which one is dis one again fear of GOD Him no knw b4 Him put dat kind thing there,abi na u go holy pass GOD!!!! pls allow people talk abeg, u must not bring GOD into everything leave HIM let HIM rest a bit b4 u crucify him the second time, dis "CHURCH PEOPLE" ,

Excuse me, leave God alone? You think God doesn't see what goes on here
God is OMNIPRESENT and HE sees EVERYTHING we all do. So don't say to leave God alone, leave Him alone and stop fornicating, God HATES fornication, and adultery, and He has said that the sins which so many do nowadays are only for the married, it is better to marry than to burn God didn't say in HIS word that fornication is a sin only to woman, let every wife have her own husband, the bible also says and every husband have his own wife. Flee fornication.

God has everything to do with this.
He knows about this thread.

what sort of evil women do we hav on this NL?

No one wants to marry a virgin man!

well for information purposes, it takes a man to have committed FORNICATION for him not to be a virgin at the time of marriage.

fornication is a sin in the eyes of God and fornicators and adulterers will not inherit the kingdom of God!

I 'm really appalled that none of the ladies that have responded to this thread has the fear of God

THanks that somebody actually said that, fornication and adultery is a sin against your own body, of course on my wedding night i want for my husband to be a virgin, we should both be virgins, definately.

I read someone said the jehovahs witnesses are christians, But do they believe in the atoning blood of Jesus Christ, and that the "Blood of Jesus Christ cleanses us from all unrighteousnessess" and that "The wages of sin is DEATH but the gift of God is ETERNAL LIFE through Jesus Christ our LORD"?

I don't know really what they believe, but if he does think he is a christian, then he should be adhering to "Be thou not unequally yoked together with unbelievers"

"Flee fornication"

Yes it is true that a woman can be seductive to a man, but it is still the mans own sin if he commits the act of adultery of fornication.

Not all girls like to take advantage, i read here it seems they are saying its nigerians, but i wouldn't limit it to Nigeria either, lol.

Haven't there been people on this site who have said they met their husband/wife online.
I think can fall in love online, but it needs to be comfirmed before making proper commitments, you may say the person is sad/lonely/etc, but what if they're just finding Mr/Miss right there?
Just need to meet, but meeting will only confirm the feelings, if they are real, or banish them if they are not.

bendin a white lady to learn our culture is like bettin dat a snail wil outrun a dog

you ever heard the story of the "Tortoise and the hare"? , slow and steady wins the race.

im gonna marry a white if she agrees to live in nigeria wit me b4 marriage period

i agree that's right to do, you're saying it's only for a test to see of her commitment to bend to you, just think of what love is, love is sacrificial, moving her own land to be with the man she loves is sacrifice, and it is showing love. How will you show your love? (You test to see how much she will bend for you)

I feel that they should definately discuss certain things before agreeing to marry anyway:
* having children
* number of children
* raising of children (discipline, culture)
* (especially when different cultures are involved) where to settle.

I feel anyway, that the person i have such strong feeling for,that to up and leave my life here to be with him, would be the way to be with him, to be together, but certainly, i would want to experiance it first, basically visit the country,

for my birthday, i'd love to be able to spend time with him,he asked me months ago what i'd like for my birthday (even though we live thousands of miles apart lol) but i was thinkin him if it could have been possible, but its not at this distance.
But really, anything from him would be special, even just some nice words, remembering or whatever, a phonecall, hearing his voice. a surprise

thats it? Really? i was looking to see if i would find something here.


Well in my opinion, i thijnk you can maybe have relationship online, but if it is to be serious, you need to meet in person, what if opinions/feelings change when seeing each other for real?? or even maybe one isn't suited to the ther culture too well, someone has to sacrifice. So they do need to meet, before making full commitment.

Thats what i'm gonna do. I think its best.

There is nothing wrong with marrying a whitie especially if that is the way the man feels. but it just makes me wonder if the sisters have finished and why he couldn't find a sister to marry!

so its ok to marr white, who are these sisters? We are all of one blood, we are all sons and daughters of Adam and Eve. Sp skin colour doesn't actually matter. What mtters is if it is sister in christ,or out of christ.

@ GL.
Thx, but i'm plannin on only going for like a month, while i'm off work, practically his suggestion to go when i'm off work anyway. To see how it is for me there, he seems more worried about how i will fit in nigeria, rather than also with how we will feel about each other when we are seeing each other for real.

I met him in skype, i had another friend from there, who is a christian, so i looked to see if there were any more christians on their profle, he gas made me believe that he certainly has Jesus in his heart, and trusts him everything.

He has never demanded anything from me. he did tell about some financial problem he had, he did ask for help, he told me Philippians 4 v 6,Be careful for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known unto God. and asked me to pray for him. any problems, he brings them striaght to God, eg, if i had a problem one day i wasn't feeling well, nothing much, he just asked if i'd like him to pray for me, and he did there and then. He has just been such an encouragement to me since i met him online.

and i know that with it being 2 different cultures there are etra precautions to take.

thx for any more input from anyone

I have situation where I really wanna be with someone, but thing is we haven't met yet, I'm not askin for his proposal or anything, just to know where i stand. He lives in Nigeria, and i don't. He says he feels same way, but didn't wanna commit cos distance, cos we live thousands of miles apart, and he said he didn't wanna hurt me, cos Nigeria is such different culture to here (Northern Ireland). He saw it as impossible thing cos of distance etc, I asked him had he prayed about it, he said no, cos he saw it as impossible, then he said he would. Cos i told him i haven't felt like this before about anyone, ever, when its he felt the same way. Then,that week, he was at a service, the message was about mark 9 v 23 "If thou canst believe, all things are possible to him that believeth" so to me the message was that it s not impossible, with God.

Anyway, that was December, and hadn't really still talked about it, so I was kinda wanting to know what was goin on, in January. He said he understands me, but he doesn't know how he'll care for me there, but I should visit in the summer when I'm off, to see if I can survive it, before making commitments. SO fair enough, since we haven't met, and well, thats what I wanted too. But now that was a couple of weeks ago, and I feel like I'm always the one who brings it up, the thing is if I'm going there, i need to get prepared, cos of visa's, vaccinations, flights etc that need to be done. I just don't wanna seem too pushy and bring it up again.

Any advice?? Should I just try to go by myself, I'd be interested in volunteering in an orphanage or something, cos I love kids, and i want to do that anyway.

Quote from: RedHotChic on 09-07-2008, 19:08:09
You've been working for a UK shipping magnate who has one daughter in Wharton college. She fell in love with you and married you after his father handed the company over to her. Will you rather quit and go back to picking cans and washing cars for a living or stick to the big business as her assistant?

I become the CEO of her Dad's company as soon as the Dad leaves . . . .
If that aint feasible, she can shove her Dad's company up her flaming anus!!!!
I cant be an assistant to ma wife . . . . what does she have in her head that i cannot match??

you must be really thinking about marrying for love a slave, i can sense it, NOT

waow. well that was 4 years ago, i wonder are you still with her or not maybe you'remarriedandwith kids and eberything by now, sorryi only saw this post now. She ;looked like a bit of a user , only there for your company when she didn't have anything better, when she couldn't give you anuthing, or maybe she was just reali shy?

Anyway, since it has been so long, what has ended up happening?

Well,guyz thanx for your responses,I ve already decided to give it another shot.I call'd her in the morning to inform her that I was coming over,she calmly told me that she wasn't in sch.We ve agreed to meet 2moro,I hope it goes well.

well, it works out for you's, and like some of that other advice i saw, tell her the problems.

OP, you don't tell her verbally, you communicate the message through actions, by ignoring her calls and all that shitzo

she will get the hint over time, smart girls usually does , however some chicks just don't get it and you might have to be

bold and tell her wts, hope that helps

great, i'm not with a ____ like you, (can't call you a man, you ain't no man, no guts) be like a real man and have a little respect, break up properly. Not like a ,mouse who just runs away.

i don't even know what you're talking about. is it some coded male message? about how you treat girls/

Well very nice to want all these thimgs, dying of overdose love!!!! ;Dvery good. she'd probably be wondering when it will end, what guy could keep that up?

But would be nice while it lasted

That is definitely not the right approach to end a relationship.

why not?

are you actually serious in asking why not Give the girl a bit of respect and break up with her like a man, tell her yourself, if you've been dating for 8 months, you should be the one to tell her. I think if its so close you should meet up with her, you seem to feel this yourself, tell her how you feel.

But please tell her, whatever way, if she still wants to be with you she will get hurt no matter how you tell her, don't drag it out any further, she will only get more hurt when you do eventually break up, so is better if you can tomorrow, or ASAP. The more time you spend not telling her, the more she could be missing on the Mr Right for her. So please be gracious and tell her in the nicest way you can, just do it soon. If i was her, i would appreciate that.

I have only met online, but i really feel that i like the guy, maybe it's infatuation, i don't know. What i do know is that what i feel i have felt before about anyone, i always want to see him, (on webcam) or talk to him on phone, i have talked with his brothers, and friends, and his dad when he visited home over new years.

The thing is, i have chatted to other guys online, but noone else real or internet has had this effect on me before, i have been with some men before, but it felt wrong (cos weren't christian, so it was wrong). but what i'm saying is it feels different.

He wants me to visit before making any decisions about being together, incase i really can't survive there (his words). But i don't know, i mean just because nigerian government doesn't hand out freebies to people who couldn't be bothered working all their lives, i think that is ok, anyway, that would be a different subject,

Anyway,i wanna meet him and go from there, but i think he should come here too.

I've found that he doesn't fit any descriptions of anyone that the internet warns about or anything, eg wanting your money, 419 scammers etc

Any opinions from anyone?

thread starter carry go, in gbadun o. we ni keleni, yio daa re, yio sunwon ree.

what language is that sorry i do not understand

@ boy1

nawah--u know wetin dey. . .u have some wisdom. . .i hail u

I'm not really understanding this, who is your reply to?
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Today i went to church, subject is heroes of faith, Moses parents were strong together, even though that Moses father was a slave to the Egyptians, his wife was supportive of him, and subjective, but she was no slave of his, and in faith they did what was right, in protecting Moses from being killed, as he was a boy so it was decreed for him to be killed. Anyway i think i have went off my point, the wife throughout the bible is submissive to her husband, but they should be together in decision making. My minister was saying when he had his interviews for the ministry, and is asked about the calling, they ask are you married? then is your wife supporting you? If she doesn't support you, then it doesn't work out well.
He said when thinking of marriags, "be thou not unequally yoked together with unbeleivers" but also your marriage should be in Gods will, not just in christ, so must pray about it too.

Ephesians 5 verse 21 - 29
Submitting yourselves one to another in the fear of God

Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body. Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing.

Husbands,love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it; that he might santify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word. That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish.
So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself. For no man ever yet hateth his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church.

Verse 33
Nevertheless, let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband.

Does this say we are as wives to be slaves? Are we as christians slaves of christs? We are free, bought with a price, (those who are saved) nomore in bounds.

The husband should love and cherish his wife, she is not a slave.

There are bad guys everywhere, doesn't matter what country you are from, there are fraudsters everywhere. What, because of the 419 in Niaja, does it mean we can trust every other man on the planet?? i don't think so.
I met this guy on holidays,, during the world recision starting (in 2oo8)we emailed, then he said he was going to Dublin for work, to work his business of internet sites for selling and renting holiday homes, etc. Then one day i get this urgent call from him,saying that he has no money at all,he can't get started, and things are so expensive that he can't have anywhere to stay, so, my parents agreed to let him stay with us, (cos we didn't wanna give him money)so he stayed with us, lazed about our house for a few days, trying to find a job online, etc.Left to go back to portugal, cos couldn't find anything, complained about our coldclimate, said he couldn't stick it here, then came back again, a couple of ime, (the last time my parents paid for the flight) tried to help him get a job, with a construction company 1st, which he said he would go to, then on the 1st day he backed down, sayin he was afraid of what they would do to him, since hewas foreign etc blah blah, My dad actually gave him a second chance so he stayed, i had a part time job in a shop at the time, tried to get him job there too, he accepted, and promised this time to actually go, well he did the exact same thing. So my dad let him stay that night, then left him at the airport the next morning. After lending him money too, and buying the flight ticket once, we are still to see the money. Well he wasn't Nigerian. He was Portuguese, who grew up in South Africa, Alberto Rodrigues I guess he could have fooled us the more, but maybe he saw he wasn't gonna get more from us, so had to leave.

I have since met someone (online) though not in real yet, he is honest, and well as i haven't met him yet, i just have to take his word, but some things that has happened, he wants to meet my family online, he chats to them too, and when his friends or family are there, i can see them too. He has told me abut some money problems, but has never asked me for money, I don't think he would accept if i did, cs when his his laptop not working (he's using his brothers for now) He wouldn't let me help with that, even though they are not as expensive here, even when counting delivery charges. He wants me to visit before decidind to be with him, incase i decide to be with him, and find that i can't cope there, is what he says. The thing is, that i have never met anyone like him, anywhere, no matter about colour, or native land. And i have searched, on this nairaland and in c=googl,e but i can't find a nigerian like him, or anyone for that matter, when he had his money problems he asked me to pray for him,he takes everything to God.

I think he is giving me reason to love a Nigerian man.