the details a good guy will remember.

18. Players will think they know you. A good guy will always want to know more.

19. Players need constant attention from others. Good guys will focus their attention on you.

20. Players are interested in the value you bring to them, like an object. A good guy wonders what he can give to you.

21. Players want their dates to feel dependent on them. A good guy wants an independent woman

Irabor, who is the founder of ‘The Pink Ball Cancer Benefit’ says celebrities should try to keep their union private, and away from media scrutiny.

She also advised Nigerian celebrities to stop living their lives on social media.
“Celebrity couples should stop living their lives on twitter and Instagram; it’s ok in the real world for couples to disagree”, Irabor wrote.

Irabor and her husband, veteran broadcaster, Soni Irabor have been married for a long time, and recently celebrated their 31st anniversary in July.

She further tweeted thus:



“The media puts too much pressure on celebrities and their private lives, no wonder celebrity marriages are crumbling like a pack of cards.

“But if celebrity couples are true to themselves and are not playing out a script, they can make their marriages work, regardless.

“The media is too harsh on celebrities! Celebrity couples sometimes deserve what they get when all they do is take each other to the cleaners on the social media. Marriage is for grown ups!!”

Take note that the failure of a relationship can be attributed to one or a combination of the following factors. So if you find that your relationship is facing these problems, it may be best to try and work it out so it doesn’t ruin the hard work you’ve put into your relationship

#1 Relying on your partner for your happiness. This is common among people who have either low self-esteem or have very few good things going on in their life. The problem with this is that it may put too much pressure on your partner. How? It will always feel like your partner has such a huge role in your life, and that without him/her, you’d be a miserable heap of tears. This kind of dependence is not healthy in any kind of relationship!

#2 Not standing up for yourself. There may be times when you forego your own desires so you can make your partner happy. This is called a sacrifice.But if you keep doing this and your partner learns that they can easily ignore your wants, you’ll start to feel your sacrifice taking its toll on you. One day, you might wake up and feel so used that you end up snapping and breaking up with your partner.

#3 Too much dominance. This is the opposite of sacrificing too much. Instead, you expect your partner to be at your beck and call, or else, they will be sorry! Instead of fostering a relationship based on love and trust, you’re instilling fear into your partner.

What this does is force your partner to be miserable and helpless or it can lead them to lie, sneak around or even find someone else’s shoulder or bed just to avoid your wrath and their misery.

#4 There’s too much jealousy going on. If you’re the one who’s jealous, you’re probably always going to be snooping around to check if your partner is faithful to you. Just one instance of you seeing them chatting with someone whom you consider a threat, and you’ll unleash a barrage of accusations.

On the other hand, if your partner is the jealous one, you may find yourself sacrificing your happiness just so you don’t get hit with the barrage of accusations.

#5 Selfishness. Selfishness in both of you will lead to a tug-of-war for who gets the final say in things. You can’t always get what you want, and neither can your partner. If neither of you are willing to compromise to make your relationship work, then you can both find someone who’ll be more accommodating to your every want and need. Good luck with that! #6 Nitpicking each other’s faults. Honesty matters in a relationship. But being too blunt about your partner’s faults all the time may make them feel they’re always under your constant scrutiny. Not only will you slowly pick at their self-esteem, but you might also push them towards the arms of someone who’s much more accepting of their faults. #7 Lack of time. Even if you both have a busy lifestyle, you still need to set aside time for each other just to keep the relationship going. A five-minute phone call or a text exchange may be enough to let you work through a time when you’re too busy for anything. If you don’t spare even a few minutes for your partner, neglect starts and that will definitely eat away at your relationship.

#8 Lack of effort. So maybe you have tons of time to spend with each other, it should be no problem, right? Wrong. In fact, if you have lots of time, but very little quality time, this can lead both of you to take each other’s presence for granted. The effort here is to make each date together count through little sweet gestures or bringing something new to the conversation, whatever both of you are into. Exerting a little something extra from time to time shows your partner that you would still go the extra mile, no matter how long you’ve been dating. In not doing this, you’ll slowly make your relationship more mundane until you just give up.

#9 Physical distance. There’s nothing wrong with having a long distance relationship. In fact, some relationships are tested and made stronger by the physical distance. However, the distance can bring about problems such as a lack of time for each other or lack of physical intimacy. Unless you make an effort so you can finally be in the same zip code, these relationships usually break under the strain.

#10 Emotional distance. When you’re emotionally incompatible *i.e., one of you is more open while the other is withdrawn*, this can lead to a lot of unmet emotional needs. While two people are never 100% on the same page, it’s important to at least be on a somewhat similar level of emotional availability. If one of you is aloof and the other is needy, then this imbalance can cause friction and resentment in the one who’s exerting more effort to feel more loved in return.

#11 Little lies that build up. A couple of white lies at the start of your relationship can be common. Of course, you want to put your best foot forward. But it’s also important to eventually come clean or at least try to prevent the lies in the first place. When these lies build up, it might spiral into a web of lies that you can no longer get out of. It’ll be a huge form of deception, even if it all just started from one little white lie.

#12 Different goals. When you get deeper into a relationship, you may find out that you and your partner may have different goals for the future. One of you may want to focus on your career, while the other would like to start a family soon. This can lead to conflict when it comes to making big decisions in your life. If left without compromise, the rift in your desires may end up causing a rift between the two of you.

#13 Emotional baggage. It goes without saying that baggage will always affect your relationship. Unless you learn to deal with it in a healthy way, it will manifest itself in your relationship from time to time. In addition to this, the fact that your partner can’t help you deal with your baggage can lead them to see their own inadequacy, and may then affect how they acts towards you.

#14 Lack of positive support from friends or family. You’re not in a relationship with your partner’s friends and family. But they are somewhat responsible for who your partner is. Whenever you have a fight, it’s easy for either of you to run to your respective loved ones *friends and family* to b!tch about what happened. However, if they’re not supportive of your relationship, they can end up giving love advice that ends with “just break up!” And you, in your state of vulnerability, might end up agreeing with them. You may notice that big issues like infidelity and abuse have been left out of the reasons. This is because those reasons are a fairly obvious cause for a failed relationship. The common reasons mentioned here are the little reasons that many may not notice up until it becomes unbearable. But they can build up and cause conflicts that will cause your entire relationship to unravel, even before either of you notice it! -

1) YOU TAKE OVER HIS CHORES......its absolutely none of your business if your boyfriend cannot do his laundry.Yes,its none of your business.if a guy cannot clean his room,do his dishes or cook,that should not be your job.let him handle his chores himself.you might be a good girlfriend and you don't mind doing all these,but it will only make you a girlfriend of convenience.its OK to help him out once in a while,but please don't make it a habit.
Gradually cut down on down in the number of things you do for him.if he complains or makes a big about you not dong things for him anymore,then sorry you have been used.

(2)YOU LIVE HIS LIFE..........If you are living your boyfriend's life,then you are living the life that is convenient for him.You are doing yourself a great damage if you Kowtow to the life he wants you to live.you should not matter more to your boyfriend than himself and vice versa.The relationship is about of you and everyone needs must be met equally.

(3)HE THREATENS TO END THE RELATIONSHIP WHEN THINGS ARE DONE HIS WAY.............If your boyfriend threatens to quit the relationship just cos you don't do certain things for him,then he is being manipulative.he will use this to his advantage especially if he knows you don't want the relationship to end.Don't get it twisted,it dosen't mean he loves you,if he does this;it is rather his way of controlling you to his advantage.in this case you are a girlfriend of convenience.it is good however,that you swallow your pride and give in sometimes...just sometimes

(4)YOU ARE THE REBOUND GIRL.......He only remembers you exist when his other relationships ends.Yes the other ones.if this is what happens with your guy,then sorry,but you are a girlfriend of convenience.you became history once a new girl comes into the picture as soon as she s gone you are a darling.darling. Don't let him trick you.if you reject him when he comes,he wouldn't dare repeat it.Dont give in to his ego.if he loves you,then he should be bold enough to stay.



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1. His height. Don’t cross someone off your
list of potential future mates just because
he’s not tall enough. There’s nothing wrong
with not being attracted to someone (you
can’t force chemistry), but don’t ignore an
obvious connection just because he’s not
physically the kind of person you normally
date or have pictured yourself with.
2. His body type. So he’s not as buff as the
last guy you dated. But the last guy you
dated was a jerk who didn’t care about you.
Looks don’t last anyway. Dad bods FTW.
3. Whether or not he drinks. Instead of
freaking out because he doesn’t like to
party or enjoys a few drinks here and there,
give them a chance. Even if you’re staunchly
for or against some habits, you should get
to know the person first.
4. If he still lives at home. Tons of
Millennials still live at home, so don’t sweat
it if a potential love interest is trying to save
on bills or pay off college debt. If this is why
he’s living at home, that’s probably a good
sign — he’s fiscally responsible, which
bodes well for his (and potentially your)
future.
5. His age. If you like the person you’re
with, it shouldn’t matter that he was too
young to remember the ’90s or too old to to
have watched the same Nickelodeon
cartoons as you. What’s important is that
you share the same values and are obsessed
with each other now. Or, as Owen Wilson
says in Wedding Crashers, see him as the
counterpoint to your soul.
6. Your gut reaction to his appearance.
Whether you are typically drawn to the
clean-cut type who gets his shirts
professionally laundered or just love a dude
with piercings and tattoos, don’t let
someone who looks different from your
“type” influence your perception of his
boyfriend potential.
7. What your friends think. It’s never bad to
have your friends and family meet and offer
their opinions on your potential life partner,
but unless they’re getting serious ax-
murderer vibes or perceive a major problem,
don’t take it to heart if you disagree. If they
think he’s potentially physically or
emotionally abusive, you should be listening.
If they think he’s kind of loud or annoying
or “not talkative enough,” you shouldn’t
worry.
8. What he does for a living. Unless his job
is something actively horrible, like
designated puppy kicker, don’t let it frighten
you off. He also might not fit the stereotype
of others in his profession. Not all finance
guys are total douchebags, after all.
9. How many people he’s slept with. He
might be way more or less experienced than
you. Don’t let his relationship history make
you feel weird about the fact that he’s slept
with more or fewer people than you.
10. How many serious relationships he’s
had. He might be a serial relationship person
or never have seriously committed to
anyone before. We all know from Fifty
Shades of Grey and After that men can
change. So at least give him a chance.
11. How much his interests align with
yours. Sure, it’d be great if you’re both
mega-athletes who bike 18-mile trails on
the weekends, or cinephiles always going to
the movies, but someone with way different
interests can open you up to new
experiences. And that can be romantic and
fun and wonderful.
12. His sense of style. Whether he spends
his whole pay check on Saville Row suits or
wears the same old cargo shorts every
weekend, it doesn’t matter. (If things get
really serious, you can always throw away
the cargo shorts when he isn’t looking.)
13. If he’s well-travelled. People can be
smart and wonderful and not have had the
opportunity to explore other parts of the
world. See it as an opportunity: You can
explore together.
14. If his previous partner was really hot (or
not). It says nothing about his tastes or
how shallow he is or how he feels about
you. You’re not competing with his exes —
they’re gone because he likes you and not
them.
15. How much money he makes. Not all rich
people are snotty and terrible, and plenty of
people on the lower end of the income
spectrum can make you happy. Life’s true
riches come from the heart … or something.
I don’t know, just don’t be shallow.

1. Begin to put money in the bank and learn
to leave it there.
2. Date the right person .
3. Get your own place, stop having
roommates .
4. Get out of debt .
5. Get that body you always dreamt of and
maintain it.
6. Surround yourself with people that will
take you a step ahead.
7. Start to accumulate fortune and wealth .
8. Learn to dress well not sexy.
9. Accept that you are an adult n stop
kiddish behaviors.
10. Let go of the past and look forward to
the future.
11. You will Like And Share this update if u
believe in all this.

This may sound weird to most woman out there, but it has an obvious health implications according to genealogists. Putting on undies are no such necessity, the fact is, you’ll be better off without panties.

These are the reasons you need to check out to let go of those annoying panties and live the commando lifestyle.

Help Prevent Infections

Occasionally women need to air out. Due to the naturally dark and moist condition of the vagina, Consistently shielding it with a non-absorbent fabrics will only generate more moisture to gather, which create an perfect territory for yeast and bacteria growth.

Ditching panties allows your vulva to breathe, which could also possibly help in lowering your risk of infections.

It’s Comfortable

Underwear are sometimes uncomfortable when you just wants to have the liberating feeling of no constricting cloth, going commando really comfortable, It’s just you, your vagina and pants having some quality time together.

No More Visible Pantie Line! (VPL)

Most women nowadays women unwarily wears tight and light colored cloth, Due to the tightness and lightness of the cloth, their panties are visible through their bum, in color, outline and shape. This is one the most embarrassing moment in women life. But when you go commando, it’s no longer a worry.

It’s Sexy

What is so awesome to whisper to your man, you aren’t wearing undies under your jeans or whatever, and watch how his lust will blossom, you’ll be the only thing inside his skull all day.

If you are the kind who always want to pull surprises or need a little excitement in you sexual life, then going commando is the right move for you.Beside that, it boost your sex drive and confidence level.

It’s A Bursts Of Pleasure

The seam of your pant rubbing up against your vagina can be exciting mostly when you’re wearing tight jeans. This sometime may let you fidget,rubbing you the right or wrong way to make you feel a little unexpected warmth down there.

Almost every adult once or twice has been rejected by women. The question most guy ask is, why they have been rejected. You’ll realize that some of the reasons are definitely beyond your control, but most of the them too are mistakes that you guys cause.

Check out the 5 major reasons why you men get rejected below:

#1. Lacking Confidence

Most men out there are too nervous when approaching women to the extend of even uttering a word. They think you men don’t have the guts to speak with them.

One thing that women value in most men is being self-confident more than your physical appearance, luxuries or a sense of humor. Over-coming shyness, self-doubt, nervousness, insecurities and other emotional weaknesses are a key to boost your confident, because those things sexually turned women off. They are sexually attracted to self-assured and confident men

#2. Being Too Pushy Or Cocky

We just talk about being confident in order not to get rejected, but stepping over the line can completely put her off and hence rejection.

Don’t delve too much in into a woman matter for any reason just to cover up your insecurities, nervousness or whatever. Being too pushy can mean that you lose your chance.

#3. Being Boring

In almost every conversation men do the talking while women do the listening, to indicate a man’s intellect you must be the conversational type. Women often do not respond well to guys who are boring or have nothing to say for themselves.

Attractive single women hate to be around a guy who is boring or have nothing to say, she wants to laugh and be happy. Boring and being predictable can limit your chance.

#4. Bad Appearance

Looking badly in your appearance and looks is one of the most common reason women reject men. That is the first impression when you approach her, so make sure that your hygiene is up to the max…Bad body odor, Foul breath, untidy looks or cloth are most common things that turned her off.

Fortunately, this is easy to prevent. Make sure to wash yourself, brush your teeth(keep breath mints), wear outfit stain-free, comb or shave your hair, choose neutral colors and pick cloth that fit well on you. Put on some light scented body spray or deodorant and there you go! You may be the most handsome and interesting man, but she will reject you if you don’t look good.

#5.Just Not Her Type

Let get this real, Everyone has some sort of preference when it comes to the type of person we find attractive, we can’t denied that. That is why sometimes you get rejected because you are just not the type she is looking for.

You can sort it out with the 4 reasons listed above but still to no avail. Maybe you’re don’t look attractive to her or the chemistry isn’t there.

Every woman has some certain personality traits and physical features that they find attractive. If you do not fall into their criteria then there is a likely rejection. In this situation there is little you can do other than accepting it.

Don’t forget to put your comment below, if you have something to add

1). Never raise your voice for any reason to your husband. Its a sign of disrespect.(Prov 15v1)
2). Don't expose your husband's weaknesses to your family and friends. You are each other's keeper.(Eph 5v12)
3). Never use attitudes and moods to communicate to your husband, you never know how your husband will interpret them.(Prov 15v13)
4). Never compare your husband to other men, you've no idea what their life is all about.
5). Never ill treat your husband's friends because you don't like them, the person who's supposed to get rid of them is your husband.(Prov 11v22)
6). Never forget that your husband married you, not your maid or anyone else. (Gen 2v24)
7). Never assign anyone to give attention to your husband, people may do everything else but your husband is your own responsibility.(Eph 5v33)
. Never blame your husband if he comes back home empty handed. Rather encourage him.(Deut 3v28)
9). Never be a wasting wife, your husband's sweat is too precious to be wasted.
10). Never pretend to be sick for the purpose of denying your husband sex (SS 7v12
11). Never compare your husband to your one time sex mate in bedroom.(SS 5v9)
12). Never answer for your husband in public opinion polls, let him handle what is directed to him although he may answer for you in public opinion polls.(Prov 31v23)
13). Never shout or challenge your husband in front of children(Eph 4v31)
14). Don't forget to check the smartness of your husband before he checks out.(Prov 12v4)
15). Never allow your friends to be too close to your husband.
16). Never be in a hurry in the bathroom and on the dressing table. Out there your husband is always surrounded by women who took their time on their looks.( 1 Sam 25v3)
17). Your parents or family or friends do not have the final say in your marriage. Don't waste your time looking up to them for a final word.(Luke 21v16)
18). Never base your love on monetary things. Will you still submit to him even if you earn more money than him?
19). Don't forget that husbands want attention and good listeners, never be too busy for him. (Gal 6v9)
20). If your idea worked better than his, never compare yourself to him. Its always teamwork. (Gal 6v10)
21). Don't be too judgemental to your husband.(Eph 4v29)
22). A lazy wife is a careless wife. She doesn't even know that her body needs a bath.(Prov 24v27)(Prov 20v13)
23). Does your husband like less cooked food?, try to change your cooking.(Prov 31v14)
24). Never be too demanding to your husband, enjoy every moment, resource as it comes.(Luke 11v3)
25). Make a glass of water the very first welcome to your husband and everyone entering your home. Sweetness of attitude is true beauty. (Prov 31v11)
26). Don't associate with women who have a wrong mental attitude about marriage.(Prov 22v14)
27). Your marriage is as valuable to you as the value that you give it. Recklessness is unacceptable.(Heb 13v4)
28). Fruit of the womb is a blessing from the Lord, love your children and teach them well.(Prov 22v6)
29). You are never too old to influence your home. Never reduce your care for your family for any reason. (Prov 31v28)
30). A prayerful wife is a better equipped wife, pray always for your husband and family(1 Thess 5v17

LADIES
One fact about men is that a man can only truly love one woman. He may have 20 side kicks and 30 friends with benefits but amongst all those, it's only one woman he can die for. When ladies describes their men, they say "I love him for his height, I love him for the way he treats me, I love his character cause he's such a gentleman, etc,
Men are different, their hearts cannot accommodate more than one woman. When chatting with their friends they describe their women as 'I like her for her A*s, I like to go out with her cause she's fun to be with, I like her cause she's pretty I can go with her to my friends, I like her cause she loves me ETC but for his real woman, a man always says "I DON'T KNOW WHY I LOVE HER"
Ladies confuse Love. When a man surprises you with jewellery, takes you out for coffee date, long road trips on weekends that doesn't define how much he loves you. Maybe he just enjoys your company. If you want to know if a man loves you, wait until there is a fight. YOUR man will always apologize to you if he is the one who wronged you. He would never solve a confrontation with sex. I've heard so many stories about having "angry sex" or "make up Sex", when they are both mad at each other. Sex should never be used in place of dispute solving. I don't understand what 'angry sex' is.
If your relationship is so perfect that you never fight, Surely one is fooling the other. Fight are always there but the way of solving is very different. There are things your man would never tell you even when his brains are blowing with anger.. Ladies love complaining about their man being mama's boys, but your man is a mama's boy cause as men we go where we are loved and appreciated. Before complaining how much your man is a mama's boy, please ask yourself whether you are the 'real' woman cause it's only the 'real' woman who gets her man out of his mama's net.
Men are endangered species and so should be protected and Loved!..
good evening folks.........................!!!

Relationship has many factors but do all matter ? Many people get worried when when their partner doesnt call them during the day , some also get worried when their partner forgets to say ” i love you” after a chat.

We sometimes focus on less important things and get worried with them whilst neglecting the core things that makes relationship meaningful .

1. Love – First of all any relationship can not survive without love . Love is what binds us together in spite of our indifference – love must be seen as a core factor in any relationship.

2. Good healthy communication – Healthy Communication is the fuel for every relationship . Learn to have one on one chat with your partner . Avoid accusations , insults and things that kill conversation – honestly i dont know how people who claim to be in love fight each other

3. Understanding – You must understand each other in spite of your indifference , the fact that she eats too much doesnt make her less of a lady . Learn to love her in spite of her weakness

4. Forgiveness – Without forgiveness hatred will rule your relationship. People make mistakes all the time and its our duty as humans to forgive others mistakes so our mistakes can also be forgiven.Forgiveness brings hope and joy into the relationship



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1. You work your entire life making money just to
get
a wife.
2. You have to act tough no matter your fears.
3. After buying a ring, you'll need a woman to
confirm whether you get married or not.
4. You spend millions to make your wedding a
success,and your wife takes the glory.
5. You work extra hours after marriage.
6. You give money for house keeping and you get
to
eat only dinner.
7. You work hard to make wealth just to make a
will
for your wife and children.
8. You spend your hard earned money to take
your
children to school and wen they grow up they
celebrate mothers' day.only
IS THIS TRUE OR FALSE? -