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...............some kids are empty skulls that they don't understand a mere expression. , who said a woman should tolerate abusive marriage or relationship or a male bully? Are women abused because of their submissions? They are bullies out there, both men and women and they need help! Where has it been proven that a sub missive woman is always abused. If you grandfather abused your grandmother, he is simply a bully!

Submission does not mean taking bullshit from a man, no staying inactive in a relationship! My mum is a submissive woman, did my dad abuse her? NO! Is she active in the relationship? Yes! Does she recognise that the man is the head of the family and submit to his leadership? Yes! Does she air her opinions and suggestions? Which must be considered? Yes! In a very disrespectful manner so that the her husband will be constantly reminded that he's got a competitor as a wife? Hell no! And this is also the case with every woman( I repeat woman) I have come in contact with.

I'm a no nonsense lady, I can't be bullied by a man, or insulted by a man, when a man wrongs me I call his attention to it. He will recognise his deeds and apologise. If its something I would seek redress, I will definitely do it. But if your definition is when a guy wrongs you, you insult him first or slap him (like sholly constantly does on here), he won't see the wrong he did, this action might double your problems, he might beat u up before he realises his wrongs in the first place. You sue him fine, who has bruises all over her body, you!

So for a woman to be with a man, and be in peace, she requires submission! A man can NEVER submit to you. Rather he will love you and treat you like a woman unless he is a bully, then you get him help ASAP! Yes, its beastful for a man to beat a woman, but its stu.pidity for a woman to intentionally provoke a man to beat her.

Like I always say, feminists are the most confused and frustrated girls on earth (let me no use the word "woman", they say they are equal to men, yet they want to be treated as a woman. .

Yes, I believe what a man can do a woman can equally do "some of it" better.


Now I'm my opinion, I think if women would go back to the status quo (being who they were created to be), it will restore sanity to our society, our marriages, our children! Men and women can be never be completely the same, equality or not!

I might not be abroad, but I know 70% of what goes on there family wise (of course I'm a family person), and I know some western girls are still abused in their relationship or marriages, my dearest Withney Houston a perfect example, was she not a woman who a man couldn't put down? But she married a bully!

As a woman, when u are choosing, chose right! If you marry a bully, you will be abused! Feminists or not! Submitting to your husband does not make you weak! Being a wife to him does not make you weak!

Rubbing shoulders with men is a mere expression (I wonder why you don't understand it despite you Harvard training), it doesn't not mean you shouldn't contest election against a man, or you shouldn't practice a male dominated profession. But can you stand up to a man in physical combat?

Men are like lizard, women are like rats.......when a rat swims with a lizard, a lizard dries up first and the rat of course cold go kill am!

Cheating is bad! But when a man cheats his dignity is not questioned, this is a practical truth! But when a woman cheats, her dignity is questioned! When a man and a woman have s3x, what goes in a the mind of a woman differs from what goes in the mind of a man. When a guy sleeps around, he is referred to as a player, when a woman sleeps around she is a LovePeddler! A man can sleep with 100 women, when he wants to settle down that will not be in question even if you knew, but when a woman sleeps with hundred men 90% of men will run away upon hearing this.

The truth is woman pay graver price whenever the sin or adultery and fornication is concerned.......

A man can hold you in high esteem, but once he sleeps with you he moves on to another target, but when a woman sleeps with her man she tends to love him the more.

I can go on and on but.......menh I don tire.....

I didn't make it this way babes, I just simply understood the way it works.

Most women cheat simply because their spouses cheat! And I said, I'd rather break up with a man than cheat!

Do all men cheat? No!......but just 10% of men.

I dislike men that cheat, but I hate women that cheat!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

It doesn't matter who loves more. That's my opinion,,,,,,,,

It doesn't matter who loves more. That's my opinion,,,,,,,,.

Nice one! As for me, pls add a man who knows how to create and have fun! Perfection bores me.................

Mad Cow: - First mistake - Using my head more than my heart.. Love is not a science, cant be understood.

- Being too careful.. I was too busy being cautious I didnt enjoy the relationship.

That you sugar for being realistic.

Not possible!

Reversing the question, can I marry a man that has a child? No.

No I can't!

Nothing! Whatever I did in my past relationships I would do over again if given another chance cos at that point in time it made me happy, nothing else matters more to me.

tashanja: Too late, the cat has been let out of the bag, we now know you are one serious undercover lover detective, in fact you should change your name to Inspector Vivian



Omo, this your sense pass my level oOh, in fact I suggest you and Vivian should get together and let's see who wil out wit the other.

Lol, not just lover dude, I can dig up your all round dirty secrets.

tashanja: Wow! Come see close monitoring technique, in fact girls like you dey fear me oOh

Lol.....I don die. But I don't monitor my guy o, nah, I always create a friendly environment where we talk about everything. Tell (just) flirting stories.

But I'm really very good at detective job, so girls can hire me if they want!(Joking o).

But do not underestimate any girl o! Sometimes we just want you to think you are smart at your games.

shymexx: Blam!! My argument about female cheats was in context of what the OP wrote... Why do women cheat, anyway?? If you are Hot for a dyck, get a Love Machine the size of the dyck you like - and have fun... Dammit!! Yeah, women have the innate ability to cheat - and the female sex.ual anatomy don't react to the opposite se.x the same way the male se.x anatomy does...

For example: I get 'hard' when I see certain chics on the road because of their appearance - I doubt women get 'moist' by just seeing a guy.. You might fancy the guy, but I doubt it goes beyond that... That's my argument!!



My point is that, tribalism happens everywhere - it's natural with human nature... You can't just single out a culture/country - it's a universal phenomenon... Human beings are territorial everywhere - so, there's no evil in tribalism...

And why are you using civil rights movement to buttress your point?? That was a racial struggle, not a tribal/ethnic/cultural struggle..



Where did I blame the "White Man" on this thread? I was just citing examples and doing a comparative analysis of the different cultures and how they have evolved... Obviously, some of these medieval aspect of our culture still happen, but it's in the minority, and they're isolated cases - just as there are still isolated cases of medieval acts in other cultures.. So, why are you singling out Africa?

Hell yeah, it will make CNN and BBC news - but the average European that don't shower won't make the news...



There's nothing wrong with our culture - it just needs a little "twerking" and everything will be fine... How can you even judge a culture you don't understand? have you ever taken time out to actually study the culture(not the pseudo-culture you have been indoctrinated with) You need to study the culture critically before you critique it... You're acting like those fools who accepted Christianity and Islam because the White man and Arab man told them their belief system was barbaric... However, has the foreign belief system helped us?? These belief systems have done more harm than good to us - just take a look at how we've declined as a people/race in the last 500 years...

That was why I said it will haunt you in future...

My dear, this issue has nothing to do with tribalism or whatsoever. Lousy women that called themselves feminists don't just want to accept the bitter truth?

And who said they are needed in America? Hell no they ain't, they have wrecked homes with their unrealistic ideologies!!!!! They have brainwashed some western girls and I guess now they are beginning to realize it. Our African sisters know better! That's why we don't need them here! And they know it!

Every woman understands that we are women and we are a lot more than that! That's the true definition of feminist, women believe in themselves, we believe that we are unique! And we complement our male counterparts, but being superior to men? Now that's stu.pidity at its peak! How can you be superior to someone you complement?

Yet, these mistakes of women that called themselves feminists gave the term a new definition to suit their frustration!

Ever wondered why they don't get married? They can't just suck the fact up that they are undesirable, they are not wanted not by a man or a woman, they can't just face the fact that they will spend the rest of their miserable lives alone!!!!!!!and probably will die alone and they are doing every thing possible to make as many women as possible miserable like them!!!!!!!

Well, here is to the feminists, you have failed your entire lives, you failed as a woman, you will never succeed as a man! You lost the battle!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Feminism is a lost course!!!!!!!!!!!!!! The earlier you people realize it and put your miserable lives together, the better for you!!!

Yes! But he should not be too emotional or easily cries like me. I can't stand this aspect of me in my male version.

You are even lucky she did not put her signature on your condoms, counted them in order to know when u bring in new ones. She for don catch you teteh.

Just saying oooooooo

But that your babe madt small jare, anyway she is protecting her territory.


Don't crucify me ooo. Lol........

Una be fool: I was never with her computer before I got it installed in her laptop. We ain't together but very far away from each other. She is in Nigeria and I in the US daz why I needed to keep a close look all by myself b4 I start giving any attention to false information about her cos I gat future plans! She fell into my trap and got it installed into her computer all by herself remotely. Probably her antivirus was fake or outdated and never detected it.

I have been dealing with keyloggers for years now learning/practicing ethical hacking & programming and I know how to distribute keyloggers like a virus and the pc owners get it installed into their pc all by themselves without anyone manually installing it.

But for a newbie, you need to get a flash drive,stored the keylogger in the drive and say "Hey sweetie, Can I copy some of your cool music from your laptop please?" If, she says OK, then you start copying the cool keylogger into her pc rather than cool music lol. You should know how the keylogger work before doing that so that you quickly connect the keylogger to your email and get all loged passwords & screenshots of her online and offline activities sent to your email every minute

This your handle is misleading o. You are a badass!!!!!!!!!!!

We went to school to be empowered in order to better our lives, to help our men not to tear them down. There are some things I have learnt in school that I can't practise in real life. Not because it is not civil, but because it could destroy my relationship with people.

For instance, I did some principles of law as courses; Business and Company Law. Now, when we treated law of Contract, I learned that when a man promises to marry you and defaults, he is liable! But in real life situation how many people have gotten sued cos they broke marriage proposals?

I also learned that when a woman cooks food for her husband and tells him how much it costs, if he eats the food and refuses to pay, he is liable! Now how often do we hear cases like these?

I also learnt that when your husband promises you a certain thing becos of what u promise to do for him and defaults after you must have furnished the consideration, he is liable! Lol.....now men do this all the time and how many have been sued?

Women(myself) are captain on their own, we know it but sometimes we put family first! (For those who care about family values anyway). Let's not wag tongues as single ladies cos married women sacrifice a lot to keep their home. Now these sacrifices depend on individuals, if you can put up with it good for u, if another person can't good for her.

Cheating, fornication, adultery are all bad but women pay bigger prices when they fall short of these and no amount of "gender equality" and "empowerment" can change that.

And I have this belief that God commanded against all these just to protect WOMEN!!!!!!

I think people keep mistaking what gender equality is...... And I'm gonna throw more light on that......

1. In the olden days, girl education was seen as a waste, women were not allowed to practice some certain professions nor to hold certain government offices....but thank God that now things and times have changed. Now the slogan is when u educate a girl child you educate the nation, women are now allowed to practice certain professions and they are now given 40% of government offices (Nigeria as a case study).

2. Before now when both sexes do the same job, the male counterpart are more paid than the female, but thank God it has been eradicated and we have gender equality to thank for that.

3. When u are abused and molested by a man, you speak out and get legal help. But note, gender equality did know say when a man slaps you, slap him back or when a man talks you slap the hell outta him! Common sense should tell u that when u slap a man there is 95% chance that he might kill you! And while you will be cooling off at the morgue, he will be facing legal charges. Bottom line you died first!

4. Now why haven't gender equality posit that women should marry men? Of course we are in the modern world, when a woman is psychologically, emotionally, and financially ready she should look for a guy, propose to him and visit his parents for the introduction and pay his groom price? Or say when u financed your wedding to a man he should bear your name becos you did so?

5. Why haven't gender equality re-written the bible verses(for christians) that says men are our small gods? Women should honour their husbands? Women should submit to their husbands? Husbands should LOVE their wives? When a woman honours her husband, she honours God? Of course gender equality ought to have done something about these!

Some women just misunderstood what gender equality is all about and use it to justify the lousiness!

I can go on and on......but I'm gonna stop here!

Now let me get a bit personal......I'm independent, I started living on my own since I was 18, I pay my rents, take care of myself and endure the luxuries I can't afford, I'm seeing myself through school, I'm multi talented, I know how to do stuff and make money, one of my talents is male dominated. I have worked in an organization where men worked under me, I gave them official orders and they followed, when they wanna bring gender in official things I politely tell them how it is done. Yet none of these is enough for me to see myself as equal to men!

Now talking about relationship, I have never dated a man who laid a finger on me, neither insulted nor abuse my personality. I have helped few guys get up on their feet and have equally helped few friends leave abusive relationship. And I have never intentionally provoke a guy to lay hands on me. I know where to draw my line. But when a guy messes with me he answers to my lawyer.

Ndi be anyi turu ilu si uche bu akpa, onye puwa onyara nke ya, we define life in our own terms, I guess that is why we have so many scholars and postulates.

Now to every woman, define gender equality and empowerment in your own terms. Period!!!!!!

I still hate women that cheat o!!!!!!!!

So true............

gree-die:
oyanu... Ndi be Anyi nnokwa ebe kakwa nku, odikwa egwu. Ndewo o

Nwa ada ibem, udo diri gi. Ihe umunwoke na amaghi, anyi akuziere ha. Nwanyi ibe anyi kpawa akwa rere ure, anyi akpa ya nku, nwa ada ibe anyi welie isi elu na nnupu isi, anyi ewedata ya n'ala maka na okwuru anaghi akari onye kuru ya.

Nwa ada igbo obula nuchuru mmiri ara afor bu ugwu di ya.

Daalu nwanyi oma!

odum desmond: Why are Ibos often misunderstood? Marry a real ibo girl and watch the impact she will make in your life in just 5 years. I am yet to see any other girl as (native) intelligent, smart, shrewd, strong, industrious as ibo woman! You can see their impact in Government of Nigeria since 99. They re real asset. Most of the things written here are blend of truth and falsehood. Look at the rate of divorce, ibos have the lowest because culturally a divorced woman is seen as a failure and no real man would want to marry her again, so she has no option but to do her best to save her marriage!

Ihe di nma mee n'ulo gi nwoke oma! Sometimes we just need to go down down to our roots. Anaghi asuta nke a n' oyibo.

There is no element of truth in what you just wrote!
Lol, I be nwa ada o, ada tozuru etozu n'oke, ada na eri ukwu anu. Anyi anaghi ano n'ulo ewu amuo n' ogbu.

Where did u even get this info from?