₦airaland Forum

Resees:
You must be a dumboo and really not making sense at all.

Then you must be a cockroach!

Anyways transfer your bitterness and misery to Naira Marley not me.

He's the one you should face and reply.

Isn't life funny?

Before some insensitive people used to mock singles, that we ain't married. Go and marry crew full everywhere one turns ,taunting one with the slogan : Go and marry o! Evening newspaper! even placing suicide pics with rope on their taunts.

As if one can just go to the market and buy a man or woman to marry then take home at any given fucvking time.

After a while, the go and marry crew realise getting married and stay married is not an easy walk in the park.

Now the singles who have kids aka baby papa like naira Marley is now mocking married people who are yet to have kids. Saying such married people are single and not married, if kids is not in the equation of the marriage.

No more go an marry again. That Mockery is on sleep mode for a while.

Na to attack married people without kids naim be the next line of action.

Everyone is now complaining, he's insensitive to couples without kids.


Oh really??

Insensitive y'all say?


Sighs.... Human beings.

Have a taste of the pudding and see how it feels.

What goes round, always comes around.

post=83612160:
By now you should have known @ don't reply losers, especially as the supreme court final judgement came less than 16 hours ago.
You go wail, ya neck go long...
U neva see chomtin kiddo........
Happy wailing......

Upon all his politicking for years , he's a fool not to know how Nigerians are.

Even me, I know he won't win the legal process of it from day one.

Nigerians are Sychophants. That's one thing he should have known since!

Sunnyobums:
I get your point sister, strange things are happening lately shaa.

It's well... May God help us all, amen

Las las ashewo no be work!

Na WA o

Sunnyobums:
I disagree to an extent with your comment, you are so quick to condemn men who find it hard to provide for their families forgetting that all fingers are not equal, aside the ones that choose to do anything or spends the little they have on women and booze, there are still some married men who are struggling so hard to make ends meet but record no success each time, and about a woman marrying a poor man and adding to her miseries, that's the African woman's mentality and its a shame, even the bible made specific mentions about the wife being a helpmate to her husband but you are so quick to think its only the husband that should carry all the burdens of the family, that's why oyibo marriage is better than what we have here, both parties have something doing to help the family grow, I don't know which category of struggling broke men this man falls in, but I tell you that no husband and father deserves this kind of treatment from his so called family, its wrong on all levels.

I laughed at the man being beaten by his wife and kids because of food, does not mean I feel the man deserves it. No human being deserves such but he himself, he doesn't have shame! He couldn't even think what will his children eat. Let's not even think of the wife sef! But what will my children eat, if I eat everything up?
If his brains were functioning well, he should have realised he shouldn't have cleaned up the pot and leave nothing for his family who laboured to work for some money and cook that meal.

It clearly shows he's a very wicked and selfish man, even to his own children.

When a man refuse to acknowledge his children's needs. The children too will as well refuse his presence as their dad.
That's the pure truth.

You are a man, so u support the dad.

But from a woman and a mother's point of view, I bet the mother will not eat everything, she will still share the meal between herself and her children. That's women for you. Their childrens well-being first before hers.

Anyways the man turned his kids against him by not recognizing the fact, the kids have to eat as well. There is this saying that goes: an hungry man is an angry man. Likewise a hungry children are angry children. In fact an hungry human being is an angry human being.

Then the marriage thing, I never said all responsibilities must be placed on the man. A wife is meant to support her husband, if the husband mean well for her and the children.

In this case study here, the husband is very callous, selfish, greedy and wicked!
Even the curses from his children and wife will go a long way in his head.

I bet if it's to fucvk from now till next year, he will ever be ready to exercise such right and with great strength.

Smmhhhh.


Some men are just too annoying.

delishpot:
The point might not be that he ate some of the food. The koko of the story might be that he doesn't support the family when he has even little but is quick to finish the one they hussle to prepare and then threaten to beat the wife. He Don dey do am since but now the kids are big enough to put him in his place. Thus is what awaits all you men who think that having big blokys gives you the right to treat your family anyhow. Na so dem go gather una beat.

Lol


Some men are so shameless!

That's why I don't bother myself getting depressed about marrying a man.

One look at some.men out there and just shake head.

My pastor said women that are rushing to go and marry! He said you as a woman u are dancing all kinds of dance on wedding day, beaming with smiles, dancing with all your strength thinking the man uv married will solve your problems and make life better for u, but lo and behold, Na the man sef need your help in the marriage. His own case is 3 times worse than yours! But in courtship people lie and don't say the truth to one another.
Immediately u enter, u then realise your own wey be two problems, now married a man with 3 or 5 problems , No be wahala u go enter so?

As in disaster In the making.


No wonder divorces here And there.Aint you better off alone while u upgrade yourself and solve the problems around u with God's grace and favour? Before caging another man's child with problems times 10!

Hmmmm! It's well o!

What an ungrateful wife.

Some women get head, no crown.

Some get crown no head.

O MA se o

I have struggled walking my way to the top, thanks to my late mum, grace of God and hard work. No man shishi add to what I have today. Some women are so lucky having men to spend fortune on them but they abuse it.

While my own case, Na God dey spend and dey handle my matter, not even man! .. But I still thank God o

Ha! Na WA ! Some women shaaaaaa!!!!!!!!

For him to cover her face, he still want her as his wife.

Such a cute girl.

Threebear:
Hope he treats this one better than he did the first .

Heard he emotionally and physically his first wife .

Dear second wife know that the same broom used to kill the cockroach will also be used to kill the rat .

He won't

He has learnt his lesson. He should know how to treat a wife better now

Everyone deserves a second chance when they are remorseful about their past.


So don't hang him by the rope yet. His new wife is not complaining.

Coldie:
There action was smhw insulting to The Altar of God. How would you climb the altar of God and start spraying money ontop the head of a man of God. Illegal money for that matter.

As in ehn?

It's pure madness.

Serves them right.

Good for them

Nigerians will never lie low, work, make money and help the needy.

But to oppress people with spraying of money, Na there that power strong.

Going to other countries to oppress the citizens there.
Smmhhhh.

Please other countries follow suit. Deport any Nigerian spraying money in churches. Let them come and spray money in Nigeria.
Seems it's high time I open my own Church!

Please come and spray me ooo. As u people don't know how to spend money again . Spray me dollars and pounds Biko!

My Cathedral coming up soon!!! Watch this space!

But she's very pretty and matured.


She's OK jare.

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CanadianNaija:
Were you there to determine that it was introduction? Are they owing the bride price to you? Davido has said he paid brideprice on one of his insta posts, so why are you so bothered with whether he threw party afterwards or not?

People have mentioned here that traditional marriage in Igbo culture is payment of bride price and fulfilling the list, anything else afterwards is just party.

You’re not even Igbo, why do you disregard someone else’s culture? What’s your stake in their marriage?

By the way traditional marriage is legally recognized under customary law, don’t be so proudly ignorant in public.

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Keep deceiving yourselves.

It clearly shows Davido is not even ready to marry Chioma properly.

Anyways u are not Davido or his spokesman.

So no need wasting my precious time on you.

It's Chioma who opened her eyes clearly to become babymama. So let her continue with her choice. What's my own sef.

CanadianNaija:
You're misinformed. In igbo culture paying your bride price is the marriage. It can be done under tree, in the parlor, all it takes is for both kinsmen exchange what they should, and agree.
If you decide to have a ceremony afterwards for show that's your perogative. Davido has paid her brideprice, so she is his wife by customary law which is recognized in Nigeria.

You don't even have to be present to be married traditionally, as long as the elders collect and agree that's all.
Just because it has become trendy to change numerous outfits doesn't mean you're not married if you don't celebrate afterwards.

Chai! Some people sef!

Were u there when he paid her bride price?

It was introduction they did, not traditional marriage. Chioma is still Miss Rowland. She's only entitled to Davido's heart and not his wealth. She's not his legal wife yet. Even traditional marriage does not make her the legal wife unless court marriage is involved.

Even the traditional marriage u said they did, which we all know is Introduction. I have never seen igbo brides go through such quiet and parlour kind of traditional marriage, no matter how poor the girl or guy is. I have never seen such parlour kind of traditional marriage before. So quit lying and deceiving Chioma she's married. In the real fact she's not married but a babymama.

So get your facts right, before spewing all these lies online.

Don't confuse the facts here.

enshi:
Babe... I can't believe its you.. Omg..

It's me. Live and direct.

Long time!!!!

Happy New Year!

She's not happy with the dress.

I don't blame her. Im not feeling it either.

12inchess:
Keep wondering. You think UK hands out visa to everyone?

Well I'm not that desperate to have their visa.

I can travel to Dubai, Isreal, and other countries to visit and come back to Nigeria in one piece. It's not compulsory I must travel to UK.

Anyways I don't allow any thing, place me in high tension .

Travel abroad no be by force.

Op even have time to notice stares.

I don't even stare at a guy, whether fine or ugly.

And I don't lock eyes with any guy, not even with bf ......it's annoying

I wonder why they couldn't use the 10 thousand dollars to travel out the proper way.

Anyways no jazz will make me leave Nigeria the illegal way.
It's either I live here in peace for many more years to come and paddle my boat or I travel out LEGALLY!!!!! when I have to.

Rip to the victims. Na WA o

enshi:
The directive i gave wasn't mere... It was divinely instructed..

Oh OK.

Domingopapi, take note of enshi's divine instructions. Do it, as let's see how it goes.

abdulazeez1002:
I wish you luck. It's seems you are both compatible.

Waiting to see you people invitation on nairaland

He's kind of compatible to me. He's not arrogant. He's soft and patient. I like it that way.

Smiles by God's grace.

Thanks

degamemaster:
Baby mama or not, she and her son ifeanyi are the custodian and procreators of Davido's lineage and nobody can change that. Even if Davido marries another girl, she remains the real and queen of Davido's empire and heart.

Na so!

Until they are legally married before she becomes the custodian of davido's empire.
If not? Other fellow baby mama's of davido will challenge and fight her son later in future.
So she had better make Davido marry her, as he promised by next year to safe guard her son's future.

Then being the queen of davido's heart is a great feeling between both of them.

abdulazeez1002:
Happy Sunday to you too

Honestly and faithfulness is also a Herculean trait in ladies too.

You're really manipulating this guy. The guy is too week for my liking, are you sure he does not have any hidden agenda to be this patient. I hope it's not true.

So we still have ladies in Naija that does not give a f**k about pre-weeding pics

I'm not manipulating him. He simply came into my life when. I'm pissed about men. And he knows I'm not those idle young ladies out there, who doesn't have anything doing. He knows I'm not jobless and I think he has asked someone who knows me about me. I'm suspecting his cousin, must have told him things about me.
His cousins likes me, and has always wanted to date me but we didn't date because I had no feelings for him.

Later I realise him and his cousin who's my friend are family.
And also I'm the kind of lady he wants, a plump fair hardworking lady.
His mum lives with him, he has invited me several times to come meet his mum to show how serious he is but I'm the one always turning down the offer and postponing it.
If he has hidden agenda, I will know. I'm spiritual.

I'm just making it hard for him, cos I'm angry at guys and he looks like the kind of guy who gets things easy. I want to know if he will get pissed and leave me alone. Cause that was my initial plan. I'm not ready for any guy to come use sweet raps on me, but he's not letting me go. Hes that persistent and patient. He doesn't take no for an answer.

He said something, he said he's the one that wants me , and his spirit accepts me since he saw my pic on his cousin's profile of friends . And I'm not the one chasing after him, like the way othe ladies do a round him and that's what makes him want me more. And he knows I have been thru hell and back but he still want to make me happy if I can give him the chance.

So I feel he's hell bent cause no lady has told him no before. He gets them easy. While me? I'm in a situation where I dont Care anymore.

You woo me? I will say no! Especially if sex is involved.. If you like stay, if u like go. I honestly don't care. That's my state of mind as I type.

So any guy coming for me must be patient and show consistently he wants me or else i will be indifferent about it.
Due to pressure here and there and his own pressure, I'm thinking about him properly and have decided to give us a chance.


Then you feel he's too weak?

My dear it's only a guy who behaves weak that can win my heart.

Even my pastor don understand that part of me too. Before he used to be all tough and all to members and workers. When he tried it on me, I queitly withdrew from him and became cold. he noticed. He is now all smiles, kind and soft in his approach to me. You treat me soft? I will be soft. You treat me harsh or I don't care? Me sef? Will be I don't care too.

What u throw to me is what u get.
All the hard tough guys trying to woo me, behaving they are every woman's dream , I didn't choose anyone. I simply withdrew after the first date.

DOMINGOPAPI:
I am a Lawyer and I am 32. From a struggling home. I had a modest growing up and I worked hard to make a 3rd Class Degree at a Federal University, I didn't go to Law school afterward but eventually got called to Bar years after.

My uncle that promised me a placement died Months before I got called to the Nigeria Bar.

Prior to that I have an ACCA Certificate in International Financial Reporting. I have done all I can to get a job but I have been unlucky with that too.

Last year I managed raise over 400,000 to travel to Europe and I was duped.

I worked with few Lawyers here in a sleepy state capital in the South West of the Country and I am living terribly ,maybe worse than a lot of school leavers. All I have to myself is a small office space, my certificates and my strong but failing heart.

I am tired, depressed, frustrated and suicidal. I don't know how to continue living. I am fed up and fast going down the drain.

I need Prayers, Job, encouragement advice and any support and assistance whatsoever.

I am at a very dark position in my life and I am weary and presently secluded from people.

Please Help.

We can chat, if you want me to put you through the process of recovery and success through Christ Jesus.

I once lost everything I had in life, some years back. But when I eventually gave my life to Christ, I fasted for a week, I started a Bible believing church, gave my life whole heartedly to God . I cut off from sex, close to two years now. I didn't relent. I still held onto God and I feel when God saw and still. Sees how committed I am to serve and worship him. He started restoring me back again but gradually not like magicians o.

At this moment of my life, I'm at peace and contented.

Chat me up, lemme give you some tips on tapping into God's grace and favour.

He doesn't fail. He's everlasting

enshi:
Report this case to JESUS In a 3days fasting..
Do not have sex, sing praises all of the three days .. Give to beggars and see what happens in a week.. Do this and come back here and make sure you testify

My dear, God does not answer so fast like that o

Yes he can fast for three days and pray
Yes he can keep away from sex but not for three days only, and then go back to fornication again?

Then what's the use of the fast.

If God answers our prayers that quick! I doubt if people will give their lives to Christ. They will simply fast, sing praises for three days and their prayers are answered

E no dey work like that.

The process of recovery and success takes longer than that. Because God wants to know how sincere we are in serving Him through rain, through sun.

abdulazeez1002:
Not just traveling abroad. Even traveling within Nigeria makes you see life in a different view.

I think what you need is a[b] honest, faithful guy.[/b] But if you keep judging guys with your past experience, you are bound to lose the good ones. And you are likely to be very insecure.

Sha, I pray its work out for both of you. Don't forget to send pre-wedding pictures for us

Good morning

I'm back!
Service was awesome. Happy Sunday.

@ bolded? That's exactly what I need but getting such guy is like a fat man walking through the eye of a needle. Honesty and faithfulness has become herculean traits to see in guys.
Dishonesty, lies, messing up with different shapes and sizes of babes is the order of the day.

Anyways I'm happy and at peace I made my stance clear on this guy, so he won't feel is business as usual with babes he has been dating or dated before.

Been insecure? Yes I am, I won't lie. Especially when it comes to falling in love with a good looking guy who has almost everything going for him. Hopefully I will fall in love one day with him.

One funny thing about him, when he's worked up about my fears and insecurities in saying yes to him, he will then change his phonetics to pidgin language. I will just laugh in my mind and say to myself I don frustrate this guy too much. Lol and he still will not let me be.

The day he said he's travelling to US for one week and will be back. I broke up with him that day before he got on his flight. Immediately he got to US after like a day or so, he called and was trying to convince me to change my mind and I shouldn't see him as a player and unserious. That judging him just like that is wrong. If not that he loves me, he knows how many babes who are waiting to be with him. I screamed go and meet them nah, shuuu! Why waste your time on me? See me see trouble o!

Then he started with pidgin again. Saying its not my fault. That he vows he will be there for me. And I'm too strict Lol.

Anyways it's well jare.

Then Pre-wedding pics?

I don't know about that one o. I'm not a fan of pre-wedding pics.

But we will still take some everyday pics when we get to that bridge

I hope it works perfectly well for us .

Thanks on the best wishes. You are kind

abdulazeez1002:
You made some points. Tho because of your long write up, I have no choice but to agree with you.

But which one is Nigerian men Go to Europe, I bet you'll prefer this same Nigerian men

That's Europe

When Nigerian men in Nigeria travel abroad ,their mindset change in most cases and they see life out there in different views.

Well, I have made up my mind on someone here. He's very persistent and patient. He has argued endlessly and passionately why he's the right one for me and he vowed he won't be like the ones, I was unfortunate to have come across with in my past.
So I hope he will keep to his words and not mess up like most Nigerian men living in naija do.

I have zero patience for games and mind tricks being played by men and hes completely aware already.

Anyways nice chat with you.

About to sleep.dear. Tomorrow is church service and My lovely deep wine lace gown is ready, lemme go worship and dance for my God . He deserves it and much more.

OK o, Have a lovely evening ahead. Goodnight.

simonlee:
until Davido marries you, you're no different from his other baby mamas

We all hope, davido will keep to his promise and marry her.

If not? Na baby mama she be.

That's the pure truth. She has joined the bandwagon of numerous baby mamas out there.

abdulazeez1002:
It's not just Nigerian men. The challenges and drama of single mothers is what most men can cope with.

And btw your friend have demonstrated in multiple occasions that she is incapable of making responsible choices. And she's likely to hide under the guise of “I don’t have time for a relationship and need to focus on my kids.”
But your friend is damn hardworking and focus.


I hate seeing single mothers. It's a tough one

Nope she made responsible choices of not aborting her kids, when she realised she trusted the men, hook line and sinker.
Her son posted an emotional piece on her birthday recently, saying He's so grateful and thankful to his mum for not aborting him or throwing him away when he was just a foetus and he said she made him the man he is today. She made his life very comfortable and gave him the best in education and took so care of him. He went on and on praying and praising his mom. As in ehn? I felt tears run down my cheeks as I read on.
That's one responsible decision she made,which some men out there are too callous to even think about.
How women think is this: our children will not leave us, if we love and train them well but a man will leave especially when they are so Randy collecting anything on skirts. A woman who marries a Randy man, is not married. She's still single in the real sense of it. Because such man can take a walk at anytime.

Then back to my friend, she also made a wonderful decision of getting to the peak of her career. Still climbing up the ladder of success. I see her becoming a notable figure later in life in the corridors of power in Abuja by God's grace amen.

Her only flaw was believing the lies of men, that's the only flaw I see in her and thank she's wiser now.

Any man coming into her life should be ready to love her kids, like herself.

But the men coming don't want such responsibilities as usual. So forget about what u said on hiding under the guise of not having time for relationship, that's pure bull shiiit!

I know how men in Nigeria are. Thank God I was smart enough not to be knocked up and left with kid or kids. If not? I know how men think and behave.

That's why I don't bother myself on relationships. Even though I'm about to make up my mind to start one due to lots of persistent urgings from neighbours and friends to at least give one guy amongst all the guys coming a chance in my life.
If not? I don lock up since! And I would have thrown the damned key about men and relationships away.

They all know I'm doing well. I'm happy, I'm content, I'm glowing, I'm at peace, I'm rising to greater heights without a man, but all to the glory of God who made it possible for me and also for my friend too.

She's still young, full of life. I call her swagallicious mom! .

Anyways I pray God will keep blessing her in every area of her life in Jesus name Amen.

She's a good woman and a great parent to her kids.

I have come to terms in seeing single mothers everywhere. If only u know how some men sweet talk women to get pregnant for them, painting it like they want to marry the women . You will be shocked to your bone marrow .

Some Men are not saints at all.

imam07:
Women in this our generation. Shey nah by force to drive a car. See what she caused now. If nah man, he go know how to manouver d car wen d break fails. But women nah to dey kill people with car. Expecially these mama alayes. Those idiots go dey inside car and wind up with ac pumping.

Read from the beginning of the write-up to the end.

It was a man driving the car, not a woman
The woman is his wife and she sustained injuries in the process of her husband knocking off the four kids . He ran away leaving his injured wife in the car.

Oga Imam, quietly read and understand.

The accident is caused by a man who was driving ,not a woman.


So what's your verdict now about men?