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I don't think atiku and his cohorts understand that 2023 election is about candidate not party...Even if peter obi were to contest under APC..we will still vote for him..it's all about there personality not the so called party..so atiku should go and sit down afterall in 2019.. we voted for pdp cos of PO..let's wait and see how many votes he gets in 2023 without po.mtcchewww

A lot of things change when a couple becomes married.

While dating, you usually see each other at your best periods, well dressed, nice perfumes, eating out in a restaurant and all.

When you get married it becomes a different ball game, you wake up beside each other, you see all the flaws that were previously hidden.

Complacency also sets in, you feel you have gotten the prize and do little to sustain it. You are no longer under pressure to impress, to look good for your partner.

These culminate in a loss of interest on both sides. My advice is try to make your relationship fresh, try to create honeymoon moments everyday... Interest never loses,it just covers with dust.

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few people get confused between making love out of passion to making love out of lust. Only when two people are passionate about each other can they experience the truest and highest form of energy emerge from one human body to the other and connect so strong that it looks like one. If one understands this simple concept, life will be less complicated.

Most precious thing you can give someone is your body through sex.

I am openly talking about this because I think every reader is mature enough to understand.

When you have sex with someone you amalgamate your body with their body for a while.

Sex connects countless emotions, stimulates so many nerves and gives unimaginable high to two people.

Sex is not just “an act of achieving orgasm”, it is a way to connect two souls through bodies.

It involves “pre-engaging emotions” as well as “post orgasm emotions”

For me it is the most precious thing a human can exchange with another human.

We must therefore be very careful, selective and determined before giving this precious thing to anyone.

Being casual about sex appears “cool” because we see that in movies and in interviews of celebrities who initially get addicted and have a lot of fun but eventually end up not so well in life which we don't notice because their fame would be long gone by then.

In real world sex is not so casual, because when the instant feeling of orgasm is gone, you want to be emotionally there with that person.

You want to talk, caress, cuddle them and simply be with them.

It creates a sense of belongingness, an emotional bond and affection with a person, and if you get back being stranger, it hits you hard subconsciously, making you emotionally vulnerable.

It initiates the worst feeling for humans, which is regret.

Also if you keep repeating this activity with strangers, eventually you become an addict.

An important consequences to keep in mind is STD's (Sexually transmitted diseases) which are much more common and dangerous than they appear.

I am not talking about the concept of “virginity” here, everyone has their own choice, but as individuals we must be mature enough to make tough, better and wise choices for ourselves.

My top 7.

We must have learned something.

(1) Sex. Some people say there are more important things. And I think, “Ok, but nothing more fun.” Oh, and you might want to check with your spouse first before you curtail it.

(2)Commitment. Many people vow, “for better or worse.” And when the “for worse” part shows up they want to bail out. Yet, you only discover the “for better” part when you work through the “for worse” part.

(3) Faithfulness. Nothing destroys a marriage faster than unfaithfulness. Once trust is broken it can be nearly impossible to gain back. Better to remain faithful and continually build trust. And stick to more of number 1 with your spouse.

(4)Romance. Sometimes you feel madly in love. Sometimes blah. And sometimes wonder, “Who the hell is this other person?” So do the romantic things you did when you felt madly in love. Soon you will again. Your brain won’t know.

(5)Fight fair. You’re going to clash. Just nature. So learn to fight in love. Attack the problem not each other. Criticize the issues not one another. Work to restore not win. Then add in number 1 to make up.

(6)Forgive. Everyone screws up. So own it. Apologize. Fix the problem. Forgive and forget. Then move on. Believe me you’ll have plenty more in the future without digging up the bones from the past.

(7)Fun. Marriage is meant to be fun. Yet, so many act like they’re waiting on death row. Explore new adventures together. Laugh. Enjoy separate interests. Then celebrate each day you’re together.
And at the end of the day, when you go to bed, hold hands and whisper a thought of thanksgiving for your marriage. Oh, and maybe enjoy a little of number 1.

You’ll have a successful life-long marriage as you choose to everyday.

Godspeed

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(1)To Get Away with Stuff
This is the reason why most women lie as well, right? It is often just easier to give a very simple and easy answer, as compared to saying the truth. Often, in saying the truth, confrontation is a given. As such, lying seems like a safer option.

(2)Fiction is More Believable
This is very common as well. Women have a tendency to refuse to believe something that is just too "easy" to be true. Poor men, where do they go at such a time. If they say the truth, they will be constantly questioned. So, they make up a more complex lie, and the women tend to fall for it!

(3)Just for fun
Many men when questioned about being late can actually speak the truth; for instance, "We got bored working, so we went to the bar after office hours, hence I got late!" - now what's there to hide in that? But no; men being boys, end up having no fun in saying that. Many men in such a situation, would enjoy making up elaborate and detailed lies for their special someone. After all, all their pent-up creativity has to be expressed somewhere, right?

(4)Half Truth
Often a man is not exactly lying, but he is not completely honest either. He will say the acceptable part of the truth and very conveniently "forget" about the unacceptable part of it; like he may say that he took a friend out for shopping, but he may just omit the part where his "friend" is actually his ex-girlfriend. Let's face it; if you are his girlfriend or wife, you would at least frown at the concept. So, to keep you happy, he would simply not mention it.

(5)To Avoid Work
Men lie to get away from chores or other errands. Like, if you need to have him pick up the laundry on the way back from office, he might "suddenly" have a very important meeting spring up. Or if he forgot to do it, he would make up a story saying that he remembered, but thought you would have already done it, instead. Silly, I know, but that is the way a man's mind works, at times.

(6)To Make You Feel Better
Now, if you have cooked the worst meal ever, you would not want him to tell you that in the face, right? More so, men have been trained to tell the woman the food is good, come what may, if they care about her. So, in such a case his lie to you would be something like "the food was amazing". You wouldn't mind this lie, would you?

(7)To Hide the Truth
These are the lies that you need to be wary of. Yes, all the lies that men say are not white lies. Some are the ones that they say to hide something from you.

(Lying is Normal
Don't go by the above statement completely; it applies only to certain men who believe it's a normal thing to do. For some men, blurting out lies is a very easy thing and they are quite habituated in doing that. It's the best thing they can do for they don't value their relationship. They would probably keep on lying if they haven't fallen into a soup, and if lying has helped them achieve their goal.

(9)Their Woman Wouldn't Understand
This is a very common cause that makes men lie because they fear that a woman would fail to understand their side of the story. Instead of facing the situation, men are better off lying and consider themselves safe, rather than handling undesirable emotions of a woman.

(10)Women May not Cope with Bitter Truth
In order to avoid any unpleasant happenings at home, and out of fear that women would go through uncontrolled emotions on hearing a bitter truth, men prefer to hide the truth. They fear that the peace at home would go for a toss. And if his current relationship is already facing the heat, then the truth may worsen the relationship; to avoid this, a man would prefer to lie.

(11)To Impress a Woman
Many men exaggerate about themselves in order to put up a proud front before women. They feel that if a woman discovers a "truth", about them, they might lose a woman's attention. Men might continue to do so, until one fine day, when their lies are chanced upon.

Now, sometimes relationships just don’t work. Abusive boy/girlfriends will not stop being abusive. You cannot force someone to love you or put in effort if they don’t want to. You have to know if it’s worth fighting for, and that can be difficult. Don't take anything I say to mean that you should stay in a relationship that is one sided or toxic or abusive.Relationships require mutual respect. But as long as you both respect each other as human beings…

My brutal truth is that relationships require work. So much work. Difficult work.They require that you truly and honestly assess YOUR OWN behavior, not just your partners. They require that you compromise. (I mean it actually compromise) They require admitting when you are wrong. I know, this can be very difficult. They require learning how another person thinks. You cannot assume the reason someone else is doing something.Don’t Make Assumptions.” When you communicate clearly with each other you avoid misunderstandings, sadness and drama. When you assume, you make as ass out of… well, you know.

They require accepting that not everything is about you. Of course, sometimes it is about you. But sometimes it’s about your partner. Sometimes it’s about neither or both of you. All you can do is support each other. You have to decide what’s really important to you. What is worth the fight and what isn’t. This will be different for everyone. The only way you can figure it out is by…TALKING.

Because here’s the real scary truth. Relationships require brutal honesty. Honesty with yourself and with each other.

You can’t try to change who you are to make them happy. You can change habits for a more peaceful coexistence, but you cannot change yourself. This goes the other way too. You can’t change your partner to who you want them to be. They are who they are. If you want to change them that much…why are you with them? (That’s being honest with yourself)Recognize when you are being unreasonable and admit it. (That’s being honest with yourself).If you both truly love and care about each other, you’ll each want to give more than you receive. On the other hand, when the ratio of give to take is perpetually unbalanced, it’s time to re-evaluate the health of the relationship.You will fight.If you do not fight ,then neither of you is invested enough in the relationship to make it last. Comparing your partner to another is the surest way to kill your relationship.When something really upsets you, don’t ignore it, or give the cold shoulder and expect them to figure it out, or take it out in other ways like being passive aggressive or whatever. Tell them what is upsetting you and more importantly WHY it upsets you.


thanks for reading.feel free to add yours.

It makes sense to me that if you're genuinely interested in someone no matter what gender you are, it's silly not to pursue them. It's easier to recover from rejection than it is to live with the knowledge you were too scared to do something you really wanted to.But in Africa, Nigeria in particular,95% of men overreact on being asked out.They look down upon the woman's standards, thus declaring her as desperate and cheap which is absurd, they think a woman who asks them out is "too forward", which some men find offputting and leads others to believe such a woman is looking for sex which is dang lame and devoid of good sense and maturity.However, I still think women can ask men out if they know that the man they are asking out is open-minded and does not see this as a sign of desperation or dependency helps. So, many women who are confident, proactive, and open-minded will ask a man out if they like him enough. Unfortunately, I don't think the average woman today is there yet.women are somehow affected by their subconscious insecurity and biases that clouds their judgement to see things more objectively.so in our society today is understandable that women don't ask men out cos A lot of men don't believe in gender equality. They make life harder for the men and women who do. and that sucks and as for women who still ask men out, it doesn't make them cheap, it rather makes them special, more confident and proactive and it's for the dude to love and appreciate her like nobody's business.

NwaAmaikpe:



Good for him,
That's the perfect victim he exploited;
A confused black teen hungry for love and a green card.

The truth be told, this girl is a disgrace...
Of all the potential lovers on Facebook, she settled for a freak of nature just because he is white?

Would she have fallen in love with him if he was a Ghanaian?

SMH!!

The black race and their White-Man supremacy complex.

I know in your mind you are feeling like an intellectual who has reasoning abilities the likes of which the world has never seen. You are enlightened, emancipated and you are free..but calling a human being created by God a freak is the lowest form of bestiality and highest form of ignorance. You are not wise, you are foolish beyond reparation. You are not enlightened, there is a gaping hole in your sense of reasoning that cannot be filled with your callous display of infantile ignorance. Go on acting like the clown that you are, please.Today is Sunday, do well to ask for Gods forgiveness.

Women usually cry if they feel safe, when the sex is great and she feels emotionally connected to you which triggers the body to produce a hormone call Oxytocin which allows her to connect to you. It is the same hormone that mother produce when they give birth to babies.

You start by being genuine yourself. Be the way you are, don't pretend to be somebody else. Always. Sooner or later people who value the same things you do will be attracted to you like a magnet.

Real, genuine friends come with time. You have to wait for a long, long time before people around you become your friends.

You are welcome.

Why not, If I love her, I love everything about her including how successful she is
And also, I have a thing for dominant, independent women. Just sayin'. I would also choose to babysit and cook for her when she comes home after work. Both of us love each other and that is any day more important than salary.but then At the end it is not just money that makes everyone happy. Money is necessary to lead a life. But it cannot bring in all the happiness. So please choose a girl/guy who will be comfortable with you so that both of you can enjoy togetherness.There are girls who earn lot and act bossy; at the same time earns a lot and gives equal space. So don't choose your better half just in this way. Always have in mind that you are choosing a life partner and not a business partner who has a lot of money to invest.

P.S: There are guys who earn less and treat their wives like queens and who earn less of naira and treats like slaves. So, in the end, its ur decision, which do u value more? money or self-respect; money at the cost of what?...basically about human nature

A dude with a wandering dick, insecurities, negative minded people around him, questionable morals, self-worth issues, and less disciplined will always cheat no matter how he loves you, know God and being mature.with maturity it should be emotional maturity.i have seen born again xtians still flirt around.one thing i have learnt is Cheating is a choice. Other choices include:
Discussing the issue with your partner and asking for what you need and Ending the relationship if your partner won't give you what you need
These are the options of honesty and integrity. Many people struggle with honesty and integrity. And that's why they cheat rather than taking another route.

another thing is everyone has different needs, and if those needs aren't being addressed then most people will start looking elsewhere. That's the point of dating, to find someone you are compatible with. It is unreasonable to expect someone to change to meet your needs; the goal is to find someone whose interests and desires compliment your own.

If their needs aren't being met, some people will talk about it, others will cheat, others will leave, others will stay unsatisfied.

Just having the courage to start one.I know for sure that I’d give it my all to be the best boyfriend I can be, and I think I’m mature enough to understand how to go about expressing oneself in a relationship and such.But, I admit, my current greatest fear would be failing to take initiative and to begin a relationship.I frequently worry that I’ll meet a girl I really like, and perhaps want to even ask out on a date, but ultimately, I might find it too hard to do so. I’m afraid I’ll shy away from simply asking, “Do you want to get lunch sometime?”

I’m terrified that I’ll be stupid about it. That I’ll watch that opportunity to slip away right through my fingers. There she’ll be, and there I’ll be, squirming on the sidelines like a worm, missing my chance by being too scared to take it.

Do I think I’ll have the guts to ask the future “her” out? I do. But I am still quite nervous that my silly, immature, and irrational self might kick in at the worst times, and screw me over.

Money in itself does not make me happy. After all, I am not Scrooge McDuck, my happiness does not derive from swimming in money or money alone.However, money put to good use can make you a hell of a lot happier.

“Money is not the only answer, but it does make a difference” -Barack Obama.

Is money a requirement for happiness? No.

Can it help? Yeah.

We’ve all heard the saying, “Nice guys finish last.” But if you read my post Why Nice Guys Finish Last (and it’s not because they aren’t bad boys), you understand that nice guys have more control over whether they finish last than they realize. To help further this, I want to discuss 6 important dating tips for nice guys who don’t want to finish last:

1. Resist The Clinging Impulse

We definitely can’t ignore the fact that some nice guys have a tendency to come off as needy or clingy and if you’re a nice guy doing this, you really have to scale this back. When you meet a woman, your initial communications are crucial and it’s important that you don’t overwhelm or suffocate a new love interest.Although you may have good intentions at heart, many women are not attracted to men who are needy, clingy or need an overwhelming amount of attention.

If you send a woman a text message, don’t send 4 or 5 more texts back to back before getting a response from the first one. Or maybe you’re guilty of getting off the phone with a woman and then immediately texting her to continue the conversation. Calling a woman a second time in the same day when she hasn’t returned your first call is another great way to get boxed into the clingy category.The harsh reality is that if you don’t immediately get a response from your text or call, you have to exercise patience and just wait for a response. If you never get one, don’t send a flurry of texts or blow up her cell.

You have to take the situation for what it is, she’s just not that into you. And that’s okay because every woman isn’t going to be right for you and a woman’s disinterest gives you the freedom and ability to find that woman who is right for you. Take it as a blessing that you don’t have to spend weeks and months dating a woman who isn’t going to be around long-term and only feels lukewarm about you at best.

Which brings me to my next tip…


2. Let Feelings Develop Naturally

It’s important that you avoid being needy or clingy so that things can develop naturally over time. I know some men will say that holding themselves back isn’t authentic and that they should be able to fully be themselves with a woman. But, no one is asking you not to be yourself. I’m just saying that you can’t try to latch onto someone too quickly.

You have to take your time because you can’t force a woman to fall in love with you by suffocating her.

3. Women Need Time To Reflect

Most women need space and time to reflect and think about, and even fantasize about, the person they’re dating. They need to think about the conversations you’ve had, the moments you’ve enjoyed together on dates, and other things.

The act of thinking about you is where the feelings and emotions start to develop. But, if you don’t give a woman some space and time to let yourself pop into her head naturally, she’s not going to fall for you the way you want her to.

You want a woman to want to hear your voice, but if she’s hearing your voice several times a day right after she meets you, she’s probably not going to get to that point. So it’s really important that you allow there to be space for the feelings to grow and develop.

And, I hope you nice guys can see that slowing down and pacing yourself when you’re dating or trying to date a woman has nothing to do with not being yourself.

4. Build Your Confidence

For some nice guys it’s their lack of self-confidence that keeps them from getting women. It’s not just you men that like to date confident people. Women like confident men too. And, just like guys can spot insecurity in women, women can spot insecurity in men as well.

The reality is, a lack of self-confidence is a turn off. So you have to work through your insecurities and build up your self-confidence so that you can be more attractive to women.

This is how it works for many of us women– You could have a man that’s a 7, but his personality and confidence bring him up to a 10. So, once you build your confidence, you’ll actually feel more comfortable letting your full personality shine through and you’ll ultimately be more attractive to women in the long run.

5. Never Lead With Your Financial Foot

Some nice guys are guilty of using their financial resources to win a woman over or make her fall in love with him. However, leading with your financial foot will only draw the wrong kind of women into your life.

If you feel like you have to shower a woman with gifts and throw your money around for her to like you, then she’s really not the right woman for you and she’ll probably only stick around for as long as you continue to throw that money around.

6. Be Mindful Of The Women You Chase

To their detriment, some nice guys have a habit of chasing after women who like the “bad boys.” Unfortunately, in the end, with this type of woman, you’re going to lose every time. You will surely get your heart broken in your efforts to show this kind of woman a real, amazing, and healthy love.

Women who love bad boys have to mature and get to a certain mental state before they can walk away from their bad boy loving lifestyle. Picking an evolved, mature, self-confident (not arrogant) woman is how nice guys can finish first! This is the kind of woman who will always appreciate you for who you are and never take you for granted.

So, instead of trying to convert this woman into a nice guy loving dater, look for the woman who has already evolved past the point of being interested in a bad boy. This is the woman who will appreciate you, love you, and never take you for granted. This is where you will flourish!

thanks for reading..GOODLUCK

QueenSekxy:
but it's not a must to have a boyfriend you know


staying single will save you all these stress.

so literally you are single then?

Okay, ladies. Be honest, how many times have you found yourself asking the man you’re dating to call you?Have you had to suggest that a man calls you even if he won’t be seeing you that particular day?Well, if you’ve found yourself telling the man your dating to call you, let it be the last time!
The truth is, if you have to tell a man to call you, one, he’s not thinking about you; two, you’re not a priority to him; and three, he might not actually like you.
Maybe you had a bunch of dates that you thought were great while he felt that the dates were mediocre.
Ultimately, if you continue trying to force a relationship with a man that barely shows you any interest, you may actually end up in a relationship with this man, but you certainly won’t be happy in it.
If a man can’t even put in effort to call you regularly, do you honestly believe that he will put effort into other aspects of your relationship?
In the end, you’ll be the one with feelings of resentment and hurt. Honestly, you can find any man to take you for granted and not put effort into dating you or having a good relationship with you.
So, why not try something different? If you’ve been doing the same things over and over again in your dating life and you haven’t gotten the results that you want, then step out of your comfort zone and try something new.

For example:

1. Stop trying to force men to call you.

2. Don’t call a man too much.This way you can actually see whether he would even call you and how frequently.

3. Stop wasting time on men that don’t give or show you much attention.Know the difference between a man lusting after you and a man having a genuine interest in getting to know who you are!

4. Continue putting yourself out there and date new people.

5. Stop waiting for the phone to ring, make plans and live your life!!!
Give it a try!

There's a huge problem in dating that needs to be addressed. From the moment a relationship becomes exclusive, or even before this point, many women treat their boyfriends like they are their husbands.Most of the time, you will see women do for their boyfriends what a wife does for her husband and this is not okay.Unless there is a ring on your finger, you should never treat your boyfriend as if he is your husband!

While “playing house” and “playing wife” may make you feel happier about your relationship because you exhibit that close, committed relationship held by a husband and wife, you don’t have the comfort and security that a marriage provides.While you’re doing so much for your boyfriend to the point that you resemble the role his wife would take on, you’ll be disappointed to learn how easily and quickly a man can leave the relationship without batting an eye.And, after the relationship ends, will you not sit there thinking, “Damn, I shouldn’t have done all that for him!” Or, “I can't believe he left me after everything I’ve done and given up for him!”While these are legitimate questions, the real questions you need to ask yourself are, “Why did I treat this man like my husband?” “Why did I do so much for a man that wasn’t married to me?”Instead of being the devoted wife in your next relationship, just be the girlfriend. And, know that this route will get you a ring quicker than if you act like there’s already a ring on your finger.some even go as far as forfeiting their careers and getting pregnant for him, smh that is absurd.

The truth is, if a man wants ALL of you and wants you to do more than a girlfriend does for her boyfriend, then he needs to put a ring on it.dont get it twisted,no1 is saying you shouldn't care for your guy, cooking, cleaning the house should be done once in a while and not to the detriment of your own happiness and free will, certainly not to please him and make him see you as a wife material.washing his clothes, getting pregnant and forfeiting your careers for him shouldn't even be entertained a bit.

While many men will propose to women who treated them like husbands from day one, it will take you a lot longer to get a ring out of a man if you’re giving him all the benefits of a marriage without any of the accompanying obligations and commitments.Do you remember that old saying, “Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free?”

Well, it’s true! This applies to dating and not just sex. What will inspire or encourage a man to marry you if he already has all the perks of marriage without any of its other obligations or “hassles?”

If a man wants more than plain old boyfriend treatment, he’s going to have to earn it and he needs to ask you to be his wife!Think about it though, how are you going to feel if you treat your beau like he’s your husband and he breaks up with you or leaves you for another woman? Will you not regret doing too much for him?

Don’t get caught up doing a lot more in a relationship than you should! At the end of the day, the only person who ever regrets doing this is the woman, not the man!If he’s not your husband, your opinion is the only one that matters.

I say this because 2-3 years down the line when you’re not with him, you too will think his opinion doesn’t matter. If he’s not going to be a part of your life permanently, then why would you make decisions based on him? Especially decisions that will have a lasting effect on your life.

If your boyfriend wants you to consider him when you’re making big decisions about your life, he needs to show you that he will always be a part of that life. And, he does this by asking you to marry him!

Remember to slow down and let the dating process and courtship happen naturally. Don’t force a more committed element in your relationship by playing wife. If he doesn’t want to play husband, you definitely shouldn’t play wife!

Goodluck

The short answer is no.

The long answer is the answers to a lot of questions. Will you be as happy unmarried as you will be married? Are you generally a lonely person who needs company, or are you a loner and OK with it? Will your family and friends reject you (culture is key here, it wouldn’t matter in USA, but other cultures it might matter a lot)? And a follow up to culture is a legal thing - are you gay/lesbian, so same-sex marriage is out of the question?

I don't believe so.because once you become attracted to girls, you can't undo it by becoming straight again. It's a chemical reaction your body has, not just a mental choice.it only takes the grace of God and by that I mean being born again.

I'd do anything for love, but I won't do that.

well just like i answered on Quora..***Just play video-games. I don't care about your pencil sharpening club, watch soccer with me, show empathy, vulnerability, and emotions***

nikkypearl:
Simple things can simply win a heart ...an ordinary girl can cheer up in somebody's small little efforts. Here are the list of few things which will certainly make a lady admire a man..

A healthy conversation - If I can have a conversation with someone free of all gossips and negativity, nothing can be greater than this. Sharing thoughts, ideologies, philosophies, likes... accompanied by a good evening walk.
Be a patient listener - Listening has become a rare commodity nowadays, people just hear and react impulsively. Very few understand and respond. I admire "the listeners" more than the speakers. I hate those people who do not let me complete,interrupt and start over their own.

A non-phubber - Please forget your smart phones when you talk to me. I hate the ones who constantly peek into their phones in a one to one conversation with somebody.

Etiquette - A sense of chivalry is what I crave for.


Vocabulary - I'm a lover of words. Be a wordsmith, a decent vocabulary is sexy as hell.
I think this is enough...

Let hear from you.

uhmm, why do i have this feeling that i have read this answer somewhere before, perhaps on quora i guess...i did upvoted the answer on quora.Are you the same dame that indited the answer on quora?Just curious cos the answer got my heart hexed.

Don't ever carry these 10 myths with you:

1) Not studying is cool.
2) It's the time to enjoy and now I am free.
3) Parents are irritating/non understanding. Friends understand me and care for me more than my parents.
4) Drinking/Smoking/Partying is damn cool.
5) Bunking classes is so much fun. Going to Library is not my type.
6) Those who excel in exams are bookworms. They don't know how to lead life. I know everything.
7) There is no need to study regularly when I could get passing marks on 1 night study and can also pay lecturers and bribe them for marks
Having a boyfriend/girlfriend is a status symbol and it is mandatory.
9) Exercise is a wastage of time.
10) There is lot of time to plan for my future. I would start it from the final year.

Friends, time once lost can never be regained. So decide your goal and start working to achieve it rather than repenting later.
The friends whom you think are better than your family, would get busy in their respective lives and only family would be there to support you always. Friends are really good but family is the best. Know your priorities.

Enjoyment is necessary but set your limits as excess of anything is bad. Try to maintain a perfect balance between diet, study, entertainment, being social and workout.

Am I sounding like a parent??
well i am not one ,albeit every piece of correct advice appearing boring to us comes from our parents. So be aware of these myths from the 1st semester itself and save your time, money and energy.

P.S. Learn from the mistakes of others because life is too short to learn after committing all of them yourself. - Chanakya
GOODLUCK FOR TERTIARY STUDENTS ASPIRANTS and feel free to add yours

it is providing a different dimension to 'how to be social' .the term social is more or less related to the society and the problems we are facing there and also the true happiness and interactive session we share but what it is happening nowadays is that we are spending much of our time on these sites in seeking popularity, insulting people, commenting and sharing useless uneffective contents and waiting for likes and comment . In fact, the physical interaction and talks that we do which are more effective and represent our true nature and identity is somehow lost.

Materialistic ladies in recent times are overly obsessed with the latest technology especially mobile phones to the extent that they are willing to be laid continuously for weeks in return for their desires.
Such is the case of an unnamed lady who in snapshots of a Whatsapp chat with a man, was willing to be laid as many times as the man wanted on condition he is willing to purchase him an Iphone8 Plus.
From the conversation, it is obvious the lady at the centre of the controversy is dating but willing to go to all lengths in the name of the mobile phone which is being adored.
The guy says in the chats, that he wants a party with her and her friend, but because she’s the only one to get the benefit from the rendezvous, she opts out that the guy gets down on her as many times as he wants.
Their chats below:


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1)Dwelling on the past. I don’t know about you, but I can’t time-travel to my past and make it better. Focus on what you can do right now to improve your life. Let bygones be bygones.

2).Engaging in meaningless arguments. Some people will bring you down to their level and defeat you at that particular level. “Pick your “wars” wisely.” — Sun Tzu.

3)Scrolling social media endlessly. Do you think you can scroll to the bottom of your news feed? No. I’ve tried that. It’s okay to catch up with friends through social media but don’t let it consume your life.

4)Deciding trivial matters. If Mark Zuckerberg spends 20 minutes on his wardrobe every day, we wouldn’t have Facebook today.

5)Oversleeping. Sleeping is vital, but don’t overdo it. Even though you’ve worked hard and deserve a rest, oversleeping isn’t the right way to pamper yourself. Substitute oversleeping with hobbies or activities that you enjoy doing.

6)Planning too much. Similarly, planning is important. Failing to plan is planning to fail. But planning too much could be procrastination in disguise. If you spend more time planning than executing, you’re probably planning too much.

7)Spend time with the wrong people. Some people bring you up. Some pull you down. Spend time with the former. “You're The Average Of The Five People You Spend The Most Time With” -- Jim Rohn.

Thinking about how others think about you. You should value people’s feedback, but don’t live your life with the goal to please people. That’s worse than slavery.

9)Helping extremely negative people. Some people are so negative that they suck all your energy like a black hole. If you’re not careful, soon you will be as negative and helpless as them without even knowing why. don't Sacrifice for nothing. I’ve been there…

10)Trying to change someone. It’s easier to reach the Moon than to change someone. If you feel someone has to change, try to change your views or opinions about them. That’s much more doable and you will feel better too.

11)Attending events that aren’t helpful. Don’t worry, you don’t have to attend every event. No one actually expects you to do so. Take it easy. Overcome that fear of missing out.

12)Worrying about future. Again, focus on what you can do right now to improve your life. Worry does nothing but steals the present moment away from you. If you think you deserve a better future, work on them instead of worrying about them.

Last but not least…
Not paying attention to anything you do. No matter what you do, you’re somewhat wasting your time if you don’t pay attention to it. If you’re reading a book while thinking about the live soccer match, it’s better to simply watch the live match and return to reading with full attention later. Attention is scarce today. If you can focus on one thing at a time, you can go truly far.

for me

People who cheat on their relationships or even their marriages.

I understand on the level that infidelity is extremely common today. It’s so common that it’s not a surprise to me anymore when I find out somebody is cheating. The shock factor is no longer there, so when I find out that somebody is cheating, I am just like, “Oh okay.”

What I can never understand is how cheaters think.

They’d always twist their words and the entire situation just to justify their actions and make themselves think that they are in the right. This is something that baffles me because no one is that stupid to believe that cheating is okay.

And so I really wonder what goes through their head to make them think that they can get away with their dumb excuses.

“Oh I was drunk. Therefore it doesn’t count as cheating.”

“It was just that one time.”

“As long as she doesn’t find out, it’s okay.”

“I am a guy. I am allowed to cheat. It’s normal.”

“Everyone is doing it.”

“Oh yeah?! How about the time you screwed up john?” (This honestly really gets to me. Time and time again, some friend would always come to me and tell me about their relationship problems. And then I find out that they’re cheating all along. After I call them out on it, they’d start to get all defensive and shit.)

That’s paradox of relationships today. It reeks of insecurities.

The danger is when you actually give in to this horrible act and accept it.

If you honestly still want to play the field, which is okay, then don’t commit to anyone. If you feel like you’re no longer in love and want to explore, then end the current relationship you are in.

Don’t let others get you down and steal your happiness.


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